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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Mom007(f): 8:54am On Aug 12, 2022
Typical. Your family has problem, instead of facing your family, you turn around and make your wife the bad guy. Mr man, grow a backbone and call your brother to order! We uphold peace in my family nyenyenye... You are afraid to confront your brother and tell him to go get a life and you are trying to find fault with your wife. Thats sad and disgusting. You see that your brother ern, he is probably having mental issues, he is projecting his desire for family unto your wife and children as he has sent his own family away. You better keep your family away from him before the unthinkable happens. A word is enough for the wise.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Onucs(m): 8:57am On Aug 12, 2022
Mark your territory broda man. Act like a lion and define your pride. An area no other male is allowed to enter.

You are a man, its high time you start acting like one. me I don't see any reason to blame your wife yet oo but if you don't sit up, reasons go berekete. But Las las, na you cause am.

You have to let your brother know she is your wife and only you can control her like that. It seems you are even afraid to talk to this your broda. Because there are scenarios you have mentioned that you were suppose to address immediately but you didn't. Talk to him like a man should and if him go pick offence, make him pick offence, his not even your full broda sef grin

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Mom007(f): 9:07am On Aug 12, 2022
Tinububalls:
Op.
Firstly, I will say you're scared of your brother, and you're trying to push the blame to your wife.
Maybe your wife till feels pity for your brother because of his past. This made her to start playing the good wife.
Your wife is silently praying for the day you will address this issue with your brother so that she will be free at last.
Bro, talk to your brother, tell him you don't like the way he talks/address or treat your wife, you can use the meat incidence as an example. Tell him you have discussed this with your wife and she isn't happy.
From his words and reactions, as a coded guyman you will know if he is bleeping your wife.
No body is bleeping his wife joor he is just weak, doing my brother my brother with someone who is trying to take over his world. Pstcheew. Maybe He should go and watch the oddeysey and see how odeysius handled those men who were trying to marry his wife and kill his son... Maybe then he will man up.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Tinububalls: 9:09am On Aug 12, 2022
Veggieseedies:


Look at you.
He called his wife four times while in his brother's house she didn't pick. The brother called, immediately she picked and started apologising. He wouldn't know if he wasn't there.

My advice is not a marriage destroying one, the wife will come back to her senses

He will continue to live the one life God gave to him. You don't live for any other human
The wife apologised to who? The brother or the husband for not picking the call.
Logically she can only apologise to the husband through his brother's phone, since it was once the brother called.
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 9:25am On Aug 12, 2022
Osoboshi:
Man this ur brother don too cross line,and ur wife e be like u no dey put am for line if she do wrong.
My advice is look straight into there eyes and tell both of them what u don't want.u need to place authority in ur home

There are plenty things that have gone down the line that I had to stand my ground on, but yet she still do otherwise, I cant do more than what is meant for a man to do, trust me I always stamp my authority diplomatically, it just does not work.
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Nobody: 9:26am On Aug 12, 2022
Tinububalls:

The wife apologised to who? The brother or the husband for not picking the call.
Logically she can only apologise to the husband through his brother's phone, since it was once the brother called.

You cannot apologize to me through my brother. Pick my call

There are little things that mean big things. Pass that kindness to me not my brother, that "good" attitude is shown towards a person you want to get his/her attention. It doesn't matter again if it was the husband, but she has calmed the heart of the brother still and passed him a message.

Be a man
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by aorseer: 9:31am On Aug 12, 2022
My brother do not allow the devil put evil thoughts in you to destroy your marriage. Nothing is happening between your wife and half brother. Your wife is a good and faithful wife just try and put your brother in his place by cutting his excesses. You are her husband protect her
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Nobody: 9:32am On Aug 12, 2022
grop1040:


There are plenty things that have gone down the line that I had to stand my ground on, but yet she still do otherwise, I cant do more than what is meant for a man to do, trust me I always stamp my authority diplomatically, it just does not work.

Bro, if your wife is sleeping with your brother you cannot find out.

If you like, continue to live life for a woman you didn't know existed because you call her now "my wife". Don't live your life. Yellow girls with nice ass and breasts are parading there body everywhere and you want to die for one woman

Die na, we go help you if we cross your wife anytime in life. We are all animals and there is nothing you can do about it

Just understand

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 9:32am On Aug 12, 2022
gaby:
There's something fishy smelling between them.

E be like say your brother hold small if yes, your wife got easily carried away.

If it smells like poo, most times it always is poo.

Never doubt or relegate your gut instincts/intuition.

