Hmmm! I feel like ranting. So, there is this guy who has been giving me attention since the beginning of this year. This attention is so glaring to everyone in my department that most of the girls are beefing me. Whenever he sees me in the department, he moves into close proximity to me without talking to me. He stares at me when I'm standing afar. He makes me feel special in the department.

Sometimes, when i catch his eyes, he smiles discretely at me. Now, it's november and he's still not saying anything. I don't know what to do because earlier in the year, I didn't have much feeling for him. But now, I feel I have something for him. There is another girl in the department that is obviously trying to get him, but he doesn't give her attention but gives me attention. I am tired. I don't know what to do? I can't ask him out, that's out of it. I wouldn't.

If you've been in this situation before, how did you handle it? Please help me as I'm on the brink of asking him so i don't continue wasting my time?

He gives you attention by “staring at you” bwahahahah

Lions always stares at their prey before attacking.

First rule of every flirt:

Give them uncontrollable stare to weaken and fill their heart with unanswered questions.

Babe, use your head. Don't fall leaving your brain behind. Ciao!!!

Beware of men that stares alone. How old is he? Staring at you for almost a BUHARI year? Doesnt add up. Tell him he is making you uncomfortable then see his response.

Maynnmaan:
He gives you attention by “staring at you” bwahahahah

You are crazy .
Anyways, when i was sick and couldn't eat. Most people got me juice but he was like he wasn't sure of what i'll like to drink and bought me four kinds of drinks: juice, yoghurt, smoothie and tea.
If he's asking everyone questions directly on a group as a group leader, he will prefer to send me a text and ask me, making me feel respected.

bushjeph:
Beware of men that stares alone. How old is he? Staring at you for almost a BUHARI year? Doesnt add up. Tell him he is making you uncomfortable then see his response.

I'm really tired. I wouldn't be concerned because I have others that stare but i don't give attention but I'm cut up with him because I feel he likes me

Shybeauty:


You are crazy .
Anyways, when i was sick and couldn't eat. Most people got me juice but he was like he wasn't sure of what i'll like to drink and bought me four kinds of drinks: juice, yoghurt, smoothie and tea.
If he's asking everyone questions directly on a group as a group leader, he will prefer to send me a text and ask me, making me feel respected.

And you think you are the only person he does these too?
Do you think he has not had sex since the beginning of the year?
What you’ve mentioned since are basic things.

I can't speak of his sexual status cos i don't know but there is a girl in the same group that is seducing him constantly and trying all to get his attention but his attention is fixated on me. There are other things he does like inviting me to marriage ceremony and sorts. But, he never calls or texts. When peradventure i text him, I notice he waits most times 1hr or 2 hrs before responding

Maynnmaan:


And you think you are the only person he does these too?
Do you think he has not had sex since the beginning of the year?
What you’ve mentioned since are basic things.

I can't speak of his sexual status cos i don't know but there is a girl in the same group that is seducing him constantly and trying all to get his attention but his attention is fixated on me. There are other things he does like inviting me to marriage ceremony and sorts. But, he never calls or texts. When peradventure i text him, I notice he waits most times 1hr or 2 hrs before responding

I felt he is shy but i think i'm very wrong as i heard that he had an ex-girlfriend before and their love was known within the group and outside

Shybeauty:


I can't speak of his sexual status cos i don't know but there is a girl in the same group that is seducing him constantly and trying all to get his attention but his attention is fixated on me. There are other things he does like inviting me to marriage ceremony and sorts. But, he never calls or texts. When peradventure i text him, I notice he waits most times 1hr or 2 hrs before responding

I still can’t see the “attention” he is giving you. It seems it’s the other way round.

Maynnmaan:


I still can see the “attention” he is giving you. It seems it’s the other way round.

Thanks for your response. I really appreciate it. I needed someone to show me another perspective. It's not that i'm blind. If a guy likes a girl, he should talk and everything. I think i made excuses for him and now, i have to reset my brain. Thanks.

you can't ask him out because you no get money, Broke girls everywhere.
spits on your bald head

JoeRizzla:
you can't ask him out because you no get money, Broke girls everywhere.

spits on your bald head

I laugh at your stupidity, troll. If you don't have anything meaningful to say, get off my mention and find a meaning for your life. Btw, Nairaland is not only used by Nigerians

Shybeauty:


I laugh at your stupidity, troll. If you don't have anything meaningful to say, get off my mention and find a meaning for your life. Btw, Nairaland is not only used by Nigerians

Bitc.h I have something meaningful doing but what do have nothing but a wide decayed tunnel in between your legs for lovepeddling. If you are not a Nigerian why seek opinions of Nigerians on this forum. Odeh

JoeRizzla:


Bitc.h I have something meaningful doing but what do have nothing but a wide decayed tunnel in between your legs for lovepeddling. If you are not a Nigerian why seek opinions of Nigerians on this forum. Odeh

Bro you don't have to throw insults ...you insulted her first and she responded ...most times we just need to be mature at tge was we handle stuffs

Shitty story.
Full of trash and diseases.

Shybeauty:
Hmmm! I feel like ranting. So, there is this guy who has been giving me attention since the beginning of this year. This attention is so glaring to everyone in my department that most of the girls are beefing me. Whenever he sees me in the department, he moves into close proximity to me without talking to me. He stares at me when I'm standing afar. He makes me feel special in the department. Sometimes, when i catch his eyes, he smiles discretely at me. Now, it's november and he's still not saying anything. I don't know what to do because earlier in the year, I didn't have much feeling for him. But now, I feel I have something for him. There is another girl in the department that is obviously trying to get him, but he doesn't give her attention but gives me attention. I am tired. I don't know what to do? I can't ask him out, that's out of it. I wouldn't.

