Lollittaa:

Seems you men have no iota of trust in your fellow men. You distrust women, still distrust men.
"That's how he grew up"
This excuse is not excusing at all.

Trust no one...
If you truly wanna go far in life.

Vulcan24:
You have no idea what is coming to you, putting other ppl s business on debate.

You have been warned, stay away from ppl s homes and affairs
Concentrate on your own life

no mind am.

So my question is.
*Did they date before getting married? If they did, did the guy hide this part of him from her? If No, why the complain now!!!!
* Mind your business.. dem no dey put mouth for married people wahala..

westlius:
Pls pardon my grammar.

Please men have mercies for your wives. My colleague's husband doesn't eat frozen foods, meaning she cooks every day for him. She closes from work by 5 and gets home before 7, she goes to market everyday to cook soup for the husband.

I really do feel for her, to the extent the man threatening her to resign so she can take care of him (He earns below 50k and she earns much more).

She says when a soup/stew/ other meals reaches 24 hours the husband cannot eat them again.

I feel for her seeing her in the morning at work looking stress out

The man nor too dey reason well. Well, let her resign from her work and focus on cooking, let all the financial burden be on him, that's if the wife is contributing to the financial activity of the home. Me wey dey cook once, put for freezer and forget about cooking for the whole week. Nonsense

westlius:
Pls pardon my grammar.

Please men have mercies for your wives. My colleague's husband doesn't eat frozen foods, meaning she cooks every day for him. She closes from work by 5 and gets home before 7, she goes to market everyday to cook soup for the husband.

I really do feel for her, to the extent the man threatening her to resign so she can take care of him (He earns below 50k and she earns much more).

She says when a soup/stew/ other meals reaches 24 hours the husband cannot eat them again.

I feel for her seeing her in the morning at work looking stress out

My fiance struggles to turn on gas cooker and I have told her severally to learn. But no wahala, she will learn the hard way, I will bring a side chick to teach her , I can't be suffering because of marriage. At least if you cook, I will be warming it.

We do cook everyday in our own house

westlius:

Its until she is sacked because of d low productivity that's when it will b my buz abi

So what do u want to do about it? Can u help her? No. So what's the essence.
Just curious, so her marital issue kept u awake till 1am.
I just hope u not lusting after the woman.

victorVIC1:
How do you feel comfortable discussing with a married woman to the point of knowing her husband's salary. Na dey try o

Do you know it is possible to overhear people's conversations. Or does your ears work at limited range?
All of you saying "mind your business". Do you even read at all? Did he state that "she told me"? Someone is lamenting to her female colleagues and he heard them and y'all trying to cover for her useless husband.

Lollittaa:

The same you will lambast Regina Daniels of this world for marrying rich men.
She marry money bag, na gold digger
She marry poor man na mumu

The fault of the lady the OP spoke of is not that she married a poor man. She married an idiot. There are poor men who are understanding, reasonable and empathetic. They may be poor now but with their mentality they will evolve into being rich...but you see fools like the one that the lady in question married are the type that render ladies useless. If you must marry, don't marry a fool. Don't say "I am not getting any younger" and get married to an idiot. There are men out there that live a life of purpose. They may be poor but they are on their way to the top and they need help. It is such men that should have supportive wives.

Icumsa45:


My fiance struggles to turn on gas cooker and I have told her severally to learn. But no wahala, she will learn the hard way, I will bring a side chick to teach her , I can't be suffering because of marriage. At least if you cook, I will be warming it.

Correction, you will bring ONE OF your side chicks and upgrade her to the main chick.

These same Nigerian men will turn errand boys when married to their white grandmothers but they dish every rubbish at Nigerian women...

Meanwhile frustrated redpillers on NL will tell you women don't contribute nothing to marriage and relationships.

The fact remains that an average Nigerian man cannot survive without a woman in his life. If that woman slumps and dies now due to stress he'll get married months later. That's how much Nigerian men can't do without women in their lives.

