1. I walk away
2. Login tweeter or just stay out of social media for sometimes to clear my head
3. Get a good book to read, put all my energy and concentration
4....

Brunosamel:
Lately I have been seeing husband's killing there wives & boyfriends killing their girlfriends due anger or infidelity but the truth is Some certain situations is very much preventable it all comes down to mental strength and capacity to turn negative moments to your advantage. Some of the ways of build mental strength is through physical fitness, reading and suffering or rather doing difficult things. It help to control those emotions and keep it to check.

I remember when I confronted my girlfriend for cheating on me I was heart broken but I had to channel my negative thoughts with positive feelings
I walked away straight to the gym and lay the anger on the iron it was a terrible feeling that made me to injure myself came back from the gym channel all my anger in her kpekus aggressively she was shading tears and I didn't even give a Bleep eventually I broke up for cheating on me it felt really good afterwards.
Ever since then I have learn to channel my anger on iron it helps me to think and cool off and make the best decision.

Note: She has been begging me to accept her back that she has not been able to to forget what I did to her, she has not been able to get over it. It's a game over cuz I have moved on with another girl life goes on.

Very ungodly advice.
The makings of a mass murderer

AderonkeOlaniyi:


SHUT UP!

YOU KNOW NOTHING. IGNORAMUS.

your pusillnimous has no bound

Limassol:
how do you manage to squeze 45 mins of excercise a day?

I wake up by 5 pm take a Keke to the gym although the gym is always open in my area before 7:30 am already in the house prepare myself straight to work.
If I miss morning time I put some gym cloth inside my bag after work I head straight to the gym carry some iron. It's very stressful but it's worth every inch of it

uuzba:


You haven't even married and you're using yourself as example?
Instead of finding some professional advice, it's your own kamu-kamu advice you're giving yourself?
How do you know you are correct?

One marriage councilor I once met told me that when he is angry with his wife, he DOES NOT LEAVE the house.
He stays there till he solves that problem with her.
And he doesn't beat or fight her. And he has the power to reduce his own anger by himself inside that house.
So tell me, how is he doing his own?

You wey don already run enter inside gym because of small thing, AND THEN proudly ended your relationship again...
...That means your advice is totally useless for any married person.
Make all of us come dey end our marriage like you abi?

I'm not married I only mention how I handle my own issues personally just like I said its an opinion.

doneback04:

What of me that is not a gym type, what will I focus my own angers to, I thought u wanted to give you several solutions to temper reduction, Instead u just told us your own, well mine own na to my kpekus nack once I nack and sleep is over, when I wakeup my mind will calm down.

I'm not a Councillor it just an opinion bro

Fxmansaix:
Lol if your mental health was strong enough,you wouldn’t even need to go to an iron to get over it. Prioritize.
And by the way,you said you can’t accept her back because you already moved on with another girl LOL you don’t have to move on with another girl to not accept her back,she cheated on you brother. Be an alpha G. Once you’re Healed ,that’s moving on.
With another girl, that’s just a bonus and flex.

I didn't mention anything relating to me being an alpha I don't need to heal for me to move me why cuz I don't take female too seriously cuz they are emotional being, there intersexual dynamics said it all.
She is not mine It just my turn so that's why I don't dull on it especially when a girl cheats on me.

DrDunamis:


Very ungodly advice.
The makings of a mass murderer

Read between the line I didn't say it was an advice rather an opinion.

Brunosamel:
Lately I have been seeing husband's killing there wives & boyfriends killing their girlfriends due anger or infidelity but the truth is Some certain situations is very much preventable it all comes down to mental strength and capacity to turn negative moments to your advantage. Some of the ways of build mental strength is through physical fitness, reading and suffering or rather doing difficult things. It help to control those emotions and keep it to check.

I remember when I confronted my girlfriend for cheating on me I was heart broken but I had to channel my negative thoughts with positive feelings
I walked away straight to the gym and lay the anger on the iron it was a terrible feeling that made me to injure myself came back from the gym channel all my anger in her kpekus aggressively she was shading tears and I didn't even give a Bleep eventually I broke up for cheating on me it felt really good afterwards.
Ever since then I have learn to channel my anger on iron it helps me to think and cool off and make the best decision.

Note: She has been begging me to accept her back that she has not been able to to forget what I did to her, she has not been able to get over it. It's a game over cuz I have moved on with another girl life goes on.

