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Stompie:
I hope this story isn't true because I was shaking my head reading this. Anyway, aside from crying and begging a woman, the OP did nothing wrong with what he explained. He is not a stalker but only cared too much for someone who didn't care or respect him.

His main problem is not being aware of female nature. He needs this knowledge ASAP or he will suffer greatly at the hands of women in future. The issue here is elevating this career-minded girl who clearly doesn't love nor respect him to girlfriend status and then fiance within 6 months.

She has not earned any of these privileges and doesn't deserve them in my opinion. I don't know why guys do this. Let the girls ask for relationship and then you give your conditions. Don't hand it out freely like that. That is why this girl has the audacity to block a man who was genuinely worried about her safety and called her boss.

A woman must be more invested than the guy in any relationship dynamic for things to work. OP clearly loves her more and she is manipulating him for benefit.

The questions that have still not been answered are, where she at that time of night and why no contact? She more than likely was cheating and that is unacceptable.

The OP should have quickly realised that this girl was not relationship-material, kept her on the side for "chopping" and not take her seriously. But he probably saw big yansh and got carried away.

My advice: Put more focus on yourself and stop monitoring these women like that. They should see you as the catch and chase you. Also, do not share your password info with your girl even if she shares hers .

And, for heavens sake, stop this silly begging immediately. In fact, block her and do not contact her again - no calls, no texts, no liking her pics on IG. Take the lessons, forget her and move on. You showed so much weakness and lost leverage by this pathetic begging.

Focus on your job/ career/ business but go out and socialise in your spare time. If she tries to come back say no and don't budge.

Assert your manhood brothers! Stop being a simp!

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Op, read this write up and be wise

Evolutionlove:
Werey na toto you go dey look for up and down.

after hustling and making money and taking care of family, na to find any available toto remain. Any loose toto go hear am from my prick

Mino1000:
Thank you very much, I would definitely see someone

Yes please do bro. It will help you alot

Mino1000:
Thank you very much, I would definitely see someone

See someone for what?

There's nothing wrong with you apart from giving your heart and time to someone who doesn't deserve it and showing her so much weakness.

Stanweezy:
I hope u are married too if not u missed something

I am not yet married and I missed nothing, am thankful i didn't get married then else I wouldn't be were I am now.

Caseless:
Bro, never allow your happiness, your ability to focus, your key to survival and the power to live to depend on anyone, let alone a Nigerian girl. You'll die before your time.

You're wondering why she was in love the previous morning and wouldn't even want to hear your voice again because you called her boss to check on her. I don't know if calling her boss embarrassed her or she read some meaning to it, or maybe you went far - you should have called her friend instead.

Women are something else when they're angry - they use your weakness against you. Maybe they know how attached you are to them, and obviously can't do without them talking to you, then they resort to cutting communication and in communicating, partners find a solid foundation to build their relationship.

So if your woman shuts the door of communication at every little twist on your relationship, bro, build yourself to live without her.

Just have options. Make her see she's no more your priority - if she stays, fine and if she doesn't, fine. The thought of wanting to settle down with a girl almost enslaved me for 3 days. Be a man. Don't appear like a sissy. She must see you acting like a man henceforth.

Go and watch Andrew Tate's video on YouTube. Or watch Kevin Samuel.

Andrew Tate Calmly DISMANTLES Feminism In Front Of Piers Morgan [REACTION !!!]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHrAfcWBLDw

You again, you wan kill yourself for Nigerian Bitch. Better go and learn programming cos it surest way to forget distraction.

iamL:
I am not yet married and I missed nothing, am thankful i didn't get married then else I wouldn't be were I am now.

You think so, u can never predict the future unless u are a seer

Stanweezy:
You think so, u can never predict the future unless u are a seer

I have the greatest seer in the universe that is Jehovah and my future is in his hands which is gonna be the best life there is.

osazsky:
wait o are u blaming the girl or this idiot who calls himself a man..abeg nor disgrce us most of us are men..wat is wrong is wrong..d lady did no wrong here rather the simp goat..i hate men way woman dey control..person go just love he nor go come get sense

Yes but what is love? Even you don't have anything to do with the person at least calls

send location

come to my room let me show you what you're looking for