Imagine telling her to resign just she can be his full time nanny.... Smh..

Romanoff:
A struggling man whose wife earns more and supports the family financially only wants fresh meals every day.

He won't be the one to go to the market to buy the ingredients, he won't be the one to cook the food.

The woman wi gk to work, go to the market and come back and cook fresh food every day while he crosses his legs to wait for food to be served go him cause he's the "man".

That's not to say he won't want to mount the wife later at night o.

If you never marry, open your eyes marry who get sense.

Your colleague married an idiot and she too dey craze join.

This is what some women do that makes me cringe.

He earns 50k yet he is this demanding.

How can this kind family grow when all the benefits from work is spent on food.

Nawah.

She should collect leave from her office (try as much as possible to make it a long leave). A month plus if possible.
Go home and tell her husband that she has been sacked and her last salary wasn't paid infact her account has been restricted pending investigation from the office.

Let him fund his lifestyle with that 50k. Hardship has a way of curing certain madness.

Lollittaa:

Seems you men have no iota of trust in your fellow men. You distrust women, still distrust men.
"That's how he grew up"
This excuse is not excusing at all.

Guy calm down. I'm not sure you would find it pleasing if your wife discusses your salary and other private issues with another man. If she really needs help, there are key family figures she should take it up with not you.

She might be lying to you or exergerating the issue to get your attention and empathy. Women do that lots of the time

efficiencie:


The fault of the lady the OP spoke of is not that she married a poor man. She married an idiot. There are poor men who are understanding, reasonable and empathetic. They may be poor now but with their mentality they will evolve into being rich...but you see fools like the one that the lady in question married are the type that render ladies useless. If you must marry, don't marry a fool. Don't say "I am not getting any younger" and get married to an idiot. There are men out there that live a life of purpose. They may be poor but they are on their way to the top and they need help. It is such men that should have supportive wives.

Na you know.
If he likes let him be wiser than king Solomon, if he's poor, he's not an option.
Poverty conceals genuine character.
That's why you men develop strange taste in different women once you start making money.

How will he know? any how she can meal prep by buying things in bulk and parboiling meat etc, blending tomatoes.... But all this wahala on top man wey dey earn N50,000

westlius:
Pls pardon my grammar.

Please men have mercies for your wives. My colleague's husband doesn't eat frozen foods, meaning she cooks every day for him. She closes from work by 5 and gets home before 7, she goes to market everyday to cook soup for the husband.

I really do feel for her, to the extent the man threatening her to resign so she can take care of him (He earns below 50k and she earns much more).

She says when a soup/stew/ other meals reaches 24 hours the husband cannot eat them again.

I feel for her seeing her in the morning at work looking stress out

Lollittaa:

Do you know it is possible to overhear people's conversations. Or does your ears work at limited range?
All of you saying "mind your business". Do you even read at all? Did he state that "she told me"? Someone is lamenting to her female colleagues and he heard them and y'all trying to cover for her useless husband.

Direct your efforts to things that are more value adding. I wonder how na dey get time

westlius:
Pls pardon my grammar.

Please men have mercies for your wives. My colleague's husband doesn't eat frozen foods, meaning she cooks every day for him. She closes from work by 5 and gets home before 7, she goes to market everyday to cook soup for the husband.

I really do feel for her, to the extent the man threatening her to resign so she can take care of him (He earns below 50k and she earns much more).

She says when a soup/stew/ other meals reaches 24 hours the husband cannot eat them again.

I feel for her seeing her in the morning at work looking stress out

Oga mind your business

Typical of a Nigerian man to support the oppressor, who so happens to be another Nigerian man.

Very typical.

ogkrakkid:

Stfu and face your business. Mr nice guy my foot. U wan enter person wife.spoil their union.
I wish say na one on one discussion u bring come with me make u see my attitude.
No face your problem.punkass.

That man is making use of the bride price he paid .... What a genius!! ;

That is what happens when you marry a deficit because he is good looking alone.

