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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by Terror48: 10:29pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ehmmah588:
From your write up,you said she's from a poor family Abi??...Oga high standard did it occur to you that she too would have wanted to enter the university but opted for third choice cos of funds??..You said yourself that she's hardworking..Have you asked her how she was able to finish her NCE degree of 4 yrs?? I'm sure if you do you'll discover she alone footed the bills with her teaching job by going for part time studies.....Guy forget that shit of "she's from a poor family" talk. You're an adult so if you're scared of her family demanding from you,clear her now that your cash is yours alone and you can give or choose not to give....

She even be virgin..guy no let me swear for you ooo....marry that girl or you'll share my kinda story of how I lost a good girl

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by kacglobal: 10:30pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Never lower your standards for any lady. Remember she will not lower hers for you. If tables were turned. She would rather trash you.

Ladies are always loyal to their true emotions. And they will never do anything not beneficial to them. Hence the selfish attitude.

You yourself knows exactly why she's interested in you. Remove all those benefits that comes with you. She won't want to be around any longer.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by kacglobal: 10:33pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ehmmah588:
From your write up,you said she's from a poor family Abi??...Oga high standard did it occur to you that she too would have wanted to enter the university but opted for third choice cos of funds??..You said yourself that she's hardworking..Have you asked her how she was able to finish her NCE degree of 4 yrs?? I'm sure if you do you'll discover she alone footed the bills with her teaching job by going for part time studies.....Guy forget that shit of "she's from a poor family" talk. You're an adult so if you're scared of her family demanding from you,clear her now that your cash is yours alone and you can give or choose not to give....

She even be virgin..guy no let me swear for you ooo....marry that girl or you'll share my kinda story of how I lost a good girl

If tables were turned will a lady lower her standard for the guy. If he is the NCE holder from a poor family, n. Hard working?

I just want to know. Let's all keep the same energy.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by sukkot: 10:34pm On Oct 08, 2022

she a virgin and a teacher and loyal to you. what else are you looking for ? you dey find wetin no exist abi ?

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by ukaface(f): 10:35pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

if your mind is breaking In two because of her, save yourself the stress and look for your standard.

You go find o

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by seunak2016: 10:36pm On Oct 08, 2022

Wealthyonos:
Even your English shows you're not educated. My advice is, 'go back to school'.��

English teacher weldone

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by SonOfTheRisingS: 10:37pm On Oct 08, 2022

If she is capable of committing to building glorious marriage, then build her to your standard, except you have first class lady at hand.

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by gbaskiboy: 10:38pm On Oct 08, 2022

Wealthyonos:
Even your English shows you're not educated. My advice is, 'go back to school'.��

Mother of all savage grin

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by doggedfighter(f): 10:39pm On Oct 08, 2022

Seankhalifa:
Queen Elizabeth see watin u cause.. English don suffer for we hand

Hahahahahaha

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by gbaskiboy: 10:40pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
She is a virgin, I confirmed.

how did you confirmed it grin

comrade! Comrade!

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by deavicky(m): 10:42pm On Oct 08, 2022*

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

I be common person but my happiness oh still be my own oh. Everybody get role no mean say you role pass my own oh.
If God bless u try to extend am.
No be you be the first person to help person our of poverty.
How wish Nairaland get audio make u for listen to this music I composed for u.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by tosyne2much(m): 10:45pm On Oct 08, 2022

High Standard OP cheesy

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by Owen247: 11:05pm On Oct 08, 2022*

U said shes a good lady right, and here u are emotionally abusing her because of what? nce cert and co.

if she was the one telling you dat ur not her standard what would u say or do? Dont be emotionless and be doin to people what u cant endure.

maybe she presented herself wit ful innocens to u dats why u dnt value her. Pls leave her so dat sm one dat wil value her wil meet her.

last last since u cant compromise, f your standards.

Modified

all these people wit toxic n .... lifestyles quoting me, i wnt reply you all. Tellin me am sexed starved n lonly.. 4 saying d truth. U dnt even knw if i am married lol. Faceless forum lol.

so he shd be wasting her time whilst emotionally abusing her abi?

if he was the one at the recieving end will he like it? Dnt give what u cnt take.

he is just wit her, maybe becoz he havent slept wit her and when he does? Maybe he wil now quiver to life like a mack truck and knw dat she was neva his standard and dump her and come here to tell us how women are trash. Issoky.

