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Tolexander:
different people with different theories on this our Nairaland, claiming to know but know nothing

Can you please provide something to establish that?

Google is your friend sir

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

You've allowed rubbish fly for too long. Your wife's relationship with your bro is wrong and I believe you know this already, or are u waiting till u catch him on top your wife b4 u act? Cut her off him 100%, give her your rules insist she abides to it. A STITCH IN TIME SAVED NINE..

omotoshodontee1:
M having hard time in believing this story Sha... very bitter to swallow

still advice him nah! Why will go through all that effort

Grop1040, Talk to your wife first, Tell her what tou noticed and ask her why isn't she Reacting to that? Why is she acting like everything is OK? See ehhn me thinks something is going on looks like he got her under control and she can't say No to anything! Talk to her even if theres something going on she might stop it and you'll never know it happened but if you really want to know then there are ways to know, gotta get creative. Besides anything that's happened and is happening is your fault you give face, you allowed it to happen!.

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

If your brother is sleeping with your wife as you think, you are 90% responsible for that. As a man, you should have known that one of the tools some men use to subdued women is being bully at the initial time, then they make their approach while leaving the lady to start thinking that non acceptance will make the situation worst. I don't and will never trust any male, irrespective of his relationship with me or my wife, from her father, siblings, uncle, even her sons down to my relatives from up to bottom and I also owe her the responsibility to protect her against any known antics by any of these persons. If you like call me any name but what you can't deny is the fact that at one time or the other, in this country or another, sex had happened and is still happening between the set of people I mentioned above so that is more reason why I don't underrate the possibility. That is one side of it
Secondly, your brother is having emotional issue that has to do with betrayal by a woman and you are letting him too close to your wife, especially when he is yet to let go or he is yet to make move to heal and overcome his problem. Don't you know that woman are full of pity when they see a man under such situation, don't you know that if your brother has feelings for your wife he could easily trick her into the act by playing some mind game on her? All he need to do when your wife turned him down is to put up a moody face backed up with a statement like women has never been kind to him bla bla bla and immediately your wife hears these, she is broken. Go and do DNA and thereafter, start to put your house together by restricting him. If he actually needs children, he knows wat to do, in fact sending your children there constantly is not helping him to do the needful.

grop1040:
I wont come here to type a long epistle like that all in the name of formulating or making up a story. It did happen.

make sure you distance your wife from that guy, far distance I said.

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

check if your kids are yours.bye

Tolexander:
different people with different theories on this our Nairaland, claiming to know but know nothing

Can you please provide something to establish that?

ok, it's step, case closed abi?

adedayoa2:
Google is your friend sir

That is how you will go out disgracing your family and generation with your ignorance and transferring it to your next generation.

Is it so hard for you to use the same google to support your claim or Google is your enemy?

adedayoa2:
ok, it's step, case closed abi?

you and who is having a case opened before

Nonsense from an ignoramus

grop1040:
I already ran DNA on my son, he was the only one that I doubted, but result came out that am the biological father. However instinct kept telling me to run it again.

I think you are overheating the situation. I feel there's nothing just that your half brother is a jerk and your wife is just trying to be respectful the way she believes you would want her.

So, tell your wife that your half brother is disrespecting you towards her, and that you now want all communication between both of them to go through you. If he calls her or makes any requests, she should tell him to contact you first. And please leave your mum out of this. Mums have a poor judgement of their sons' lives.

All I see is a weak man n a mumu man who's trying to please others at the expense of his own happiness.

You stated in your post that your brother is the controlling type. Well, your brother has just succeeded in dominating your wife.

He now plays the role of the husband n u being a weaker man who's trying to please the family, you just gave him the go ahead by not cautioning him earlier.

You wife now sees him as the man, n not you. That's y he can order her around and get away with it (I won't be surprised if he don de kpench her already).

How will another man come to you house, and boss your wife around like say na two of una de share d wife n you'll be cool about it.

You gave him that opportunity mate, and you alone can fix it (if truly u have the balls).

You f-up big time, n na your wife you want come de blame...have some balls mate!

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

If you fail to lead your woman,another man will do so.
Your mum advising you to keep shut is setting you up for your own marriage to scatter.
Women responds to their emotions and not the consequences. Your brother is a wicked man who wants to replicate what happened to him in your family.
Listen,put your woman in her place but remember that women are hypergamous in nature.
If she see’s your brother as a higher man than you,she will definitely jump on him like a monkey tree-branching.That’s the nature of women.

MrbasHH:
[b]Your woman too mumu small. You wey be the horseband oh sorry husband call am for 4times she no pick and almost immediately your brother call and she pick up. Lol……[/b]hmmm (she go tell me wetin she see for soup wey make am do hand like that) Na for palace we go take settle the matter. Brother man be wise brother man.

