charlesdprof:
Good day Redpill brothers.
I need some form of advice or word of encouragement from you.
I was in a relationship with a girl for 5 years with the intention of marrying her.
I decided to allow her keep her virginity all these years till the wedding night.
Last year December 2022, I had a dream that someone is seeking for her hand in marriage.
I decided to propose to her and she was very happy.
She opened up to me that someone is coming to marry her and that her aunt recommended the guy. He is based in Turkey.
She asked me to rush and see her parents before the guy comes.
I did as she said and the parents accepted because they know am already in a relationship with her.
They told me she has rejected many suitors including that guy claiming that she has someone she wants to marry.
Her Dad requested for a Genotype result which came out that we are both AS genotype after going to 3 different hospitals.
The marriage was canceled even though me and the girl insisted we want to go on with it.
The father threatened to disown her if she didn't marry the guy from Turkey.
It was a devastating experience for both of us.
She met the guy for the first time on 27th December and the traditional marriage took place yesterday.
When I saw the pre wedding pictures and the traditional marriage videos I cringed and developed cold shivers.
I felt depressed that I built a woman for another man.
I felt I just wasted 5 years on my life in an unproductive relationship.
I felt cheated that I allowed her keep her virginity only for another guy to enjoy it.
Am just stuck right now considering the effort, resources and time I wasted with her.
I need advice and encouragement.

Guyman01:

Had a similar experience after 4 years of dating and respecting our decision to be celibate, I told myself the investment on the relationship was not a loss but gain as I proved myself a man with self control.
It was a painful scenario but I had to let her go, I cut off every communication with her for at least 1 year, I didn't even check her profile picture or social media posts, wrote down her phone number in a book and deleted it from my phone so she can concentrate on her marriage without interference while I started another relationship with my wife.

Move on and free your heart, I have a former course mate that took the plunge and unfortunately their kids are sicklers and several times during their crisis they practically live in hospital wards, doing regular blood transfusions to save their kids lives, it's not worth the future of your unborn kids.

You invested in her with sincerity but it's not your fault that it didn't workout neither is it her fault because of blood group, have no regrets. Move on!

goshikid:
If God want to punish a man he gives him a broke girl from a poor home..

If you're rich date girls in your class.

Poor girls are too needy and stressful

Ahuitzotl:
During those years you weren't redpilled until LIFE decided to serve you breakfast, now you all writhing and teeth gnashing in agony....You not even redpilled now as it is that the pain still wreaks havoc at your sanity instead of celebrating how you just dodged a bullet that would have ruined your life totally when you consider the dangers and crises involved in treating sickle cell cases in Nigeria or do you think a sure death of your child in pain and agony is worth 5 years and virginity?? Oga Oneitis ,abeg park well...

Karlifate:


And they have high taste.


They'll use you to purchase what they can't afford, but only fantasize about.

heartofcity12:
Well said

charlesdprof:
Good day Redpill brothers.
I need some form of advice or word of encouragement from you.
I was in a relationship with a girl for 5 years with the intention of marrying her.
I decided to allow her keep her virginity all these years till the wedding night.
Last year December 2022, I had a dream that someone is seeking for her hand in marriage.
I decided to propose to her and she was very happy.
She opened up to me that someone is coming to marry her and that her aunt recommended the guy. He is based in Turkey.
She asked me to rush and see her parents before the guy comes.
I did as she said and the parents accepted because they know am already in a relationship with her.
They told me she has rejected many suitors including that guy claiming that she has someone she wants to marry.
Her Dad requested for a Genotype result which came out that we are both AS genotype after going to 3 different hospitals.
The marriage was canceled even though me and the girl insisted we want to go on with it.
The father threatened to disown her if she didn't marry the guy from Turkey.
It was a devastating experience for both of us.
She met the guy for the first time on 27th December and the traditional marriage took place yesterday.
When I saw the pre wedding pictures and the traditional marriage videos I cringed and developed cold shivers.
I felt depressed that I built a woman for another man.
I felt I just wasted 5 years on my life in an unproductive relationship.
I felt cheated that I allowed her keep her virginity only for another guy to enjoy it.
Am just stuck right now considering the effort, resources and time I wasted with her.
I need advice and encouragement.

heartofcity12:
Yea

IwasNeverGone:
An average Nigerian man is weak, an average Nigerian man find pleasure and fulfillment when he pays and carry the burden of a lady.....that average Nigerian man will surely weep at the end of the day, that average Nigerian man will regret wasting his time, resources and feelings on that girl, because an average lady despise weak and overly romantic man...learn the game or perish.


Stay Taliban

adambeatz:
My eyes saw shege back to back last year no cap. On new years eve one f#cker stood in my front and was saying "this year is your year", alaye no problem shift abeg you dey block my view.

Everyone has a story to tell believe me, think about it musicians are nothing but glorified story tellers, if it were during the days of our ancestors the likes of 2baba,wizkid nd co would be trekking around villages with talking drums.

