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bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

Look at this joker.

What's so special about you that will make a girl settle for you?

Have you considered the fact that those girls also have their own choices?

Have you also considered the fact that those girls could be lesbians?

Think more diversely before you reach your conclusions.

@bestdudes You seem like a good guy and the three ladies seemed like good ones too. Good Girls don't like Good Guys. They like guys that will treat them like thrash. And Vice versa

bestdudes:
Some weeks ago, this thread titled: "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" graced the Nairaland front page.

Here is a link to the thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7368480/not-all-30yrs-old-ladies

It is highly impossible that averagely pretty and above-average pretty ladies didn't meet serious men in their 20s. It is not possible. The problem with many ladies is that they have a very poor selection and also have a very bad attitude that chases good men away.

I am going to share my recent experience with 3 ladies and why I decided to walk away.

Lady 1: I had been chatting with this lady on Twitter without asking for her number. It has been on and off for more than one year. So about 3 months ago, I decided to ask for her number, which she delayed but later gave it on the same day.

For the records, this lady is pretty, she looks very much like Rita Dominic, very striking resemblance. Just to give you an idea that she is pretty.

We chatted a few times and then I decided to call. The first two were brief but the 3rd was much longer and somewhat boring because I was doing most of the topic or angle infusion, more like I was the one bringing up topics to sustain the interactions.

Before that 3rd call, I sent an SMS to ask if she was still at work and she replied to the SMS and said she was still at work. So I had to wait for about 1 hour before I called.

After the call, I texted her to say she has a good voice. I asked whether she sings or loves singing. It was just an innocent question borne out of curiosity because I could imagine she is a good singer with such a voice

She didn't reply to the SMS. Of course, I expected that, knowing how ladies behave over something as simple as that. While on Twitter, I asked whether she got the SMS, and she said that she saw it but didn't have airtime to reply lol...

That was a lie of course. I wonder why she would lie, perhaps she wanted to "form" or what? Ma'am, it was just a simple curious question.

I decided to take a stroll to her profile that same day and there I saw what completely turned me off. On her profile, she said people think she enjoys calls but she does not want calls and that they will think chatting her up on WhatsApp is better but she does not enjoy that either.

If that is the case, why give your number out? Why not isolate yourself from people entirely so that no one interacts with you? Are you better than those who took out time to spend it with you via calls?

I interpreted her mentality and worldview as someone who feels too important and does appreciate the effort of people who try to reach out to her or interact.

On seeing that, It was disappointing to note what she thought of others who called or chatted her up, I mean these are people's time that can't be gotten back lol.

Lady 2: This one is from Twitter as well. We started talking from a thread and I decided to DM her. I liked her energy. She was light and responsive, very open and communicative.

She started asking for my picture because I do not display my picture on Twitter. I was reluctant initially but sent it cos she persisted... after much chat, we exchanged numbers and I chatted her up on WhatsApp 2 days later. We talked about hanging out in December but she said she would be traveling to her state for the festive season.

While we were chatting, I had called before then, I simply asked whether she has entered another relationship after the last one she mentioned on Twitter.

Guess her response? she said "Do you have money to spend on my head"? For a less than 1 week interaction?

Oh, God... I knew I wouldn't want to have anything to do with this one beyond WhatsApp or Twitter. I reduced my interactions with her and it died.

For the two ladies above, I do not often remember they are on my contact anymore except when I see their status lol.

Let's move on

Lady 3: Met this one after church and we were going in the same direction. I spoke to her and we exchange numbers. We chatted, and I called. We arranged to meet up. On the day of our meeting, which was the first after that Sunday, she asked me whether I have knowledge of digital marketing or social media marketing. I said I do but it is not something that can be discussed on WhatsApp, except we meet so that I can explain it to her.

Though chatting her up was very slow as she is rarely online. She takes a few hours to reply lol.

We met and the meeting was more of a lecture with me answering all her questions. I enjoyed it anyway.

Knowing that I exchanged numbers because I was attracted to her, I had to find a way to subtly give hint. Now, here is the challenge I had. She increasingly started replying with monosyllables like "yeah", okay, no, lol, ,

On noticing that, I knew it was time to exit from her life and I did.

The above 3 ladies are pretty facially and above average... With their attitude that made me leave them alone, tomorrow, they will come online to write "Not All 30yrs Old Ladies Were Approached By Serious Men In Their 20's" lol and some persons will be saying it is true blah blah...

Girls are the architect of their own misfortune. You will see a man being a decent gentleman and develop a habit that chases them away. In the same vein, they will accept the guys who do not have any good intentions toward them.

Others may believe that thread but definitely not me. I do not believe that a girl, especially the pretty ones, will live from age 1 to 30 and never come across a man with good intentions. IT IS NOT POSSIBLE!