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by TheGiftedOne(m): 11:07pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ehmmah588:
From your write up,you said she's from a poor family Abi??...Oga high standard did it occur to you that she too would have wanted to enter the university but opted for third choice cos of funds??..You said yourself that she's hardworking..Have you asked her how she was able to finish her NCE degree of 4 yrs?? I'm sure if you do you'll discover she alone footed the bills with her teaching job by going for part time studies.....Guy forget that shit of "she's from a poor family" talk. You're an adult so if you're scared of her family demanding from you,clear her now that your cash is yours alone and you can give or choose not to give....

She even be virgin..guy no let me swear for you ooo....marry that girl or you'll share my kinda story of how I lost a good girl

Truth is most of these guys saying women are trash had found their "diamonds" but trashed then as usual, only to come and start crying about their misfortune. A girl went to school for four whole years and despite being from a poor background, refused to sell herself to be like her mates. But olodo OP dey come ask us before grabbing his jackpot. Capital letter MUMU. angry

Cc: Ebenman

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by Treasuredgift(f): 11:09pm On Oct 08, 2022

Would she be safe with you huh

Marvel578:
Pls private chat me her contact. A virgin, I am interested

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by jeromestarks: 11:10pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Disvirgin her sharp sharp and see how you will come to like her standard.
Oga, go and marry that girl and take good care of her. She deserves it.

No matter the attitude she put up later in your marriage, never let her go. I repeat, NEVER LET HER GO!
Love her, teach her with love, care for her, defend her and cherish her.

As for the siblings, you didn't marry them so don't kill yourself over their matter. Do what you can do for them and leave what you can't do.

Best of luck son.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by Treasuredgift(f): 11:13pm On Oct 08, 2022

Me too.

folake4u:
Lmao. This is an interesting take.
I find it really amusing.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by bestdudes: 11:17pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

look for someone else na.

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by Tinyemeka(m): 11:19pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

I see...

Since you've considered her pudenda up to your standards, what else is the reason for your befuddlement? angry

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by lereinter(m): 11:23pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
She is a virgin, I confirmed.

How?

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by AfroKnight: 11:26pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman don’t be deceived.

She is playing the long con. She has an endgame in sight and it is not going to be sweet smelling roses, trust me.

You see this insult you have given her several times (that she’s not your standard)? She intends to make you pay for saying that. No be everything you go dey tell woman. Filter your words.

End things with her. She is pretending to be humble. When she has you where she wants you, you will pay.

A word is enough.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by andy244: 11:27pm On Oct 08, 2022

To be frank, your first paragraph shows you are not qualified to be a graduate if at all you are one. forget about the excuse you gave about the phone, not been a native speaker, and going to Oxford to learn English. That girl with NCE must be more educated than you. Also you sound very very as some one from a very poor home. I know your type. Go back to school, my candid advice

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by kelspinall(m): 11:42pm On Oct 08, 2022

osazsky:
them don finish all ur sisters sha

mumu talk to ya levels...

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by EduBrazil1991(m): 11:50pm On Oct 08, 2022

[quote author=Wealthyonos post=117366137]Even your English shows you're not educated. My advice is, 'go back to school'

You forgot so soon,

In 9ja, once you have a degree or its equivalent you're educated.

What we call education here now is just the certificate.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by blasterman(m): 11:56pm On Oct 08, 2022

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

You obviously dont like the lady and seem like a good guy.

Other boys for don chop clean mouth pursue the lady.

If you dont like her whats the point in marrying her because you are just postponing a replacment for future.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by BRATISLAVA: 12:10am On Oct 09, 2022

Ebenman:
I meant a lady 3 months ago. After we talked, she began to show interest in me, but she wasn't my standard, so I wasn't feeling the same way.

My standards are:
1. At least she must be a graduate
2. She should be self-sufficient (earning something reasonable)
3. At most 5-6 age difference between us
4. Looking calm and understandable
5. She must be an average-height lady

This lady, in particular, is an NCE holder, working as a teacher, earning little because of her level of education. She is just in her early 20s, and I am almost 8 yrs older than her. She is from a poor background and has 2 other younger siblings. She is also not tall and looks like an average girl.

She is very decent (a virgin) and loyal to me. I have told her severally that she is not my standard and I wasn't interested in her, but she refused to listen and began to feel very insecure. Maybe because I earn well and she knows I will soon get married.

She now comes to my house almost every weekend because I am very accommodating. Recently she has been telling me to delete the pictures of other females friends, in which I asked her on what grounds I should do that.

