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padi94:
Relocate

TheOldGods:
so I should use because of another human being and relocate, go through the stress of relocating abi

TheOldGods:
About 7 months ago, I made a post about this same girl, I'm surprised I'm asking a post after 7 months about the same person. You can read the previous here https://www.nairaland.com/7055144/today-very-strict-girlfriend-she#111512808

Here is the new story.

We have been dating for up to 10 months now, within these months I've not been myself, at first I thought it was love, then insecurities, and obsession. The problem is the girl is very supportive and very manipulative too. She always dares me that she will kill herself if she wants to see me and I don't show up. Infact, about
Some weeks ago, she came to my house by 12am midnight, she is fond of coming very late at night to my house and will start crying that she will get robbed for me to open the gate and let her in. This is a dangerous thing, and the way I'm hiding my life sef, it could also be a disaster for me. I warned her upto 3 times before I took my decision.

That very day she called me by 12 am as usual that she was outside my gate. I told her to go back home. She refused and stood there till 1am. This girl came to my WhatsApp and told me she will kill herself if I don't come outside that she is with sniper. I told her fine, she can do that. When she saw how serious I was, she gave out my number to the bolt guy, who kept calling me. All I know was I closed my eyes and it was morning. I'm sure she called the bolt guy back to pick her up.

The other day which was some months ago, I told her I was having a meeting with a friend. On getting there she started calling me, and asking me to do video call, I told her young lady I'm in a meeting. After series of calls from her and me rejection it, or getting my phone on silent, she chatted on WhatsApp. Started acting all nice and asked me where I was in particular, with clear mind I told her. But that was a mistake, it was about 10 am then, and getting a taxi was hard, did you know this girl drove to the place I was having meeting, then hide under my car, my car was packed near a bush, this girl stood there, snake or even scorpions could have gotten to her. She waited untill I came out, I was shocked, when she discovered I was with a guy and two girls, she didn't know what to say. I felt so angry that I almost left her there. It's crazy now, cause I don't think this is love anymore, I have tried to discharge myself from her, but this girl is a devil. She begs my mum, my sister, my cousin, gives my number to everyone to beg me. Now everyone always begs me. How can move out from this girl without hurting her. Last time I told her it was over, after 1 week she called and said she is changed, Infact she is the sweetest woman I can have now etc. Very manipulative, shedding crocodile tears but hurting me deeply. Infact I used to earn over 3000$ a month, but after I started dating this girl I can hardly see 1000$ if not struggle, and my clients suddenly started ghosting me. Lost a contract of over 50k$. I just keep having this spirit that she has a very negative impact in my life, but I don't want to believe another human being can be a cause of someone's misfortune.

Guys I need help. How can I leave this girl without making her wanting to kill herself, although I want to believe it's all mouth, but I don't want to gamble it too.

Wizywiz:
you have limited options bro....that girl can even stab you or burn down your property and you inside....I use to have an ex like that years back....I had to change location and number even refused disclosing my location to family members so she won't pass through them.... initially I felt good and happy with it..but with time my brother na serious wahala....she once broke bottle on a girl just because she saw the girl standing and gisting with me...funny enough she was financially boyant than me than...but the obsession is not something you play with...pls handle diplomatically..and mind you...no bother about if she go kill herself...save urs first

TheOldGods:
do you think it's easy. I'm telling you that she is manipulating even my siblings.

Zee0007:
You are not ready to leave her. If you are ready, you won't be thinking of her well being if you serve her breakfast.

She's guilt trapping you. Better get a grip of yourself and man up. Stop riding to her emotions.

If she like, let her kill herself. One day, we all will die. If she chooses suicide, itz her bone to swallow.

Nazgul:
I used to say this and I'll say it again. Never tolerate an attitude you can't cope with...address it from the very first day you notice it.

I went through your first thread and discovered that you tolerated so much rubbish from her, that's why she's manipulating and treating you this way.

How can a girl whom you're dating come to your house by 12am or trail you to a meeting? You guys should learn to act manly sometimes. Stop allowing breasts and nyash block your sense of reasoning.

If you're tired of her like you stated here, let her know in clear terms and move on.

TheOldGods:
About 7 months ago, I made a post about this same girl, I'm surprised I'm asking a post after 7 months about the same person. You can read the previous here https://www.nairaland.com/7055144/today-very-strict-girlfriend-she#111512808

Here is the new story.

We have been dating for up to 10 months now, within these months I've not been myself, at first I thought it was love, then insecurities, and obsession. The problem is the girl is very supportive and very manipulative too. She always dares me that she will kill herself if she wants to see me and I don't show up. Infact, about
Some weeks ago, she came to my house by 12am midnight, she is fond of coming very late at night to my house and will start crying that she will get robbed for me to open the gate and let her in. This is a dangerous thing, and the way I'm hiding my life sef, it could also be a disaster for me. I warned her upto 3 times before I took my decision.