I go same thing. I even have the iron in my room. 30kg barbell and 25kg dump bell. It works

Best way to deal with emotional outburst is self control. Self control is learned, trained for and practiced. In ancient Igbo society before any man wishes to marry, the parents will give him pet such as chicken, dog, sheep, goat etc to rear. The parents will be monitoring how he takes care of the pet until when they re satisfactory.

Anger management is key in any human relationship management.

The group of people with anger issue are psychopaths such as perfectionist, narcissist, sadist, unsecured lover, etc.

Nyascobar1414:



Yea.. All Naija women are bad..

She just need to be with the right person, right situation and you will know that All women are like that.

All women are bad but men do the most crimes, make it make sense.

CaveAdullam:
1. When you have an athletic or a wrestler kind of body, the number of persons that will upset or provoke you will lessen. They will think twice before doing anything with you. You are like a monster, a giant that must not be treated with disdain. Your body physique passes a message to their subconsciousness that you are in for the game at any time. Even jokes and banters will be carefully calibrated.

The gym is where you sharpen yourself and build strength.

(Ectomorphs, we must get there; by fire by force).

2. Extroverts will commonly conflict with people because they are outgoing and social. Introverts don't have this as much a problem.

The key here is to limit the number of people you relate with. Or, relate with people that have the same frequency as you.

3. Humans are fluid in their behaviors and actions. Someone you love in the morning can turn into a crazy melodramatic mosquito at night.

Before you react try and understand the cause of that person's behavior. It is difficult though. Humans are first led by feelings before they come to reality via logic. As an individual, you must become the horse rider of both your feelings and rationale. Logic application is optimal and must come first. But that shouldn't deprive you of emotions towards others or yourself. Knowledge and proper application are imminent.

4. When someone provokes you, leave immediately. Don't reciprocate insults. Don't try and let them see any reason with you. Just leave.

5. Not all the time you leave and allow ignoramuses to have their fill. You must also learn to put them in their place. You must become confident. Once they notice that you don't take a sh!t and don't back down easily, they will maintain their lane.

6. Don't hit first during any argument. It is better to avoid arguments because it doesn't end well. Once you have stated your points, go mute. Every new day comes with new learning. Your opponent may not learn via argument but by other methods.

Don't force yourself on people.

7. Define every relationship you enter. Wives will challenge the authority of their husbands. Ditto for children and their parents.

It is good the man maintains order in the home at all times. Discipline and order must not be made inconspicuous by romance or care.

8. Men react with force when they feel threatened. It is how they were built by mother nature/biology. While women run to men for protection when threatened.

When a woman upset you as a man, don't feed her ego with a counter or argument. Ignore and walk away. Women have a high verbal intelligence than men, they will always win with their mouths (insults, abuses, banters, cries). Though you feel threatened as a man, you must not fall victim. Society is already on her side because women are seen as the weaker sex. Just walk away.

But if you have established order and stand by it, her bullish!ts will minimize. She will try by all means not to provoke you. However, no (sexual) relationship is free of conflicts.

Women should learn to curtail and control their mouths and feelings.

9. For religious people pray and study more. For the non-religious, you can practice meditation and study more.

The more you pray/meditate and study, the more you elevate yourself above others and the usual problems that come with them.

10. Create time for retrospection, find those areas you did wrong, and make corrections.

11. Learn to know the arrogant and histrionic and separate yourself from them.

Prevention is better than cure.

Thanks.

Thanks for this wonderful piece sir. Anger and the urge to argue and prove my points to people are still one of the things I'm yet to control. Most times I know the argument will end in futility but I'll still go ahead and jump into it.

How can I practice meditation sir? I think I really need it now. I'm in a stage in my life where I just want to be alone and focus on my goals. But there are too many distractions. I'm just confused and angry with my self. I have a lot of things to say but I'll stop here. I'm below 20yrs.I just want to learn and practice how to meditate, reflect and focus on my life.

Anchor19:


Thanks for this wonderful piece sir. Anger and the urge to argue and prove my points to people are still one of the things I'm yet to control. Most times I know the argument will end in futility but I'll still go ahead and jump into it.

