When you hear people use the word "you are dating yourself" its simply means that your partner in off your hook and you are dating yourself. That is to say your breakfast is almost ready, asin na small time remain before them serve you. So how do you know your breakfast is around the corner. Your partner will always do the following

1) always too busy that he or she doesn't have your time. Paraventure they finally call, the conversation will be so dry, straight to the point, etc .... .

2). Break in communication: if the person claims to be your joy giver can go a day or two without bordering to hear from you, my dear you are dating yourself.

3) if they are always online late night without chatting you up. Some time you tried to call on WhatsApp and you see "on another call"

4). When they start doing my bestee my bestee while you are just there. My dear be vigilant oh make bestee no do you small thing o.

Make i stop here. I know say some people get other opinion or counter opinion.

Seems you don't even know women . They can hide, pretend do anything as long as it makes them do what they wanna do without notice.
Once you find a Nigerian woman that is transparent, gives you peace of mind, respect and gives you her time, she supports and make you her priority and she come get fear of God. Nobody needs to tell you to keep her.

Sex, Cooking skills and other minor things can be easily learnt but you see those virtues i mentioned up, that's the key gee.


As our Ancestors would say "A virtues woman is transparent in nature".

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H0didon:
Seems you don't even know women . They can hide, pretend do anything as long as it makes them do what they wanna do without notice.
Once you find a Nigerian woman that is transparent, gives you peace of mind, respect and gives you her time, she supports and make you her priority and she come get fear of God. Nobody needs to tell you to keep her.

Sex, Cooking skills and other minor things can be easily learnt but you see those virtues i mentioned up, that's the key gee.


As our Ancestors would say "A virtues woman is transparent in nature".

Is cooking not part of what makes a woman virtuous?

You carry the burden of everything alone. So it is only you that call, ask when next can you meet, spend, and if you don't perform, things would just remain stagnant. No effort whatsoever coming from the other side. Or they only act when they need something. Then you should know you are in a relationship with yourself.

Omo

Once she's not a virgin, then her heart will always be with the man who disvirgined her.
If you marry a who who has been fvcked by another man, you married yourself because the moment her ex shows up, she will fvck him again and one of your children may not be yours.

If you're dating a girl you didn't disvirgin, you're dating yourself because her heart is still with the man who disvirgined her even if she lied about it. Some girls still keep contact with the man who disvirgined them, others stalk their main ex on social media waiting for when he will hit a major fit to chat him up.

If a girl did not give you her best days (when she's a virgin), you shouldn't pay to keep her worst (when she has lost her virginity - glory to another man).
How will you pay huge money, do wedding celebration, take care of her siblings and relatives just to have what another man fvcked wit just eggs and indomie?
No be foolishness be that?

Finally, fvck any girl you want but for the peace of your home and the betterment of your children, Marry a virgin.

My dear, in time like this, Dating yourself is the surest plug. When someone hasn't finish dating himself so you advise to date someone pikin

Great points given.

Any relationship that isn't 50/50 interest is not a relationship.
It's just one person managing the other

When you have time to create threads like this you are definitely dating yourself and have no job

When you bill your boyfriend too much with your papa roles without contributing anything to his life other then pkectus, breakfast is near.

98% of Nigerians are peaching in relationships waiting for direction

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Growing up, I tried to concentrate in school even while at the university, to avoid distractions.

I had just few girls around.

I have since the past 3 years--- after relative success in my field--- had few flings, wooed and slept with a few girls too from all tribes; had like 3 living with me for weeks at some point.

Now in early 30s I feel like I should seek something serious.
I find myself picking phone numbers from girls but then I come home, initiate a chat introducing myself but I have no zeal to take it further than that.

I just get tired of the whole thing.

Again, some of them seem uninterested.

You notice this lack of interest from the way they respond with monosyllables, respond after several hours or days or even abandoning the chats outright.


This is more pronounced if you come off too as gentle, without bragging, showing off etc.

I have no difficulty giving girls things occasionally but I hate to feel used or feel a woman is interested in only what she can gain in the short term- immediate gratification.


Going on dates would have been a good option as many girls would hardly reject free food, drinks etc but I don't have the time or energy hence deem it otiose, that's beyond the financial implications as many of the girls are coming to the dates to access you, not necessarily to know you.

And I hate showing off.


How do you guys navigate around this conundrum please especially if you are looking for something serious and not just sex?


See the thread I created.

https://www.nairaland.com/7297185/how-engage-these-girls-beyond

Only me go
Me: Call
She: flash

Me: spend
She: chop

Me: contribute to all pertains her
She: shi shi

Me: Bleep
She: moans

Me: buy gifts on her birthday
She: sms birthday gift

Me: Takes her out
She: buys 100 naira aboki yam while visiting
I no know why i still like her
I tire

Once your partner start giving too many excuses you are dating yourself.




Vote Peter Obi for President.


Meanwhile at a good rate sell your Pi π to us.

E too early Nah. Na money we dy find

Really?
My Girlfriend is dating herself then.

As a man, you have no business with relationship or dating if you are below 26 yrs. You should be building yourself/chasing your dreams and not chasing relationships and women.

When you tell her to come online and she takes ages, my brother just move on

Some will notice these signs and still remain in the relationship, begging for attention asking what they did wrong. You don't know what's about to hit you.. smh

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Hmmm... Relationship experts over to you

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I can't make no HO feel i can't do no better without her.