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Good evening house

Sorry to bore you with my issues


My mum and dad separated 24 years ago

Reason for separation
My only biological bro died from malaria
My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment

My mum moved out took me with her
She remarried 2 years after
Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling
Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad

I am a graduate now

So comfortable in life
Got lands houses and cars to my name

My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas
The problem is she hates my dad so much
any thing about that topic gets her angry

I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house

I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus

Don’t even know if my dad is good
Don’t even know his family
Don’t even know my village
Everything I call family is just from my mother side

Zero from my dad side
I wish I can know them

Bro, try to reach out to your mom's friends. Interrogate them and use your wisdom to get what you want. Try to ask your mom some questions too.. At this point, don't expect your mom to show you where your father come from.. Just look for a way to find out who your father is.

Go to people within your family and family friends... Explain how you feel to some of them, im sure one of them will be reasonable enough to give you a clue.

You are a man, So deal with your mom as if you are in your father's shoe

Maybe ur dad is a Nairalander
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Remain like that bro. You're empty doesn't mean you're not happy cuz statistical study have make us believe Relatives from the father's side are close to being very useless. but Ion know your full story sha, but Papa wey no look for you all these years till you turn 25, what gives you the assurance he'll care or give a F about you?

Bro fulfills your curiosity ask your mum and find your dad he will have his own explanation too for abandoning you

I wanted to make a sarcastic remark but thought more deeply of your dilemma…


Firstly you are old enough to meet your mom and ask her to show you your dad’s family- good or bad. It’s up to you to decide if you will continue the relationship when you do find out. Whatever issue your mom and dad have should not prevent you from at least knowing your roots.

I am also curious why your dad never bothered looking for his child (you)? You were a year or so old then.

You have serious discussion with your mom. Demand answers from her and not nairaland.

Prechgold1180:
My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad
More like I don’t know my root

My son I'm your Dad. Send me money if you want to see me.

You are old enough to enquire about him from your mum. Stop being a sissy.

If your parents were legally married, then other members of your mum's family ought to know who your dad is.

Ask your aunties or uncles from your mum side, chikina

Wetin u wan use your father do? 4get about the guy.

Mleeperbother:
Wetin u wan use your father do? 4get about the guy.

Are you fatherless?

Don't be surprised if your mum gets angry at you for asking about your dad. She would be right to be angry and even take you to be an ungrateful daughter after all the sacrifices she had made to ensure you become who you are today.

People would ask that why has your dad not looked for you. But this is preposterous because he could also have been looking for you and not know how to reach you.

Just be ready to take the backlash from your mum when you ask her.

I agree you deserve to know your biological father. It's your decision to maintain the relationship or not when you do.

Socratiz:
Don't be surprised if your mum gets angry at you for asking about your dad. She would be right to be angry and even take you to be an ungrateful daughter after all the sacrifices she had made to ensure you become who you are today.

People would ask that why has your dad not looked for you. But this is preposterous because he could also have been looking for you and not know how to reach you.

Just be ready to take the backlash from your mum when you ask her.

I agree you deserve to know your biological father. It's your decision to maintain the relationship or not when you do.

Good one.

Hdg

Try to find out why your mum hates your dad.

Cars, Lands and Houses. Wow, how old are you?

U say

Hmmm. Who knows, your dad might see this post and contact you.

Bro, you have the right to know who your dad is. Tell mummy to tell you, but assure her that you won't forsake her because of him. That you just want to know him.

I can bet you that you know your dad but you don't just know that his your dad.

As a graduate and with all your have listed as achievements asking your Mum about your dad's identity shouldn't be a big deal.

Women always doing unthinkable things if your mum left your dad just because he could not provide money for malaria treatment I just wonder what she saw in him that convinced her to marry him in the first place...

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Hope you meet him soon.

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VeryWickedMan:
My son I'm your Dad. Send me money if you want to see me.

You are truly a very wicked Somebody

VeryWickedMan:
My son I'm your Dad. Send me money if you want to see me.

Diz guy ehh

DOESN'T YOUR MUM HAVE BROTHERS?.....GO MEET YOUR UNCLES ..THEY WILL SHOW YOU YOUR DAD

One yahoo guy spotted. Cars, land and houses at 25?? Look for your biological dad. It's simple.
Do Indepth inquiry. Carry style harvest that from your mum. Pretend to hate your dad. And glean info from ur mum.
Then hunt for him. If u have been a successful yahoo guy u sure know how to act.