That very day she called me by 12 am as usual that she was outside my gate. I told her to go back home. She refused and stood there till 1am. This girl came to my WhatsApp and told me she will kill herself if I don't come outside that she is with sniper. I told her fine, she can do that. When she saw how serious I was, she gave out my number to the bolt guy, who kept calling me. All I know was I closed my eyes and it was morning. I'm sure she called the bolt guy back to pick her up.

The other day which was some months ago, I told her I was having a meeting with a friend. On getting there she started calling me, and asking me to do video call, I told her young lady I'm in a meeting. After series of calls from her and me rejection it, or getting my phone on silent, she chatted on WhatsApp. Started acting all nice and asked me where I was in particular, with clear mind I told her. But that was a mistake, it was about 10 am then, and getting a taxi was hard, did you know this girl drove to the place I was having meeting, then hide under my car, my car was packed near a bush, this girl stood there, snake or even scorpions could have gotten to her. She waited untill I came out, I was shocked, when she discovered I was with a guy and two girls, she didn't know what to say. I felt so angry that I almost left her there. It's crazy now, cause I don't think this is love anymore, I have tried to discharge myself from her, but this girl is a devil. She begs my mum, my sister, my cousin, gives my number to everyone to beg me. Now everyone always begs me. How can move out from this girl without hurting her. Last time I told her it was over, after 1 week she called and said she is changed, Infact she is the sweetest woman I can have now etc. Very manipulative, shedding crocodile tears but hurting me deeply. Infact I used to earn over 3000$ a month, but after I started dating this girl I can hardly see 1000$ if not struggle, and my clients suddenly started ghosting me. Lost a contract of over 50k$. I just keep having this spirit that she has a very negative impact in my life, but I don't want to believe another human being can be a cause of someone's misfortune.

Guys I need help. How can I leave this girl without making her wanting to kill herself, although I want to believe it's all mouth, but I don't want to gamble it too.

id4sho:
Your case is different, rich babe. How old was she?

Foodqueen:
Be careful I know their type.

Stop having sex with her so she won't get pregnant for you

If u eventually leave her, get ready cos she go insult shege commot for you and your family body.

Nazgul:
I used to say this and I'll say it again. Never tolerate an attitude you can't cope with...address it from the very first day you notice it.

I went through your first thread and discovered that you tolerated so much rubbish from her, that's why she's manipulating and treating you this way.

How can a girl whom you're dating come to your house by 12am or trail you to a meeting? You guys should learn to act manly sometimes. Stop allowing breasts and nyash block your sense of reasoning.

If you're tired of her like you stated here, let her know in clear terms and move on.

TheOldGods:
About 7 months ago, I made a post about this same girl, I'm surprised I'm asking a post after 7 months about the same person. You can read the previous here https://www.nairaland.com/7055144/today-very-strict-girlfriend-she#111512808

Here is the new story.

We have been dating for up to 10 months now, within these months I've not been myself, at first I thought it was love, then insecurities, and obsession. The problem is the girl is very supportive and very manipulative too. She always dares me that she will kill herself if she wants to see me and I don't show up. Infact, about
Some weeks ago, she came to my house by 12am midnight, she is fond of coming very late at night to my house and will start crying that she will get robbed for me to open the gate and let her in. This is a dangerous thing, and the way I'm hiding my life sef, it could also be a disaster for me. I warned her upto 3 times before I took my decision.

That very day she called me by 12 am as usual that she was outside my gate. I told her to go back home. She refused and stood there till 1am. This girl came to my WhatsApp and told me she will kill herself if I don't come outside that she is with sniper. I told her fine, she can do that. When she saw how serious I was, she gave out my number to the bolt guy, who kept calling me. All I know was I closed my eyes and it was morning. I'm sure she called the bolt guy back to pick her up.