Continue, ladies.

Na una body go tell una.

Where Una dey get all these useless men from? Unfortunately, there are men like him on Nairaland hiding under the guise of redpill to mistreat women.

westlius:
Pls pardon my grammar.

Please men have mercies for your wives. My colleague's husband doesn't eat frozen foods, meaning she cooks every day for him. She closes from work by 5 and gets home before 7, she goes to market everyday to cook soup for the husband.

I really do feel for her, to the extent the man threatening her to resign so she can take care of him (He earns below 50k and she earns much more).

She says when a soup/stew/ other meals reaches 24 hours the husband cannot eat them again.

I feel for her seeing her in the morning at work looking stress out

Wait! Let me understand your caption!

Your colleague is a woman and she has a husband who is also married to another woman....

Midas01:
These same Nigerian men will turn errand boys when married to their white grandmothers but they dish every rubbish at Nigerian women...

Meanwhile frustrated redpillers on NL will tell you women don't contribute nothing to marriage and relationships.

The fact remains that an average Nigerian man cannot survive without a woman in his life. If that woman slumps and dies now due to stress he'll get married months later. That's how much Nigerian men can't do without women in their lives.

Imagine telling her to resign just she can be his full time nanny.... Smh..

Yet everyday they're lamenting on redpill thread how women are useless, how men don't get anything out of marriage.
The average Nigerian married woman is not just a chef, a house keeper but a nanny.
Quote me anywhere.
Or else, like you said, why do they remarry less than 2 years when their wives die?

Lollittaa:

Na you know.
If he likes let him be wiser than king Solomon, if he's poor, he's not an option.
Poverty conceals genuine character.
That's why you men develop strange taste in different women once you start making money.

Not all men are like your boyfriend. I didnt force you to spread your legs for the fool that pumped you. So if you like be like the lady that the OP talked about and donate your destiny to a fool. There are women getting married to men of purpose and they are happy about their decision.

efficiencie:


Tell your colleague she foolishly married an ingrate. Your colleague is at fault here. She saw a living manifestation of stupidity and decided to marry him. You ladies will say yes to idiots and start lamenting. The man earns 50k and he is complaining about frozen food. There are men earning much more than that yet for the sake of preserving the life of their wife who is also supporting the family they eat what is available until they are buoyant enough to tell her to stop slaving away at a 9-5 job and focus on a career or support the home from fully. Ladies, stop marrying idiots in a hurry and giving the lame excuse "I am not getting any younger"!

I am in love with you

fman:

Trust no one...
If you truly wanna go far in life.

Your problem not mine.
I'm not the one who thinks women are useless and yet distrust his fellow man.

Midas01:
Typical of a Nigerian man to support the oppressor, who so happens to be another Nigerian man.

Very typical.

Just shut d Bleep up abeg.

Abeg shut up. The woman's eyes will clear how? Are you sure you even have sense?

Who do you think will lose in such case?

The man earning 50k or the woman earning much more?

The woman will simply be free to live her life while the man will be looking for another slave to cook everyday meals on his 50 k salary...


Mumu thinks marriage is heaven's ticket for women.

Fiscus105:



Though, his attention seeker.

But this scenario still happening in real life, ...if it's happened, I see him enter that woman in no distance time, provided he hasn't. When the marriage finally scattered, the woman eye will now open.

Hmmm this guy is an unserious human being, " he doesn't eat frozen foods, he can't eat food prepared after 24 hours" what is Ur business in all these, doesn't the lady know all these before she got married to him
Or was the husband eating all these before they got married and later changed, the op is a stupid home breaker, tell us Ur interest in this lady and let us....

efficiencie:


Not all men are like your boyfriend. I didnt force you to spread your legs for the fool that pumped you. So if you like be like the lady that the OP talked about and donate your destiny to a fool. There are women getting married to men of purpose and they are happy about their decision.

Now you resorted to insults. I mean what would a halfwit do to prove his halfwitted points?