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Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 7:13am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Sadly if that's the case, we'll never know. DrDunamis: 1 Like |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 7:19am On Nov 30, 2022 |
So true, a lot of different tribes/cultures also claim a child when the man has paid dowry. But if people are married the children belong to both parents. And if one passes away, the child goes to the surviving parent... Unless they agree that the surviving grandparents of the late parents can take the child. In a case like this however, where the child's needs are clearly not being met, there would'nt even be a question as to where the child should go. In laws or not, the sister has no right or claim to the child. careidon: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 7:20am On Nov 30, 2022 |
There's always a time & place.... Missionaire: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 7:23am On Nov 30, 2022 |
�So you mean to say that the mother who gave birth to the boy, her blood is not as thick as the sister-in-law? Who might not even be the biological Aunt/blood relative to the child. That's crazy to me Missionaire: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 7:27am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Thank you so much for all the useful information. I have forwarded most to her and am trying to assist from my side also. She has contacted both Nigerian and South Africa embassies (and both just drag their feet and ask pointless questions). She once went to Nigeria with a Nigerian colleague of her late husband (I think), they went to the house with Nigerian police but she cam back without the child( abimic: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:04am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Thank you, will notify her delpee: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:09am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Thank you, and things like these are easy to navigate on your own in your own country. When borders are crossed its not as easy, there are certain protocols that are followed that you may not be familiar with, do things wrong and you mess things up BigIyanga: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:12am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Noted, thank you Kooldame: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:29am On Nov 30, 2022 |
No where is the world would anyone want a child to live as an orphan while a parent is alive and desperately wanting their child to return... Especially after that parent has tried many avenues but still being denied access by a sister-in-law Mindlog: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:34am On Nov 30, 2022 |
This is the reason I have written on the Forum, to get insight on a way forward since she has tried both Nigerian & South African embassies, South African NPO's (and 1 Nigerian NPO). She has traveled to Nigeria with a Nigerian individual and they were accompanied by the police to the family but still nothing meetme01: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:40am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Very sad indeed! And what good is hogging the child when they clearly can't take care of him and the living conditions are deplorable. The child will only grow up to resent them. And when he comes of age, he might leave and never return, so they will have lost him still uche393: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:44am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Yes AdaAwka1: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:49am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Not as simple, the boy arrived in Nigeria when he was 9 months old. Passports expire after 10 years (in most countries). If they were to go to Nigeria and do things that way, the boy would need a passport since the sometimes goes to school he has Nigerian identification. That on its own is fraud because he has a South African birth certificate and it obviously can't be used without a valid passport accompanying it AdaAwka1: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 8:50am On Nov 30, 2022 |
It's really heartbreaking because they probably wouldn't do that to their own child Gabangel: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:02am On Nov 30, 2022 |
I hear you Omar Bashir, I stand to be corrected but I think most courts around the world (not sure about Muslim courts) usually side with the mother. Even if she has multiple children with different fathers, as long as she is of sober habits, loves and nurtures the children and provides the best for them, she is granted custody. In South Africa and I think around the world, the child belongs to the parents listed on their birth certificates, unless the parent (s) give up those rights or the government doesn't see them fit to parent those children. The only way the father would be granted custody of the child is if the mother passed away and her parents weren't able to care for child or if she was unfit for whatever reason. We pray for the boys safe return also OmarBashir: 1 Like |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:12am On Nov 30, 2022 |
