kollinz1234:
your mind is so dark and ugly and that is the state of your existence. Go and read what I said and point out where I cursed any child. It is this your kind of stupid message that makes marriages no longer lasts. Divorce everywhere etc. Your judgement will come. Keep breaking marriages with your heresy. With all the problems in your life, have you been able to run away from any of them? Don't you face them as best you can? Why then are you advising another to run from hers if you are not evil??

And for the last time........ Get thee behind me Uunborn baby cursing SATAN!!!

zoby:
The mother that showed up to drop off the child knew what she was doing.
Something tells me that this lady intentionally dropped off the child to systematically destroy your marriage.

A good maid will cost less than 40k per month. Both of you should work towards making things work. Your husband should find a way to pay for a maid to take care of his daughter.

You are pregnant, leaving him will not improve your situation. Give him a chance to make things work

The mother didn’t intend to destroy anyone’s marriage. She single handedly took care of this child for 7years without any support from the father. She has tried. The father should continue were she stopped. If it was your sister, you would advise to return the child to the rightful owner; the father.

lastchild:
The funny thing is that, this op is likely to take your advice of "ruuuun"

not knowing that you'll do anything to take over her position

Maybe this is your first time of seeing my comment . I have three kids and I know how stressful it was when they were toddlers. The child with cerebral palsy doesn't walk, can't chew food well, has muscle problems, drolls, uncontrollable, in short no words for you.

The first time I saw a child with cerebral palsy at UNTH, I felt like crying. The mum dumped him in that hospital when he was 4 years. He was being cared by the nurse but person no dey hear word, always making noise . That child needs the services of professionals.

sooperrescue:
There's a saying that if you have not gone through life, you should not mock a blind person. What if God wants to use you to heal the child and prevent further calamity in your husband lineage of which you are the keeper. Take care of the child as if she is your own and see what the Lord will do through you.

You can be a volunteer carer . You think it's easy abi?

Ninisun:




Maybe this is your first time of seeing my comment . I have three kids and I know how stressful it was when they were toddlers. The child with cerebral palsy doesn't walk, can't chew food well, has muscle problems, drolls, uncontrollable, in short no words for you.

The first time I saw a child with cerebral palsy at UNTH, I felt like crying. The mum dumped him in that hospital when he was 4 years. He was being cared by the nurse but person no dey hear word, always making noise . That child needs the services of professionals.

Leave them. If the child was normal, I would be one of those begging OP to forgive the betrayal and accept her wholeheartedly into her home.

But that isn’t the case.

wjxavier:
Please LEAVE and let him have peace.

Too bad he never knew you were like this. A fair weather wife.

LEAVE!

If I know him I will encourage him to NOT stop you.

You’re the worst kind of woman a man can have. Onky there for comfort.

LEAVE ABEG. Make we hear word.

You can write non.sense cus you are not in her shoes! Shebi na cus na man bring the child abi, keep supporting bull.shit

kollinz1234:
your mind is so dark and ugly and that is the state of your existence. Go and read what I said and point out where I cursed any child. It is this your kind of stupid message that makes marriages no longer lasts. Divorce everywhere etc. Your judgement will come. Keep breaking marriages with your heresy. With all the problems in your life, have you been able to run away from any of them? Don't you face them as best you can? Why then are you advising another to run from hers if you are not evil??

You’re mad if you think this child is OP’s problem.

HRHQueenPhil:


I will gladly do same if my man and I can come up with a solution that works for everyone..
In fact, if I had the money,I will pay the maid to take care of the child solely ..that's my way..

Yea, type it cus you haven't been through it.

Le2money:
U lack knowledge and sense bro. Because the child has one illness now and she wants to go, does it means the child in her womb is purely free? Do to others what u want others to do for you in ur presence and absence. The only thing they are do here is to have the guy's mother to come live with them for her to be assisting. Face your problems and never run away from it ...that's always my blv

kollinz1234:
you are pregnant and you don't know what you will give birth to, yet you want to leave your husband not because he didnt tell you that he had a child out of wedlock but because you can't cope with the child. Karma is a very wicked bitch.
You leave that man's house, don't be surprised at what you will give birth to.