The summary of all this is that girls don't know what they want and the reason so is many from they are fully conscious of their body features to their emotional instability.

Saintmary:
Mr man, you need to calm down.



From the little I've read if your posts I can give you a few pointers if you can chill a little


1. You need to understand that a lot of single people, both male and female are looking to settle down. You need someone, just like the ladies need someone too, so don't treat them like they are the ones who should be desperate just because they are females. People who are sensitive can observe these things even from text messages.


2. Be wary of where you pick your ladies from.


Looking for love on Twitter is not for the faint-hearted. It takes a lot of patience to filter out the kind of lady you want because you will meet a wide variety of people.

If you're the conservative type, just focus your search on one-on-one contacts.


3. Just chill generally, I believe you'll eventually find someone good for you as long as you keep being yourself.


The most important part is to settle down wisely to avoid future problems.
Good luck.

the best response so far.....going for girls on Twitter or any advance social media platform is a no no for me....

Only a simp man will take girls of those age range serious

Those girls of those age range are immature look for a lady whose eyes have seen hell you will never regret it

All this only apply to 9ja girls or women! You need to leave that country to realize that ladies are different everywhere else but 9ja. I swear!!!!!!

bestdudes:
how do we do it? if you don't mind, can you drop your aza here or your phone number let me text you? I almost missed the mention.

I can't post my account details or phone number on a public forum like this but my email address is ....

Tenrack:
do you get paid for trying to be correct all the time, or is this just a bad habit? Shey dem dey pay you ni? Must you be correct all the time?? Nawa o.

I strive to be correct all the times because foolishness is not an option for me.

MNDY:
Which people?
Women are wired that way jare!
If you do gra-gra to get her, she will use that to do shakara for you.
But if you make her feel less of herself, she will be running after you.
There are many aspects to flow in different ways with a woman.
He can motivate her to be a successful woman.
But to get her attention, a man should yab her and pretend not to really like her, that's the formula for that one.
It is how you women operate. To beat you to your game, men should operate like you. VERY SIMPLE.

this can only work on naive timid girls

You want to judge books by their covers and expect accuracy?
Okay.

Kobojunkie:
1. You are kidding, right?

2. Some of you are truly resistant to learning. So at your age, you think the only way you can learn anything about a woman or even a man is only when you are in a relationship with her or him?

You have not realized at this age of yours that your can assess a person past the physical attributes before deciding whether to even engage such a being or not? You don't know that you can look around that person ...at relationships around them to learn some substantial information about their makeup and personality? You think it is only when you directly interact and engage the person that you learn what, truth? ...LOL.....

bestdudes:
1. My assessment beyond their physical attribute is why I decided to leave them alone. If an adult doesn't know how to be decent in their engagement, I can't help them.

2. You fail to realize that an average Nigerian woman have been spoilt to the point they do not often know when they misbehave because men like you will be there to tolerate their rubbish.

Adults come in all shapes and sizes. Yes, arseholes abound, some of them raised as such. If you had a friend, for example, who goes around complaining about all the adult arseholes he runs into everyday, don't you think that would be indicative of your friend having issues he may need to work through himself?

2. The same can be said of the average Nigerian male who thinks the world ought to be shaped according to his preferences. Rather than become more mature in the way he engages potential partners, he instead whines and complains about how those he himself chose, this without first scrutinizing them well, turn out not to his taste.

HilcomTech:
People like you are the enemies of women. You want to blame the OP for the razz attitudes of the ladies.

Here's reality ... those very same woman OP rejected are likely to be accepted by some other persons out there. The world, especially that of women, does not revolve around you because you have a dick. Learn this and obtain wisdom.

Starz825:
You were successful at that cos you made that statement to a lady who isn't sure of her identity...


If girl know say she fyn ...and you tell her such....
She will make sure you guys become sworn enemies....cos she will get you are trying to play a reverse psychology on her....that's if she's smart though...

There are smart ladies not necessarily intelligent but smart.......they know your tricks ...they will fall in love with you for some other meaningful reasons best to their knowledge and not some sort of cheap tricks

You can't use that trick on all Ladies....

It works all the time because these girls are being chased by a lot of men on daily basis. So, if you meet a pretty woman and you did not praise her, she would want to find out why. Just like swapping digits with a woman and you aren’t able to call her for so long, even the first time, she would be curious about you and try as much as she can to know you.

I had a couple of women called me gay simply because I never called or took the initiative.

Women don’t want you to act desperate on them.

AbujaMenFashion:
Chairman is attracted to big nyash, popping skin, and big breast

And ladies who have such physical attributes couldn't have good attitude? Only ugly looking girls have good attitude?

