Kobojunkie:
1. Revolting is fighting to free oneself from being a victim. They didn't revoke by turning their white masters into slaves. So that mention has absolutely nothing to do with this here conversation.

2. See #1 above.

3. See #2 above.

I'll take your point on the first example, and maybe the third. However, while those were arguably poor examples of the point, that doesn't invalidate it.

Victims get some leeway for lashing out.

For example, would you not sympathise with an abused woman who snaps and kills her husband in his sleep? While killing him may not have been necessary for her freedom, one could argue that the trauma provoked a response just as wrong in character but less so in weight.

Wouldn't you agree?

nenyewrites:



Lmao!!!

I dey tell you oo, I no quarrel her, I just lock up
I just put her for list of "getting down banny"

donaldking100:
exactly what i'm doing one girl who cheated on me.
only if she knows that she's dating herself right now.

Baddest.

Josbreed:


Ahsweh, na wetin me sef dey do. Free kpanshing.

Is good to forgive and forget but on this issue you've done the right thing.

Baddest.

paulolee:
any guy wey sabi straff people serious girlfriend no suppose de reason relationship for head..
I don play bestie role for years n know things i do, wenever m in a new relationship n noticed dey is a particular guy or guys dt she keeps chatting, calling or even talking to, its over from my side..
I no de even wait for her to cheat, I go jus remove mind bcoz girls de sabi fall hands

Sharp guy

Kobojunkie:
You don't yet you admit to us here that it is your current situation?

I caught her, forgave her, kpanshing continues. But, you see this ting called luv abi lov abi na love sef, infact, anyone of them sha, e no dey again. For her mind, I am the ONE for her.

I no get time just FK and drop to the next all of them Na same expecialy mawid women who still cheat u think say Na only u e de give Poename?

SmartyPants:
1. I'll take your point on the first example, and maybe the third. However, while those were arguably poor examples of the point, that doesn't invalidate it.

2. Victims get some leeway for lashing out.

For example, would you not sympathise with an abused woman who snaps and kills her husband in his sleep? While killing him may not have been necessary for her freedom, one could argue that the trauma provoked a response just as wrong in character but less so in weight.

Wouldn't you agree?

1. Your examples do not connect in any way to this.

2. The moment a supposed victims becomes as his oppressor, he ceases to be a victim but just another oppressor in the game.

I may emphasize to an extent but that doesn't make her any less of a murder who murdered her victim in his sleep if reasonable doubt cannot be established.

From this picture, its a clear depiction that she is the one footing the bills.. Its not called cheating.. Rather he caught you with a work colleague or client.

Josbreed:
I caught her, forgave her, kpanshing continues. But, you see this ting called luv abi lov abi na love sef, infact, anyone of them sha, e no dey again. For her mind, I am the ONE for her.

You didn't forgive her cause if you did we wouldn't be having this conversation to begin with. Hence the issue.

donaldking100:
exactly what i'm doing one girl who cheated on me.
only if she knows that she's dating herself right now.

You think you are doing her but she is doing you. Na when market set una go know who carry who come market

Josbreed:


Ahsweh, na wetin me sef dey do. Free kpanshing.

Far too risky

bayulll011:


You are more Dummb with the silly post of your yours.
do you know the trauma and the instability and trust you broke when you cheated on your partner.

thats why i love the whites,why cheated in the first place.

He said the truth. What's wrong with you?

Kobojunkie:
You didn't forgive her cause if you did we wouldn't be having this conversation to begin with. Hence the issue.

No body forgives cheating except idiots burn out of ignorance by a dead woman.

Josbreed:


Ahsweh, na wetin me sef dey do. Free kpanshing.

Free 'kpanshing' until she gives STD

As a man, I can tell you categorically....







You're correct.

Kobojunkie:
1. Your examples do not connect in any way to this.

2. The moment a supposed victims becomes as his oppressor, he ceases to be a victim but just another oppressor in the game.

I may emphasize to an extent but that doesn't make her any less of a murder who murdered her victim in his sleep if reasonable doubt cannot be established.

