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iamdapsyj:
Thanks for this comment, I wanted to respond to her not to generalize before too but I had to stop because I don't have strength for online wahala....

The guy the Op talked about messed up no doubt and the Op should consider herself lucky not to be enslaved in that trap......in this day an age, some men still carry that old mentality that their wives can never earn than them....it's sickening I tell you!!

Thanks..

NoToPile:
Sadly a lot of men fall into that category( the person you quoted might be right by saying most) , many don't just want to admit.


Well at least na person marry Okonjo, alakija and Dora. If their husband's were like some of these people talking up and down would they have been as successful as they were/are?

May we not marry our enemy.

Marry jobless woman - Mba she must bring something to the table

Marry a high flyer- Rara oo, she shouldn't be over ambitious.

Insubordination is the major problem here, besides all those women you mention are grandma, did you deliberately avoid 21st century ladies

NoToPile:
Sadly a lot of men fall into that category( the person you quoted might be right by saying most) , many don't just want to admit.


Well at least na person marry Okonjo, alakija and Dora. If their husband's were like some of these people talking up and down would they have been as successful as they were/are?

May we not marry our enemy.

Marry jobless woman - Mba she must bring something to the table

Marry a high flyer- Rara oo, she shouldn't be over ambitious.

A confused gender and more…

He is right actually. I know he is. I am just happy to read it from one of them, because if say na woman talk am, they would start tearing boxers to disagree.

wagzy37:
Ironically, the accountant committed suicide because of listening to people like you when she was younger. Telling her to prioritize career over marriage.

Men and women are extremely different. Men derive satisfaction from being of value in their careers. Women, from having families. No woman really gets fulfilled by having all the money in the world and being single and childless. Check all the women in that category. All miserable.

You got it wrong, she committed suicide because you called her childless.


You said she is evening newspaper


You said she can't find a high value man



You said her biological clock is against her


You called her miserable





Her blood is on your head.

So he could not even hide that he's an enemy of progress?
Wow!!!
Run for your life. He's not good for you.

Be happy because you just doged a bullet. You would have had alot to deal with in the marriage and would have lost yourself and happiness in the marriage.

Do we still have men like this? I love my woman to earn as much as I do. Women love that freedom that comes with support and guidance in whatever they do. I believe that's what keep their minds on you.

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Hi Julie

Happy new month to you dear

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Let him go. He will stiffle you in more ways than this if you eventually marry him. He can't celebrate with you now, it's a huge issue/Red flag. Let him go

You better dump the mumu man now. Do not ever marry such a man, in this life or in the next life , they are destiny destroyers.
















quote author=julie90 post=113418669]I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?[/quote]

Saintmary:
You got it wrong, she committed suicide because you called her childless.


You said she is evening newspaper


You said she can't find a high value man



You said her biological clock is against her


You called her miserable





Her blood is on your head.

Which of what you stated there is false?
So by your logic ma'am, an armed robber should feel bad and commit suicide because everyone calls him an armed robber??

Brain is used for thinking logically, not the heart.
Thanks

bukatyne:
1. I can't be in such a relationship. I am very intolerant of bullshit.

2. That is not a sacrifice; that is massaging his fragile ego & pandering to his insecurities/low self esteem.

All lies.

Show me a ring and a 5 year old marriage certificate, to demonstrate your so called stand.

We all know SM ain't real life

Saintmary:
You got it wrong, she committed suicide because you called her childless.


You said she is evening newspaper


You said she can't find a high value man



You said her biological clock is against her


You called her miserable





Her blood is on your head.

What type of nonsense is this from a saint Mary?

Is it men that usually insult such women or women like them, who constantly put undue pressure and isolating these so-called spinsters
The problem of such women is women

Nawa for you oh

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

move

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

He knew you were ambitious, but the job was his last way of testing you before he let go of you...

Relationship heading to marriage comes with sacrifice..One partner must deem his/her light for the other to shine.

Deeming your light doesn't equate to blowing off your candle..
It is a case of two cars coming opposite direction with headlamps fully on, one will deem it's own for the other to see road and cross.

Men are too scared of over ambitious ladies..Because they are most times far away from submission just like it should be according to scriptures.

In your case, it is him or your career..Since you chose career, forget about him.

Few men like ambitious ladies, only pray to be lucky to find one.