How can I practice meditation sir? I think I really need it now. I'm in a stage in my life where I just want to be alone and focus on my goals. But there are too many distractions. I'm just confused and angry with my self. I have a lot of things to say but I'll stop here. I'm below 20yrs.I just want to learn and practice how to meditate, reflect and focus on my life.

Alright man. I will pen down something for you between now and Wednesday.

Keep refreshing your mention.

Thanks for the kind words. I do appreciate it.

CaveAdullam:


Alright man. I will pen down something for you between now and Wednesday.

Keep refreshing your mention.

Thanks for the kind words. I do appreciate it.

Thanks boss. I'll look forward to your response. That post you made on the thread created by THE5DME was refreshing to my soul. It's a very realistic post that made me realize that success is never guaranteed until it is achieved.

Anchor19:


Thanks for this wonderful piece, sir. Anger and the urge to argue and prove my points to people are still the things I'm yet to control. Most times I know the argument will end in futility but I'll still go ahead and jump into it.

1. Anger, sadness, retaliation, arrogance (light or heavy), joy, pain, anxiety, etc. are emotions rooted in the human psyche. The degree of expression may differ across individuals or groups, notwithstanding, it is a feature of the human psyche, not a bug.

2. You are angry because someone offended you. And you want to argue because your opponent is wrong. It is understandable.

3. Via arguments new things may be learned. But the outcome of arguments always ends in futility. It is better if you abstain. The only time you should is if your opponent is as intelligent as you or even better. On the flip side, this is no longer an argument but an intellectual debate that involves comparing notes and trying to decipher issues from different perspectives, and parsing of nuances. They may not accept each other ideas in the end, however, they go home changed with pounding hearts about their opinions and those of their opponents.

Know who you are dealing with before any argument or intellectual debate. You must be able to judge their intellect from afar or based on familiarity. With women, avoid every form of argument, only mere chit-chat. Women and other emotional individuals cannot comprehend logic and empiricism, they do base their claims on ego, fear, and guilt-tripping. Avoid them!

4. Why are you angry? Righteous anger: Anger because you smell something fishy, something manipulative, something evil, and disappointment which makes you want to fight back. Or, useless anger: Because you were pranked, called out for your mistakes, scolded for your misdemeanors, victim mentality, and teased.

These two types of anger can help you determine why you are angry. If it is the former, you don't just vent all the time, sometimes you talk, while other times you call fire and brimstones. Doing so will bring to the attention of the manipulators or evil-doers that you know what's going on and will never be a victim. You must do this from a place of power and/or confidence.

In serious conditions, you get angry and kick them out. The God of the old testament Christians' Bible is an example of this character. Sometimes he is cool towards evildoers, and other times, he slaughters everyone.

For the latter type of anger, you just need to develop more competence in doing things so that you will not always be sanctioned by people. In truth, humans don't know how to address pertinent issues on the ground. It takes one who has transcended to be able to deal with humans and draw you closer when you make mistakes.

When people make jest of you or tease you, counter them with your own. Because once they sense your sensitivity to teasing they will continue to do it. If you counter them always whether funny or not, they will start ignoring you. You can even take them to a level they don't understand and mock them for their foolishness.

Anchor19:

How to practice meditation. I think I need it now. I'm at a stage in my life where I just want to be alone and focus on my goals. But there are too many disir myself. I'm just confused and angry with myself. I have a lot of things to say but I'll stop here. I'm below 20yrs. I just want to learn and practice how to meditate, reflect and focus on my life.

Solitude!

1. Do what you love in secret, void of human distractions. Solitude is a good way to build yourself amidst the noises that surround us.

2. Sleep early and you will wake up early. Do the most useful things of your life in the early hours of the day.

3. What are your dreams and ambitions? Arrange them on a scale of preference and follow accordingly. You don't need too many things. Quality always beat quantity all the time, every day.

4. Don't force yourself on people. You will make new and good friends from what you are, what you know, and what you share. This helps to minimize the number of idiots you will come across daily.

5. Be curious and versatile. Pursue truth, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. You will find peace despite the chaos that abounds and rules.

6. Don't be ego invested in anything. Once you sense light, move higher.

7. Study more and enter circles that fit your desires.

8. The early hours of the day are raw, pure, and silent. Think deep, draw out a map for yourself and how you will meander your way. That silence brings calmness to your soul.

9. Appreciate the beauty in whatever form you find them. The more you do this, the more things get clearer for you. It grants you the ability to draw beauty from chaos and your worst experiences.