ArcFresky:
1. How is collecting number and chatting/calling already a relationship?

2. You can never know someone completely from just observation, hell, you can never even know someone completely after 10 years of living with them.

1. Do you collect numbers strangers in order that you remain strangers even as you chat/call each other?
2. Observation has more than proven a better way of learning about anyone as rather than feed on the lies the person tells you, you can instead Observe that person's actual real life interactions with their environment and neighbors to get an idea of who they really are and what they truly stand for.

222Martins:
Very funny but true. I once met a young beautiful curvy girl who was a pastor's daughter.

Knowing she is definitely going to be getting attention from men, i switched game. After interacting with her and telling her what i do for a living, i told her i have a personal principle of having nothing to do with pastors' daughters. I no get strength for their holier than thou attitude. Guess what? She started trying her best to prove to me that pastor's daughters are humans too and not what the world paint them to be. Today, she is my wife

Give me five. I’m so glad that you understand the game.

bestdudes:
Well, I am an introvert too. And I do answer calls and chat with people. There is something called courtesy.

I am an introverted soul from time to time myself and I have not called more than 2 people on the phone since the beginning of 2022. I don't chat either yet I am on Nairaland forum much of the time. We are all of us different for good reasons.

bestdudes:
My male friends do not see anything wrong with me... so why should I bother about a gender that makes poor judgment?

I am one of the kindest people you will ever come across, a flaw if not properly managed.

Also, the summary of my thread is about basic human decency... They lack it. WE ARE NOT EVEN TALKING about relationship or dating now because I discarded these girls in the "lets get to know each other" phase. I have not asked them out.

Your first paragraph is the true heart of your needless thread.

Did you think all 3 of them didn't notice you're a misogynist? A lot of you actually think that gender can't judge you accurately and see through you. Later on, you turn around and look for how to vilify them in long half-cocked threads.

Tradepunter2:
Total RUBBISH

Na men like you go dy force themselves inside woman life and will end up getting served...........

continue..................................

But you are absolutely wrong as that has yet to happen to me to date.

Princess80:
A lady who is beautiful knows she is.
Most of them already built their strong self esteem following praises from other people, trying to bring them down wont do you any good.
I personally get attracted to guys who appreciate my beauty and feel disgusted about those who tries to destroy me emotionally.

Unless you are already into the guy and that you would like it more if he tells you that you are pretty. Aside that hearing everyday you are beautiful becomes boring. What are you up to here?

Kobojunkie:
Here's reality ... those very same woman OP rejected are likely to be accepted by some other persons out there. The world, especially that of women, does not revolve around you because you have a dick. Learn this and obtain wisdom.

Lol.

Sometimes you're like this

arantess:
It's like you have issues with comprehension cos his narrative is quite clear

It is indeed clear in revealing he has a problem picking the right ones which is what I said.

Spiff20:
Simp

That is far from my reality though.

Carot:
are you cheap?

Please direct that question to your mother or whoever failed to train you properly.

Dshocker:
Ntorr.... Women go lay egg for ya head.

That's never happened before though. So?

Spandau:
You got his write up all wrong. You didn't even come close to the moral of his narrative. And you're full of bitterness . Just saying.

His write up assumed the fault lay with the women which is what I explained is faulty reasoning on his part renderings his entire argument invalid.

Spandau:
All this your psychobabble amounts to nothing. The Op just shared his personal experience based on a recent topic. Oga o.

Personal anecdotes based on subjective delusions - since OP all but concluded from the beginning the fault lay with the the and not himself - don't amount to truths that can be generalized.

litaninja:
You want to judge books by their covers and expect accuracy?
Okay.

I never advised anyone to judge a book by its cover. Your character is not your cover but who you are.

Divay2:
Whatever

If you are not a Virgin don't come closer to me

I welcome only Virgins in my Life

Don't say i did not warn you

You welcome him to come and do what exactly?
a. Pay your Bills?
b. Hang around you?
c. wash plate and clothes for you?

What exactly will he be benefiting from the Connection with you?

BTW are you a virgin?

DoMeGood09:
Unless you are already into the guy and that you would like it more if he tells you that you are pretty. Aside that hearing everyday you are beautiful becomes boring. What are you up to here?

No entirely true.

Appreciating someone's beauty is enough to brighten up their day and get u a cheap score for a date.

Except the lady needs your validation for a job, You cant treat her like an asshole and still get royal treatment.
Ladies are naturally drawn to circumstances which makes them feel comfortable

Op..you are the problem.

Most of your Convo is too logical. You don't do logical with women.

Go emotional and act like a boyfriend from day one...even from Twitter.

Peace

Don't give up...the 4th lady won't disappoint you.