Bros u don finish the matter, na left to OP make he act...if him truly get the balls.

But maka add small (@bolded), I no blame the madam ooo. The OP bro don dominate the woman already, na him she don de see as d husband...na y she go blank d OP calls but rush to answer that of his bro's.

This matter weak me no be small

Between you and your Half-brother who is older?

Na better see finish be this o...damn!

When them Bleep your wife, ya eyes go clear, you are there wanting to catch them pants down after your half brother don knack the kpekus weak.

I will never give any man any chance into my family, wether family or not.

Never allow another man to pretend to care for your children, through children they get to your family.

There is no way out, they have started talking already and if she's fantasizing sleeping with him already, she will do that


I'm lucky to have a girl without social media presence. Women of our time, little thing freaks them

Modified: Start sleeping with another girl so as to lose interest in her.
You have your life, don't die for marriage, men die earlier in marriage who knows why

He who is born into this world is born alone, and vice versa. You have children, wife, family etc, it doesn't matter. We go die as we alone.

Start sleeping with a more beautiful girl outside

grop1040:
I already ran DNA on my son, he was the only one that I doubted, but result came out that am the biological father. However instinct kept telling me to run it again.

"Trust no one but when in doubt, follow your instincts".

- False Flags

The relationship between your wife and brother is very suspicious. The way he talks down on her shows something might be going on between them.
Do a secret DNA test for your kids ( positive or negative, the results doesn't matter ), and confront both of the them. Don't take they plea serious, because they will always lie about it.
Warn your wife to stop picking his calls or going to her house. Set a boundary between the both families. The early the better, cause women can easily be deceive by manipulating men.

Tinububalls:
Op.
Firstly, I will say you're scared of your brother, and you're trying to push the blame to your wife.
Maybe your wife till feels pity for your brother because of his past. This made her to start playing the good wife.
Your wife is silently praying for the day you will address this issue with your brother so that she will be free at last.
Bro, talk to your brother, tell him you don't like the way he talks/address or treat your wife, you can use the meat incidence as an example. Tell him you have discussed this with your wife and she isn't happy.
From his words and reactions, as a coded guyman you will know if he is bleeping your wife.

Look at you.
He called his wife four times while in his brother's house she didn't pick. The brother called, immediately she picked and started apologising. He wouldn't know if he wasn't there.

My advice is not a marriage destroying one, the wife will come back to her senses

He will continue to live the one life God gave to him. You don't live for any other human

grop1040:
mods, kindly push this post to the FP

DNA test first...him fit be d father of those children.

Talk to your wife.

Your wife's lack of effort to put your mind to ease speaks volumes. But what's my own, let the married people talk.

This isn't good.
I just see him as someone who wants to scatter your marriage probably because his own has been scattered.

Confront him to steer clear of your wife.
This man will not stop until your marriage collapses

And quit lostening to your mom.

falcon01:
still advice him nah! Why will go through all that effort

Grop1040, Talk to your wife first, Tell her what tou noticed and ask her why isn't she Reacting to that? Why is she acting like everything is OK? See ehhn me thinks something is going on looks like he got her under control and she can't say No to anything! Talk to her even if theres something going on she might stop it and you'll never know it happened but if you really want to know then there are ways to know, gotta get creative. Besides anything that's happened and is happening is your fault you give face, you allowed it to happen!.

My brother it is the man's duty to do the talking and the stopping.


Long ago infor don Bann the idiot from coming to my house....delete my wife's number from his phone....block the number and possibly dished out one or two

grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's ..............

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

I am gonna put myself in your shoes to respond to your request for advice.

I will stop sending my children to his house.
I will conduct a DNA test on all my children.
I will sound my wife out on the affair that I suspect she has with my half brother. I will let her know that the day I confirm the affair, the marriage to her will end.
I will set boundaries for my half brother and my family (wife and children).
He is only welcome in my house when I am at home and if my wife welcomes him in my absence, the marriage is over.

I will make the issue a matter between my wife and i. If I can't instruct her, even to avoid a family member with good reason, then she has lost respect for me. Then I can't trust her and my love for her will diminish drastically; the basis of the marriage has been destroyed.

Your wife is strongly into him and may have graduated to sleeping with him.

Webhome01:
"Trust no one but when in doubt, follow your instincts".

- False Flags

True

Wahala dey!

Bros, you left this wound to fester for a long while, now it will take a emotional outburst to fix, and the tendency everybody will blame you is very high.

First, stop your children from visiting your step brother! Be firm about it! They are your kids!

