I'm not against him forgiving her but I'm certain that if he does n allow her back into his life, she would cheat on him again.

Sweetplum:

People change. It's a mistake the woman ll regret for life. I know she pinned the pregnancy on the man which is bad.
But what v we not done to God that God didn't forgive us?
Everyone deserves a 2nd chance!
If she apologize and promised to be a good wife, she deserved a second chance. But the issue of the illegitimate child need to be resolved amicably. Either she's returned or they claim her for life.

Sweetplum:

Lmao. Who ll agree legitimately to help raise another woman's kid when she knew that if she the mother of the kids is alive and was sent out for infidelity and covering up of pregnancy.
A man with dignity ll protect the shame of his house and try to resolve amicably.
A shameless man will lampoon his shame.
People ll ask why he sent his wife out. That's when you ll realise that it's better to resolve some things amicably, forgive and forget.
Meanwhile, if it was the man that has a kid outside for another woman, dem no go drag him like this o!

Why will a man bring a child from another relationship into his home when he isn't mad?
The dignity had already been kicked out when she decided to get pregnant for another man when she knew she was married to her husband.
Women only know how to solve things amicably when they're in the wrong.
There's no shame in knowing the truth and why the f should be care about what people would think about him?
There are consequences for every action

Sweetplum:

I spit back on you. Very stupi d boy that knows nothing about union or marriage. Very daft nonentity that doesn't know that to divorce a legally married is not easy. Your selfishness didn't allow you to consider the welfare of the other legitimate kids when they are without their father or mother.
If them born you well, quote me again without sense!

you’ve made no single sense.

Sweetplum:

Make he do am n kukuma know how many be his own

He's gonna be shocked to know that he's the father of 0 out of 4!
It happened to a former Ghanian footballer. Nigga thought he had four kids until DNA results proved that he had nil after more than 20 years

Judybash93:


He's gonna be shocked to know that he's the father of 0 out of 4!
It happened to a former Ghanian footballer. Nigga thought he had four kids until DNA results proved that he had nil after more than 20 years

The other 3 are 1000% mine I have no doubts about them my first daughter and second son are my carbon copy and I don't need a dna test to proof it

The same matter that men tell women to kneel and beg their husbands over, to forgive and forget it if he impregnates a woman outside is what people here are asking him to divorce over? Is it that women are to be endlessly forgiving of indiscretions, while men shouldn't stand for it?

No single father stories and security fears for him? No advice to "keep" the foundations of his home strong if he is a wise man? No prayer? No enquiry into how it happened, no scrutiny about ideas on his bad behavior that led to this? No statements that the woman was not given peace of mind at home? Instead it is a red pill preaching ground. Too many emotional men are being born. Some of the commenters here talking hotly aren't even their fathers children. Yet nobody was kicked out and there's been no talk of settling for less.

If this story is true, there are only two options: to forgive and forget, or to separate/divorce and share parenting the children. Neither one iseasy.

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

Test the other kids too.... Test the ones that looks like you. Test all of them.

Ybaby:


Test the other kids too.... Test the ones that looks like you. Test all of them.

And then?

Sometimes we go looking for problems by ourselves. Knowing the results would do what for him? Or is it that he cannot adopt children, assuming they aren't his?

Read from AllaKaduna Nzeogwu Wall on Facebook
U will know what to do

Ybaby:


Test the other kids too.... Test the ones that looks like you. Test all of them.

No need to test them because they are mine

deflover:
Read from AllaKaduna Nzeogwu Wall on Facebook
U will know what to do

Thanks

Judybash93:


He's gonna be shocked to know that he's the father of 0 out of 4!
It happened to a former Ghanian footballer. Nigga thought he had four kids until DNA results proved that he had nil after more than 20 years

Bad women exist but the good ones are there too

alobright17:
you’ve made no single sense.

cos you v no sense

Johnnyjohnnyman:


Thanks

If you don't want to die prematurely, divorce that woman now. Do it FAST!

Judybash93:


Why will a man bring a child from another relationship into his home when he isn't mad?
The dignity had already been kicked out when she decided to get pregnant for another man when she knew she was married to her husband.
Women only know how to solve things amicably when they're in the wrong.
There's no shame in knowing the truth and why the f should be care about what people would think about him?
There are consequences for every action

Same way there are consequences for the man's legitimate kids if their dad no use his brain well.

Ganjafama:
If you don't want to die prematurely, divorce that woman now. Do it FAST!

Of course I will divorce her , I will call for a family meeting next week Sunday

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She can't return her to her father because she is only 1 year 3 months and she is still nursing her.
I can't never separate the innocent child from her mother to save my marriage. I would prefer that she leaves with the child and continue to take care of her outside of my house. Be calming down! It's not easy but don't take decision that will affect your other children negatively.

[quote author=Starz825 post=117115204]I just went back to read all of your topics...
Very interesting...
You don't even write like one who didn't see the four walls of uni....
I appreciate your writings...

I understood your story and here is my advice...

You mentioned that you don't want divorce..
You are a good man like somebody said up there....
Now....sit your wife down..... explain everything to her....
The father of the child should come and have his daughter.
Now if the father is no where to be found...adopt the girl....

