FireUpNow:
Family planning please. Some of you are saying he should go and double his hustling. My question to you guys who have doubled their hustle how many mouths or persons are you feeding? Let's be factual and face the truth , in this present Nigeria two or four kids are enough.

In today's world, 4 kids na crowd. As a family, the children shouldn't be more than 3. Our reality is currently different from that of our parent or grandparent.

That's the result of ur father's untamed dick.

BRATISLAVA:
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Yes, he is wrong. He's already in the pot of soup, so of what use is it embarrassing his parents because they made mistakes (however you want to interpret the word) l such as not knowing about family planning, or believing children are blessings when they did not plan adequately for them?

2. His parents still see him as a blessing. All their reactions are just frustrations at not meeting up financially concerning their parental responsibilities. To come out here to demonize parents with many children and make them seem like fools is callous, s***** and wrong.

3. You seem okay with the rest of the post, though.

1. So it is wrong to speak out because he is already in the "pot of soup" which his parents are responsible for putting him into?

2. His parents see him as a blessing even though the reality they bestowed on him and his siblings is that of suffering? Are you suggesting he abandon reality all together so he can get on the same high you suggest his parents are operating on, maybe encourage them even to have more kids they are unable to fend for?

3. Not ok with it at all. I couldn't get past the point where the same children who you conclude as blessings, you also tagged mistakes..

what of we wey our papa born plenty pikin

Smilesvilles21:
That's the result of ur father's untamed dick.

The mother no fit do family planning of her own?

Reference:
African's are always behind the curve. All those years ago the 'whites' were viewed as stingy or irresponsible for having just a single child, a couple or just the number to fit in a 'family car'.

Guess no one is snobbish but sober now. That the world is full of uncertainty and no position is safe enough to risk unmitigated liability. And that even all the resources are present today, the complexities of the world makes the average traveller aspire to journey 'light'.

Quality will always trump quantity.

But "quality" does not always necessarily mean few, i think you need to understand this. Solid 5 may trump 1 or 2. In the case of having kids it largely comes down to the million dollar question; Can one afford it?

medropoly:
Damn.. Having plenty siblings is the beginning of your endless suffering as a senior child. Am saying this from experience...
Damn... Just imagine how having plenty children has changed the whole scenario of the family life,.
The mother becomes a ruthless nagging woman and verbally abusing her children
Father tends to shy away from his responsibilities.,
Children fight and disrespect each other constantly..
Verbal and physical abuse becomes the order of the day..
Parent fighting each other in front of kids..

Damn... How I wish when she gave birth to the forth child she stopped giving birth as she promised, but instead she added four more children to the squad.. Giving bullshit stories of "Na God dey give pikin, maybe Na dis one God go use change my story" and bla bla bla

Omo life hasn't be the same, Imaging the the first child being just 22 and already have 7 other siblings behind him,

Cooking and eating of food Na....... , let me don't even go there

Una wey una mama no born plenty pikin no knw Wetin God do for una

them no know family planning?
Them no check their resources?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
English pls..

Go and pack joor, na u no understand.

I stopped my siblings from coming to my house so that I and my wife can have peace and feel like newly married family. My marriage was not up to 4 months when my mother keep on disturbing me that my younger brother should come over and stay.
Imagine my brother, any time he sees my wife, his pen1s will just rise.
I don't even call anybody again since they were angry with me for sending my brother away

Dickson178:
What of some mothers wey no born plenty and e con die nkor? Like me the beginning of my suffering is the day I lost my dear lovely Mom

Bruddaly if I could be like you ,just to be seeing my mom everyday, Everytime,I could've been the happiest person on this Earth. Take care, life isn't easy!

That's not the bone of contention here, what you are saying is totally out of the topic

Hopealive500:
Go and pack joor, na u no understand.

Ok boy..

medropoly:
That's not the bone of contention here, what you are saying is totally out of the topic

I am glad you recognized this yourself.

NewSoul:

The one with 7 kids if he had stopped at two he would be able to send them both to Harvard and Yale. The fewer the better

And supposing he doesn't want to send them to Havard or Yale but opted for high class private universities?

See, everyone has a choice and some just like big families. They work towards being able to support them. It's a choice which we should respect

medropoly:
Damn.. Having plenty siblings is the beginning of your endless suffering as a senior child. Am saying this from experience...
Damn... Just imagine how having plenty children has changed the whole scenario of the family life,.
The mother becomes a ruthless nagging woman and verbally abusing her children
Father tends to shy away from his responsibilities.,
Children fight and disrespect each other constantly..
Verbal and physical abuse becomes the order of the day..
Parent fighting each other in front of kids..

