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| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 7:14am On Oct 15, 2022 |
[quote author=Owen247 post=117568339][/quote]That serves her right.. sometimes I have this regret in my heart that when her friend was giving me green light, I would have stopped being a nice guy and have a taste of her konto. Every time I remember the 2 nights she passed at my place and I was forming gentle man, E Dey pain me reach my bone. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 7:15am On Oct 15, 2022 |
Owen247:Then, what’s the point of calling it a relationship or what’s the point of even assuming it is a relationship in the first place ![]() So annoying. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by Emilia154(f): 7:23am On Oct 15, 2022 |
Zonefree:There are stil good girls out there but day scarce to c |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 7:34am On Oct 15, 2022 |
Emilia154:Yeah there are still good girls but they just have to be treated without emotions cos these good girls go bad easily. And one thing we must understand is that it’s difficult for a man to love you without showing his emotions. Women wants to be all emotional but do not want a man to be emotional too. The moment we become emotions boom!!! They take us for a fool. I just fold hand dey watch Nija feminine gender sha. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by doscar(m): 9:42am On Oct 15, 2022 |
pansophist:Hi sir, can I DM you. I have been a fan of you for many months, think we could connect. We've both got the same ideologies. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by Owen247: 11:43am On Oct 15, 2022*. Modified: 12:14pm On Oct 15, 2022 |
omaira:lol. My dear, if i tell u dat i have the ans to the above question then i am a big liar. Modified MAYBE; she thinks dat his principles dnt let him sleep wit a lady thats not his girlfriend [like me sha]. OR she agreed to date him becoz of hyper-exploitive reasons [i hope understand what i mean here]. OR she wants to date him as a standby backup plan, which could mean anything. MY THOUGHTS SHA, COULD BE TRUE OR FALSE. gud ladies stil dey 9ja but where u wan find dem dey go? And if u find dem, hurtful pasts might still make u to make dem think dat all 9ja men are scum. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by Owen247: 11:54am On Oct 15, 2022 |
omaira:bro, dnt let d bad/negetive pressures of this life spoil ur mind for u, because once fermented you cant undo it oh. look into ur heart, am sure you have sm joy dat u didnt give into her friends advances. Do u knw if it was their plan, which could lead to blackmailing u if u are taped. And for her friend, she now knws dat ur not a guy thats controlled by sex-Ur pride n respect is intact. N|B Its not every lady or female friend u should sleep wit. As for me? I cant even sleep wit u if u are not my girlfriend, if she likes make she stripe heaven and earth. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by jassmenn(m): 2:41pm On Oct 15, 2022 |
You were comfortable with her having boyfriend and still date you initially, so what did you expect? You don't want wht you did to someone be done to you too? Weldone oo, terminator omaira: |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 3:27pm On Oct 15, 2022 |
jassmenn:Lol... why’re u now pointing accusing fingers at me na ![]() |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by Nobody: 12:03pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
pansophist:Could you please tell where we could find good men? Decent patriarch. As a women that are wanting to japa, any country where they are decent patriarchs without the corruption of red pill or feminism. Warm regards |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by pansophist(m): 2:55pm On Oct 16, 2022*. Modified: 5:29pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
YawehismyGod:Na wa o, seems like Nigerian men and women are becoming incompatible with each other. ![]() You can find a good man through paid Christian dating sites, and put up a good profile with the best picture of how you could possibly look. So you better prepare for am, as in lose weight and have a skincare routine for months, before you go snap a picture. If you need a good profile composition, I can help you. Then, message men, you find interesting and of course, respond to men that find you interesting too. You will lose lots of absolutely good men if you focus so much on looks, something women, in my opinion, cant overlook. So make sure you are in a search of good man, not a designer boyfriend, or a gucci husband. Online will expose you to men from all countries, which you can streamline to your preferred region, but it's a good place to start. Especially since men carry the burden of performance. So just show up, if he likes you, you become his wahala. But if you have money and want to travel to places you can possibly meet traditionally godly men, then western Europe should be out of it. Unless of course, an everyday one-night stand is your thing, then welcome. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by pansophist(m): 3:17pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
