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Elsueno:
The problem here, is d man would always remember how his wife fuvcked another man whenever he sees sat kid, he would always be angry with d kid & lash out easily...I have seen dis kind of thing B4, d best thing is to let d woman & d kid go to her cheating mate... Remember she was drilled by another man & still trying to pass it off to d husband even after a DNA test

So what happens to the 3 kids for the op

Hope my advise is not coming in late. I read a few advice & i am afraid they are very harsh & hard.

I am surprised your wife could move on that fast even with 3 children at home, but none the less, if deep inside your heart you still care about her & the relationship, please forgive her. Forgiveness is even paramount now for the sake of your children. Broken homes break children & make life, particularly growing up, hell for the children.

As for the fourth child, you could overlook your wife's transgressions & raise her as yours. Yes, you may not be her biological father, but you can be her daddy. Raise her with love and understanding.

It is not easy to forgive & accept the 4th child. But i have seen many men who forgave and carried on. I know a man whose whole 3 children are not his own, but he accepted and raised them. Upon growing up the children, refused to accept another man as their father, except for the man they grew up knowing as their father.

If you still value the relationship, your mental, spiritual & psychological well being, consider forgiving your wife & accept the innocent child. But you must confront your wife with the truth & see her response.

You may also consider watching Paternity court on youtube to see how many men accept such children with love & move on with what is left of their lives. May God guide you.

NezzyMike:
Who holy pass? You think to be a single father or have a broken home is easy? Op shouldn't have gone for the DNA test, he's suffering it now.

DNA test is actually a good decision that he took
Imagine the child is now in university and this now gets out when they do his test?
Do you think he will survive the heart shock

NezzyMike:
Who holy pass? You think to be a single father or have a broken home is easy? Op shouldn't have gone for the DNA test, he's suffering it now.

Da hell is wrong with u, U want him to find out after sacrificing years of his life to care 4 a child only to be abandoned at end?....I do not cheat on any woman....but d moment she cheats on me, dats d end of d relationship, No amount of apology or pleading go save it even if she comes together with Jesus himself!

Johnnyjohnnyman:
We have been free with each other phone after the reconciliation it has nothing to do with hiding things from each other because I have never cheated on her for the 10 years we have been she marriec it just that we both believed that when there's trust and there's no need to be checking each other phones.
She was annoyed because my sister duped me and I was broke she had to carry all the responsibility all alone.
I learned about the cheating from neighbours and my cousin brother who lives few doors away from our old house and she had admit to have cheated because the responsible was too much for her and the guy were taking care of her and the kids when I was broke. I asked her how long they have been dating she said it started in 2019 few weeks after i got duped and i asked her if she was sure she said yes they were not together before I got duped.
According to her the last time they spoke was July 2020 after the break up and I asked her what caused the break up. She said the guy was taking advantage of her he didn't fulfil all the promises he had made to her and she had to quit and cut her coats according to her size. She moved to a smaller house and change the children school after she came begging me to return back home. I asked her if she was using protection with the guy she said yes but on few occasions the condoms has broken up and I have told her I didn't cheat on her but before we reconcile we should both go and do all the stds test, I didnt have to because i was clean but i have done because we wanted to start wverything afresh which we did the test it came back clear and we got back together. I hope I have answered all your questions.

Guy so despite the fact say you know say she spread leg for another man, you still get mouth dey ask her if she use protection......Omo my guy, e be like say you dey quiet in nature.

As for me, there is no forgiveness in my dictionary, are you the first man to have financial set back?

Dshocker:
Guy so despite the fact say you know say she spread leg for another man, you still get mouth dey ask her if she use protection......Omo my guy, e be like say you dey quiet in nature.

As for me, there is no forgiveness in my dictionary, are you the first man to have financial set back?

Forgiveness or no forgiveness is not a solution to the problem on ground

baralatie:
So what happens to the 3 kids for the op

is d man disabled, his parents no dey alive, relatives en co.....what kind of grown man cannot take care of his kids?.....I sometimes personally look after almost 8kids in our estate when I am free( some from friends, relatives etc)

I can’t see myself living with a cheating girlfriend not to talk of a cheating wife or a woman that bring bastard home to you.. you should have noticed this earlier when you was dating her.. no body pray for a broken home but at the point.. it’s just a dangerous thing to do living with her.. I believe she will still continue to cheat on you.. she can pretend but leopard don’t change their skin.. Personally what I will do is leave the house.. rent another apartment and start afresh.. If you want to make progress in life.. it is not right to be having sex with a cheating wife.. it will be bring bad luck.. I will also suggest you actively involve yourself in the kids life and spend time with your kids and support them financially.. I looked at your topic before now and you should have let that woman go and not accept her back.. before it got to this stage.. if you don’t allow to let go of things that are not yours.. it’s will always cause you more pain.. I pray you don’t loose your life because of of a bad woman.. if you had take decisive action earlier and let her go.. you wouldn’t be in this mess.. May God grant you wisdom and strength

Johnnyjohnnyman:
No need to test them because they are mine

My guy, do you know that your supposed children might look exactly like you, but in reality they are not yours biologically?

