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| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by immortalcrown(m): 4:28pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
tidalstorm:Why did he start such a relationship if not for sexual pleasure? He never mentioned in the post that he began to date her out of sympathy. So, what else, if not sex, moved him to start the relationship? Spending much money on a girlfriend does not always mean you love her. It can be because you easily afford the money. He himself said he could easily afford to spend on her before now. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by coputa(m): 4:35pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
@OMOJOHN001 I was once in your shoes.be careful,that girl is your wife,she may be the grace for your continued flow of finance.I tell you this:immediately you ditch her,you will be surprised how every thing will go down,i am not a prophet.Like some reasonable responses here,set her up either learning a trade or starting a small business.That girl will make you rich. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by SmellingAnus(m): 4:37pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
There is nothing wrong to assist her but truth is , when the right opportunity comes, she will dump you like a sack of rotten potatoes... Do what's best for your future ... Many of them will not think twice to dump a broke ass dude.. you have tried your best... |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by tidalstorm(m): 4:42pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
immortalcrown:Relationship of 3 years na am you dey talk about sexual pleasure. The girl no dey get the pleasure? Love this days is never pure even you sef started a relationship with your current partner out of your interest. Since he can't afford the money again, he should break up with her. If to say the guy no get the money, the girl for break up with am since tey tey. Don't try to blackmail him to be in a relationship he clearly is not benefiting anything from. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by cumoverna: 4:43pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Well your matter long sha, If you feel she really loves you, you can find a way to empower her to be earning as well, even if it's little, which she can eventually grow, if she serious. But if you can't empower her, nor kill your self o. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by immortalcrown(m): 4:46pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
tidalstorm:However you twist it, he got the main thing he wanted. He is backing out now because he has satisfied his lust over her. What he wanted is what he got. So, he should say he wants to quit because he NOW wants something else. He should not claim he is quitting because of her fault. The fault was there before now. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by tidalstorm(m): 4:53pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
immortalcrown:Guy rest abeg. How long does it take for someone to satisfy his lust. One week dey enough, wey if him even see the girl him go wan vomit because she for don do am. But he stayed for 3 years and gave her all that money because he loved her. Of course he should quit because he wants something else, you cannnot force someone to like something by force. The girl has refused to grow and his ambition is something he wants to focus on. He should break up with her. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by immortalcrown(m): 4:56pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
tidalstorm:You too should rest. Since you cannot explain what kept him in the relationship for 3 years. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by TescoD99: 4:57pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Kollins11:I agree with you Comrade. I was in a similar relationship some 14 years ago. The way the girl dumped me for one big bros in our area was like film trick. I was forming good in-law to the family and supporting with the little that I had but when Bro Akin came around with his Baby Boy, the girl dropped me like its hot. Before I could say Buhari, the girl don carry belle for Bro Akin. Last-last, she served me breakfast and got married to Bro Akin, while I was left to lick my wounds and ego. OP, please pull your ears and run o. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by tidalstorm(m): 4:59pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
immortalcrown:Shey you no see where i talk say na because him love her, na why him stay for the relationship? If to say na sex him for dump her since move to the next available girl. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by immortalcrown(m): 5:02pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
tidalstorm:Love wey die because him dey spend on her? Na so love be? |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by tidalstorm(m): 5:06pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
immortalcrown:Na so love be. No be human being both of them be? If to say him no dey give her money, she for leave am tey tey. Even girls sef wey them dey give money dey leave because of another matter. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by immortalcrown(m): 5:09pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
tidalstorm:Na lust be dat one. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by OMOJOHN001(op): 5:11pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
[quote author=coputa post=113957136]@OMOJOHN001 I was once in your shoes.be careful,that girl is your The truth is have been doing well since I met her, Haven't have a cause to borrow anything for once. She had skills already just that I don't want to set her up,since I am yet to settle down with her. Establishing her will and may likely bring fight from my baby sisters, Cuz I have promised to help them with shops accordion to my capacity, so if they see her owing a shop. Na war I wan start with my family and again Her family will finish to whole shop sef. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by tidalstorm(m): 5:15pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
immortalcrown:Na so love be bros. You no dey even see the girl wey wan kill her guy with billing. Even if na Dangote him be, make him run, that girl no mean good for am. Relationship wey dey one sided. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Kirkman: 7:30pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Reading this your story reminds me of the song "Heavenly race, I no go tire"......On a more serious note just set her up with a business since you said she has skills already. Do that and observe from afar how she handles it. Time.waits for no one. It's better you do it at the same time when you want to set up your sister's dem own too so that fight no go dey at all. As you called her so that you want to see her, talk to her and ask her what are future plans are and how she wants to go about it, then hear what she will say to you. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Jajasabali(m): 7:35pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