omaira:Isn't it clear enough? Don't do unto others what you don't want them to do to you. She has a boyfriend, but you didn't care. You destroyed another man's relationship for your selfishness. And guess what? Everything goes both ways. Choosing to date you even when she has a boyfriend is something irresponsible women does. I won't trust such a woman. If another man shows up, she will port if she thinks he is better than you. And as fate may have it, you paid for your selfishness and foolishness. She is a serial cheater, and have handled more joystick than an urologist. See as you fooled yourself, passing through this burden for a trash of a person. What you sow, you shall reap. Be careful when you bend the structure of reality, meaning you should be careful when you do evil. The human mind is very limited to the operations of how the world works, and your ignorance of it will not exempt you from the punishment that comes with not doing the right thing. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by Nobody: 3:40pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
pansophist:Thanks.i appreciate .I meant which countries do you recommend.i know Slavic and latino women are feminine, gracious, and submissive. I am thinking of a race of men with the masculine equivalent(four cardinal virtues required of a man). Would have sent this privately but I want other woman to view our correspondence as it will help them to. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by pansophist(m): 3:47pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
YawehismyGod:Yes, slavic and Latino men also. The women can't be feminine and gracious if the men are not masculine. It's the opposite side of the same coin. I want to mention Arab men, but I assume say those ones na instant rejection from black women lol. In Africa, silent countries like Namibia, Botswana are good too, you don't have to go far. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by benqo01(m): 4:01pm On Oct 16, 2022 |
Seriously u ain't making sense u and d girl una no get sense |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 6:31am On Oct 17, 2022 |
pansophist:Nice write up... I do understand your point very well but if you must know, I earlier stated that the first lie the girl said to me was to tell me that her boyfriend broke up with her because he found out about me, that was a lie. The boyfriend broke up with her because he found out she was cheating on him with another guy and unfortunately that guy wasn’t me. So apparently I wasn’t the root cause of the young man’s failed relationship I was just trying to enjoy the p*ssy peacefully. But later run, she herself admitted that I am now the only guy in her life and I shouldn’t leave her cos her bf left her, that was when she made her commitment but they where just words. We can go on and on and on. These woman are just crazy. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 6:34am On Oct 17, 2022 |
benqo01:Lol... but how na boss ? |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 6:36am On Oct 17, 2022 |
pansophist:Are you sure these records are not just mere history on paper .Nigeria sometimes appears to be a safe heaven when you see how it’s been described on the papers |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by pansophist(m): 10:34pm On Oct 18, 2022 |
omaira:You talked like a guy with no female options, but even that is not a reason to do the wrong thing. You are still busy justifying your bad behaviors, and that is exactly why you suffer. If you want to keep spinning this to make yourself look innocent, just know that you are the one that will suffer, not me. Seems you have a problem with accountability. Let's get something clear. She has a boyfriend before you started dating her, doesn't matter if she cheated on her initial boyfriend with another guy, and they broke up, those are collateral damage. The situation favored you later on because she became single, but from the very beginning, you snatched her from her boyfriend. So what's your point? Then she went on a forking spree, and you kept forgiving, spending, and hoping she will change, thinking that makes you a good man, instead of a seasoned coward. Tolerating people's bad behavior is not love, its possessiveness, and foolishness. A cheater doesn't see you as a good man because you can forgive but sees you like an idiot that will keep forgiving, while she keeps messing up. You are so desperate for affection, that you have sacrificed your masculinity in the process. Leading a relationship as a man is not by spending only, is just one slice of the pizza. Just as you spend, you must be able to punish. The same way your father provides for you and flogs you if you mess up. Love comes with consequences, that's how you make your beloved better. Jesus loves you but will punish you when you sin. Hell is there waiting for the sinner, but somehow, he (Jesus) loves you. Ever thought about that? By the kind of problem a person faces, I can tell the kind of person they are. There are people out there that situations like yours will never happen to because they lead their life with intention and discipline. A good woman is a prize in a relationship just as you, the man., You seem to be so tolerant because you do not value yourself, and you accept subpar treatment. I pray no evil befalls you, but you are insulting yourself if, after all, you have worked for as a man, a woman will just come and shit on them all with her dirty attitude. It is you, the man or the