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deep and insightful...this is more like well planned research, some ladies will never learn though.

From your write up I can tell u are a happy simp...
U ask a lady if she likes to sing ...lol wat a dull guy for words

Saintmary:
Mr man, you need to calm down.



From the little I've read if your posts I can give you a few pointers if you can chill a little


1. You need to understand that a lot of single people, both male and female are looking to settle down. You need someone, just like the ladies need someone too, so don't treat them like they are the ones who should be desperate just because they are females. People who are sensitive can observe these things even from text messages.


2. Be wary of where you pick your ladies from.


Looking for love on Twitter is not for the faint-hearted. It takes a lot of patience to filter out the kind of lady you want because you will meet a wide variety of people.

If you're the conservative type, just focus your search on one-on-one contacts.


3. Just chill generally, I believe you'll eventually find someone lg yourself.

do you approve approaching random girls on the street and asking for number. I'm a man

ArcFresky:
OP doesnt have a car or use an Iphone with 3 cameras .

My ugly friend dey yansh lecturer, bankers, anything with skirt since he bought his range rover.

My iphone is a brand new one. A replacement for the one stolen this year. I do not buy second-hand gadgets either.

Also, I was certain years old when someone lost over 50 million in today's currency because he wants to keep a girl. Never use money to get women, except your goal is to furk and move on.

Zane2point4:
You were making sense until you stated that when a girl ask you whether you have money to spend line!
Bro that grl is into hook up,she just went straight to the point!

I’ll run as far as i could if any stupidf grl ask me such condescending question too,shes not mannered and responsible!

Just like a guy asking a girl come lets go to a hotel and fucccccccck!

Ok.

Good for you.

Although there is a point in what the writer pointed out especially in his last paragraph. Some one the ladies somehow missed their real man in the name of hoping for the bigger men in the society thereby end up not even having any at the end.

Funny thread

Octopusssy:
Tell me that and I will ex you forever. It shows you have no respect for me as a person. Anyone who falls for this reverse psychology obviously has self issues

whats your ideal man?

Parizz:
do you approve approaching random girls on the street and asking for number. I'm a man

IT IS best to get do that but be smart about how you go about it. If you are shy or lack confidence with approaching women, use this youtube link to help https://www.youtube.com/c/socialanimal

HantaVirus:
Only fools and low esteemed fougaisies like the OP run after nigerian women

If you're up to standard and you know your worth,women will worship you everywhere.....I have women messaging me on IG & Snap and I ignore them cos you can't see me on this social networks and not trip....

I can't count the number of women I've ignored in my daily life....Some are hoes in disguise while some are decent working class women.

The last time I wooed a nigerian woman was 2009

Yeah, I get this one too. Will work towards it.

Understand; ladies( I dare to say most of them) want a financially capable man who will take care of their needs and possibly that of their offspring( the level of demand varies greatly from among them ) , and if you don't measure up as a man some of them will give you all sort of attitude.

Here is the good news; you have the latitude to walk away and go for a lady of your class/standard (there are lots of em out there) and that may even be better for you according to research.

Remember; you shouldn't waste time on the wrong people. Some people are simply not meant for you. And the earlier you understand this the better.

bestdudes:
My male friends do not see anything wrong with me... so why should I bother about a gender that makes poor judgment?

There is a saying that if every one you meet seems mad, it's time to start examining your sanity. You might be the one making poor judgement.

I am one of the kindest people you will ever come across, a flaw if not properly managed.

Kindness does not necessarily give you the girl of your requirements. What can get you any girl of your dreams I to find the needs of the woman and fill them or at least promise or attempt to fill them.

Also, the summary of my thread is about basic human decency... They lack it. WE ARE NOT EVEN TALKING about relationship or dating now because I discarded these girls in the "lets get to know each other" phase. I have not asked them out.

If you don't ask them out then, what do you actually want from them. After a certain age girls don't like guys who just come to waste their time.

Saintmary:
If you're being a gentleman, and she's not returning same vibes, please walk away immediately



Don't put your gold in the snout of a pig.



Gentlemen are becoming rare nowadays, so please be yourself and save your personality for a woman who deserves you.




Among men, there are good men, and bad too, likewise, among women, there are good women and bad women too



Your job is to filter and find the good woman for yourself.



Believe me, one smart good girl will meet you and hold you fast, so don't miss out on such a beautiful possibility because of fine face, ass, and booty.



Good luck.

Glad you get it now. That is why I walked away and not force it.

wirinet:
There is a saying that if every one you meet seems mad, it's time to start examining your sanity. You might be the one making poor judgement.

Kindness does not necessarily give you the girl of your requirements. What can get you any girl of your dreams I to find the needs of the woman and fill them or at least promise or attempt to fill them.


If you don't ask them out then, what do you actually want from them. After a certain age girls don't like guys who just come to waste their time.

see my big bros oooo.. good morning sir. And thanks for your input. I will take them seriously.

qtguru:
Pele o, continue the disparaging discourse about women. 20 topics about women on NL everyday, haba talk on weed too nau lol

sadly, I do not smoke weed or drink alcohol.

bestdudes:
My male friends do not see anything wrong with me... so why should I bother about a gender that makes poor judgment?

I am one of the kindest people you will ever come across, a flaw if not properly managed.

Also, the summary of my thread is about basic human decency... They lack it. WE ARE NOT EVEN TALKING about relationship or dating now because I discarded these girls in the "lets get to know each other" phase. I have not asked them out.

Most ladies don't like nice or kind guys, they think they do, but the opposite is the case.