I will only quote this based on the fact that plenty people are likely saying the same thing as him doing financially better than I am. Well let me put this straight, from children of 4 from my mum, am the last born, he is the second, I have been the one off the 4 taking care and feeding my mum in the last 23 years or more, bought her a car etc. Now to tell yall, he aint financially sound at all, I cant count the number of 400k, 500k, 100k, 150k i dun dash, some of which he borrowed but never returned, to even say the recent car 2013 toyota camry is driving right now, I bought it for him from the excess of the crypto deal I had with a friend in USA, which my wife knows of. So theres nothing as such as the current situation being based on the fact that am leaving off of him.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Calibrator: 9:33am On Aug 12, 2022
Can never be me sha.

This is why a man should strife to be independent, wealthy or not, keep to your lane and run your family affairs in your own way devoid of external family influences.... Abi thunder wan strike family unity policy where the sanctuary of my home is being threatened.

I am very calm and gentle looking but one look with menacing eyes is all it usually takes to whip both elders and juniors around me back in line... You can be firm without being violent.



Just let everyone around you know that their actions will bring about consequences and the consequences are sacrosanct!

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 9:42am On Aug 12, 2022
obiekunie01:



Bro what really do you want to hear from us that you don't already know but too scared to face it.

is it the fact that your step-brother has used the frustration from his ex-cheating wife to knack your hoe-wife's brains out and turn her to his sex slave just to prove to himself that he is still a worthy man and that all women are cheats!

or you just want us to tell you to relax that you will soon end-up 6feet below so they have the freedom they so desire so as to continue their unhindered kpanshin.

or you just want to hear from us that your mother is also aware that they are fucking themselves mad but advised your hoe-wife to keep answering your step-bro whenever he calls her so she wont provoke your step-bro into spilling the beans on her.

ok i get it - you want us to tell you that your wife is so used to fuking your bro that she is no longer afraid of what your reaction will be if you finds out.

Ok. let me tell you this, whichever way you want it, you are already a loser.

You either man up and cutout with the little respect you have for yourself by divorcing you wicked asawo wife - dont even give her any reason for the divorce. just go to court and seek to divorce her on irreconcilable difference and fear for your life. that way, you would av defeated them totally. (thou when you divorce her, be rest assured she will move in with your step-bro. but he will dump her after 6 months cause she will no longer give him tht excitement of fukn your wife).

But if you decide to continue with the marriage, i guarantee you that you will soon be dead - max two years.

take care of you bro.

Let me quickly clarify this also, the issue of te kids not being his isnt 100% classified under infidelity issue, it was discovered that she has hormonal issues which cannot mke her get pregnant, so the mother inlaw arranged for this elewe omo, herbal ish makers to prepare concussion that she takes and make her tummy swell to make her look pregnant, and when its time for delivery, the take her out of state,a nd they arrange the kids from baby sellers and claim she gave birth, no wonder during her paternal period, she never lactated, and never breastfed any of the children in the presence of anybody. This is how the whole thing went down until the secret leaked. My brother, things dey occur

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Benwallt(m): 9:42am On Aug 12, 2022
You are too weak as a man. You never defended your wife against your brother. You seemed comfortable with it. I don't know what you are trying to get here. Help that woman before your brother destroyed her peace.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Tinububalls: 9:48am On Aug 12, 2022
Veggieseedies:


You cannot apologize to me through my brother. Pick my call

There are little things that mean big things. Pass that kindness to me not my brother, that "good" attitude is shown towards a person you want to get his/her attention. It doesn't matter again if it was the husband, but she has calmed the heart of the brother still and passed him a message.

Be a man

Bro I get your points.
See these couple have been married for 9 years, the woman is used to the man.
Secondly he said that he use to drop his kids in his brother's house for days before going to pick them, let me tell you the effects of this event.
The kids will have story to tell about the brother how he treated them during their stay, and the wife would want to reciprocate it, because she knows her children will still visit the brother again.
See the wife knows that the husband is afraid of the brother, that's why she said,"Why don't you confront him yourself ".

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Wallade(m): 9:50am On Aug 12, 2022
Mom007:

No body is bleeping his wife joor he is just weak, doing my brother my brother with someone who is trying to take over his world. Pstcheew. Maybe He should go and watch the oddeysey and see how odeysius handled those men who were trying to marry his wife and kill his son... Maybe then he will man up.

Let him conduct his investigation before he concludes that no body else is sleeping with his wife.

We are not in oOdeysius time, you will be charged for murder if you do that in our time. He has to deal with his wife, if she truly loves, respect him and is loyal to their marriage, she will not tolerate such inappropriate relationship from the half brother of her husband and she would have reported to her husband if the half brother made sexual advances to her.

