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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:04pm On Jun 21, 2022
bsalawu:
Where’s your location? If Lagos what part?


Sango Ota side oooo. Anything for me?
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:07pm On Jun 21, 2022
firstbornson:
Chemical Engineering? Haaa!

Apparently, "nice girls" do exist too, not only "nice guys".

Stop trying to please people. Stop trying to keep the peace. Don't be quiet just so that the matter will die off or so there will be peace.

Don't play the "mature" person. Speak your mind.

DON'T BE NICE. It doesn't make people like you. Instead, it's irritating. Stop being perfect. Be human!

Stop accommodating.

You have a major psychological issue to work on.

Even if you get a big job in an Engineering firm today, 6 months to come, you'll still go home depressed and sad because your predator colleagues will still prey on your innocence and niceness.

BTW, you were not teaching to "Hold body" You were only uncertain of the future if you stopped teaching.

The worst has happened anyway. Don't rush to another teaching job. Learn a skill. Do something scary and intimidating. Have faith.

This advice is to me because I'm like you.... Working on myself anyway.
I realized that being nice doesn't end well most times. It actually cheapens ur worth in people's eyes. How ironic. Not supposed to be.

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:19pm On Jun 21, 2022
Advision:


exactly ....teaching in a school that sounds almost like it operates from a 3-bedroom apartment 11 good years after graduating is bad.

He should be glad he was fired, God is telling him, he has denied his greater destiny for too long.

I doubt he earns up to 60k a month
there
20k. Me sef done see say I messed up badly. No yab me join pls
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:26pm On Jun 21, 2022
Uranium222:
contact me for a job in Benin city zero, nine, one, 2.8.8. 1.3.8. 3.6
thanks but I am not based in Benin City but in Ogun state. Thanks for the offer

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:27pm On Jun 21, 2022
Cutehector:
Zero emotional intelligence
U want me to cry abi
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:31pm On Jun 21, 2022
Uranium222:
Send a message to my email for job placement
I don't know how this email thing works on Nairaland. I tried sending it but don't know if it'll deliver. But my email address is blessojohn1818@gmail.com.
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by clockwisereport: 12:37pm On Jun 21, 2022
MsJackson:
���������� when you eventually reply, please don't yab me abegggggg oooooo
I no dey vex for you. I dey vex for the beasts that call themselves our leaders

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:38pm On Jun 21, 2022
opabs1:
Very touching story. Too bad you had to settle for a low paying job for 11 years after graduation. Well, you need to work on your mindset seriously now. You deserve better. I can teach you how to earn from the comfort of your home, all you need is your mobile phone and Internet. You don't even need to have a computer. It is legitimate and not a ponzi. Private Message me.
Dem no gree me to pm you oooo, nairaland said av sent too much anonymous mails, will try again later thanks
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 12:43pm On Jun 21, 2022
I appreciate you all, plus those that yabbed me lol. Ur advice and encouragement meant a whole lot to me. I honestly feel abit better now. Will try my hands on new things.
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by Nobody: 12:45pm On Jun 21, 2022
MsJackson:
Located at Ogun State

ogun is a busyy place economically.. you can set up yourself there. while your hobbi contiunes his work

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by bsalawu: 1:46pm On Jun 21, 2022
MsJackson:
Sango Ota side oooo. Anything for me?

That’s far from my office. But if you are willing to get engaged in Real Estate business I may be of help although your location is not looking so friendly for you in terms of assess. However try do business online.
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by DonNeon: 6:05pm On Jun 21, 2022
opabs1:
Drop your email.
quote author=DonNeon post=114001721]

I'm interested...... please
richygodsent57@gmail.com
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by DonNeon: 6:07pm On Jun 21, 2022
Uranium222:
contact me for a job in Benin city zero, nine, one, 2.8.8. 1.3.8. 3.6

Good evening sir, can I message you..
I'm in benin and searching for a job too
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by paulGrundy(m): 9:14pm On Jun 21, 2022
MsJackson:
I am based at Sango Ota. Why?

Since you have experience in teaching, with not go for bigger schools that pay well. Some schools in Agbara can pay 80-100k or even above. Aim for those schools. In order words go for the best!!

Except that you are not interested in teaching.

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by Drixlee: 6:21am On Jun 22, 2022
pansophist:


Just did. I wish her all the best.

