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Latidoh1:
Na your English pursue your husband

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

MrBrownJay1:
you made a few mistakes (and so did he)...
A) just because you work hard, never assume that others dont (simply because you dont see/feel it)
B) cutting off your husand and giving him the silent treatment for NINE WEEKS is insane. is that not the father of your kids any longer?!?! why such harsh treatment?
C) your husband is as childish as you are and now playing your own game by ignoring you for months... blame y'all childish self, which ultimately will only hurt the children.
D) look within yourself to see what is bothering you so much that you could take such a small statement from your husband, and turn ii into such a big deal... then put your pride aside, get down on your knees and beg him to forgive you (because it is obvious, you aint gonna win at this "childish" game)

chigoizie7:
Can you even listen to yourself? This man was disrespected by his wife, he became the bigger person despite the disrespect and then called, sent texts, sent voice messages for four whole days to sort things out, what did she do? Cut him off for a whole 9 weeks. You think that while 9weeks he wasn’t trying to reach to her or the kids? And then out of the blue, after 9weeks, she reached out to him over an unrelated matter, bro are you even listening to yourself? And all you could do is try to blame the guy for not being mature? Where is this world sense of equity and fairness? All the time people find means to blame men even on the mistakes of women. Bro men are human beings too with emotions too, he have lives to live too, they shouldn’t always be emotionally blackmailed or abused. They also have the same blood running through their veins. They also have the right to be angry too, they have the right to express their emotions too. Atleast this woman was the one that brought this her problem here, she is reading the responses from others. And instead of correcting her mistakes, help her find solutions to save the marriage she messed up, you are here talking rubbish. I pity men. Alternatively you are telling this woman that what she did was okay that the fault is from the husband for not being mature and man enough. Cut men some slacks, call a spade a spade. Tell the woman that she is wrong and she should find a way to fix it.

VTJN:
Lol

Op is completely wrong and she should look for means to apologise ASAP

However, using Op line of story to generalise that women cannot take what they dished out for MEN is totally wrong

Even a blind person knows that we live in a patrachial society (Nigeria)

The rate at which men treat women is quite absurd


Rapist
Domestic violence
Physical abuse

I'm sure you know women (single and married) are most victims of the above mentioned social vices

I don't have to argue much on that with you bro

We have mothers, sisters, niece et al make we try dey talk truth abeg

YourNextLevel:
Your woman power will not work because his not in US but Canada. You missed the shot lady !!!. Stay away from those RNs in Houston my sister.

Apologize as a Naija woman and have peace. Be humble

femisplash:
Effect of feminism.. You hung up because he said he works more but you would rather he said you both work 50-50.. una go learn by force.

BRATISLAVA:
Okay.

She will kneel and beg this god she married and everything will be okay. The more she grovels, the more she will have the power to change his mind? Maybe it will make the man want to do what exactly?
Orr maybe she will just develop calluses?

I don't know why your response remains as funny as the first one I quoted.

Acidosis:
The world does not revolve around you and your sister (family).

Over the past months, how many times have you called to speak to his family? Or...their lives don't matter?

And what is this game you people are playing sef? If I don't talk to my spouse in 2 weeks, then I'll naturally assume that the relationship is dead. You guys go months without talking and all that concerns you is your sister's fiance?

Are you in some kind of open marriage?

Acidosis:
The world does not revolve around you and your sister (family).

Over the past months, how many times have you called to speak to his family? Or...their lives don't matter?

And what is this game you people are playing sef? If I don't talk to my spouse in 2 weeks, then I'll naturally assume that the relationship is dead. You guys go months without talking and all that concerns you is your sister's fiance?

Are you in some kind of open marriage?

MufasaLion:
You ignored your husband for the period of 9 weeks? That's 2 months and 7 days. You deserve all he's dishing to you now.

In all that even happened you were much interested in him not responding to your sister and her fiance. Damn!!!!

I would have filed for divorce in the first month of your stupid drama. The narcissist in me would never let me take you back. Nobody dare hurt my ego! Nobody!

VTJN:
Lol


You shouldn't have used the word your boy sir!

This is one of the reason feminist are talking about. Even if you have all boys kids or just a kid which is a boy. You shouldn't have put it in such manner

You make it looks like you're only interested in a boy child

No harm intended

Gracias!

MrBrownJay1:
i guess your option is better, they should remain the way they are and play tit for tat childish games for decades until one of them decides to let go of this madness (that was started by this very childish/immature woman).

BRATISLAVA:
Perhaps the person sustaining their madness—her innocent husband with supernatural powers he tied to her knees and pleas—should be the one to end it.

As I said, if fantasy, the tale is justified. If reality, the advice will be dooming them.