Note: I don't want to invest in a lady that is not my wife, and I am afraid her family will see me as a rich guy from which her other siblings can benefit if I proceed with her.

Should I block every contact with her, or should I forget about standards and risk and look at the good side?

Please advice

Rich Jason Hot-Body Mamoa, stop stringing her along. Go and find your kind.

We know she's an illiterate, short, poor and ugly virgin with tons of siblings you can't cater for despite your riches. She's not your standard woman. Why keep up with her then?

You don't want to build with her, you don't want to work with her from the ground up, you want a ready made woman without passing through any stress. You don't want to know that her future is bright.

Wonder how the forum would react if you were a she.

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Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by BRATISLAVA: 12:12am On Oct 09, 2022

lereinter:
How?

Lol.

When he doesn't marry her, the next guy will say she's a prostitute.

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by BRATISLAVA: 12:15am On Oct 09, 2022

kacglobal:
If tables were turned will a lady lower her standard for the guy. If he is the NCE holder from a poor family, n. Hard working?

I just want to know. Let's all keep the same energy.

Do women marry men, or men marry women? And is a woman marrying a substandard man anything new? Even fruit selling women are catering to able bodied jobless men they look forward to marrying.

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by BRATISLAVA: 12:16am On Oct 09, 2022

[quote author=Terror48 post=117393006][/quote]lol that guy is posting some high grade tosh

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by BRATISLAVA: 12:19am On Oct 09, 2022

Ebenman:
Firstly, I typed with a tiny phone.
Secondly, I typed the content very late.
Thirdly, I never claimed to be a native speaker, so English is not my first language.

I don't mind if you can sponsor me to Oxford University, where you learn English as a native language.

Aren't you a rich man able sponsor himself anymore? Or did students at Oxford tell you that you only have a Nigerian NCE, are too short, not able to learn, ugly and from a populous nation and can't go there?

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by darediamond(m): 12:37am On Oct 09, 2022

Ehmmah588:
From your write up,you said she's from a poor family Abi??...Oga high standard did it occur to you that she too would have wanted to enter the university but opted for third choice cos of funds??..You said yourself that she's hardworking..Have you asked her how she was able to finish her NCE degree of 4 yrs?? I'm sure if you do you'll discover she alone footed the bills with her teaching job by going for part time studies.....Guy forget that shit of "she's from a poor family" talk. You're an adult so if you're scared of her family demanding from you,clear her now that your cash is yours alone and you can give or choose not to give....

She even be virgin..guy no let me swear for you ooo....marry that girl or you'll share my kinda story of how I lost a good girl

Re: Should I Forget About My Standard And Take The Risk? by Helpout12345: 12:54am On Oct 09, 2022

OP, out of the issues you have with her "standard", I think major ones are the education level and physical attraction. The age is not that far from your preference.

You said she is a Virgin, a good person and loyal to you.

1. Put her loyalty and love to tests to be very sure she is not coming after you because of your money and status. It's always difficult for good men with money to filter our genuine ladies in their relationships because even the likes of online misandrists looking for husbands will pretend to be good women when they meet a man with money and status. To do this, take away benefits you give her now for sometime, pretend like you lost your job and struggling financially for sometime and watch her reactions.

2. Being a Virgin does not guarantee a good character and good woman in marriage. You have to watch her character beyond the virginity stuff. Does she really have good character and good heart? You also need to find ways to find her true character and her true mind. To do this, follow her on social media to follow her comments, watch her reactions and comments on real life situations happening around you both, watch different Nigerian movies together and spark discussion over the happening in the movies. Most times, women get carried away in movies and pour out their true minds during the movies.

3. If she is good based on 1 and 2 above, and the fact that she is a virgin in this century, then you have find a good one. Please don't lose her because you might never find another close to her again in your lifetime.

4. Education status can be improved. She can enroll in a university online or distance learning to upgrade herself to become a graduate you want. But I must warn you, marry her before you sponsor her in education. Don't ever sponsor education of a girl friend with hope that she will marry you in return.

5. On the physical attraction, I know you cannot change her height. To enhance your attraction, tell her how you want your woman to dress and appear but be careful not to body-shame her.

6. It's not wise to tell boy or girlfriend, they are not "your standard". It's demeaning and can make them hold resentment for you if it eventually works out between you both.

Summary, be careful not to lose a good woman because of minor standards that you can improve or enhance to have a happy home.

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