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So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.


Please advise me.

I will advise you to quite now if you want to live long

Seems like your woman has excess baggage…


Can’t place my fingers on anything concrete.


Just instincts. Gut instinct!
But don’t take my words for it. I am just a stranger.
Try to make your relationship work. As you stated no one is perfect.

. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there.

.Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days.

. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover.

. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her

. While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked?

So, after all these redflags, you're still asking if she's cheating on you

Is it that your brain is too shallow to process that your beloved girlfriend is our community project?

OP, no one is perfect. Simple

Oops am happy to know you are already a smart guy. However be more careful of her!

jogsman01:
OP, no one is perfect. Simple

So, because no one is perfect, he should now personalize and embezzle our collective dividend?

Hmmm...


Relationship matters dey tire me.

Brother, why are you trying so hard to personalize community property?

Some people don't like to talk about certain things or try to play safe... which I suspect is going on here.

99.8 percent of Nigeria girls are cheat so move on man

I believe she's pretending because she sees you as a nice guy and wanna take advantage of that and settle down with you.....She looks like the wild type that's getting ready to retire.



My fear is that she shouldn't be doing it low-key if you eventually marry her.




OP you funny sef o, why would you be asking a Nigerian girl of her body count and expect her to tell you?.....If it happens that she mentioned any figure just multiply by 5 or 6. That's the actual figure.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.

She mentioned a local politician as a friend of hers prior to now. I was curious, the man is quite notorious with women and serious guys don't like to come near any lady that comes off as being close to the said politician. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there. That the said politician wanted to date her but she declined because she doesn't date married men and their friendship ended because he wanted to date her and she doesn't want to. I didn't quite believe the story but took it with a pinch of salt.

When she visited me at Ibadan some months ago, she received a call from a male neighbour of hers which she abruptly stopped midway. Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days. My question was "is that how he calls every neighbour to know how they are doing or what's special in your case?

On her birthday, we were together, I saw a few messages on her phone that really didn't sit well with me. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her. Both of them married. She explained it away that there was nothing between she and them.
At this point, I chose to softpedal on marriage plans, even though I have made enquiries at the registry, I didn't move past that. Whereas she gave me the phone number of her paternal relation for me to call on engagement details, I put a hold on that. Also, the money I credited her account with to buy engagement ring, I left there without further action.

I visited Lagos and paid her a visit, she lives alone and told me no man ever visited her place and the moment I came, she happily announced me to her neighbors as her fiance.
While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked? She got up, walked the guy out and came back to apologize. That the guy is her colleague at work and knows her place because he assists her in getting stuffs done whenever she needs help and that he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to pay a visit on her. And didn't call your line? She said she missed his call. I declined to speak further.

Earlier, she had declined to give her body count even when I gave mine. However, in our discussions, various names of her past relationships keep popping up meanwhile she had given me this look and act of a church girl.

Please advise me.

Comerade, slow down and first open your eyes well well...

I haven't read the story...but
YES!!! She is





I just finished reading it....and I was right after all.

Nah runs girl be ur babe, the person below me said, she might not be cheating but could be lying
So funny

U are taking things too fast...

She might not be cheating, but she is a hell of a liar...

She dey hide her past now, when these past start showing demselves, u sure say u go fit handle am..

for her mind now, she is done with her past but is her past done with her?...
just take things slow now, bro.. make instablog no go carry ur mata

Sit her down and knack better talk inside her skull, after that dey observe, no rush anything....

They will come now to tell you how you have Trust issues....

see "bend down select" red flags nah, e plenty
If you still confuse on what to do then it is either you know little about women manipulative skills or you doing mumu for love. Either one las las your eye go clear if you do the wedding.

Is my girlfriend cheating?

No she is not cheating on you but rather just cheating on someone else and not you.

The lord is your strength patient man

Leave her . Angel will come ur way as wife . U are not serious . Monitoring who u have not paid her bride price

actually mumu oh sorry OP, no one is perfect.. besides, if you no marry all the bad bad girls comot for street, who go marry them? me?

I don't understand what the question is and what advice you seek.

Communication seems to be lacking. Or you don't believe what she says.

Good luck.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.

She mentioned a local politician as a friend of hers prior to now. I was curious, the man is quite notorious with women and serious guys don't like to come near any lady that comes off as being close to the said politician. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there. That the said politician wanted to date her but she declined because she doesn't date married men and their friendship ended because he wanted to date her and she doesn't want to. I didn't quite believe the story but took it with a pinch of salt.

When she visited me at Ibadan some months ago, she received a call from a male neighbour of hers which she abruptly stopped midway. Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days. My question was "is that how he calls every neighbour to know how they are doing or what's special in your case?

On her birthday, we were together, I saw a few messages on her phone that really didn't sit well with me. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her. Both of them married. She explained it away that there was nothing between she and them.
At this point, I chose to softpedal on marriage plans, even though I have made enquiries at the registry, I didn't move past that. Whereas she gave me the phone number of her paternal relation for me to call on engagement details, I put a hold on that. Also, the money I credited her account with to buy engagement ring, I left there without further action.

