Yes a relative of mine was coerced into leaving her 9 month old son in Nigeria by her husband & father-in-law, she tried begging her mother-in-law and gripping the baby but the mother-in-law just looked away and told her her plane is leaving and they took the baby. Yes she may have done things differently and taken the baby by total force. I wasn't there, not 100% sure what took place, but whatever it was it doesn't give the sister-in-law or anyone for that matter to withhold the child from her [quote author=Father254 post=118714888][/quote]

We have contacted them, thank you

Xkale1996:
Call brekete family

Thank you

PeaceJoyLove:


And what is the international convention law Mr Law. Una go just dey write rubbish. If you dont know about it, shut the crap up. Dont confuse the victim asking for help.

We hope that's the case, though the lawyer & Nigerian police that were involved previously did not phase them much

BigIyanga:

Dont follow this advice. Villagers think they havd an upper hand in a case like this until you get law enforcement and lawyers involved.
They dread police and lawyers like Covid19. They’ll run.

We have seriously advised her against doing that. Two wrongs have never made a right, Aunty would be no use to her son if she's behind bars for kidnapping her own son

thesmallgod:

Don't follow this advice. All else you will end up jeopardizing d good chance of getting d kid legally. Kidnapping is a serious crime

Amen, thank you for the advice

mannyjoe2002:
get a God fearing contact in Nigeria who would link you up with a lawyer.you must use legal means to get your children free and relocate them.may God's grace, goodness and mercy be with you.Amen

A very serious problem that really should even exist

BRATISLAVA:


@Kobonaire234

Can you see what the problem always will be?

How can men 100% own the children they didn't even birth ?

These are troublesome and useless cultures. Any foreigner who gets tangled in this sort of culture is in for it should something happen to their Nigerian man partner.

Could be, since she has been to Nigeria Embassy twice and been in contact with South African Embassy numerous times, even contacted a lawyer in Nigeria and went there with a man from a neighboring village but she had to leave without her child

BRATISLAVA:


They believe in culture, but the law supercedes these heartless customs.

It's obvious the woman has not legally looked for redress. Unless the people she's meeting at the Nigerian embassy are cultural stooges. Likely men from his tribe.

Very true, but somehow with all the necessary paperwork in hand, both countries embassies, Nigerian police and a lawyer, she did not return home with her child

Mindlog:


This is more of a custody issue. The South African High Commission in Nigeria would be involved as the child is also South African by birth through his mother with a South African issued birth certificate.

The birth father of the child is now late, his relatives have no legal basis to have custody of the child when his birth mother is still alive and involved to an extent in the child's life.

Thank you, we will also try them

TheMostComplex1:


Which State? Report your matter to National human rights Commission in that state. Google their phone no or let me know the State so that you call them.

NOTE THEIR SERVICE IS FREE

Eish I'm sorry, I've been reading Nairaland articles for soo many year as a guest. I'm trying to navigate the forum. Slowly getting a hang of things. At first I was focusing on trying to respond to as many responses as possible. But I saw that we were on the same ship :-))

Missionaire:


You're quoting the wrong person.
Your question should be directed to the guy I quoted.
We are saying the same thing.

I don't know whether you're joking or serious : . I'm as broke as a church mouse

culf:


how much are you going to pay for the laughter?

Time is money & money is tight these days. The 4-5 times she's been to Nigeria she's spent a lot of resources that ended up not helping in any way whatsoever. So I made a promise to her that before she goes to Nigeria (and possibly come back empty handed AGAIN). It's better to subtlety put her story out there and we can maybe get leads and people that would be able to assist without alarming the family or angering them in any way. Then from there she can travel back to Nigeria with a renewed hope that this time she has a 90%chance of returning with him. She can't travel to Nigeria and break into their home and steal her son

culf:


let her come down and get her. He is her child, she has every access to her child. if they refused get a good loyal or Human right group involved and get your child or alternatively, stylishly moved him out without them knowing, though the official way is better.

100% true, Aunty and my Mother were talking about getting a contact in Nigeria who would somehow steal the child( or take him with police escorts) then put him on a plane back to South Africa on his own. That is what prompted me to write on the forum. I'm sure the neighbor is being subtle when approaching the boy cause she now knows that the family does not want her communicating with him. She already has all his birth certificates, old passport and clinic card. Hopefully God willing, things will fall into place and she will finally get assistance and it will be easy when it comes to getting photographs for passports and all that jazz

jmichael259:


I understand. No matter what, DON'T GET FIRED!
Well, she has to make do with multiple 3-day visits as her job permits. 1)get a clean photograph to process a Nigerian then SA passport for him. 2)apply for visa 3)book travel tickets, driver/guide, security escort.

1)Always carry birth certificate & baby photos. 2)The boy has to be made compliant for smooth travel operation. Police, immigration etc dont play wt trafficking, they'll notice any discomfort.

Meanwhile, try and get the neighbor to make more contacts for her incase the neighbor becomes indisposed. People not related to the family. Talk to Noone again about taking the boy because a secret known by more than one person has become a news broadcast.

Lummoni:
Eish I'm sorry, I've been reading Nairaland articles for soo many year as a guest. I'm trying to navigate the forum. Slowly getting a hang of things. At first I was focusing on trying to respond to as many responses as possible. But I saw that we were on the same ship :-))

It's alright.
I understand.

Lummoni:
I hop someone will be able to assist.
So my Aunt is a South African woman who was married to a Nigerian man she met in South Africa.

They had a child & when he turned 9 months her husband suggested they visit his family in Nigeria.

A few hours before leaving for the airport back to South Africa, his parents sat her down and told her the baby would have to stay.

After many words & tears her father in law and husband assured her that he would be back in a 6 months to fetch the baby.