HRMK:
YOU DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT?THAT LIVING COSTS MONEY?AND THE HUBBY ABANDONED THE WIFE AND KIDS?HE EVEN DIDNT SEND MONEY FOR UPKEEP?EVEN WHEN SHE HAS A JOB,COULD HER INCOME SUSTAIN THE FAMILY?WHEN SHE SEEKS HELP,WOULD SHE GET IT FREELY FROM MEN?TALKING ABOUT DRUGS?YOU KNOW UP TO 30 BCS YOU AV BN EXPOSED TO IT!SOME LADIES DONT INDULGE IN SUCH THINGS!THEY KNOW NOTHING ABOUT IT!GOOD DAY!!

So, she resorted into prostitution in order to take care of her family.. i get it!

cescky:
your just a fo000l

see how you call an innocent child with so much venom, she the child do anything wrong,

your family and linage are the real BASTARDS

You be super bastard

IbileIfe:
No child is bastard.

It is an abomination to Almighty God to call anyone a bastard.
Every child has a father.
Your ignorance of the father does mean the innocent child is a bastard.

You are a fool. So why does the word exits ? Mumu

echodrum:
You must be so naive and an idiot to call those innocent kids bastards. Why can't he take them as his own?

You are a foolish simp. So he should take the responsibility of training another man's bastard abi ? Oya, come and send your wife to me let me impregnate her and then allow you take care of the kids ...

greggng:
I don't know if you understand English..
He said he is not the father of the fourth child. That mean he is the father of 1st 2nd and 3rd children.. Asking him to abandon those 3 kids is not the solution. He can decide to divorce her so that she can go with the fourth child..But you most takecare of your biological kids

Read his earlier threads oga ...

Maynman:
It was never by chance then, she didn’t slip on a banana and landed on a d.ick lol

Haha

Elsueno:
is d man disabled, his parents no dey alive, relatives en co.....what kind of grown man cannot take care of his kids?.....I sometimes personally look after almost 8kids in our estate when I am free ( some from friends, relatives etc)

That is the problem!
The mother of the 3 kids is alive and has all the free time to watch over those kids!
Abi is that not so?

baralatie:
That is the problem!
The mother of the 3 kids is alive and has all the free time to watch over those kids!
Abi is that not so?

And u think a married woman who spreads her legs anyhow & lies, deceives are husband is a good role model for ur kids or even provide appropriate discipline?..... Assuming Ofcourse she doesn't poison him to death at some point

Anyone saying this man should take the kid and wife back dey craze and should seek mental evaluation. None of those saying that will ever take that shit.

Pells:
If you the rest of your kids are yours then your 4th child was exchanged at the hospital by the nurses
Your wife is innocent
Don't be a stupid

He said the child looks like his colleague at her work, and you're still talk about nurse exchange.

Maybe you should read again.

HRMK:
NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY:A FOOL ALWAYS REMAIN A FOOL!HE BLVS HE HAS THE MONOPOLY OF WISDOM!HE IS BETTER IGNORED!GOOD DAY!!

Please just shut up.Go and be taking care of other people's children your wife brought to you.
Imagine what a supposedly grandfather is saying. Tufia.

Maynman:
Same goes for you, a dullard thinks he is making sense not knowing he’s embarrassing himself.
A dullard doesn’t know what “wisdom” means, talkless of having a monopoly of it.
According to your dull logic, women should sleep around with various men to sustain herself and her biological kids, you are wise.

Don't mind that old fool that claims to be a grandfather.

obidaddy:
Hope my advise is not coming in late. I read a few advice & i am afraid they are very harsh & hard.

I am surprised your wife could move on that fast even with 3 children at home, but none the less, if deep inside your heart you still care about her & the relationship, please forgive her. Forgiveness is even paramount now for the sake of your children. Broken homes break children & make life, particularly growing up, hell for the children.

As for the fourth child, you could overlook your wife's transgressions & raise her as yours. Yes, you may not be her biological father, but you can be her daddy. Raise her with love and understanding.

It is not easy to forgive & accept the 4th child. But i have seen many men who forgave and carried on. I know a man whose whole 3 children are not his own, but he accepted and raised them. Upon growing up the children, refused to accept another man as their father, except for the man they grew up knowing as their father.