possessor of value that has the incumbency to safeguard it, and you do that by not allowing a devilish woman into your life. Her beauty and yansh mean nothing, they fade, and real life is hard man. It's school fees, house rent, finding purpose, and going through the difficult journey of life with someone competent by your side. Will you in good faith tell yourself that this scum of a girl is a worthy partner to go on that everlasting journey with? If I ask you whether you hate yourself, you probably will beat your chest and say no, but by your actions, it doesn't seem to me that you are someone with self-love, since you kinda choose a bad person for yourself, to spend (waste) your time, energy and resources on. I hope when life's problem occurs and you need her help, she can help you as much as you help her, not disappear. As a man, you bear the burden of performance, and you must not bear such burden with a woman that lacks virtue, you are not born to suffer. Respect yourself. As you lay your bed, you shall lie. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 9:59pm On Oct 19, 2022 |
pansophist:I’m speechless. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by LordReed(m): 10:13am On Oct 30, 2022 |
omaira:LoLz! You were dating someone who already had a boyfriend and you are now rambling because she cheated on you. You are not serious. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by SenecaTheYonger: 10:53am On Oct 30, 2022 |
omaira:So are u guys back together? |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by placeofallure(f): 11:36am On Oct 30, 2022 |
omaira:Your girl is one of the ladies that make men have little or no regard for women. Going by your story, I wonder what else she could probably want. Beware of women that tell lies, you know perpetual liars that tell even needless lies. They're more dangerous than AK-47. I just tire! Ogbeni, shine your eye next time. Probably you spoilt her. Don't keep forgiving and forgiving. There should be consequences for every action taken. Good luck to you in your next relationship. I hope you have really grown and there won't be a repeat. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 4:38am On Nov 13, 2022 |
SenecaTheYonger:. No, haven’t called her for about 3 months now… but she does call and text. And I reply her messages and pick up her calls. But never for once have I called her within this 3 months. I hope I’ve not done anything wrong in taking her calls and replying her text ![]() |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 4:40am On Nov 13, 2022 |
placeofallure:. Thanks bro, there won’t be any repeat at all cos I quit communicating with any lady immediately I notice any red flag. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 4:42am On Nov 13, 2022 |
LordReed:. Lolz!!!… but to be sincere, did I do anything wrong ?? she had someone and she was willing to share the kpekus, I was not reluctant to accept her offer but now that she confirms I’m the only man in her life, there should be some restriction. STI is real!! |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by pussyeater(m): 4:59am On Nov 13, 2022 |
Lalami3232:This your last paragraph no make sense at all ohhh! How you go like to born thief rather than born mumu? Your brain dey pain you bro! ![]() |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by placeofallure(f): 5:57am On Nov 13, 2022 |
omaira:I'm a sis, not a bro. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by LordReed(m): 6:21am On Nov 13, 2022 |
omaira:Yes you were wrong. She's a free agent and generous with the kpekus, you wan come put gate for the thing. No sir you will enjoy the free agency by force. LoLz. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by zexy2030(m): 6:57am On Nov 13, 2022 |
omaira:U tried, she is the fool. In your next relationship, just watchout for the woman, men should always ask question about her past. Even God will tell you to confess your sins before he accepts you. The pyschology of confessing your wrongs before being forgiving is the greatest strength any human can have. Feel the remorse and the will to change. what brought her, its that same thing that will take her away. She broke up to join you. She has broken up with you to join another. She is cursed and the lifestyle is transgenerational and demonic. Women : weak willed, obstinate, manipulative, exaggerates and finally naughty When dealing with them be wise, on your grounds, make sure of her words(verify), endure, never take nonsense(refuse it immediately and dole out a measure of punishment for it not brutal or hateful punishment but correctional. Use emotional punches to correct a woman, physical corrections don't work on them. If you want to know more on emotional punches, just try locate her love language and stop it intentional till you feel like forgiving. But this works for a wife and not a girl friend. A cheating girlfriends is still for the street, let the who.re remain there, send her back there. After strolling the streets, let her return to find your home locked with a more beautiful woman in your home, enjoying the care of a man. |
| Re: A Sad Experience, But A Happy Growth. by omaira(op): 7:33am On Nov 13, 2022 |
placeofallure:Wow!! Such words coming from a sis… thumbs up to u… na sister like u I Dey find abeg |
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