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Ur case is different....u saw d signs early but u

Put head.

You will scale through.

Una de try o


Take a break with your kids and see his reaction

dollytino4real:
my sister, we plenty inside dis kind marriage wahala but kip ur mind of him n face ur kids as i am doing to survive here!! My own not gambling but money dey finish but he reach house

na we dey knack their wife and taking over their responsibility too. Apply within

Wiseandtrue:
Change your strategy

Stop being on the defensive but on the offensive

Ask him money for upkeeps regularly in a natural way, this will keep him on his feet and will make him more responsible!

He must have a good side, work on that, your unwavering love for him will bring him around now that he is down!

No be say any small misbehavior una go dey think of divorce

Everything in life still need prayer, don't forget to !

She did mention he has a gambling problem

One reason why I will never gamble in life is due to the story of the high ranking government official who started gambling and ended up in EFCC net over 4m naira gone...to gambling.

The thing will eat your salary, and then eat your future. That's why some countries have big anti-gambling programs as part of their healthcare strategy...because na addiction e be.

This is not a small problem....this is a big problem.

all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

Talk to him. Ask him to take you on a date or kukuma take him on a date... express your feelings

Gambling addiction is the worst addiction. Your husband will never change unless by divine intervention. I will advise you to leave

Divorce his stupid arse....Nonsense gender

all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Speak to him about it..if he doesn'tsn't head to your advice then i'd advise you file for a divorce!
The thing is pathological gambling has the potential to destroy marriages – and if your soon-to-be-ex has a gambling problem...you know how difficult it can be to deal with...When you're divorcing someone with a gambling issue..you're up against many obstacles...You might even question whether your companion has a gambling problem or is simply reckless and irresponsible...

Many people have misconceptions regarding what constitutes problematic gambling... Your partner may have a gambling addiction even if he does not gamble every day or can afford to lose money..

Gambling addiction is frequently marked by:
• Feeling compelled to keep gambling a secret..

• When there isn't enough money to spare he gambles..

• Having difficulties keeping his gambling under control..
Spouses and children frequently pay the price for one person's gambling addiction...Bills may go unpaid..budgets may have to be stretched, and gambling can even result in job loss...

It may sound cliched.. but gamblers must desire to seek help...You won't help your spouse stop gambling unless he recognizes that there is a problem and is eager to seek treatment... Even so..your companion must adhere to the treatment plan and in most situations refrain from gambling...
If you're considering divorcing someone with a gambling addiction.. the first thing you should do is go to a divorce lawyer..

Your lawyer can explain how alimony is calculated and how your marital property (or debt) will be shared. He or she will also respond to any of your inquiries about the divorce process taking into account your specific circumstances... Enjoy!

in your quest to sound woke and modern, you always end up saying trash. That is how you all woke mumus are anyway.

Only God, deliverance and self will can stop your husband from gambling...he don carry wetin get power pass am...

Pray pray pray.
Jesus gives oil of joy for mourning.

Your husband is posses with money madness
Money madness can not be cure till he make money
Just pray for his success you cannot stop him
He will continue with the habit because he might have seen someone who hit big same way

Weedhustler:
Ur case is different....u saw d signs early but u

Put head.

Most people who gamble initially don't have issues...but as time goes on, and the addiciton grows...the wahala go start

When she met him, he probably was just betting with small amounts. Then he won, and kept on playing more and more, and losing more and more...now the thing has consumed him

If she refused him back then...then by extension most Nairalanders here who are bet9ja customers have no hope of marriage.

all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

Come to me, you will be happier than ever.

Get a BF!!!

Wahala

Separate from him pending when he can get his acts back together

dollytino4real:
my sister, we plenty inside dis kind marriage wahala but kip ur mind of him n face ur kids as i am doing to survive here!! My own not gambling but money dey finish but he reach house

then what happens to the money if not gamble?

same betting ruined some one i know and that shit kills slowly

MumEmdy:
According to my understanding, he will gamble away his salary and even try to get the little she is using to trade which is also affecting her capital, failure to give him money usually attract malicious living from him.