If you still value the relationship, your mental, spiritual & psychological well being, consider forgiving your wife & accept the innocent child. But you must confront your wife with the truth & see her response.

You may also consider watching Paternity court on youtube to see how many men accept such children with love & move on with what is left of their lives. May God guide you.

How many of your children where from another man?

Elsueno:
And u think a married woman who spreads her legs anyhow & lies, deceives are husband is a good role model for ur kids or even provide appropriate discipline?..... Assuming Ofcourse she doesn't poison him to death at some point

Wether we like it or not !
She is the mother of those kids and she was divorced from the husband when she got pregnant ,This does not make her less a good mother to her children
She is the one with the free time and resource to watch successfully on her 3 kids

The husband only found out after he reconciled with the woman that he divorced


Now why would she poison any one?

Ehya.

na mumu dey marry.

na even bigger mumu dey take back cheating wife.

So OP, what are you?

Elsueno:
Da hell is wrong with u, U want him to find out after sacrificing years of his life to care 4 a child only to be abandoned at end?....I do not cheat on any woman....but d moment she cheats on me, dats d end of d relationship, No amount of apology or pleading go save it even if she comes together with Jesus himself!

Most people here don't have sense like the person you quoted so don't be angry

obidaddy:
Hope my advise is not coming in late. I read a few advice & i am afraid they are very harsh & hard.

I am surprised your wife could move on that fast even with 3 children at home, but none the less, if deep inside your heart you still care about her & the relationship, please forgive her. Forgiveness is even paramount now for the sake of your children. Broken homes break children & make life, particularly growing up, hell for the children.

As for the fourth child, you could overlook your wife's transgressions & raise her as yours. Yes, you may not be her biological father, but you can be her daddy. Raise her with love and understanding.

It is not easy to forgive & accept the 4th child. But i have seen many men who forgave and carried on. I know a man whose whole 3 children are not his own, but he accepted and raised them. Upon growing up the children, refused to accept another man as their father, except for the man they grew up knowing as their father.

If you still value the relationship, your mental, spiritual & psychological well being, consider forgiving your wife & accept the innocent child. But you must confront your wife with the truth & see her response.

You may also consider watching Paternity court on youtube to see how many men accept such children with love & move on with what is left of their lives. May God guide you.

Them suppose bathe you with pepper water, then two people go flog you. One with awusa koboko, the other with Oraimo cord.

Jashub:
You be super bastard

e pain am

if you were raised in love by your father and linage ..all this hate against an innocent soul wouldn't exist..

truth is bitter...

The only problem i have is the woman will still leave you when you are old and or broke. She has shown it already.

Dshocker:
Guy so despite the fact say you know say she spread leg for another man, you still get mouth dey ask her if she use protection......Omo my guy, e be like say you dey quiet in nature.

As for me, there is no forgiveness in my dictionary, are you the first man to have financial set back?

megastu:
The only problem i have is the woman will still leave you when you are old and or broke. She has shown it already.

So what is the solution she has 3 kids for the man and one outside

einsteine:
Them suppose bathe you with pepper water, then two people go flog you. One with awusa koboko, the other with Oraimo cord.

Abeg no mind that ode. Na big fool him be. Seems his wife did exactly what the op wife did. Nonsense.

wirinet:
That's the koko of the matter. She left the husband on the flimsy excuse of "he sent N200,000 to his sister" because she was already cheating with her co-worker. That one must have promised her heaven and earth. When she then got pregnant, the playboy co-worker japa. She then went back to plan B to beg the husband for reconciliation. Immediately the had sex, she declared pregnancy. The guys still in love accepted even though he knew she cheated. After 9 month baby ended up looking like the co-worker. After DNA, it is confirmed that baby is not his. Wife still lying that she had sex with co worker a month before coming back. Man is still SIMPing and doing "pick me dance".

Paternity fraud should be prosecuted as 419, because it is obtaining through false pretense.

These are things our national assembly should look into... it is as serious as rape sef...

Its purely a barbaric mental assault on Men by women.

Elsueno:
Da hell is wrong with u, U want him to find out after sacrificing years of his life to care 4 a child only to be abandoned at end?....I do not cheat on any woman....but d moment she cheats on me, dats d end of d relationship, No amount of apology or pleading go save it even if she comes together with Jesus himself!

Abandoned by someone you nurtured for years? You are funny anyways, some that were abandoned when they were little even disown their parents talk more of some that came to reap where he did not sow. For that child not to resemble the parents, there's a mistake somewhere.
OP should better conduct a DNA test on the wife to avoid had I known o hmmmm