There are a number of red flags on the part of the wife that I will not let slide in the story.
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by grop1040: 10:01am On Aug 12, 2022
YourFavorite21:
Between you and your Half-brother who is older?
He is 9 years older than I am.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Mom007(f): 10:11am On Aug 12, 2022
Op, if you know you have liver, show your wife this post. Each time I reason this your story, find something wrong with it. All the instances you quoted against your wife are instances that should be used against you. Instead of you to address your brother's mess up, you are there expecting her to fight for herself. When she has you. Are you not ashamed of yourself? So she should disrespect your brother today and then you all your family will turn against her that she is the one bringing discord amongst you. You and your mother are aware of his erratic behavior now, but you are keeping it under wraps and looking for how to set the poor lady up. You sef, is there nothing sacred to you? Another man asks you to forward your children to him for whatever reason, you not only do it but you send your wife. So that you can turn around tomorrow and suspect her of doing shii. I don't even know where to start with you abi is your brother the one feeding you and your family? Better turn all this aggression you are feeling towards the right person. I mean internalize it because the only person guilty of any wrong here is You.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Wallade(m): 10:16am On Aug 12, 2022
Mom007:
Op, if you know you have liver, show your wife this post. Each time I reason this your story, find something wrong with it. All the instances you quoted against your wife are instances that should be used against you. Instead of you to address your brother's mess up, you are there expecting her to fight for herself. When she has you. Are you not ashamed of yourself? So she should disrespect your brother today and then you all your family will turn against her that she is the one bringing discord amongst you. You and your mother are aware of his erratic behavior now, but you are keeping it under wraps and looking for how to set the poor lady up. You sef, is there nothing sacred to you? Another man asks you to forward your children to him for whatever reason, you not only do it but you send your wife. So that you can turn around tomorrow and suspect her of doing shii. I don't even know where to start with you abi is your brother the one feeding you and your family? Better turn all this aggression you are feeling towards the right person. I mean internalize it because the only person guilty of any wrong here is You.

She doesn't have to fight the brother in-law, she only has to reject the advances or inappropriate behavior, even if she has to do that in the presence of her husband. Even if the family think she was disrespectful to them, the husband would never conclude so and the opinion of the husband is paramount.

Before the husband starts a fight in his family for her, he needs to be assured that she loves, respect and honors him.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Akinzola: 10:20am On Aug 12, 2022
grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.
What you need to do is get a clear fact, I'll implore you not to confront her yet because if you do, u either get what you want or you throw away your family relationship in the mud.
Please be patient enough to get your fact clear before you make any confrontation, please don't allow your family to fall apart, it's for the sake of your children.
God be with you plus I'll love to follow up on the case if you will permit it.
Thanks.
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Mom007(f): 10:23am On Aug 12, 2022
Wallade:


She doesn't have to fight the brother in-law, she only has to reject the advances or inappropriate behavior, even if she has to do that in the presence of her husband. Even if the family think she was disrespectful to them, the husband would never conclude so and the opinion of the husband is paramount.

Before the husband starts a fight in his family for her, he needs to be assured that she loves, respect and honors him.
Even before looking at your gender, I knew a man wrote this comment. My dear Sir, the rules are different with women o. What a man will settle with just a word a woman has to shout and fight to get heard. Our gender is sadly marginalized. If you tell a man no, I'm not interested, he thinks you are telling him to try harder. If you tell a man, sorry, I'm married,(as if you even need to, e no get eyes to see ni?) , he thinks you are telling him to give you gifts and try to outdo your husband in order to get you. They keep pushing until you get firm by either insulting them or giving them a brain resetting slap. Why must it degenerate to all that when the man can simply set boundaries and keep his brother away from his family?

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by obiekunie01: 10:37am On Aug 12, 2022
grop1040:


Let me quickly clarify this also, the issue of te kids not being his isnt 100% classified under infidelity issue, it was discovered that she has hormonal issues which cannot mke her get pregnant, so the mother inlaw arranged for this elewe omo, herbal ish makers to prepare concussion that she takes and make her tummy swell to make her look pregnant, and when its time for delivery, the take her out of state,a nd they arrange the kids from baby sellers and claim she gave birth, no wonder during her paternal period, she never lactated, and never breastfed any of the children in the presence of anybody. This is how the whole thing went down until the secret leaked. My brother, things dey occur

bros pardon my asking, but why do you allow this kind of fukups in your life??

even if you dont have money, you should have control over your life and anything pertaining to your life.

remember you die - you die alone. dont allow anyone to useless you.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Maxxim: 10:53am On Aug 12, 2022
Two things must have happened

Your brother is traumatized and he needs where to direct his resentment, unfortunately you're his target.