I visited Lagos and paid her a visit, she lives alone and told me no man ever visited her place and the moment I came, she happily announced me to her neighbors as her fiance.
While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked? She got up, walked the guy out and came back to apologize. That the guy is her colleague at work and knows her place because he assists her in getting stuffs done whenever she needs help and that he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to pay a visit on her. And didn't call your line? She said she missed his call. I declined to speak further.

Earlier, she had declined to give her body count even when I gave mine. However, in our discussions, various names of her past relationships keep popping up meanwhile she had given me this look and act of a church girl.

Please advise me.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.

She mentioned a local politician as a friend of hers prior to now. I was curious, the man is quite notorious with women and serious guys don't like to come near any lady that comes off as being close to the said politician. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there. That the said politician wanted to date her but she declined because she doesn't date married men and their friendship ended because he wanted to date her and she doesn't want to. I didn't quite believe the story but took it with a pinch of salt.

When she visited me at Ibadan some months ago, she received a call from a male neighbour of hers which she abruptly stopped midway. Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days. My question was "is that how he calls every neighbour to know how they are doing or what's special in your case?

On her birthday, we were together, I saw a few messages on her phone that really didn't sit well with me. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her. Both of them married. She explained it away that there was nothing between she and them.
At this point, I chose to softpedal on marriage plans, even though I have made enquiries at the registry, I didn't move past that. Whereas she gave me the phone number of her paternal relation for me to call on engagement details, I put a hold on that. Also, the money I credited her account with to buy engagement ring, I left there without further action.

I visited Lagos and paid her a visit, she lives alone and told me no man ever visited her place and the moment I came, she happily announced me to her neighbors as her fiance.
While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked? She got up, walked the guy out and came back to apologize. That the guy is her colleague at work and knows her place because he assists her in getting stuffs done whenever she needs help and that he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to pay a visit on her. And didn't call your line? She said she missed his call. I declined to speak further.

Earlier, she had declined to give her body count even when I gave mine. However, in our discussions, various names of her past relationships keep popping up meanwhile she had given me this look and act of a church girl.

Please advise me.

Run for your life, if you don't intend to come over to this place in no time to give how you were disappointed with your choice of wife.

Op, whenever you're ready to marry, find a virgin woman.

Keep fvcking this one till you get a virgin.

Shes not a wife, she's a knife.

Reason why most married men always die first. This one is alive but he is already planning on how to witness his own funeral.

BISHOPCHARLIE:
So, I've been seeing this lady for some time now. June this year, I began taking her serious - she ticked some qualities I wanted in my future wife, not that she's perfect, I'm not either.
Her faults are those I felt I could live with.

She mentioned a local politician as a friend of hers prior to now. I was curious, the man is quite notorious with women and serious guys don't like to come near any lady that comes off as being close to the said politician. She told me they never dated, that they had outings a few times, had food and drinks and it ended there. That the said politician wanted to date her but she declined because she doesn't date married men and their friendship ended because he wanted to date her and she doesn't want to. I didn't quite believe the story but took it with a pinch of salt.

When she visited me at Ibadan some months ago, she received a call from a male neighbour of hers which she abruptly stopped midway. Told me it was her caring neighbor calling to know how she's doing having not seen her in the neighborhood for some days. My question was "is that how he calls every neighbour to know how they are doing or what's special in your case?

On her birthday, we were together, I saw a few messages on her phone that really didn't sit well with me. Her mum's doctor sent her a message describing her as his runaway lover. Another guy that always gave her missed calls scripted a beautiful message for her. Both of them married. She explained it away that there was nothing between she and them.
At this point, I chose to softpedal on marriage plans, even though I have made enquiries at the registry, I didn't move past that. Whereas she gave me the phone number of her paternal relation for me to call on engagement details, I put a hold on that. Also, the money I credited her account with to buy engagement ring, I left there without further action.

I visited Lagos and paid her a visit, she lives alone and told me no man ever visited her place and the moment I came, she happily announced me to her neighbors as her fiance.
While in her bedroom days ago, a guy walked in on us. Said he's been knocking on the door and didn't get a response. How did he know to go to her bedroom and not the sitting room? What if we were naked? She got up, walked the guy out and came back to apologize. That the guy is her colleague at work and knows her place because he assists her in getting stuffs done whenever she needs help and that he was just in the neighborhood and wanted to pay a visit on her. And didn't call your line? She said she missed his call. I declined to speak further.

Earlier, she had declined to give her body count even when I gave mine. However, in our discussions, various names of her past relationships keep popping up meanwhile she had given me this look and act of a church girl.

Please advise me.

E reach your turn, you want personalize am, why na?

Fool

Omoh make nobody deceive u,90% of nigeria grls dey double date....
knw dis and knw truth

Pzpropertylimit:
Leave her . Angel will come ur way as wife . U are not serious . Monitoring who u have not paid her bride price

Wotoporiously speaking

So make he wait till he come marry her before he begin dey do him checkings, tomorrow now we go read am for breaking news as he take happen

Very pathetic

People of God should we tell him?

She can't be trusted.
Her ways are not pure.
It's very apparent.

Try and move on