True to his word, 6 months later my Uncle in law returned to Nigeria to fetch his children, but 2 days after he arrived he got seriously sick & passed on a few days later.

My Aunt traveled to Nigeria to lay him to rest & had to extend her stay because her in laws kept giving her the run around about why she couldn't take her child (apparently some rituals had to be done for the child since his father had just passed).

She eventually left after her father in law warned her that if she keeps pushing, they (his wife a daughter) would do to her what was done to her husband.

Fast forward 11 years later, her father in law, & mother in law are both late, she sends money to Nigeria every month for her sons upkeep but her sister in law is withholding the child, does not allow him to communicate with her.

When a neighbor tries to let him speak with his mother, they beat him up, sometimes he doesn't go to school and has to go sell water at the market.

My Aunt has tried going with the Nigerian police but failed, has involved the Nigerian embassy but they are dragging their feet. We really do not know what else to do.

Why would they withholding someone's child (a mother who desperately wants her child back) when they can't even take care of his needs.

Maybe someone has been through a similar experience and may be able to help with suggestions of how to get the child back to his mother.

only igbos do that shit

Y marry an Igbo in d first place?

Jovialjune1:
I don't want to go tribal, but we know the tribe that do this nonsense, a backward tribe consisting of brainless people.

it’s d igbos

Say it n let d devil b ashamed

Lummoni:
Time is money & money is tight these days. The 4-5 times she's been to Nigeria she's spent a lot of resources that ended up not helping in any way whatsoever. So I made a promise to her that before she goes to Nigeria (and possibly come back empty handed AGAIN). It's better to subtlety put her story out there and we can maybe get leads and people that would be able to assist without alarming the family or angering them in any way. Then from there she can travel back to Nigeria with a renewed hope that this time she has a 90%chance of returning with him. She can't travel to Nigeria and break into their home and steal her son

try googling and calling brekete family. This is what they do and its for free. After speaking with them, then she can come. that will be faster.

Lummoni:
I don't know whether you're joking or serious : . I'm as broke as a church mouse

Though I was joking, you got to pay me for making you to laugh?
Why are you broke friends? its OK though, its a
phase of life, it will all change soon.

Lummoni:
We hope that's the case, though the lawyer & Nigerian police that were involved previously did not phase them much

Start from home country. File a missing/kidnapped child report. Have your country police and lawyer lodge complaint with Interpol.

Then get an experienced lawyer that is versed in this or an International NGO that can help. Your Interpol case should filed with Naija Police in Abj.. then have your lawyer take the case down to the state involved.
You need solid legal and law enforcement paperwork before moving to Naija. You’re going to spend money to get this done.

Mindlog:


This is more of a custody issue. The South African High Commission in Nigeria would be involved as the child is also South African by birth through his mother with a South African issued birth certificate.

The birth father of the child is now late, his relatives have no legal basis to have custody of the child when his birth mother is still alive and involved to an extent in the child's life.

Tankio. She has to go public in RSA on social media/TV/New media… about your son, a South African National being held in captivity. Phone calls from SA ministry of foreign affairs to Naija Embassy would upend a lot these red tapes. This war should be planned and launched in your country. Millions of Nigerians would offer you advice based on the dysfunctional system of government. Our External and Interior ministries dont care about missing or kidnapped Nigerians.

Lummoni:
Imagine! But I'm sure the child know cause the neighbor talks to him and always tells him his mother loves him and will fetch him. Apparently he's tried running away from home twice, stating he was going back to his mother in South Africa cause he was tired of suffering

Hoping to see him being reunited with his mum...Every child deserves to be with the biological mother.. The bonding goes a long way...

Noted, thanks for the heads up

TheboyGhost:



If they are from my Tribe then you need to sort it amicably....


In my land, issues like this will not be sorted out by force and violence because we are all violent and stubborn out here....

The catch is this...

We are also a lot Emotional about things....

So if you wish to get the kid just try to workout everything amicably and Emotionally ..

Don't move by Aggression....

Move by wisdom and calmness....

I guess it's cause she loved him

BATified2023:
only igbos do that shit

Y marry an Igbo in d first place?

Thank oo, we have contacted them

culf:


try googling and calling brekete family. This is what they do and its for free. After speaking with them, then she can come. that will be faster.

I hope it changes! Can only pay you back by making you laugh also

culf:


Though I was joking, you got to pay me for making you to laugh?
Why are you broke friends? its OK though, its a
phase of life, it will all change soon.

Thank you for the suggestions

BigIyanga:

Start from home country. File a missing/kidnapped child report. Have your country police and lawyer lodge complaint with Interpol.

Then get an experienced lawyer that is versed in this or an International NGO that can help. Your Interpol case should filed with Naija Police in Abj.. then have your lawyer take the case down to the state involved.
You need solid legal and law enforcement paperwork before moving to Naija. You’re going to spend money to get this done.

Soo true, we pray to God that it may FINALLY be done

Chinny024:


Hoping to see him being reunited with his mum...Every child deserves to be with the biological mother.. The bonding goes a long way...

Lummoni:
Thank oo, we have contacted them

Awesome! your problem is half solved then.

Lummoni:
I hope it changes! Can only pay you back by making you laugh also

It will definitely change by God's grace. What if I want the payback in cash not laughter

Lummoni:
Thank you for the suggestions

Good luck and keep us updated

PeaceJoyLove:


Another 419. What do you want to say via email you cannot say here? Barawo.

It is well with you.
I am a dental surgeon by profession. I only told her to connect to Nsppd prayers. You can ask her if you want. The reason I asked her to email me was because I needed to explain more about the prayers, time and being consistent.
You don’t just come online to abuse people. It is possible you have missed blessing because of what you just typed. Brother, it is well with you. Shalom