I can only pray she find her strength and realise that she can be better than her boss, if she can fan the flame within her, and grow. The first months will be difficult, but every new things are difficult.

I've written it one time here, when a boss treated me bad and sacked me on the spot, and that was the last day i worked for someone. I was angry, pissed up that i needed to prove to myself, her and the world that I'll be better. That's one of the best decision I ever made.

When they throw lemon to you, you make lemonade out of it. Thats the ways of the strong.
Bro I follow you and read all your comments on different threads.... you need to release a book abeg.. you emanate so much wisdom..everytime and you are very versatile on different topics..
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by pansophist(m): 8:14am On Jun 22, 2022
Drixlee:

Bro I follow you and read all your comments on different threads.... you need to release a book abeg.. you emanate so much wisdom..everytime and you are very versatile on different topics..

Thanks mate. I go reason am grin
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 9:25am On Jun 23, 2022
paulGrundy:


Do you base in Lagos?
No but my hubby drives to the island to work every morning, just in case u have any opportunity for me

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by edoman2016: 1:12pm On Jun 23, 2022
MsJackson:
No but my hubby drives to the island to work every morning, just in case u have any opportunity for me
I doubt you are a graduate of chemical engineering from OAU ife. OAU is a prestigious university in Nigeria and it shouldn't have been so bad for you to get a good job 11 years after graduation rather than 20k teaching job.
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by HornyTave: 5:17pm On Jun 23, 2022
Leogreat5:

What type of farming are u into please!!

]are You in Benin? hit me up on hornytave@gmail.com if you're interested in farming.

Cassava and vegetables

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 5:18am On Jun 24, 2022
edoman2016:

I doubt you are a graduate of chemical engineering from OAU ife. OAU is a prestigious university in Nigeria and it shouldn't have been so bad for you to get a good job 11 years after graduation rather than 20k teaching job.
I never said i graduated from OAU
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by edoman2016: 7:58am On Jun 24, 2022
MsJackson:
I never said i graduated from OAU
Then your story is fake. Were you not the one that said you were a graduate from OAU before you got married. Liar.
Happy sunday to you all. I have a problem. There is this young man i just met 2yrs ago. I'm yoruba, he's delta by tribe. We've been just platonic friends but now he wants my hand in marriage. I am a graduate of OAU but he only stopped sch at sec sch.
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 8:59am On Jun 24, 2022
edoman2016:

Then your story is fake. Were you not the one that said you were a graduate from OAU before you got married. Liar.
Happy sunday to you all. I have a problem. There is this young man i just met 2yrs ago. I'm yoruba, he's delta by tribe. We've been just platonic friends but now he wants my hand in marriage. I am a graduate of OAU but he only stopped sch at sec sch.
I lied, was trying to hide my identity on that post because my husband is a nairalander. Scared of his finding out.
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 9:00am On Jun 24, 2022
edoman2016:

Then your story is fake. Were you not the one that said you were a graduate from OAU before you got married. Liar.
Happy sunday to you all. I have a problem. There is this young man i just met 2yrs ago. I'm yoruba, he's delta by tribe. We've been just platonic friends but now he wants my hand in marriage. I am a graduate of OAU but he only stopped sch at sec sch.
what is ur aim of doing this pls?
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by edoman2016: 9:46am On Jun 24, 2022
MsJackson:
what is ur aim of doing this pls?
Because I am a graduate of OAU 2011. I was very sure a chemical engineering graduate from OAU can not be so bad to settle for 20k teaching job after 11 years of graduation. OAU is a top university in Nigeria with good products.

Next time, choose the University name to lie with carefully.
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 10:48am On Jun 24, 2022
edoman2016:

Because I am a graduate of OAU 2011. I was very sure a chemical engineering graduate from OAU can not be so bad to settle for 20k teaching job after 11 years of graduation. OAU is a top university in Nigeria with good products.

Next time, choose the University name to lie with carefully.
are you for real?
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by BallingGuy: 1:42pm On Jun 24, 2022
MsJackson:
yes I am currently learning UI/UX design, to begin. Started last month.

Impressive!

I wish you the very best. Good luck!

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by Henrypraise: 2:28pm On Jun 24, 2022
MsJackson:
Hello my uncles and aunts.