We'll have to agree to disagree for the most part, but the bolded is the key!

What if you know that ur wife cheat

Ezemann:
And the majority of the men here will want their women to forgive them and take them back whenever they cheat.

Gender bias....

If I cheat,I won't expect forgiveness if caught....and won't forgive her either...

Jaybuoy:
@OP

Wise words.

But you didn't have to share this secret with them girls. Allow brothers take their revenge in peace

Ladies are funny though. You cheat on me and still come back expecting us to pretend and move on like nothing happened? Girls get mind, I swear.

But you aren't obliged to take her back, are you? If your girl cheats on you and you can't handle that, let her go! Vice versa.
What's the 'revenge' for, if you value your peace of mind? Sleeping with her and eventually breaking her heart is now revenge? You may not know when you will hit her or kill her out of annoyance, so, discharge the cheat. That's enough punishment.

nijaomegacode:

No body forgives cheating except idiots burn out of ignorance by a dead woman.

Well, you are all in the same pudding then with the cheaters since according to you no one forgives.

SmartyPants:


We'll have to agree to disagree for the most part, but the bolded is the key!

The bolded only matters because we consider her situation however it means absolutely nothing if she is proven just another vicious individual like her oppressor.

Lovelydaisies:


But you aren't obliged to take her back, are you? If your girl cheats on you and you can't handle that, let her go! Vice versa.
What's the 'revenge' for, if you value your peace of mind? Sleeping with her and eventually breaking her heart is now revenge? You may not know when you will hit her or kill her out of annoyance, so, discharge the cheat. That's enough punishment.

That's your opinion, though. People deal with pain differently.

The moral lesson is, in life, be careful who you offend. Some forgive easily, some others, not so much.

Kobojunkie:
I hope you don't plan to marry and or have kids? Cause reality wey dey wait you no go dey as simple.

They are also the product of reality...ask their parenf

ttbaba:

They are also the product of reality...ask their parenf

We are meant to act with wisdom so we break from such cycles.

IamMobisola:


But this same gender expects ladies to forgive them and take them back when they cheat.

Why do women always assume this your statement....begging for forgiveness after cheating is an individual thing....

men do it...
Women do it....

Some men forgive.. some dont
Some women forgive ..some don't...

advanceDNA:



Make no mistake, great women don't spread legs around like somebody they swear for...they are STD and a paternity fraud waiting to happen... have some self worth man...

u deserve better...
You can get someone better

Believe whatever you want to believe.
I hope you end up with the kind of woman you think you deserve.
Shalom.

czarr:
abeg no follow social media advice o.
Keep forgiving, even in marriage keep forgiving if she cheats, even when you find out "your kids" are not yours but your neighbors kids, please forgive just as Jesus forgives.

I don’t know what you are driving at but we all know the topic is specific. Feel free, however, to broaden it and justify your life decisions.

Lorechino:
I can genuinely forgive u, if u cheated far away North, but cheating with my homie I will still welcome you so that we will be having party.

who are wa

Heimdal:
One mentally unstable person will follow this advice and miss a golden opportunity to marry a great woman because she bleeped another man meanwhile he probably has 2 other side chicks he bleeps. This is why I hardly take advice spewed on social media seriously.

Sunday and Friday you go enter church and mosque go beg God for “forgiveness” but another human being no deserve am.

My God, na man born this one?

advanceDNA:


Why do women always assume this your statement....begging for forgiveness after cheating is an individual thing....

men do it...
Women do it....

Some men forgive.. some dont
Some women forgive ..some don't...

It's not assumption, it's the truth. You probably have been missing tweets on twitter and post here on nairaland about this topic.
They say "Men are polygamous in nature", that's the excuse your gender uses to justify them cheating.
They said women shouldn't leave their relationships because their men cheat because "men are by nature wired to have more than one woman" but when a woman cheats, she shouldn't be forgiven. And hundreds of comments from yiur gender were in agreement

Your gender said this.