MrBrownJay1:
you made a few mistakes (and so did he)...
A) just because you work hard, never assume that others dont (simply because you dont see/feel it)
B) cutting off your husand and giving him the silent treatment for NINE WEEKS is insane. is that not the father of your kids any longer?!?! why such harsh treatment?
C) your husband is as childish as you are and now playing your own game by ignoring you for months... blame y'all childish self, which ultimately will only hurt the children.
D) look within yourself to see what is bothering you so much that you could take such a small statement from your husband, and turn ii into such a big deal... then put your pride aside, get down on your knees and beg him to forgive you (because it is obvious, you aint gonna win at this "childish" game)

MrBrownJay1:
you made a few mistakes (and so did he)...
A) just because you work hard, never assume that others dont (simply because you dont see/feel it)
B) cutting off your husand and giving him the silent treatment for NINE WEEKS is insane. is that not the father of your kids any longer?!?! why such harsh treatment?
C) your husband is as childish as you are and now playing your own game by ignoring you for months... blame y'all childish self, which ultimately will only hurt the children.
D) look within yourself to see what is bothering you so much that you could take such a small statement from your husband, and turn ii into such a big deal... then put your pride aside, get down on your knees and beg him to forgive you (because it is obvious, you aint gonna win at this "childish" game)

Meteoritey:
Due to work, my husband and I live in states, and my husband lives in Canada. 3 months ago we had some serious skirmishes during our phone conversation and in the heat of the argument, I told him that he does not appreciate the fact that I am raising the kids and doing everything alone.

To my disappointment, he told me that he is overworked more than me. This really angered me. This got me angry and I hung up. Although He tried to reach me for 4 days, and also sent me some messages, I cut him off without replying, about 9 weeks later, I sent him just a message on an unrelated issue, he ignored my message, after another month, I sent him another message, he also ignored. It has been 3 months now we have not spoken to each other.

Recently my brother had a baby, and he only called once to congratulate them. Moreover my younger sister got admission to a university to study the same course that my husband studied, so naturally, my sister contacted him. My sister said he advised her on what to do and what she should expect. This was about 2 months ago. I personally did not inform him about my sister’s admission myself.

After about one month, my sister also called him for more information, but he has not been picking my sister’s call.

My sisters fiancee also called him to inform him about their upcoming marriage (my same sister that got the admission) he only spoke with my sister and her fiancee once, he stopped further communication with them on both issues of admission and marriage, and that he only spoke with them the first time about the admission and the marriage out of the respect he has for them.

He gave my sister the excuse that it was not proper, for him to speak with her fiancee' because he said that I have not told him anything about the marriage, therefore he can not relate further with my sister as per the marriage. And that it was out of respect that he even called my sister initially to advice her.

What are you thoughts and opinion please.

MrBrownJay1:
i guess in your world, you can start yeye childish quarrel with your husband and then ask "him" to forgive you, bwaaaaaaah! wifey did something wrong, SHE should ask for forgiveness.... no two ways about it! whatever the madness that is troubling her could never be fixed unless she accept that SHE is at fault and did something wrong

MrBrownJay1:
super alpha man!!!! i can already see you beating your chest like a gorilla. i guess in your world, you'd rather destroy your family and stay away from your kids for 5 long months, just to spite your childish wife, abi?

what you wrote is the exact definition of "Cutting off your nose to spite your own face"...at the end of the day, you and your yeye wife would be the one losing here.

LilMissFavvy:
You need to start aplogising through calls, messages, voice notes.....yes you wronged your husband. Unfortunately he is not mature enough to forgive you and let go easily.

Satan is fighting marriages these days seriously , such that you will see so much ego, anger, unforgiveness over minor issues, how much more serious offense.

Your husband seems all out to embarrass you among your family members and let them know there is a problem in the marriage.

This is the disadvantage of long distance marriage.
Appologise with speed.

Yamiriflathead:
Meaning he couldn't even communicate with his children

VTJN:
Lol

Op is completely wrong and she should look for means to apologise ASAP

However, using Op line of story to generalise that women cannot take what they dished out for MEN is totally wrong

Even a blind person knows that we live in a patrachial society (Nigeria)

The rate at which men treat women is quite absurd


Rapist
Domestic violence
Physical abuse

I'm sure you know women (single and married) are most victims of the above mentioned social vices

I don't have to argue much on that with you bro

We have mothers, sisters, niece et al make we try dey talk truth abeg

ThinkSmarter:
U re naturally hot tempered and wicked.
Coupled with the fact that you are egocentric.
Keeping malice like a trophy.
If i were ur husband, i will relegate u to baby mama status.
How can ur husband have sexual feelings for you when u re filling his heart with sad memory.