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Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Banbanna(m): 2:53pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
HantaVirus: Yes o. That's because you didn't let societal standards or expectations determine/dictate your state of happiness. I tend to live within my own convenience, shutting out any unnecessary pressure. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Jman06(m): 2:53pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
CheapHomes1:But does that purpose even make sense to you Why do I have to toil day and night to become a suitable marriageable man just so I can get another individual who would become my "companion" in this world so full of people 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Hassanmaye(m): 2:54pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Conner44:What about the village that was discovered in Cross River State where people give small girls to settle debts?? |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by ekems2020(m): 2:56pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Real talk...the whole marriage concept is a societal arrangement thought to control the human population. But can't human population be controlled by other means? And what would be wrong if some women don't give birth...of course, many women out there don't give birth whether married or unmarried...so, there's something cynical about this societal arrangement. Just thinking... KennethEnyi: |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by emerged01(m): 2:59pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
MikeofAfrica:Marriage can never be a hindrance. It is a blessing when you have a good partner. Those who are breaking new grounds are married with kids and if they are divorced,they are on their way to another marriage. Elon musk is married with kids,Mark is married with kids,Dangote is married with kids,Otedola is married with kids e.tc . Marriage can never be a hindrance. With a good partner,you will achieve more. A failed marriage shouldnt define marriage. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by CheapHomes1: 3:02pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Jman06: If the purpose of marriage doesn't make sense to you, why do you think it shouldn't make sense to me. If you don't want it to make sense to you, that's your choice. Like I said, when folks like eventually get in and start failing at it, you start blaming the marriage. Who asked you become a "suitable marriageable man just so you can get another individual who would become your 'companion' in this world so full of people"? |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by godofuck231: 3:03pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Flamemignon1:except you want born bastard , |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Menclothing: 3:03pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Don't go and marry Be deceiving urself |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by godofuck231: 3:04pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:nope when you hit 50 reality sets in , with age comes regrets , wait a little ,you will soon be there |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by godofuck231: 3:05pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:ask his wife |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Nobody: 3:14pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Jman06: You are even single No wonder. Until you are married, you don't have the rite to contribute to topics like this |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by 2kurupt(m): 3:15pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Marry first |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by MikeofAfrica: 3:20pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
CheapHomes1: Two friends , James and Paul, graduated from the University of Lagos same year. They did not get their dream jobs after school hence they both began teaching in a private school in Lagos. James was still determine to get his dream job in an oil company. Hence he saved his salary for five years and proceed for a PG course related to Oil and Gas. He passed the course and later got his dream job. Mainwhile, Paul who graduated with a better grade at UniLag got married while teaching at the Private School. He spent a lot of money in organizing a wedding party that meets his wife taste. Paul also had to rent a better apartment . After the marriage, his wife's two young siblings moved into his apartment. Even though his wife was paying her siblings school fees, Paul was responsible for their feedings and other needs. Nine months later, his wife gave birth giving him the main responsibility. Hence by the time, James enrolled for the PG course, Paul was interested but had no money. He has to kill the dream to meet his family responsibility. I hope you can see how marriage before fulfilling your purpose on Earth can prevent you from fulfilling your purpose on Earth. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Adakintroy: 3:23pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
If you say no be achievement na achievement. If you say na achievement no be achievement. Depend on the degree of condescension and pride person take pronounce. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Banbanna(m): 3:23pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
MikeofAfrica:You're right about this. Marriage is far more optional/expendable in the developed world than in this part. And it's interesting to know that they don't stigmatise or look down on the unmarried as we mostly do here, where the greater majority see it as an achievement. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Kobojunkie: 3:27pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
godofuck231:None of that is in fact a truth. The world now records so many single folks above 50 who don't operate under the delusion of yours there. So rather than focus on blaming externals for your loneliness issues, look inside of you to figure out where the problem you have there with loneliness. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Kobojunkie: 3:28pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