Or During the times you were helping him to get over his situation, your wife out of pity might have had sex with em.

Your wife is also not helping matters, she seems too secretive. She might be innocent, trying to play with your mind but same time she wouldn't want to risk her marriage.
I'll advice you to call your wife in order to make things clear with her. Also watch your brother's behavior these days if he does that again capitalize on it and tell em to exonorate emself with enough reason for doing that.
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Thebadpolitican(m): 10:54am On Aug 12, 2022
Abduljohn:
Man! Try to trust your wife and also man up to tell your half brother that you can't tolerate him around your wife. Don't wait until your Mum advice materialize but be diplomatic in your approach so as not to affect the family
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by NoToPile: 10:58am On Aug 12, 2022
I posted this on your post in family section I will post it here again.



Women have truly suffered oo.

Nawa.

You are blaming her for what? You and your mum can't stand up to your step brother and you expect your wife to do so, are you aware that anything she does will be seen as disrespect to your half brother?

Your brother is shouting down on your wife, controls her up and down, did something that disgusting as giving her meat he chewed from without her knowledge and you people did not deem it fit to boot him out, now you are suspecting her of cheating simply because she knows you will never stand up for her.

She is enduring all that rubbish because she knows you are a weak man, she knows you will never stand up to your brother and you have made her the sacrificial lamb for your brothers excesses. If she says pim or acts with the same energy we all know what the result would be, she would still be blamed.

Weak- that is what you are.
It's even more disgusting that you can't see your weakness. Rubbish.



It's been long I read such nonsense,i was really pissed merely reading it, I just wonder how your wife feels.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by OwnMyself: 11:00am On Aug 12, 2022
grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife. So im 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.
He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness
how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs, there
was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to
cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that. Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed
as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage,and our family background from my mums side where
this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when
the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids,on getting there while in his living room,
he said to my wife " I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him. While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic
and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too
that she never thought he would say such a thing. 5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round
but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when
I knew something could be going on. Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her
to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick,that when he knows
its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing
with him thus her refusal to pick his call. So i called my mum and I was like being calm,patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean
that the recent things happening wont seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos shes
76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise. The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick,
she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me,it means
something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didnt u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam
was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother
called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.
Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.

First offfff you're nothing but a simp..
Someone that's not even your blood brother like.. same father and mother. Even if you guys were to be of same parents.. that doesn't give him the effontery to order your wife up and down as if she's a slave... Would advise you to get rid of the so called step brother.. dont allow your kids nor wife to visit him anymore.. Let him run mad if he's so willing to run mad... Don't be surprised he might have bleep your wife... Henceforth be in charge of your family.. let no one dictates to you on how you run your home.. be it anybody.... Take that war to his door step and quit fidgeting... If family wan break let it break... You came into this world alone bro and when it's your turn to leave you sure gon leave alone... Own yourself and let no one own you..

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by NoToPile: 11:00am On Aug 12, 2022
Mom007:

Even before looking at your gender, I knew a man wrote this comment. My dear Sir, the rules are different with women o. What a man will settle with just a word a woman has to shout and fight to get heard. Our gender is sadly marginalized. If you tell a man no, I'm not interested, he thinks you are telling him to try harder. If you tell a man, sorry, I'm married,(as if you even need to, e no get eyes to see ni?) , he thinks you are telling him to give you gifts and try to outdo your husband in order to get you. They keep pushing until you get firm by either insulting them or giving them a brain resetting slap. Why must it degenerate to all that when the man can simply set boundaries and keep his brother away from his family?

The OP is a weak man, him and his mum can't face the step brother but they want the wife to do so. He can't set boundaries, avoiding all to confront the brother but he is accusing the wife of cheating and running DNA test up and down. Imagine the nonsense. I am so pissed.

We have lots of boys on these forum, men with solid marital experience know the OP is wrong. A disrespect to your wife is a disrespect to you as the husband simple.

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Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by OperationalVehi: 11:01am On Aug 12, 2022
your mother knows about it
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by jimmychang: 11:09am On Aug 12, 2022
OperationalVehi:
your mother knows about it


The mom knows about what?
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Eriokanmi: 11:22am On Aug 12, 2022
Fake story...geared towards drawing crowd and needless attention by mods grin

The moniker even registered newly lmao
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Babapyro: 11:23am On Aug 12, 2022
My ex wife did the same thing before I made her disappear
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by wwwihy: 11:26am On Aug 12, 2022
Wahala
Re: Unusual Behavior Between My Step Brother And My Wife by Babalola0920: 11:26am On Aug 12, 2022
grop1040:
Hi guys,

Something happened 9 months ago, I decided to keep mute or probably just wait for the right time to commence my investigation to actually know what is going on between my step brother and my wife.