In as much as we all saw shege, I'd always advice guys even if ur fellow guy is fucking up, you can equally help him from afar without staining yourself.

Abj sweet die, ever since Lagos nd pH life chewed me nd spat me out safely, I no dey moved by anything again( except you point a gun to my head). The girls here are really something else, me nd my guys came across some girls in a club in kubwa who were into drugs; ice,crack. I just came to a conclusion if hell was real, some Nigerian ladies should be made wardens there, immorality everywhere, even the law is way relaxed here because you don't know who is who nd arresting someone with connections could cost you your job or worse.

2weeks back I was in a club at wuse and spotted someone familiar, went closer and lo and behold, bros man was a love-vendor in knew in Lagos(ipodo to be precise), guy man decided to change location by uping his game and I kid you not, this is someone I always say in ipodo, fighting with police, pimping, selling drugs, rolling with colored men now driving a Toyota Camry muscle. The moment he recognized me, guy man chuk hand inside en side bag dey comut tools, I started laffing and had to calm him down, explained we just met by chance nd not whatever he was thinking. A very rugged guy but jovial once you could win his trust, we both hanged out and he handled all bills, by the time we were done I was wasted, even the babes he called for me ino even send their papa. With the last sanity I get I order urber run leave them I'm too young to die wasted, in abj if you have got the looks(packaging),the sweet mouth, the connections or money your good to go.

Gentlemen, whatever you do in this life, create value that'll bring you money �. If you don't even church rats would use you as an example of abject poverty.

Nyascobar1414:


This clearly means without the money, you nothing.

IwasNeverGone:
To think he calls himself "Charles The Prof" (Charles"d"prof)


A Prof without wisdom and understanding, that wan na Prof indeed love is not only blind but love can turn a "self proclaimed" professor to reason like one that has not seen the four walls of an higher institution.

I think he lacks confidence in himself in finding another girl and that is why he wanted to marry her despite they genotype being same. And as regards his title of being a prof.....well, I wonder how he earned that title......his type can commit suicide because of love, and that should say a lot about how mentally weak our current men are, so disheartening

We are now pedestalizing virginity that someone is willing to put his descendants in great peril.... Where he is supposed to be logical (Sickle Cell) he being emotional (5 years and Virginity) and where he supposed to be emotional (suffering and agony of an innocent soul) he being logical ("Another man must not chop my investment")....The bloody simp doesn't see how God has delivered him from Hell....Or maybe he thinks we will join hands and start castigating the ex and her husband and go on to turn it to women bashing and misogyny as most people will believe of us, redpillers. If he was Redpilled, let's say, halfway or at the end of the relationship 's timeline, he would have considered the various factors...A.W.A.L.T .....There are always better options out there....Men age like wine and Women age like a car crash thus he will always have variety and value in the dating pool.... As it isn't fair somewhat for women aging like car crashes, isn't it a leveller for them to use Hypergamy as a means to survive? Why begrudge her that facility ( imagine if her father was ubunjaa, i like the way he stepped in and crushed the sh**t, if it's you nko?) and suffer himself such painment and mental agony? After all, folks have lost relationships, marriages, Yo! even their lives for trifles compared to the health and wellness of Generations..Why he do that? Oh snap, I forget... Because he is a bloody simp. Throw him a bone in form of virginity and a recoupment of his "investment" , watch him bite your hand to plug himself back into the Matrix.

heartofcity12:
She already made her decision.
They’re always ready to monkey branch to the next big thing no matter how decent or pious they portray themselves to be, coz their hypergamic antenna is always active...they’ll always affirm the genuineness of the redpill. #AWALT #trp

ubunja:

The Sweetest Thing In The Universe.

.......... You see, Pussy is the sweetest thing men know, but Dick is not the sweetest thing women know. That honor goes to something called ATTENTION. Of the non sexual variety.

................. Women dress provocatively for this, not for sex. They use Sexual Attention to get Non Sexual Attention. Women use cleavage, short skirts etc to get men to do them favours that have NOTHING to do with sex.

Non Sexual Attention is the sweetest thing in the Universe for women. While Sexual Attention is sweetest for men.

................... This is not to say women don't enjoy sex. They do. More than men even. But between accepting your Dick and accepting your attention, women will choose your attention ANY DAY. And as a man you must start charging accordingly

YOUR ATTENTION IS EQUAL TO HER PUSSY.
Men only give attention to pretty women but will have sex with any woman. Women only have sex with top men but want attention from any man. A man's attention has the same worth as a woman's pussy - it's only reserved for the best.

Just as men only admire the best woman but will fvck any woman who offers; so women take attention from any man who offers, but will only fvck the best man. Women's "look but don't touch" policy crystalizes this: Everyone is free to look but only a select few get to touch.

THE WAR FOR YOUR ATTENTION.
Women's movements like Body Positivity, itself rooted in the Fat Acceptance movement, seek to police men's attention by reprogramming men to give attention not only to pretty women but also to those unpretty.