Damn... How I wish when she gave birth to the forth child she stopped giving birth as she promised, but instead she added four more children to the squad.. Giving bullshit stories of "Na God dey give pikin, maybe Na dis one God go use change my story" and bla bla bla

Omo life hasn't be the same, Imaging the the first child being just 22 and already have 7 other siblings behind him,

Cooking and eating of food Na....... , let me don't even go there

Una wey una mama no born plenty pikin no knw Wetin God do for una

Lift up Holy hands and be grateful to God
In my family we have more children than yours and went through some hard phases too but in the end God is great.
Be grateful

jaxxy:


This is a lazy mentality of someone who doesn't want to think and explore his full potentials. Tough situation birth the BEST people. No great person had it so comfortable or was ok with the level they were.

U are attacking the no of kids instead of attacking poverty or poor child planning.

Even If she had 4 children like u prefer will that make u a billionaire? No! u could still be in penury.

Rather it is How u think that changes everything.

No need arguing with people that don't comprehend things and put their self in others shoe... Just saying whatever falls out of your mouth

Slynation:
well it's different strokes for different folks

I know of a family that has 9 children and all of them are currently doing well, The elder one forfeited his education and trained his brothers, sponsored one to USA...that was how they all went from Poverty to what we term Ogaranya in Igbo...All of them are currently in Europe as we speak, while the ladies in the family owns various filling stations and landed properties around Nigeria...

The only thing missing in this your family is love, respect and bad parenting

Y'all should be easy on the OP what he currently need is encouragement.

As for the case above I feel it's 1% or 2% out of 10 that end up that situation.

Left to me the standard should be either two I.e one male one female or four, two male two female. Cus I feel personally every child should be it male or female should have another of the same sex to freely relate with. You get? Like the male child would have a brother while the female a sister. These will greatly balance the family.

Because no cap! Every child needs another of the same sex to call his own.

Nothing beats having someone you can call your brother and having someone you can call your sister. Ask those who don't have they will tell you.

these people saying go hustle like say there's a handbook for hustling....you don make am okay, shift make we hear word.

Many people still don’t understand the loneliness being very few or the only child also cause

jeff1607:
Many people still don’t understand the loneliness being very few or the only child also cause

I know a lot of only-childs who don't even begin to understand loneliness which you claim.

Kobojunkie:
The mother no fit do family planning of her own?

Will he die if he decides the number of children the wife produces?. As the head of the family he should be in control of things, how and what he wants the family to look like. The wife is just a supporter.

We are just 2 … but I born plenty and money dey

Kaiair:

But you gotta blame multiple births.....my grandfather (my dad's dad) married 12 wives and each wife gave birth to 8 children, who are all married with atleast 3-5 kids, just do the math then figure out how big my fam is....6 of my uncles married 4-6 wives each

Looool

Kobojunkie:
Imposing a child tax would make more sense in the Nigerian case.

Your brain is working properly.

Exactly my taught.

You breed more you pay more.

Jackossky:



In today's world, 4 kids na crowd. As a family, the children shouldn't be more than 3. Our reality is currently different from that of our parent or grandparent.

I said 2 to 4 kids and like you said 4 kids are crowd maybe I guess.

Channah1:


Stop feeling inferior, Mr! Nobody is talking about wealth here. Just saying you're no different from those birthing dozens.

By the way, I'm a female and Im teamOnechild. I'm not poor like you either.

You need to calm down.

Same here

thebosstrevor1:


You owe them love, that is a motivating factor for them.

A loving father is more important than formal education or financial education.

And compassion. Compassion can buy the whole world.

VeryWickedMan:
Aha
This was why I killed my parents and 5 of my siblings so that I can have peace of mind.

Mstchwwwwww

Just give birth to the number you can take of comfortably....

Your 3 might be my 6....

Your 5might be my 2...

Reference:


You know this thought pattern of playing down the serious effects of elastic population growth often peddled by our ignorant leaders and influencers in the past with the classic ideology that says, 'I am wealthy enough to take care my bus load of kids', which is akin to what you say is a big error in judgement.

Because even when I was a lot less deep in understanding I often retorted that, 'you may buy them food and clothes, medicare, education, automobiles, etc. But you simply cannot buy the roads they will drive on neither will you be able to buy away the effects of congestion and consumption.

This is where we miss it all. Technology, innovation and wealth will not solve all the problems associates with a run away population because the first law of nature, that matter cannot be created or destroyed, only consumed and exhausted, will always hold sway.

There is no resource on earth that is being renewed indefinitely, every single resource on earth that supports life is depleting, dwgrading and diminishing and population increase is the primary reason for that, attitude, consumption patterns come a distant second.

Nice and intelligent postulations right there.

But the truth still is that, humans are selfish.

It seems the both of you do not reside in Nigeria or Africa.

Smilesvilles21:
Will he die if he decides the number of children the wife produces?. As the head of the family he should be in control of things, how and what he wants the family to look like. The wife is just a supporter.

Wow... head of family means he controls his wife's womb? His wife, equally equipped with a fully functional brain is nothing but a figure head? Yikes!

Op, I've got 8 siblings .
Though, I hate that we were and are still separated from each other and I'm 20 now.

Man.