Shallom

wowcatty:
If that child was her own, she won't take care of him or her? It's called selfless service and it's incovenient but rewarding. Have you thought about maybe she is carrying one just like that and God wants to see how she would accept this one and then use that to change it for good in her favor?

Will you guys accept payment to care for the child, at least your reward will be instant and I trust Nairalanders to chip in a token as required...

cayorday89:






Will you guys accept payment to care for the child, at least your reward will be instant and I trust Nairalanders to chip in a token as required...

I will chip in sir.


Besides, God will bless whoever takes her in.

Nozino:



I will chip in sir.

Thanks to you sir, even as I no too gallant right now, I will gladly drop my bit..

Nozino:



You’re mad if you think this child is OP’s problem.

why not cure your insanity by first getting a job?

delishpot:


And for the last time........ Get thee behind me Uunborn baby cursing SATAN!!!

nobody can be behind you, you are already last. No wonder your family doesn't take you serious or important. Ordinary decision making they will make it without your opinion

Nozino:



Leave them. If the child was normal, I would be one of those begging OP to forgive the betrayal and accept her wholeheartedly into her home.

But that isn’t the case.

I've been seeing your comments on this thread. Omo i love your energy

kollinz1234:
why not cure your insanity by first getting a job?

I know insanity runs in your family so cure your children first.

Housing:


I pray you don't have to look after a sick family member. Paralysis is a big burden on anyone. Seeing someone that his/her health conditions can never improve but only be managed is depressing. And it is more killing if you have to stay with such 24/7.

I can't blame her. But it is a passing phase

And she has to divorce her husband because of that?

H0711:


Being a single mother is not a death sentence . I prefer that chance to be reduce like you think than staying in an unhappy place raising someone else responsibility which might cause me to develop some health issues.

We are saying the same thing!

Run!!!! What else could he be hiding

JONNYSPUTE:
..,.. Lol. What if after given birth she finds out that her own child has the same issue? Wetin she go do?

Maybe drop her child with the husband and jepa her own

You are a fool... "What if" kill you there

crackhaus:

Exactly...

what is exactly? Fools

kollinz1234:
you are pregnant and you don't know what you will give birth to, yet you want to leave your husband not because he didnt tell you that he had a child out of wedlock but because you can't cope with the child. Karma is a very wicked bitch.
You leave that man's house, don't be surprised at what you will give birth to.

Shallom

You are a big f.o.o.l... God disgrace you there and leave Satan to make you miserable... Fxckn bxstaxd...

Le2money:
U lack knowledge and sense bro. Because the child has one illness now and she wants to go, does it means the child in her womb is purely free? Do to others what u want others to do for you in ur presence and absence. The only thing they are do here is to have the guy's mother to come live with them for her to be assisting. Face your problems and never run away from it ...that's always my blv

Will you shut up! If you don't know what to say... How is that sick child her problem?

Ur husband should take de child to his own mother 4 things to be easier...or is ur mother in-law late

Ahmeddedon:
Ur husband should take de child to his own mother 4 things to be easier...or is ur mother in-law late

The mother in law is not late. They want to suffer her.

Can’t you see how people here are trying to weaponize religion and use it against her? The same thing the white slave traders used.

Duchessree:




I've been seeing your comments on this thread. Omo i love your energy

Thank you

Megabig:


I agree, God can also use a stranger to do miracles, now that you know, kindly request for her number and go help for free, those sort of favors receive great reward from God and who knows, the child may be healed as you said…

My suggestion to OP: I didn’t like the fact that he lied to you before even getting married to you,how can he go into something so serious and not tell his partner about a child he is fathering, now you are pregnant and will be a single mum out of wedlock, don’t let people emotionally blackmail you, just walk away if that’s your decision but also know it’s not easy being a divorcee so you have to be better prepared . He can’t eat his cake and have it. People should stop starting marriages on deceit

You give good advice. The illness the child has is only found in the US and Europe and the bible. I have not seen it here in Nigeria and if the husband has a child with such ailment, chances are that it's in his lineage and a baby is coming from the same loins. My hands are full of children hence I will reject the offer but the woman is yet to have one, let her prevent the calamity coming her way by showing kindness to the child.