The Unpretty among women (Fat and Ugly women), do get plenty of sex because men will fvck anything (even the ugliest women somehow end up pregnant). But what these women don't get is attention OUTSIDE of sex: Non Sexual Attention. Non sexual attention will be the compliments, the praises, the favours and the helping hand women get publicly from men eg free drinks and free lifts. Ugly and fat women get none of these but guys will still fvck them. That's the bone of contention.

Without Non Sex Attention a woman only gets Sexual Attention which makes her a Sex Object. Which is the unfortunate situation Fat and Ugly women find themselves in. That's why the most vocal women in the battle against sexual objectification are Ugly and Fat women. Because sex is literally the only thing they're getting from men.

Fat and ugly women have the cooperation of men in the bedroom, but out in the World they're on their own. No man buys an ugly woman a drink. No man gives a fat woman a lift. That fat and ugly girl you only meet and fvck at night, it stings her that during the day you act like you don't know her. That's the bone of contention.

STOP GIVING YOUR FRIENDSHIP FOR FREE.
By nature, women use sex to get attention because pussy is the only thing of value they have that men want, while attention is the only thing of value men can give that women want.

Ever wonder why if you starve your GF of attention she'll have sex with another guy? Why does she not simply get the guy's attention since attention is what you're starving her of? But instead she goes for the guy's Dick? It's because your neglected GF is PAYING for the guy's attention with her pussy.

Not that your girl is consciously aware of the pay principle at play.

But this concept of women buying men's friendship with sex is something we all know at the most basic level. That's why people don't believe a Man and a Woman can be friends without having sex. Sex must happen for the friendship to happen.

One day I was talking to this girl and she was telling me about a certain guy friend of hers she was doing business with. When l asked if she had slept with the guy she replied quite casually, "Yes we had sex, to GET IT OUT OF THE WAY".
It fascinated me. She had paid for the friendship with sex!! And that's how it should be.

Because a woman values your friendship as much as you value her pussy; she must pay to be your friend just as you must pay to have sex with her. Nothing is for free. Never accept friendship with a girl that doesn't start with sex, because a girl will never accept sex that doesn't start with a friendship. Nothing is for free.

If a girl introduces herself to you asking to be your friend, make every effort to have sex with her. If she rejects your advances reject her friendship. You just dodged a friendzone bullet. Remember, in ALL male-female relationships, platonic or romantic, it's always the female who benefits more.
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IN THE FINAL ANALYSIS.
With women, Everything begins with attention.

Women love money but the man who gives them money first gives them attention. They love power but to get the power they must first get the attention of the man with the power. Attention is the foundation on which women build everything. Without getting a man's attention they can get nothing from him.

Men love to look at women. Women love to be looked at by men. The joy of men is in looking, which drives them to porn sites. The joy of women is to be looked at, which drives them to Social Media. Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat etc are the women's Xvideos, PornHub and XHmaster.

TRUE MONOGAMY.
Women value attention and want more of it from different men; Men value sex and want more of it from different women. A woman can choose the attention of 1 man just as a man can choose sex with 1 woman. When a man and a woman can do this, that's true monogamy.
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JESHAL:
Men advising their fellow men to just focus on pussy due to the scarcity men face in getting sex are short sighted and don't look at the grander scheme of civilization, they are extremely individualistic and don't priotize the collective whole, promiscuity tends towards divorce and single motherhood which leads to immorality on a macrolevel due to dysfunctionality resulting from the breakdown of family units.

Raalsalghul:



Everything being said on this thread is just fucking true but make una no let am translate into hatred for women. Nah, don't do that.

Just use the knowledge gained here to play the game perfectly because at the end of the day life doesn't care if you are good or bad.

Cc: Ubunja

heartofcity12:


This one has always been a big farm tool, always brokeshaming men in BBN that year. Who still takes this one serious since Kiddwaya exposed her, he banged and banged her, jizzed in her mouth countless times, stayed toxic to her and he didn’t give her commitment because he knew vividly that she only wanted him for his billionaire dad’s money and his Alpha male appeal(and aesthetics).. Kiddwaya gamed this one very well in BBN.

ubunja:
I'm really loving this Instagram page @the_hoe_phase_expert. His regular polls where he asks his followers (male and female) to vote and express their views on various dating issues are very interesting because they demonstrate core principles of the Red Pill.

Take his latest survey, for example, presented this morning about Women's love for ATTENTION versus Men's love for SEX: He had asked women if their craving for attention can be put on the same level as men's craving for sex, and an overwhelming 93% said "Yes".

Meanwhile back in July, 2019 myself I wrote the Miseducation, The Sweetest Thing In The Universe where I explain this phenomenon in detail: https://www.nairaland.com/5322826/ubunjas-miseducation-sweetest-thing-universe

Here are some excerpts:


Having skimmed through the above, please find time to visit @hoe_phase_expert's post (link below) and especially go through the comments section. Interesting stuff for anyone who wants to understand this topic more:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CnDt8urOSJr/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=