Secondly, you are on a time bomb! Your wife is now playing Russian roulette with you, you need wisdom now, not to do something regrettable. She blames you for not confronting your brother, playing on your emotions, indirectly calling you a weakling! Not picking your calls, but instantly picked his. You have to be very careful, this kind of provocation is what causes some men to kill or maim their wives, and that shall not be your passion.

Thirdly, your mother will not die if you decide to cut off your step brother to save your marriage!

You are dealing with narcissists and you are been gaslighted.

look your wife straight in the eyes, tell her you don't trust her with your brother! And she has to choose whom she wants to be with and be firm about it. It will not be easy, but if she sees how serious you are, she will play her own role

- Don't let your kids visit him anymore.
- try and have access to their chats
- your brother is really disrespectful and daring for biting the meat he gave to your wife, hence he doesn't deserve the decorum he's enjoying from you. He'll hurt you if you don't act.
- I've not seen any fault in your wife in all this except that she did not answer your call. Let's give her the benefit of doubt

MrbasHH:
Omo this is so deep ooo…. I no dey like this kind story. When I still dey single. My girl friend then now my wife bn see one of her old time church friend (male) few years ago during inec adhoc training. We dey waka together and all of a sudden she was no where to be found and when I come look back I bn see her with the guy talking, gisting and laughing … omo the kind shout wey I shout for am. The guy had to beg me. What an insolence me no dey take nonsense when it come to my woman matter ooo. Her parent know say me get Choco for head reason why they supported my marriage with her.


What I’m saying in essence is that you for don voice out. Make you talk your mind make everybody know wetin dey sup when that your stepbrother dey trespass. Which kind nonsense be that. You no fit try shit with my woman because I be real nigga! my judgement and para na instant. I no dey look face.


And as for your woman. She fit no get anything to do with that your brother. E fit be say na fear dey make am react like that and as things be now brother man if you no do anything asap and if anything never sup between them before. Bro the guy don already put fear for your wife body and Baba that your brother go use that advantage Bleep your wife to stupor. No vex bro…… that’s the power of mind controlling. The guy don shallow your wife ….. the guy don capture her mind come put fear for her body.



Na you fuckup …. Na man you be na…. Why you go dey control my wife for where I dey ?na you pay for dowry? Bros take charge. No dull yourself. Be wise, be smart. The nonsense must stop now. Be brave .


Your woman too mumu small. You wey be the horseband oh sorry husband call am for 4times she no pick and almost immediately your brother call and she pick up. Lol……hmmm (she go tell me wetin she see for soup wey make am do hand like that) Na for palace we go take settle the matter. Brother man be wise brother man.

Exactly what I thought, he has instill fear in her. If he wants to sleep with her it will easy, but I doubt if he has started sleeping with her.
He is like an alpha male Nah this kind man women they respect.
Forget women liking guys who are calm and quiet is synonymous to child liking ice-cream and chocolate too much of it is bad.

obiekunie01:
Bro what really do you want to hear from us that you don't already know but too scared to face it.

is it the fact that your step-brother has used the frustration from his ex-cheating wife to knack your hoe-wife's brains out and turn her to his sex slave just to prove to himself that he is still a worthy man and that all women are cheats!

or you just want us to tell you to relax that you will soon end-up 6feet below so they have the freedom they so desire so as to continue their unhindered kpanshin.

or you just want to hear from us that your mother is also aware that they are fucking themselves mad but advised your hoe-wife to keep answering your step-bro whenever he calls her so she wont provoke your step-bro into spilling the beans on her.

ok i get it - you want us to tell you that your wife is so used to fuking your bro that she is no longer afraid of what your reaction will be if you finds out.

Ok. let me tell you this, whichever way you want it, you are already a loser.

You either man up and cutout with the little respect you have for yourself by divorcing you wicked asawo wife - dont even give her any reason for the divorce. just go to court and seek to divorce her on irreconcilable difference and fear for your life. that way, you would av defeated them totally. (thou when you divorce her, be rest assured she will move in with your step-bro. but he will dump her after 6 months cause she will no longer give him tht excitement of fukn your wife).

But if you decide to continue with the marriage, i guarantee you that you will soon be dead - max two years.

take care of you bro.

This is childish bro, is someone 's wife and a child'a mother. Is like you are pouring out your frustration on this post, who broke your heart?

What I know is the step brother has instill fear in her, if he wants to sleep with her it will be easy. Saying that the step brother has being sleeping with her and the mother knows as well is way of line bro.

The day he shouted at your wife anf you kept quiet was the day you have him access to her.

do you have 2 by 2 pako at home...
Do justice to them the truth will fly out
Or u lay turndabolt(magun) for ur wife...
And watch as god fight for you