She's tried going to Nigeria with a Nigerian, they were accompanied by the Nigerian police, but they failed Ahmed0336: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:13am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Thank you very much IbeChris ibechris: 1 Like |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:18am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Thank you so much for the helpful info. We are currently in contact with someone we got off the forum and things are looking positive. I'm not 100 sure but I think he's in Abuja, they only had one child Mindlog: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:45am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Sorry about that, I'm new to the forum so I've been trying to navigate how things work for the past few days. Some things are easier said than done, Aunt has another child so she can't go to Nigeria for extended visits and she has a 9-5 so she can't take too much leave from work. If she does and is fired, then she won't have any money to see her son or send to support him. Sadly she had never been to Nigeria prior to when they went for a visit when the boy turned 9 months. So she doesn't know any community or church members. She became acquainted with the neighbor because she could tell while she was there for the funeral that communication with direct family members was going to prove difficult jmichael259: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:50am On Nov 30, 2022 |
She wouldn't want to do anything or say anything to push the sister-in-law. She seems very unreasonable and somewhat vindictive for whatever reason. They abuse the child already, we recently saw a picture of him and he looks very skinny and sad. Goodness knows what they would do if she publicly spoke out about her on a radio station and gave their names and everything Sayfact: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:53am On Nov 30, 2022 |
So the child belonged to the husband, then he passed and he "belonged" to his parents, they both passed and now he "belongs" to the sister, if she passes on who will he "belong" to then? He's busy being moved around ownerships like a piece of unwanted furniture when his mother is still alive Daniel058: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 9:55am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Thank you, we're on it GistFullGround: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by ibechris(m): 10:48am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 10:54am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Very true, it's been a very sad 11 years. The whole experience even blurs the fact that her husband was a good man, everything has left a very bitter taste in her mouth grandstar: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 10:55am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Very sad Kobonaire234: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Missionaire: 10:57am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Lummoni: You're quoting the wrong person. Your question should be directed to the guy I quoted. We are saying the same thing. 1 Like |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 11:00am On Nov 30, 2022 |
But HOW would she smuggle the boy out of the country via air travel when the boy no longer has a valid passport (we assume since they stopped communicating with Aunty 5 years ago, she only has contact with a neighbor and the neighbors sometimes goes weeks without seeing the boy). Aunty still has a copy of the expired passport, the boys South African birth certificate listing her & late husband as parents, she has his clinic card for the immunization shots he got and pictures. I thinks she would be breaking the law if she tried that & if she got caught it wouldn't end well for both her & her son Aaaaarghmed: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 11:07am On Nov 30, 2022 |
That's your opinion and that's okay but the person who wrote the article is a 29 year old niece. My Aunty was the one married to a Nigerian man and her child is being withheld from her. Yes I've been reading articles of different topics on Nairaland for many years but I have never come across one where a sister-in-law was withholding her late brothers child/children from their mother. But even if I had and had warned her, I was still in high school when my 46 year old Aunty started dating her late Nigerian husband. And was fresh out of school when they went to Nigeria. I'm not here to judge , just trying to help a mother reunite with her son BRATISLAVA: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 11:10am On Nov 30, 2022 |
I'm starting to believe so too BRATISLAVA: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 11:12am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Thank you, we are in communication with them as I type Ronjule: 2 Likes |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 11:22am On Nov 30, 2022 |
Alexiiydon was right, we obviously don't know 100% if they are taking care of the child. But from the next door neighbors account (since she's the only one who sometimes has direct contact with the child), sometimes she does not see him for weeks and it doesn't Mae sense since he passes by her house on the way to school. When she talks to him and the late husband's sister sees, she questions him on what they were talking about and they beat him up. Sometimes he doesn't go to school ad has to sell water at the market, before he could properly talk the Sister and grandmother used to allow her to speak with her son on the phone, but since he started talking and asks her to fetch him during all phone calls. They no longer allow communication between mother and son, the neighbors tried letting the boy communicate with his mother using her phone and when the sister found out she beat the boy & told the neighbor to stop. The neighbor has on two different occasions found the boy wandering the streets at night saying he was running away to his mother in South Africa because he is tired of suffering. All those thing combined and the fact that she never gave her child away is what is punishing all of us to try help with getting the boy back Alexiiydon: |
Re: Late Husband's Family Withholding Her Aunt's Child by Lummoni(f): 11:26am On Nov 30, 2022 |
You can say that again! I'm sure my Aunt curses the day she met her late husband. Even though he was a great husband to her. The experience his family has put her through is enough to cause anyone heartache for a few lifetimes BRATISLAVA: |
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