Infact...... Adopt the baby...that's my advice...
Everything will be settled in the future...
Treat the baby as your own...

That's all..
Thanks
Good advice but a cheat will always be a cheat.

Johnnyjohnnyman:


The other 3 are 1000% mine I have no doubts about them my first daughter and second son are my carbon copy and I don't need a dna test to proof it

My man! I know what you're going through and I'll still advice that you go for a DNA test. They might be your plutonium copy but things dey happen

Johnnyjohnnyman:
Good day all. I have posted exactly 2 months ago concerning my fourth child I went ahead with the DNA test unfortunately I am not her father.

Right now a lot of things have been going through my head i am shattered and depressed.

I don't know yet what is going to happen in my marriage I just don't know if the marriage will work or not.

I just wanted to keep you updated about the DNA.

Previous thread:

This why we the religious people believe some situation in life can only be handled by divine intervention. Bros, your situation is one of such. Call your wife discuss with her about your discovery, if she disagree both of you should go for a comfirmatory DNA test. After let the real father know, if he refuses adopt the child. When he or she is 18 let him or her know the truth. Have your peace and move on.

AS A SEPTUAGENARIAN GRANDPA,I HAVE TO BE VERY FRANK WITH YOU!THE WHOLE FAULT IS YOURS!YES,100%!YOU HAD MONEY GIFT FROM YOUR BOSS,RATHER THAN TELL YOUR WIFE,YOU GAVE IT TO YOUR SISTER WHO DUPED YOU!LEAVING HOME MADE IT WORSE!MANY THINGS COULD MAKE A WIFE TO LOOK FOR HELP WHEN THE HUSBAND ABANDONS HIS FAMILY!THAT ISNT WHAT ONE CAN CALL CHEATING!YOU WERE NO MORE THERE FOR THEM!SHE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF AND THE KIDS!YOU SHOULD AV IRONED IT OUT WITH HER IMMEDIATELY YOU SUSPECTED THE PREGNANCY WASNT YOURS!ANYWAY,SHE HAS TO RETURN THE GIRL TO THE FATHER WITHOUT ANY NOISE SO AS TO SAVE HER AND YOU UNNECESSARY EMBARRASSMENT!WISHING YOU BEST OF LUCK!LIKE AFORE MENTIONED,THE WHOLE ISSUE IS YOUR FAULT!!

Mennnn! This is heartbreaking oh. Why nau. Chai. I can't imagine what this brother is passing through.

Take care of your mental health because it will be compromised. Chai

mariahAngel:


Omode lo n se e.

Read his previous topics.

She has a point. O le je oto ni

Sweetplum:

Same way there are consequences for the man's legitimate kids if their dad no use his brain well.

He'd be justified to walk away from the woman with his kids and get someone that'd raise them.

[quote author=Sweetplum post=117128595]
Bad women exist but the good ones are there too[/quote
I never said good women are non-existent.

Sweetplum:

Bad women exist but the good ones are there too

I never said good women are non-existent.

Bro when I saw your message, I was angry in my soul and I took decision to send the woman away but in second thought which I believe its the right thing to do. Tell your wife the result of the DNA, let her inform the father of the child, give him the option of taking his child, if he didn't, consider her as ur adopted child for the sake of your other children. Broken home is the most terrible thing to imagine, don't go into it. Your wife is terrible

Judybash93:


My man! I know what you're going through and I'll still advice that you go for a DNA test. They might be your plutonium copy but things dey happen

These 3 children not being mine it is the least of my worries. Why would I waste such a lot of money 130k ×3 when the truth is they are biologically mine. I rather use the money for their educations and welbeing than wasting it for dna.

Jennifer663 why now?

Online inlaws please make una take am easy on the man as he is going through a lot right now.

HRMK:
AS A SEPTUAGENARIAN GRANDPA,I HAVE TO BE VERY FRANK WITH YOU!THE WHOLE FAULT IS YOURS!YES,100%!YOU HAD MONEY GIFT FROM YOUR BOSS,RATHER THAN TELL YOUR WIFE,YOU GAVE IT TO YOUR SISTER WHO DUPED YOU!LEAVING HOME MADE IT WORSE!MANY THINGS COULD MAKE A WIFE TO LOOK FOR HELP WHEN THE HUSBAND ABANDONS HIS FAMILY!THAT ISNT WHAT ONE CAN CALL CHEATING!YOU WERE NO MORE THERE FOR THEM!SHE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF AND THE KIDS!YOU SHOULD AV IRONED IT OUT WITH HER IMMEDIATELY YOU SUSPECTED THE PREGNANCY WASNT YOURS!ANYWAY,SHE HAS TO RETURN THE GIRL TO THE FATHER WITHOUT ANY NOISE SO AS TO SAVE HER AND YOU UNNECESSARY EMBARRASSMENT!WISHING YOU BEST OF LUCK!LIKE AFORE MENTIONED,THE WHOLE ISSUE IS YOUR FAULT!!

The part where the woman got pregnant for another man is entirely on her. There are at least 30 known contraceptives that women can use to prevent such things from happening but she decided to get pregnant and also keep the baby..
"SHE HAD TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF AND THE KIDS"
I don't get this