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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by wowcatty: 3:11am On Aug 04, 2022 |
The OP is NOT a third party as long as she is legally married to the man, that is now her step child and she's responsible for the child too. Also, the biological mother of the child has already abandoned the child which is either due to poverty or mental illness. The OP needs to step up and step into her new role or abandon her marriage to raise her own child alone too. How can she not know about this before getting married when they didn't marry the same day they met? This is a whole child involved. Or is it just the 4 of them in that town? Mindlog: |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Teymanhenry(f): 6:45am On Aug 04, 2022 |
BloomingDale:She never said he is on 15k monthly. He was paying 200k on his child's treatment right? |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Femifasola: 6:47am On Aug 04, 2022 |
wowcatty:Your soul is of the devil, your mother's soul is from lucifer and your father's soul from pigg. Cursed you are and cursed you will remain forever Donate your cursed sister to go and take care of the man's needy child and you're running around 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Mindlog: 7:15am On Aug 04, 2022 |
wowcatty: It is the biological father and biological mother that are FIRST OBLIGATED to the child before OP, and both should be the ones to STEP UP as that child is the outcome of their generics not OP's, neither does she appear in the child's birth records. The biological mother can not be excused neither the biological father as far a psychiatrist has not yet certified them as mentally unfit. Even if the OP eventually gets divorced, the then ex-husband will still be obligated to their child or in all the divorce cases you have read here on Nairaland, have you ever read where the magistrate pronounced that since the woman has custody of the child/children, the man no longer have obligations towards their child/children? 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by afribabe: 7:40am On Aug 04, 2022 |
The biological mother is tired. She can't cope again probably because of lack of financial and whatever support from the baby daddy.. The man can't afford a maid.(He earns #15k monthly). The new wife is 7months pregnant. Even if she has the heart to help, she won't have the physical strength required. She can't even get a job now to help financially (the child can't be left alone and she is heavily pregnant) New wife is not happy that she married another woman's husband and is telling husband to go back to his baby mama so they can take care of their child together.... Hmmm it is well. I pray the little girl gets all the help she needs 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 9:52am On Aug 04, 2022 |
wowcatty: Go and take care of the child too useless demon 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by surgevessel: 10:56am On Aug 04, 2022 |
H0711: It seems you have made up your mind, but you need no advise in that case. The circumstance you just described seems like autisms to me, the child only need a good therapist and we have alot of them in Nigeria. Moreso, the child can be sent to any of the Autism homes well managed by international NGOs at absolutely reduced rate. I volunteered to take in an Autism child sometimes ago and bear the cost when the mother who happened to be a close family friend threatened to dump her off. Do I tell you something? You are carrying a baby in your womb and no one have control what is conceived in there except God Almighty. That girl could have been your daughter. I dont see any problems |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 11:11am On Aug 04, 2022 |
surgevessel: It seems like you don't even know what you are talking about because you can't even differentiate autism and celebral palsy , autism cannot even be compare to celebral palsy because a child with autism can move around , he or she can use the toilet on her own, feed herself ,dress, and play like any other children and the one with celebral palsy cannot do anything the body is paralysed so she need care 24/7. I can tell you have no idea about celebral palsy go and goole it to understand it better. If you think is easy and it is not different from autism like you stated please go to my house and help my husband look after her because he need to go to work. He will appreciate your help. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by surgevessel: 11:42am On Aug 04, 2022 |
H0711: I'm so sorry oh. Please I withdraw my comments if it gets at you. Apologies please. Approach a court of competent jurisdiction and file for a divorce. I can link you up with a good lawyer. |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 11:54am On Aug 04, 2022 |
surgevessel: Don't mind my title I wrote it out of frustration we didn't do any court wedding . We did trad and white wedding not need to file a divorce in court. My family will return the bride price that's it. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by surgevessel: 12:17pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
H0711: I understand. It's fine But before you take any step, you would agree with me that divorce is the last option after every other options to resolve family issues has been exploited and failed. I think this is more than just you and him, have you involved family members, have you had a heart to heart discussion with him, giving him that confidence that you are both in this together?? By the time you engage him and a few credible family members, solutions would come. I still believe you havent played your last card before considering divorce. Let's try further and see what works. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by H0711(f): 12:27pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
surgevessel: I am on my way to the village. If you think I haven't played my last card please come and play it on my behalf 8 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Klass99(f): 12:33pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
... 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Dbrawllm0098(f): 12:39pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
H0711: I love your kind of person jare. Correct babe 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by afribabe: 12:49pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Now that the man is alone with the child and can't go to work, I hope his mother and/or baby mama will reconsider or how is he even going to make the money to care for this girl if he can't go anywhere... It is well 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by SHOCK7(m): 1:30pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
