BRATISLAVA:
Aren't Nigerian men angels anymore?

You don't know they're always abducting children whenever family disputes arise, because they believe they own the children more than the children's mothers do?

Many don't look before leaping.

LilMissFavvy:
I cannot understand how a mother would be alive and healthy, yet allow her son to be held captive by her late husband's relatives.

Kobonaire234:


This isn't a Nigerian thing.

Lummoni:
I hop someone will be able to assist.
So my Aunt is a South African woman who was married to a Nigerian man she met in South Africa.

They had a child & when he turned 9 months her husband suggested they visit his family in Nigeria.

A few hours before leaving for the airport back to South Africa, his parents sat her down and told her the baby would have to stay.

After many words & tears her father in law and husband assured her that he would be back in a 6 months to fetch the baby.

True to his word, 6 months later my Uncle in law returned to Nigeria to fetch his children, but 2 days after he arrived he got seriously sick & passed on a few days later.

My Aunt traveled to Nigeria to lay him to rest & had to extend her stay because her in laws kept giving her the run around about why she couldn't take her child (apparently some rituals had to be done for the child since his father had just passed).

She eventually left after her father in law warned her that if she keeps pushing, they (his wife a daughter) would do to her what was done to her husband.

Fast forward 11 years later, her father in law, & mother in law are both late, she sends money to Nigeria every month for her sons upkeep but her sister in law is withholding the child, does not allow him to communicate with her.

When a neighbor tries to let him speak with his mother, they beat him up, sometimes he doesn't go to school and has to go sell water at the market.

My Aunt has tried going with the Nigerian police but failed, has involved the Nigerian embassy but they are dragging their feet. We really do not know what else to do.

Why would they withholding someone's child (a mother who desperately wants her child back) when they can't even take care of his needs.

Maybe someone has been through a similar experience and may be able to help with suggestions of how to get the child back to his mother.

LilMissFavvy:
I cannot understand how a mother would be alive and healthy, yet allow her son to be held captive by her late husband's relatives.

Richy4:

<<Sisi if you are caught, some will tag it child trafficking until proven beyond reasonable doubt...
<<Ordinary oral words like he is my son will not do the magic if an overzealous staff at the airport wants to be stupid....
<<This is an era of social media... They will like to see pictures of both of you and some family members in a gathering... which u might not have because of disconnection
<< They will only believe with DNA .. which doesn't come out like instant noodles..by then u will be cooling off in a little cell eating godforsaken watery beans without vegetables

ayoncox:


My advice and strategy, the woman should get a lawyer, a good one and go to court

BRATISLAVA:


It mostly is. "My children" rather than "our children". Same mentality his family are displaying. They believe men own the children.

Mindlog:


I do feel for children that have been "shared" because they lose security and stability. Thank God for tour recovery.

HarlequinLekex:
This is pure wickedness!!! You can't take care of the child yet you deprieve the child from living with his real mother. Op do what has been said above, meet those organizations in physical. Wicked Nigerian family.

Kobonaire234:


I have modified my post.

I am going to add that the issue of international child custody battles is a serious matter. And yes, it involves relatives (a case happened where the mother was even dead, but the mother's relatives were witholding the child from the husband. And it involved two non-African countries).

I have read about this thing for years. It's not a nice thing to read about.

BRATISLAVA:


It's not nice. Must be traumatizing for the parent who had the child taken.

If they're enslaving her child while she sends them money, they are the cruel type who will keep the child away from her out of spite and greed. Maybe they are building a mansion with her payments and won't let go of the child until it's been completed.

It's kind aspect of intercultural partnership people really need to look into. You can get the perfect spouse with such a different Mindset to yours culturally. And that's a recipe for pain and disaster.

Aaaaarghmed:
This is a simple case but your Aunty is not going about it the proper way,she needs a Nigerian to guide her,if possible to smuggle to boy back to South Africa

grandstar:


When my cousin was locked up in Alagbon in the early 1990s, they referred to it as 'Presidential baked beans'

Lummoni:
I hop someone will be able to assist.
So my Aunt is a South African woman who was married to a Nigerian man she met in South Africa.

They had a child & when he turned 9 months her husband suggested they visit his family in Nigeria.

A few hours before leaving for the airport back to South Africa, his parents sat her down and told her the baby would have to stay.

After many words & tears her father in law and husband assured her that he would be back in a 6 months to fetch the baby.

True to his word, 6 months later my Uncle in law returned to Nigeria to fetch his children, but 2 days after he arrived he got seriously sick & passed on a few days later.

My Aunt traveled to Nigeria to lay him to rest & had to extend her stay because her in laws kept giving her the run around about why she couldn't take her child (apparently some rituals had to be done for the child since his father had just passed).

She eventually left after her father in law warned her that if she keeps pushing, they (his wife a daughter) would do to her what was done to her husband.

Fast forward 11 years later, her father in law, & mother in law are both late, she sends money to Nigeria every month for her sons upkeep but her sister in law is withholding the child, does not allow him to communicate with her.

When a neighbor tries to let him speak with his mother, they beat him up, sometimes he doesn't go to school and has to go sell water at the market.

My Aunt has tried going with the Nigerian police but failed, has involved the Nigerian embassy but they are dragging their feet. We really do not know what else to do.

Why would they withholding someone's child (a mother who desperately wants her child back) when they can't even take care of his needs.

Maybe someone has been through a similar experience and may be able to help with suggestions of how to get the child back to his mother.

sisisioge:
Another way I would do it is.....I would come to Nigeria unannounced with some company. Stalk the family until they send the boy to go and sell pure water, then take him straight to the airport and straight to SA. I hope he has a passport. They stole him, I steal him back. Infact, I steal him back shortly after his father's denise a long time ago.

sisisioge:
Another way I would do it is.....I would come to Nigeria unannounced with some company. Stalk the family until they send the boy to go and sell pure water, then take him straight to the airport and straight to SA. I hope he has a passport. They stole him, I steal him back. Infact, I steal him back shortly after his father's denise a long time ago.

Lummoni:
I hop someone will be able to assist.
So my Aunt is a South African woman who was married to a Nigerian man she met in South Africa.

They had a child & when he turned 9 months her husband suggested they visit his family in Nigeria.

A few hours before leaving for the airport back to South Africa, his parents sat her down and told her the baby would have to stay.

After many words & tears her father in law and husband assured her that he would be back in a 6 months to fetch the baby.

True to his word, 6 months later my Uncle in law returned to Nigeria to fetch his children, but 2 days after he arrived he got seriously sick & passed on a few days later.

My Aunt traveled to Nigeria to lay him to rest & had to extend her stay because her in laws kept giving her the run around about why she couldn't take her child (apparently some rituals had to be done for the child since his father had just passed).

She eventually left after her father in law warned her that if she keeps pushing, they (his wife a daughter) would do to her what was done to her husband.

Fast forward 11 years later, her father in law, & mother in law are both late, she sends money to Nigeria every month for her sons upkeep but her sister in law is withholding the child, does not allow him to communicate with her.

When a neighbor tries to let him speak with his mother, they beat him up, sometimes he doesn't go to school and has to go sell water at the market.

My Aunt has tried going with the Nigerian police but failed, has involved the Nigerian embassy but they are dragging their feet. We really do not know what else to do.

Why would they withholding someone's child (a mother who desperately wants her child back) when they can't even take care of his needs.

Maybe someone has been through a similar experience and may be able to help with suggestions of how to get the child back to his mother.

Odward:
Forget about the child and conceive a new one na