10. Learn from every experience. If things go well, try and improve. If things go bad, take correction.

11. Love people.

Humans come with a baggage of flaws, but you must be compassionate enough to look past this. This doesn't mean that you must bear all their exuberance, but like a good shepherd: you use the rod during the day and bring the sheep close to your bosom at night.

Thanks.

PS: Food is ready Anchor19.

Anchor19:


Thanks boss. I'll look forward to your response. That post you made on the thread created by THE5DME was refreshing to my soul. It's a very realistic post that made me realize that success is never guaranteed until it is achieved.

Thanks. I do appreciate it.

Promise to improve and do better.

CaveAdullam:


1. Anger, sadness, retaliation, arrogance (light or heavy), joy, pain, anxiety, etc. are emotions rooted in the human psyche. The degree of expression may differ across individuals or groups, notwithstanding, it is a feature of the human psyche, not a bug.

2. You are angry because someone offended you. And you want to argue because your opponent is wrong. It is understandable.

3. Via arguments new things may be learned. But the outcome of arguments always ends in futility. It is better if you abstain. The only time you should is if your opponent is as intelligent as you or even better. On the flip side, this is no longer an argument but an intellectual debate that involves comparing notes and trying to decipher issues from different perspectives, and parsing of nuances. They may not accept each other ideas in the end, however, they go home changed with pounding hearts about their opinions and those of their opponents.

Know who you are dealing with before any argument or intellectual debate. You must be able to judge their intellect from afar or based on familiarity. With women, avoid every form of argument, only mere chit-chat. Women and other emotional individuals cannot comprehend logic and empiricism, they do base their claims on ego, fear, and guilt-tripping. Avoid them!

4. Why are you angry? Righteous anger: Anger because you smell something fishy, something manipulative, something evil, and disappointment which makes you want to fight back. Or, useless anger: Because you were pranked, called out for your mistakes, scolded for your misdemeanors, victim mentality, and teased.

These two types of anger can help you determine why you are angry. If it is the former, you don't just vent all the time, sometimes you talk, while other times you call fire and brimstones. Doing so will bring to the attention of the manipulators or evil-doers that you know what's going on and will never be a victim. You must do this from a place of power and/or confidence.

In serious conditions, you get angry and kick them out. The God of the old testament Christians' Bible is an example of this character. Sometimes he is cool towards evildoers, and other times, he slaughters everyone.

For the latter type of anger, you just need to develop more competence in doing things so that you will not always be sanctioned by people. In truth, humans don't know how to address pertinent issues on the ground. It takes one who has transcended to be able to deal with humans and draw you closer when you make mistakes.

When people make jest of you or tease you, counter them with your own. Because once they sense your sensitivity to teasing they will continue to do it. If you counter them always whether funny or not, they will start ignoring you. You can even take them to a level they don't understand and mock them for their foolishness.



Solitude!

1. Do what you love in secret, void of human distractions. Solitude is a good way to build yourself amidst the noises that surround us.

2. Sleep early and you will wake up early. Do the most useful things of your life in the early hours of the day.

3. What are your dreams and ambitions? Arrange them on a scale of preference and follow accordingly. You don't need too many things. Quality always beat quantity all the time, every day.

4. Don't force yourself on people. You will make new and good friends from what you are, what you know, and what you share. This helps to minimize the number of idiots you will come across daily.

5. Be curious and versatile. Pursue truth, wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. You will find peace despite the chaos that abounds and rules.

6. Don't be ego invested in anything. Once you sense light, move higher.

7. Study more and enter circles that fit your desires.

8. The early hours of the day are raw, pure, and silent. Think deep, draw out a map for yourself and how you will meander your way. That silence brings calmness to your soul.

9. Appreciate the beauty in whatever form you find them. The more you do this, the more things get clearer for you. It grants you the ability to draw beauty from chaos and your worst experiences.

10. Learn from every experience. If things go well, try and improve. If things go bad, take correction.

11. Love people.

Humans come with a baggage of flaws, but you must be compassionate enough to look past this. This doesn't mean that you must bear all their exuberance, but like a good shepherd: you use the rod during the day and bring the sheep close to your bosom at night.

Thanks.

PS: Food is ready Anchor19.