No man wants to keep a rebel..

He is even honest with you...Probably a principled guy...Some will cancel you in their mind, fake smile as to being happy for you upgrade and keep banging you...Till when it is time, they drop one stupid excuse and marry another person.

Jsut move...you will meet who will love and adore you for who you are...And if you don't, you have your money to fall back to..

bukatyne:
Namesake, this is not the kind of thing you talk over.

You hear it, enter room and ka halleluya meje.

Olorun ti fi oju ota han.

Imagine, o se so eleyi after Igbeyawo.

Baby yen wo gawu niyen.

nawaoo is he jealous or what? But do you still love him?

luminouz:
What type of nonsense is this from a saint Mary?

Is it men that usually insult such women or women like them, who constantly put undue pressure and isolating these so-called spinsters
The problem of such women is women

Nawa for you oh

Exactly! God bless you. Why would a man insult a woman by calling her childless. He's not in a competition with her. Only women shame themselves by using words like slut, barren, single etc.

Bro, they think with emotions. Most of the time, it's flawed.

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

my advice for you is ...... give me your number

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Cut every tie with him and severe the relationship. A man that genuinely loves you will not be bitter at your progress. That guy wont mind pulling you down just to make sure you do not reach your life's goals and ambition out of jealousy.
You worked for your success and you deserve your career advancement, don't let anyone stop you. Peace.

wagzy37:


Which of what you stated there is false?
So by your logic ma'am, an armed robber should feel bad and commit suicide because everyone calls him an armed robber??

Brain is used for thinking logically, not the heart.
Thanks

unfortunately, women can't think logically!

luminouz:
All lies.

Show me a ring and a 5 year old marriage certificate, to demonstrate your so called stand.

We all know SM ain't real life

I should show you my ring and a five years wedding certificate to prove myself?

You are a clown!

Let's assume I am nuts enough to show you, how do you prove my stand?

And this stand that seems strange, you don't know women offline who have standards?

pocohantas:
Are you listening to yourself? She should have rejected a well-paying job because that would rank her as a submissive woman before a Nigerian boyfriend that can break up with her tomorrow or turn community prick in Owerri?

Do you by any means realize she is someone’s daughter? That she was sent to school by her parents, not the coconut-headed bf?

That her parents would age and she would have to take care of them? Would this bf send them money without people like you telling him to dump her?

The Nigerian man’s definition of submissive sure stems from a place of gross wickedness and anything evil you can think of.

And Dmerciful maybe someone's boyfriend or husband with this his way of thinking.


Women are trying !

luminouz:
What type of nonsense is this from a saint Mary?

Is it men that usually insult such women or women like them, who constantly put undue pressure and isolating these so-called spinsters
The problem of such women is women

Nawa for you oh

Your conscience is judging you already.



It's simple, if you push spinsters to suicide with your unkind words, their blood will be required of you. Whether you are male or female.



And the best person to tell you is a saint.




Repent now.

doggedfighter:
And Dmer.ciful maybe someone's boyfriend or husband with this his way of thinking.


Women are trying !

DMer.ciful na my oga o. Though his post tire me, but leave am for me abeg.

He doesn't love you..

If he does, he will be even happy and see how to formalize your relationship and as well see your people.

He just wants to keep you down.

He is not worthy to have even as a casual friend.

pocohantas:
DMer.ciful na my oga o. Though his post tire me, but leave am for me abeg.

I don comot hand

doggedfighter:
I don comot hand

Thanks my love.

RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!!!!!
RUN AWAY FROM HIM..

The comments under the thread really show are gullible and Delusional Nigerians are..


She only told you her version of the story and you all are insulting the guy..

There's 2 sides to a coin...

Even if she's rude, dirty, stingy, self centered she will never mention that to you all

The challenge with you ladies is that the person that tells you the truth which you know its the truth, you make it about that person.

If you like take it, if you like dont but the chicken will always come home to roost!

doggedfighter:
And Dmerciful maybe someone's boyfriend or husband with this his way of thinking.


Women are trying !

DMerciful:
The challenge with you ladies is that the person that tells you the truth which you know its the truth, you make it about that person.

If you like take it, if you like dont but the chicken will always come home to roost!

Okay ,sir

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

Be happy for yourself. That is the enemy wishing nothing in the realm of success.