If you no get that banny go japa |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by noCAP(m): 9:38pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
I will advise you to dump her. You have tried. Supporting a broke girl for 3 years is no small feat. For the fact that her financial capacity isn't increasing is very discouraging. Just do what works for you. If you decide to leave her today, no one will say you haven't tried |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Chris2863(m): 9:40pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
doggedfighter:op, listen to this please. I don’t have any business with women but if I finally fall in love tomorrow, I will make sure I help her just the way I will help my sisters. Do that for humanity please. Olosho don too much for Yoruba land already |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Slynation(m): 9:48pm On Jun 19, 2022*. Modified: 10:12pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Just look at the kinda comments all ladies are posting here as if when table turns around they would do the same...!! OP...I will not advise you on what to do oO, but have it at the back of your mind that "Young men are going broke because they act as husband in a relationship" Well...As for me, I came out from similar situation last year and Makachi, I'm done dating a broke girl, if you don't have anything at all to support your self or hustle, nobi me and you...Keep your kpekus make I keep my preeq |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Reasonwithme2(m): 10:06pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
OMOJOHN001:You have tried my brother. But ending this with her isn't the best option, have you tried discussing the matter with her? Tell her that if you continue spending on her and her family like this, that you won't grow, you want the best for both of you, and she had to do something about her family else you can't bear the burden anymore. I'm sure if you complain, she would hear you out and perhaps admonish her family. If you think you have a future with her, the best thing to do is to move her out from her family. If she can't stay with you, Link her up to squat with a female friend of yours or hers, and she can get a teaching job. (Maybe minders or daycare assistant) while you take care of her there. As for her people they should get something doing, or are there not anybody old enough to take up that filling station or hotel job or even teaching job? They will learn to survive without her. You might be giving up a good woman if you end it up.. just try to look Beyond this present situation, think about things that made your love grow. Do you think you can find it in someone else. Cos I think you got her at a very tender age, and getting girls at a tender age (catching them young) and grooming them around your world makes them the perfect partner. Reason with me too |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by OMOJOHN001(op): 10:18pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Reasonwithme2:. I understand you better, I will know how to go about it, base on her reaction to NY decision todaym |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Crowwejihadist: 10:22pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Reasonwithme2:Bro you just said the truth, my only fear about this scenario is him loosing a good girl, and her going to the streets to be devoured by hungry lions out there. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by DreamLivia(f): 10:27pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
Ohh guys never learn |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Nobody: 10:28pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
OMOJOHN001:You need correct knock on your coconut head. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by dawnomike(m): 10:51pm On Jun 19, 2022 |
OMOJOHN001:empower her to learn an online business or online side gig and empower to start up. With that, she will be able to handle her needs |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Mikefrik(m): 5:31pm On Jul 17, 2022 |
That family is cursed.... OGA leave o... Love no dey pity o. Use your brain before............... I leave the rest to baba Godde. |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by Uptheante(m): 6:55pm On Jul 17, 2022 |
OMOJOHN001:Guy, the truth shall set u free. The truth is that u are actually a simp, but after this, u will be emancipated from ur folly. Consider the following points: 1. U are under no obligation to provide for a girl u are merely dating because it is not ur responsibility to do that irrespective of whether u are doing same for ur own parents & siblings too or not. 2. This ur so called girl may not really love u per say, but of course she would pretend with tears & fake emotions because she knows u are her maga & once she loses u, all the help from u will be lost. 3. The only thing u may most likely be getting from her is sex & don't be surprised that there may be some other nigga lurking in the corner who is enjoying the same sex from her without ever doing anything for her. 4. Try & imagine what will happen if the roles were reversed & u are a poor dude while she is well to do. Do u think she will be with u? Will her manipulative mum still rate u? Will the girl lift a finger to help u? Won't she display her full hypergamous nature & ditch u for a rich guy? 5. Lets reverse the roles again. This time around, imagine its a fellow guy, maybe a friend that is in her position. Would u offer him any reasonable help as u have done to that girl?. Bro, let me honest with u. All I see is a manipulative girl sucking u dry because u are obviously a simp. Her equally manipulative family are also tapping from the benefits ur simpiness. She will continue sucking u while compensating u with sex (which u can easily get elsewhere by the way). When she luckily meets a man that is far better than u in terms providing for her lazy ass, she won't think twice before dumping ur ass. Such girls never remember how u helped them before & they are so ruthless about it. See, in every relationship, women are always out to cut the best deal for themselves. They see relationship as a business deal where they must seek their best interest & they will pretent to be submissive & loyal as long as the deal favours them. Once they have nothing else to benefit, they japa. U too, u have to seek for ur best interest when relating with a woman. All ur previous sacrifices for her can easily be forgotten by her when she feels she's done with u. #Corpus callosum# |
| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by PumpumPrince: 6:56pm On Jul 17, 2022 |
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| Re: I Am Feeling Guilty. Help Me Pls by PumpumPrince: 6:59pm On Jul 17, 2022 |
OMOJOHN001: bro so u sayin u feel guilty coz u get yor babe mum pregnant twice...corrrrect?.....& now u want us to help u..corect?. ..bro r u ok sir??(no oofeinse) ![]() |
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Reading this your story reminds me of the song "Heavenly race, I no go tire"......