H0711:Your mind seems pretty made up, how u left now? |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 1:44pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
surgevessel: It’s how you started like you cared about OP. First thing I would like you to know is that OP’s baby is fine. You should be worried about your children. Kids die you know. No one can say your children won’t die or develop neurological disorder except God. This child could easily have been your daughter. Go and adopt her. And since you’re stupid enough to equate autism with cerebral palsy, you will forever remain stupid. It is so shameful this is what you’ve turned Christianity into. A medium to brainwash and blackmail people. Shame!!! 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 1:46pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Teymanhenry: Go and learn how to read first before you come here to comment. 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 1:48pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
surgevessel: Idiot. Did she ask for your help? If she needs a lawyer, she’d get one. She’s not one of those your dumb sisters. Mumu that has google but open your maggot infested mouth to say cerebral palsy and autism are the same!!! Stupid people like you are trying to blackmail OP with religion on a subject matter you know nothing of. God punish you 10 times. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 1:52pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Klass99: She is. And very strong too. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 1:58pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
afribabe: Why would the mother continue to care for her alone? Hasn’t she been caring for this child for 7years? Was the father taking care of the child when the child was with the mum? Didn’t you read where OP said he wasn’t supporting her financially? Do you understand what she had to give up? It’s how women are normalizing this weird behavior. The father should care for his child abeg. It’s not easy to lift a 7year old child. It isn’t by providing money. A special needs child limits you!!! The mother has tried abeg. The father should care for the child while the mother supports financially when/if she can. DEM NR DY USE TOTO CARE FOR PIKIN 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Klass99(f): 1:59pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 2:02pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Klass99: Thank you. I’m a comrade of vawulence. I was completely appalled by the religious blackmail. Imagine people asking OP to stomach what they won’t accept. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 2:21pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
danot1030: This comment hits so much now. These ignorant animals advising OP to stay do not have any idea of the situation OP is in. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Klass99(f): 2:30pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
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Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 2:36pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Klass99: I wish I could like this comment a million times. God bless you. 3 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Saccharine: 3:07pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Funny that people are forgetting the father of the child. He has 2 hands and legs so should be able to care for his own child since the mother has abandoned her after 7 years of suffering alone. I thought he would pick up the mantle and care for her with everything in him or is there a special power he needs to bathe, clean, feed and change his child? Why does he expect the OP to take on his responsibility? The main victim here is the child who has been failed by her father and biological mother. This father moved on, got married and is expecting another child,he carried on like she did not exist. Are we supposed to empathize with this man that did nothing to support the mother of this child for 7 good years and would have gone on for longer if the mother didn't run off?The mother has a right to have a life too,so it's his turn . Why should the Op do it? This is how frustration sets in and the child starts getting abused. My thoughts are with the child, may she find love and care from her parents. Even in this condition, she did nothing to deserve this. Op,you go ahead and do what's best for you and the baby. It's time for your husband to parent his child. If he is smart, he will find a part time carer or arrange a 50/50 agreement with the child's mother. 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nobody: 3:47pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
ugolightswel1: Your likes are the reason why Osinachi is dead today. Go and read up on pregnancy. What if she develops complications and dies or something happens to the baby all because she was trying to keep her marriage. Go and sit down please. :- 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by baby124: 5:27pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
So the useless man ran away and left the child with the mother after birthing a disabled child. Pretended like she did not exist so he can move on. He knows anyone that wants to marry him will be cautious because of a history of severe disability. So he did not mention it to the new wife, which he conned into marriage. Now they are trying to make this child her problem. I think OP and the husband should approach the state for help. There should be homes that can take care of disabled children adequately since they are not financially capable. Sorry OP, it is a huge responsibility that only very few can take on. This is why in some countries scans are done and the foetus is aborted. It is a life of misery, pain and frustration. 6 Likes |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Ebymyk(m): 5:32pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Today is 4th...have you moved out already? |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Nozino: 7:37pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
Ebymyk: Would that your life any easier? |
Re: I Want To Divorce My Husband As Soon As Possible by Blendy77(f): 7:48pm On Aug 04, 2022 |
What state are u based? Why not look for an orphanage home and drop the child? Most accept kids with disabilities and am not sure they charge this much. Your husband made a mistake by not telling you before marriage but he probably thought its because you will leave him. Forgive his mistakes and help to find a solution. Both of I should look for a government orphanage home or school with boarding facilities and take d child there |
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