godofuck231:now you rope his wife into it? |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by jclassiq(m): 3:28pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Marriage is an achievement o. Let's not deceive ourselves. Do you know what it takes to convince another human being to be with you indefinitely till you two die? Guy... Reason am. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by qtx(m): 3:30pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Abi1985:OP, Nigerians are scammers, therefore i dont want to associate with any Nigerian, all fulanis are terrorist hence i will never be friends with any fulani man. That is generalization. Go and marry , leave stories. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Connected1: 3:30pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Bobbiee:Coming from a very logical point of view. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by MikeofAfrica: 3:34pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
emerged01: Those people that you mentioned did not make marriage their priority in life. They eventually got married after they have laid a solid foundation for their carrier . Even Dangote is presently not married. According to him, he does not have the time to commit himself to a Marriage as his business comes first. It is that mentality that made Dangote to become the richest black man on Earth. If a young man spend his youthful days thinking that he will become a fulfilled person when he gets married, that man has sign a contract with poverty. Money is the horse that will pull the cart of marriage. Hence we should not have time for marriage until we have make enough money to sustain a marriage. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Cde1: 3:36pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Not |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by treatise: 3:38pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Slmgirldippussy:He is 14 years old and has seamless access to mobile network data services. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by bluefilm: 3:38pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Marriage is a big time achievement. For the ladies. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by MikeofAfrica: 3:39pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
emerged01: Those people that you mentioned did not make marriage their priority in life. They eventually got married after they have laid a solid foundation for their carrier . Even Dangote is presently not married. According to him, he does not have the time to commit himself to a Marriage as his business comes first. It is that mentality that made Dangote to become the richest black man on Earth. If a young man spend his youthful days thinking that he will become a fulfilled person when he gets married, that man has sign a contract with poverty. It is a blessing to have a good partner. However no good wife will allow her husband to take certain risks. Unfortunately, it is these risks that will make a man to break new grounds. Money is the horse that will pull the cart of marriage. Hence we should not have time for marriage until we have make enough money to sustain a marriage. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by prettyliz(f): 3:40pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Abi1985:Today a friend was telling me that he will not advice anyone to marry our of pressure but because the person is right.. says he is going through hell in his marriage now..the most important thing is let God lead you 1 Like |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by godofuck231: 3:44pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Kobojunkie:I though you knew him that well since you concluded, never jump into other peoples conclusions, that man never complained to you |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Allisgud: 3:50pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Marriage is an achievement only to those who married the right person,if what u are feeling right now is like running from it,I know u wount call it an achievement |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by Princesslee: 3:51pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Marriage is a very big achievement bro author=Abi1985 post=118445082]Na marry you marry, don't come and be disturbing those who are not married. Just because you marry today does not mean you are better than those who are not married. Please do not let your friend wedding oppress you, some married people are suffering and smiling. They will not tell you that the wife they marry na Jezebel associate or a runs girl or the husband they marry is a womanizer or an abusive man. They will do one big wedding today, then 9 months or 3 years later they divorce. Personally I enjoy weddings because I can eat some correct food. If your people are asking when are you getting married? Tell them when you do not want marry a Jezebel or a wicked or selfish man. Because after the wedding, you are on your own. Na so they arrange one woman from village for me to marry, I just dey laugh and ignore. I enjoyed my bachelorhood, please let me enjoy my life. I do not want problem. Marry when you want marry, do not let anyone pressure you to marry or who you will marry. [/quote] |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by litaninja(m): 3:55pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
Anything anyone decides to tag as an achievement for their self is an achievement. Whether it makes any iota of sense to others is another matter entirely. |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by CheapHomes1: 3:59pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
MikeofAfrica: sorry i dont "see how marriage before fulfilling your purpose on Earth can prevent you from fulfilling your purpose on Earth". you told just one story of two guys and you think it is a basis for condemning marriage across the whole earth made up of 7billion people. pls try again. Which one is "carrier"? pls tell me, are there no married men and women in Africa and across who are married and successful? are the successful people in the world today unmarried? |
Re: Marriage Is Not An Achievement by int0x80(m): 4:00pm On Nov 17, 2022 |
100% |
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