I'll make this as brief as possible. I teach in a school where the owner uses his father's compound, back flats. His family lives in front apartment.

Some months ago, last year precisely, i had an issue with his sister, last born, and i decided to avoid her totally to prevent future occurrence. I face my job and do it well.

We the teachers observe that the family always call their son to report any issue, especially if we faltered in some cases. It was getting too much.

So on that day, exactly two weeks ago, we were asked to oversee the students sporting activities, done in front of the school compound. I was walking out with my colleague and we were discussing something we both saw on social media, about gistlover. The sister overheard it and believed we were talking about her, calling her gistlover.

She walked up to me and confronted me in a harsh manner. I tried explaining to her that we weren't referring to her, but she wouldn't listen and before you know it, we were exchanging words. I said a lot because I was angry that she singled me out to confront, when we were two discussing the issue.

She was telling me to get out and i was sooo angry that I used the f word on her. Later, her parents came back and she reported me to them. Without calling to hear my side of the story, they both told their son to send me away. The mother even said that wherever she saw me, she would strip me naked. Their son my boss came, me and my colleague were called to say what happened,we did, then my boss told me to go home and stay put for a while.

After a week,he called and told me my services were no longer needed, that he made his own private investigation from the students and they confirmed I used the f word on his sister. I am not innocent. I admitted my fault, but he refused to temper justice with mercy. He promised to pay me for this month, but my reputation is stained. AGAIN.

Considering the fact that I had some issues with a previous school two years ago, very close to this one. There I resigned on my own. Now everybody is looking at me like I am a bad person. I AM NOT. I try to be sooooo nice and polite, but people always take advantage of that to look down on me. I am extremely humble to a fault, even hubby says I present myself as mumu to people too much.

Is it a crime to be of small stature? I am 39yrs of age and this girl I had an altercation with, she is in her early 20's. I felt so disrespected because of how she confronted me, even poking her fingers in my face in the presence of the students, so I lost my temper. I didn't mean to. Now people are looking at me somehow. I don't feel like waking up in the mornings because I wonder how I would face the day.

I NEED A JOB, that will help me heal from this trauma. Graduated 11 years ago, Chemical Engineering, University of Benin. But I still don't have a good job, I have been teaching to hold body, but I am fed up.

The salary is sooooo small, compared to the work load I was handling. I would love to work in a good company, but nobody, no one is willing to give me a chance. I am depressed daily. God should just use a good person to help me, wipe my tears. Sorry for the long write-up.

It will be wisdom to allow people call you a bad person, so when you do good, they will cherish it.

I sometimes enjoy when pple think I am bad or rude or arrogant, it gives me the freedom to operate...

All is fait in war and crisis, that you used the f word should be the least of your worries, why should you guilt trip yourself for using the f word? A little girl confronting you and poking hands in your face should spike your anger more than you using the f word...

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by Theaffiliatehub: 3:00pm On Jun 24, 2022
My company is currently recruiting for a marketing role (Abuja). send an email with an application letter to ifeanyi@dowins.ng

but also i would advice you to also get a skill. it may cost you but that is more reason you need a high income skill as alternative income source. I work and i work hard but you cant hope on just salary.
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ifeanyi

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Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 6:07pm On Jun 24, 2022
Theaffiliatehub:
My company is currently recruiting for a marketing role (Abuja). send an email with an application letter to ifeanyi@dowins.ng

but also i would advice you to also get a skill. it may cost you but that is more reason you need a high income skill as alternative income source. I work and i work hard but you cant hope on just salary.
affiliate marketing, Amazon Kdp, social media handling..
these are more that you can learn with simple step by step on how to make good money from your phone.

you can reach me through for more information

chat me on 09154549210 (PLEASE WHATSAPP)
ifeanyi
okay sir
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by SMJay: 3:11am On Jun 25, 2022
MsJackson:
No but my hubby drives to the island to work every morning, just in case u have any opportunity for me
From Sango, damn
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by SMJay: 3:13am On Jun 25, 2022
MsJackson:
are you for real?
ignore him. Keep pushing try online lesson ulesson is one
Re: Just Fired. How Do I Cope With The Emotional Trauma? by MsJackson: 2:39am On Jun 26, 2022
SMJay:
ignore him. Keep pushing try online lesson ulesson is one
alryt thanks

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