If you've been in this situation before, how did you handle it? Please help me as I'm on the brink of asking him so i don't continue wasting my time?

Na the love portion they work

Madam let sleeping dog lay

Which department be this? Is it Animal Science or Food and Nutrition Science. Becos two of Una no get sense.

He wants to eat you an clean mouth... Like monkey dey look banana �

After asking him out. You then cross legs and be expecting daily, weekly, and monthly financial upkeep.

Nah unah first year abi?

Pls what's the definition of attention?

What year is this that you can't ask the dude out ?
Just ask him to meet you in a public place and get to know him and see where it leads. Are you saying you cant afford a meal of N5k just to know if you both have a future ?
The dude could be shy as well.

Shybeauty:


Thanks for your response. I really appreciate it. I needed someone to show me another perspective. It's not that i'm blind. If a guy likes a girl, he should talk and everything. I think i made excuses for him and now, i have to reset my brain. Thanks.

Not everyone is bold enough to talk. Ill have plenty examples but share just one.
I was on an evening shift from work that I had just started. I saw this lady and immediately I wanted her . Our eyes said hello and nothing more but I was in a different department so our breaks et all never merged. I had a friend who was interested in another girl ( who had a friend who was okay to me ). ANyways, his plan was that we would double date. He would ask the girl out and by default i would be matched with the friend. So here I am in a limbo. Do I pursue this bedroom eyes lady or wait for the fling with my friend.

Low and behold, I get this envelop on my desk. I open it, its a handwritten love letter. Not an email or typed letter. Handwritten with a puff of perfume. I opened and read the letter - the lady had professed her feelings to me and asked me to join her for coffee. So I thanked her and said why not. Her name was Sandra. We had a thrill of a relationship. It ended simply because she had a lot of past baggage that she hadnt dealt with. But just to say. We are not in Kansas anymore - Make the first move !!!

Shybeauty:


Thanks for your response. I really appreciate it. I needed someone to show me another perspective. It's not that i'm blind. If a guy likes a girl, he should talk and everything. I think i made excuses for him and now, i have to reset my brain. Thanks.

Be straightforward with him to get the situation straight . Why

He likes you and now you are liking him back . He doesn't want to come directly, you too don't want go to him directly. Both of you are playing games that won't augur well .

He has is own personal reason for not coming directly just has you don't want to approach him directly.

Confront and ask him why he stares at you and appears like someone who has interest in you with mix signal. If he doesn't give you a desirable reply , what you will do is about it is up to you

He wants you. He will have you. You will love everything that comes out of the lil thingy buttefly feelings comin' through with this. Chill & relax. I don't know the guy but he ain't shy, he's experienced. I take time to eat my own favorite meal and I bet he does too.

rickleye:


Not everyone is bold enough to talk. Ill have plenty examples but share just one.
I was on an evening shift from work that I had just started. I saw this lady and immediately I wanted her . Our eyes said hello and nothing more but I was in a different department so our breaks et all never merged. I had a friend who was interested in another girl ( who had a friend who was okay to me ). ANyways, his plan was that we would double date. He would ask the girl out and by default i would be matched with the friend. So here I am in a limbo. Do I pursue this bedroom eyes lady or wait for the fling with my friend.

Low and behold, I get this envelop on my desk. I open it, its a handwritten love letter. Not an email or typed letter. Handwritten with a puff of perfume. I opened and read the letter - the lady had professed her feelings to me and asked me to join her for coffee. So I thanked her and said why not. Her name was Sandra. We had a thrill of a relationship. It ended simply because she had a lot of past baggage that she hadnt dealt with. But just to say. We are not in Kansas anymore - Make the first move !!!

It is not about being bold . You can be bold yet refuse to express your feelings. This lady knows the implication of asking a man out directly just like the same guy might also know the implication. The game will always rig against the one that first expresses feelings

Your monicker reflects your personality

My guy is OD on "art of seduction" and he's taking it all out on you. He's on a game. If you ever dare ask him out, then he's winning.

The boy is so good that he's now living in your head rent free.

You think he loves you. Damnit!

Chillax. He's fake.

Shybeauty:
Hmmm! I feel like ranting. So, there is this guy who has been giving me attention since the beginning of this year. This attention is so glaring to everyone in my department that most of the girls are beefing me. Whenever he sees me in the department, he moves into close proximity to me without talking to me. He stares at me when I'm standing afar. He makes me feel special in the department. Sometimes, when i catch his eyes, he smiles discretely at me. Now, it's november and he's still not saying anything. I don't know what to do because earlier in the year, I didn't have much feeling for him. But now, I feel I have something for him. There is another girl in the department that is obviously trying to get him, but he doesn't give her attention but gives me attention. I am tired. I don't know what to do? I can't ask him out, that's out of it. I wouldn't.

If you've been in this situation before, how did you handle it? Please help me as I'm on the brink of asking him so i don't continue wasting my time?

most good guys or introverts are like that. Aunty set pride aside, this is 21st century. Go close to him, start conversations with him, draw him close and make him your friend. once he is comfortable with you, he will flow. left for me, I will ask that you approach, there is nothing wrong in telling a guy can we be friends.
unfortunately you're not a bad girl, he for don be your guys since.

Do you now see why they say bad girls usually end up with guy guys!