The other day which was some months ago, I told her I was having a meeting with a friend. On getting there she started calling me, and asking me to do video call, I told her young lady I'm in a meeting. After series of calls from her and me rejection it, or getting my phone on silent, she chatted on WhatsApp. Started acting all nice and asked me where I was in particular, with clear mind I told her. But that was a mistake, it was about 10 am then, and getting a taxi was hard, did you know this girl drove to the place I was having meeting, then hide under my car, my car was packed near a bush, this girl stood there, snake or even scorpions could have gotten to her. She waited untill I came out, I was shocked, when she discovered I was with a guy and two girls, she didn't know what to say. I felt so angry that I almost left her there. It's crazy now, cause I don't think this is love anymore, I have tried to discharge myself from her, but this girl is a devil. She begs my mum, my sister, my cousin, gives my number to everyone to beg me. Now everyone always begs me. How can move out from this girl without hurting her. Last time I told her it was over, after 1 week she called and said she is changed, Infact she is the sweetest woman I can have now etc. Very manipulative, shedding crocodile tears but hurting me deeply. Infact I used to earn over 3000$ a month, but after I started dating this girl I can hardly see 1000$ if not struggle, and my clients suddenly started ghosting me. Lost a contract of over 50k$. I just keep having this spirit that she has a very negative impact in my life, but I don't want to believe another human being can be a cause of someone's misfortune.

Guys I need help. How can I leave this girl without making her wanting to kill herself, although I want to believe it's all mouth, but I don't want to gamble it too.

TheOldGods:
so I should use because of another human being and relocate, go through the stress of relocating abi

TheOldGods:
About 7 months ago, I made a post about this same girl, I'm surprised I'm asking a post after 7 months about the same person. You can read the previous here https://www.nairaland.com/7055144/today-very-strict-girlfriend-she#111512808

Here is the new story.

We have been dating for up to 10 months now, within these months I've not been myself, at first I thought it was love, then insecurities, and obsession. The problem is the girl is very supportive and very manipulative too. She always dares me that she will kill herself if she wants to see me and I don't show up. Infact, about
Some weeks ago, she came to my house by 12am midnight, she is fond of coming very late at night to my house and will start crying that she will get robbed for me to open the gate and let her in. This is a dangerous thing, and the way I'm hiding my life sef, it could also be a disaster for me. I warned her upto 3 times before I took my decision.

That very day she called me by 12 am as usual that she was outside my gate. I told her to go back home. She refused and stood there till 1am. This girl came to my WhatsApp and told me she will kill herself if I don't come outside that she is with sniper. I told her fine, she can do that. When she saw how serious I was, she gave out my number to the bolt guy, who kept calling me. All I know was I closed my eyes and it was morning. I'm sure she called the bolt guy back to pick her up.

The other day which was some months ago, I told her I was having a meeting with a friend. On getting there she started calling me, and asking me to do video call, I told her young lady I'm in a meeting. After series of calls from her and me rejection it, or getting my phone on silent, she chatted on WhatsApp. Started acting all nice and asked me where I was in particular, with clear mind I told her. But that was a mistake, it was about 10 am then, and getting a taxi was hard, did you know this girl drove to the place I was having meeting, then hide under my car, my car was packed near a bush, this girl stood there, snake or even scorpions could have gotten to her. She waited untill I came out, I was shocked, when she discovered I was with a guy and two girls, she didn't know what to say. I felt so angry that I almost left her there. It's crazy now, cause I don't think this is love anymore, I have tried to discharge myself from her, but this girl is a devil. She begs my mum, my sister, my cousin, gives my number to everyone to beg me. Now everyone always begs me. How can move out from this girl without hurting her. Last time I told her it was over, after 1 week she called and said she is changed, Infact she is the sweetest woman I can have now etc. Very manipulative, shedding crocodile tears but hurting me deeply. Infact I used to earn over 3000$ a month, but after I started dating this girl I can hardly see 1000$ if not struggle, and my clients suddenly started ghosting me. Lost a contract of over 50k$. I just keep having this spirit that she has a very negative impact in my life, but I don't want to believe another human being can be a cause of someone's misfortune.

Guys I need help. How can I leave this girl without making her wanting to kill herself, although I want to believe it's all mouth, but I don't want to gamble it too.

Benki003:
Op am in the same situation to, she's fuckin clingy and when ever I don't pick up her calls na war be that, Although I never pass through my own so i can't give you advice so hoping I can a little advice here

Joystic:
Mtcheeww

So when you have a child tomorrow that always wants to follow you around what will you do...open another thread?

You have a girl giving you her whole attention so you won't have to find it outside and cheat and you're here complaining. Look believe me you will crave this type of attention from a girl you love tomorrow and you won't get it.

Better appreciate that babe and bring her close.. Instead of making it seem like she's the one forcing herself on you.. Bring her in, get her busy with a job or let her go to school. But if you have no plans for a future with her then man up and end it once and for all goddammit.

You don't except her to end the relationship herself when she's obviously in love do you? This guy sef..

TheOldGods:
how did you break off?

padi94:
Until the Idiot kill herself and drop note that na you cause am, na then your eye go clear. You dey follow psycho play.

See you See prison

TheOldGods:
lol. You have not experienced this that's why