So I'm 9 years already into my marriage, and we have 3 kids. My step brother who is the 2nd of my mum has temperamental problem.

He's bossy and very vulgar plus he's controlling, everybody knows him for that, he was married 13 years ago, however after his family relocated to the USA, he later found
out that his 3kids aren't his, the marriage ended like that, ever since then he's been traumatized, emotionally and any other way one can describe him as. Sometimes in order to at least feel that children presence around him, he would ask me to have my children come over to his place for some days, and I could witness how that really helped him over time, but then I noticed the absence of his wife started making him familiarize with my wife in certain odd manners which I was not really down with.

For example, if he comes to our house, most times comes around with a friend, either female or male, my wife seems not to be the attache type who would sit with us in the living room, she will rather be upstairs in the room, I have witnessed cases where he will shout at her, saying how can everybody be here and ur there upstairs?

There was even a time when one of the visitors he came with sighed and made face in a way that defined, wow, "was that necessary". Or times when he will ask her to cook stew for her, if she forgets or probably didnt want to do it because she knew it isnt her duty, she will be yelled upon, you'll here things like, where
is the egusi i told u to make, even the one you made last time, u didnt put enough this and that

Now yall might think am a dullard or a simp, or someone too relaxed as gentle and as patient as I am, I be original demon, if I start my madness, the result will end in eternal damage, and our family background from my mums side where this my brother was born, we tend to uphold unity over adversity, so when things like this occur, mum would rather have us calm and not fight so unity can continue.

So sometimes last year, the major issues started grooming that made me start to think if there was something going on with my step and my wife, it started with when the kids were with him, so madam and I were suppose to go for outing, so we decided to branch at his place to check up on the kids, on getting there while in his living room, he said to my wife "I like your hair" she responded thanks, he was like are u guys going out, I was like yea am taking her out, next thing she asked my madam, so when are we going on
our own outing
? I shrugged and didnt understand where that came from, though she didnt answer him.

While we were leaving, I was waiting for her to bring up the topic and put it to me that why did ur brother say such a thing, even if its a joke, its too expensive, but she didnt, I brought up the topic, and she was like shes surprised too that she never thought he would say such a thing.

5 days later, we had a family party in his house, my other brothers, cousins and my mum, my children were there, while the
caterer were cooking outside, and we were all in his living room drinking, he opted to get some meat to dish and give everybody to at least be chewing something, he served it round but when it got to my wives turn, the one he already bit off from was what he gave her, funny thing is, it was only my mum and myself that saw the scene, my wife was not aware, that was when I knew something could be going on.

Afterwards, I put the ish through to my wife, she acted disgusted and said she cant blv he would do such, that although my mum already called her to say the same thing. So I asked details of what she discussed with my mum, she said my mum advised her that whenever he calls her, she shouldnt pick, that when he knows its obvious that shes avoiding his call, he probably would want to report to her, and then she will now break the silence of what she my wife have been experiencing with him thus her refusal to pick his call.

So I called my mum and I was like being calm, patient and cooperating with the useless policy of the family doesnt mean that the recent things happening won't seat any longer with me, that am gonna have to confront him and put him in his place. My mum begged me and begged, cos she's 76 years old, I considered and I had no choice but to cooperate with her advise.

The funny thing is, after this whole ish, I asked her that if he calls, will you pick, she answered yes I will, but I will have to see what he has to say first to know if I will continue the conversation or not, I was like for real? You must be kidding me, it means something that I am not suppose to know of is happening, she was like oh well its ur fault, why didn't u confront him instead of listening to ur mums advise.

Since then, I have let it slide, but what actually made me bring up this issue again, was when I went to my bros house to pick some stuffs my sister sent from the USA, madam was off to the market, I called her to ask if she would like the only size 10 of the shoe I saw cos she wears 9, she didnt pick after calling like 4 times, immediately my brother called her with his own phone, she picked and was like sorry when you called I try to pick but it was nt connecting, I just weak at that moment sey wetin dey sup.

Guys, ladies, from deep experiences u guys must have gone through, what do u think could be wrong and what do yall think I should do, something could be happening
that if I dont unravel early, it might be the cause of ones demise or destruction.


To be Frank BRO your calmness isn't paying and as the man women expected you to stood your ground at all tucking time, see your brother na her presence you go clear

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