They also like money, no matter how decent a lady is, she will be tempted to 'play with fire' once you have money and might eventually get burnt in the process. I think one or two of them sized you up and felt you might not have the kind of money they expect (which might not be true). If you own a Range Rover and Bentley and also live in Parkview, Ikoyi, the stories will be different.

I actually like your style anyway, very decisive. If not for anything, it would command respect.

Cheers bro.

bestdudes:
sadly, I do not smoke weed or drink alcohol.

Okay just gender studies lol i feel you bro

Parizz:
do you approve approaching random girls on the street and asking for number. I'm a man

It's usually after some conversation or maybe you have something in common like bank etc


These things are simple.

You were boring when chatting with these ladies. Maybe you are a typical boring person or just a "too serious minded" person. If you had tried to playful/naughty when conversing with these ladies and still gave you the attitudes you listed above then this writeup is justified.

bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

stop engaging baboons,
STOP ENGAGING BABOONS


You people won't hear!

highchief1:
if u wanted to spend money u would have slept with the 3.I met 10 girls lately and the 10 gave me one answer.”I don’t have sex for Nthg if u sleep with me u must settle me.i left the 10 of them.Nigerian women below the age of 35 are prostitutes.they now call it hook up.

my brother. God bless you. Worrying yourself over a naija gal is pure waste of time. When i look at an average naija girl, i see a person filled with herd mentality and dont know what they want. They are blank upstairs

bestdudes:
My assessment beyond their physical attribute is why I decided to leave them alone. If an adult doesn't know how to be decent in their engagement, I can't help them.

You fail to realize that an average Nigerian woman have been spoilt to the point they do not often know when they misbehave because men like you will be there to tolerate their rubbish.

I am sad you are replying this dude. You get time o. I fully relate with your write up. I'm currently talking to a lady who's King of drama queens.

Kobojunkie:
1. Women also do that which you have stated in bold up there there so why do you presume you are the first to think of doing such?,

2. I don't convince myself of anything of such nor does the word "luck" and "relationship" go together in my dictionary so forgive me for really not seeing whatever moot point you are attempting to make with this response of yours.

Something about your person attracted those 4 girls to you yo begin with and even with you saying you have cut them off, it doesn't mean you will not still go out and attract others like them , maybe with better ability to hide their flaws next time. Rather than stone the gals what you ought instead do is look inside of you to change whatever is necessary so you attract better women next time. Coming here to accuse them as though they forced themselves on you somehow ain't going to help you any.

Am just trying so hard to be by u but
NO.

FuckTheMod:
An average Nigerian girl is very materialistic!!!
If she's beautiful then the mentality and entitlement increases to 99%. This is because, there are some HÒRNY men out there that will do silly things just to fucƙed them. These are the men spoiling them and because they're GREEDY, THEY'LL ALWAYS FALL FOR THEIR TRICK...
Just imagine what the bodycount of those 3 girls would be...
Most are SLÚTS and WHÓRES, especially if in their mid twenties and early 30. They don't give a shît about you, how you feel or your emotions. IT DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU HAVE GENUINE INTENTION OR NOT, What they're basically interested in is what you can offer them and how they can control or manipulate you into keeping you for themselves alone if they're getting something from you.
YOU CAN NEVER BE A MAIN BOYFRIEND. THEY DON'T HAVE LONG-TERM MAIN BOYFRIENDS.
She could have 5 other boyuaTIME, but the

god bless you. You will never lack

bestdudes:
When you say I attract such, I laugh cos how do you know what someone is made up of if you do not interact with them?

Is it written on their head?

I am not the first to experience it neither will I be the last. The point I was trying to make is that women can’t eat their cake and have it.

You can’t be the one with repulsive attitude and still wonder why decent guys are not coming for you.

I don’t know what you are reading or comprehending from all I wrote.

Yet , you try to make excuse for the girls and blame me who chose to avoid trouble after I notice red flags.

stop
Replying that fellow.

Yoighaman:
Most ladies don't like nice or kind guys, they think they do, but the opposite is the case.

They also like money, no matter how decent a lady is, she will be tempted to 'play with fire' once you have money and might eventually get burnt in the process. I think one or two of them sized you up and felt you might not have the kind of money they expect (which might not be true). If you own a Range Rover and Bentley and also live in Parkview, Ikoyi, the stories will be different.

I actually like your style anyway, very decisive. If not for anything, it would command respect.

Cheers bro.

Thanks. I appreciate this.

Parizz:
is it okay to approach a random girl on the street and ask for her number?

Depends on your approach.

Stop wasting your time and resources on Nigeria girls. They are rotten.

jeromestarks:
Mumu Op. Instead of you to all go straight to your point.
Hi girl, you look beautiful.
*Thank you.

Where do u live?
* (She says location or blah blah blah)

I really like the way you look. I will like to date u.
*Ok ( you go ahead and ask for number. Don't do unnecessary call. Call only to arrange location for meeting)

And if she's gave excuse, ask her if u can be FWB.
If she said No. leave her.
If she said Yes. Arrange with her and fvck her.

No time for long story.
You dey dey form man in suit. Ewu like you.

See vawulence here

wirinet:
What are the requirements of the OP? He never stated them.

Its easier to get a Nigerian girl on a date wn you have a car, thats my point.

Secondly, he himself knows his requirements. since OP wanted a serious person, there was no use wasting time,money and resources

bestdudes:
My iphone is a brand new one. A replacement for the one stolen this year. I do not buy second-hand gadgets either.

Also, I was certain years old when someone lost over 50 million in today's currency because he wants to keep a girl. Never use money to get women, except your goal is to furk and move on.

Thats why the ladies are not for him and he made the right decsion to dump them.