You go school wella. You sabi summary for english.

Gambling is a spirit u cannot win your husband by not giving him food! Let him not be violent on u! Pray to God about that spirit! He will be very! Remember how u will treat your stubborn son, do that! May God heal your home!

all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

ibechris:
Gambling is one of the most destructive habits in Nigeria.

It has rendered men and women useless,inefficient,lazy and terrible,spoilt and some armed robbers.

There is always this tendency for stealing anything around them,that which most of them indulge in.

I pity u real good and i can tell what u have gone through to still keep the family going.

MY advice is for u to Google and seek ways to solve this problem or u report him to his family as soon as possible.

Note: that some would advice wrongly because they own naija bet shops,so be careful of the kind of advice they will give u here.

government should close all gambling outlets in Nigeria that thing has done more harm than good.

You complain so bitterly yet you don't want to deal with divorce because of your son, Jesus Christ already died for our sins you don't have to kill yourself because of marriage. You can both have joint custody of your kids you know.
In as much that's a quick fix to your situation I want you to also understand that a man, I mean a true man will scourge the earth to provide for his family, most of the gamblers know they have a problem but just because they are too far gone into gambling they keep pushing hoping to hit it big and recover their loses which in many case does not happen.
The world we are in right now is challenging and driven by money and i can only imagine how messed up your husband mind is right now since he is dependant on you and still have an addiction.
You need to have a heart to heart conversation with him to know his fears and challenges intimately and also suggest he sees a shrink.
All this is if you still love him sha.

As a son, produced by such kind of marriage, don't worry, when your sons get older and realize how much of their daddy's irresponsible habit influenced the predicaments they are yet to face, their sense would reboot. Shege-pro-max is coming! My dad didn't gamble, it was on luxurious life style nd side chicks..

I pray your sons don't pass through the shege myself and siblings are passing through now. Good luck!

Idleness your man need support
Get him gainfully occupied
Move closely to your creator.

all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

there is one useless thread that tells men to marriage early.
Now this one is thinking of divorce.
My advise for we single men, don't go into this scam called marriage.
It only benefit the female gender

Nawa o

all4zionlover:
He has a job, earn salary but gambles all away and return to depend on me for everything including feeding, transport, every other things. His salary is strictly for betting, why every other needs is on me

if what you typed here is the case,you need to stop feeding him and also talk about it with any of his close relative so thy can help talk to him to stop, betting can be stopped doesn't need deliverance or any special tin. Just accept to path away with your lost and focus on what you have left.simple

The problem is for him to stop betting.it doesn't worth divorce.

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all4zionlover:
Honestly I'm going through so much here. I'm losing it. I feel depressed, so much fear, unhappy and lonely. My husband's gambling habit has removed love and affection from our home.
He quickly finishes any money that comes to him. Either salary and anything in bet nija and concentrate on asking me for money. I'm have no job, I'm buy little things and resell. My capital is not even stable because all the financial expenses is on me. Yet he doesn't care. He keeps malice with me for not giving him money and not coming home to meet food.
This year, I have decided not to keep food for him so long as he can not bring money for feeding, for the children he claim he love and upkeep.
I've endure for too long and I'm getting fade up.

All my actions and his behaviour really makes me sad.
I have no love, respect for him.
I excessively worry for upkeep, school fees, bills, things we don't have at home. Everything is on me.
I'm so stressed and lonely. I feel I need a shoulder to rest on maybe to cry.
I'm so sad because our two sons are too attached to their father and I'm scared of their feelings if I decided to divorce their father

My first son wouldn't even go to bed until his father return back from work.

Have you been in this kind of situation?
What did you do? How do people survive this kind of situations?

Marriage itself is a stress, till death do us apart. Wedding stress, sex stress, Pregnancy stess, hospital stress, school fees stress, house rentage stress, feeding stress, job stress, kitchen stress and many more. Anyway, tell him what he does that u don't like and ur reasons for doing what u do. If he refuse to change, keep doing what u are doing to him.