Sir I really don't know how to thank you. I am short of words. You hit the nail at the head!! This is exactly what I need now, especially when you said I should do the useful things in the morning. I've realized that whenever I postpone them to later in the day I'll find it very difficult to do them because I have engaged myself in other meaningless things like playing video games, discussing vain topics with my co-workers, heavy social media usage (I have deleted and reinstalled tiktok, facebook, instagram and others countless times in my phone). At the end of the day I won't be able to do the things that actually matter. I will screenshot this post and read it over and over again because everything you wrote up there was accurate with me. And I'll stop over thinking and start doing the activities that matters first before any other thing.


I do read books, that is,books that are concerning my career but when you said I should study, what kind of books should I be studying sir? I spend time a lot in nairaland reading people's post and comments, can that also be considered studying?


Yes concerning the anger part you are right, I'm usually ego invested and don't want to back down from an argument, I'll be the first person to bring out my phone and open google to prove my point.They've even teased me that I argue for a living. But those arguments always end in futility.I'll desist from such henceforth.


This write up will help me a lot, thank you very much sir. Thank you.

Brunosamel:
Read between the line I didn't say it was an advice rather an opinion.

Oh, really!
Thanks for the convicting affirmation of your having psychopathic tendencies.
Having that kind of opinion is unnatural

DrDunamis:

Oh, really!
Thanks for the convicting affirmation of your having psychopathic tendencies.
Having that kind of opinion is unnatural

Its perfectly okay to disagree with me but there's nothing unnatural about airing out my opinion either take it or you leave it

Brunosamel:
Its perfectly okay to disagree with me but there's nothing unnatural about airing out my opinion either take it or you leave it

Thank you so kindly for your candid opinion, but I'd recommend therapy for you or best a counselling session with your Pastor. Cos it seems you hurting

DrDunamis:

Thank you so kindly for your candid opinion, but I'd recommend therapy for you or best a counselling session with your Pastor. Cos it seems you hurting

What did you just say?

Brunosamel:
What did you just say?

Just a friendly suggestion

DrDunamis:

Just a friendly suggestion

I'm not a religious person and I rather read book on the topic than meet a Councillor

Brunosamel:
I'm not a religious person and I rather read book on the topic than meet a Councillor

Having a Pastor and being a Christian isnt just about a religion...
It's more

DrDunamis:

Having a Pastor and being a Christian isnt just about a religion...
It's more

I don't believe in God bro

Brunosamel:
I don't believe in God bro

Okay that's not strange to hear.
So may I kindly ask you why you don't believe in God?
And what do you believe in then?

Brunosamel:
I don't believe in God bro

Okay that's not strange to hear.
So may I kindly ask you why you don't believe in God?
And what do you believe in then?

DrDunamis:

Okay that's not strange to hear.
So may I kindly ask you why you don't believe in God?
And what do you believe in then?

I believe in betterment of all humanity, Morality and self love.

Brunosamel:
I believe in betterment of all humanity, Morality and self love.

Really?
Is that all?
So there is No God to you right?

Brunosamel:
Lately I have been seeing husband's killing there wives & boyfriends killing their girlfriends due anger or infidelity but the truth is Some certain situations is very much preventable it all comes down to mental strength and capacity to turn negative moments to your advantage. Some of the ways of build mental strength is through physical fitness, reading and suffering or rather doing difficult things. It help to control those emotions and keep it to check.

I remember when I confronted my girlfriend for cheating on me I was heart broken but I had to channel my negative thoughts with positive feelings
I walked away straight to the gym and lay the anger on the iron it was a terrible feeling that made me to injure myself came back from the gym channel all my anger in her kpekus aggressively she was shading tears and I didn't even give a Bleep eventually I broke up for cheating on me it felt really good afterwards.
Ever since then I have learn to channel my anger on iron it helps me to think and cool off and make the best decision.

Note: She has been begging me to accept her back that she has not been able to to forget what I did to her, she has not been able to get over it. It's a game over cuz I have moved on with another girl life goes on.

Oggaaa hope say you know say na rape you go rape that your girl sooo.


You vindicated her for cheating on you. Cos you have shown your inferiority in character to the man that she cheated on you with.


He used style or swag or money to fvck you girl under your watch.

While you used rape/force to fvck her Under his watch.

walai! You totally deserve to be cheated on. She did the right thing to you.