HudaIna:


In this case you are or were on op’ s friend’s girlfriend’s salary so keep playing whoever you playing.

ednut1:
I relocated abroad to a big 4, and currently in a bank lol. People in my tax bracket and above are 20% of the population where I reside. And in Nigeria men dey make money extra from side paroles. Many of my colleagues still in Nigeria are now head of finance, CFOs and the likes

HudaIna:


k

Kasdat5:
Make I no talk my own experience, na winch almost all of them be , ladies in the Big 4 , run from them .

faceLAGOS:
Naija career lady?

I pity your brother.

ednut1:
I worked in a BIg 4for 5 years. There we’re married women working there. E no easy but it’s doable. After 3 2 to 3 years there you can easily get job in big 4 abroad or get mid manager or manager role in another company. The job exposes them to powerful men like Chief financial officer, finance manager and others. Many of the female managers in my unit were married to men working in shell, mobil, Oando and the likes. The ladies no rate us the guys because of this We also work some weekends too . Is your brother rich or had a good career trajectory If not she may dump his ass. So the relationship fit likely crash na long distance relationship better when dealing with a babe in big 4 hahahaha.

Dirtyyansh:


This is his worry.
He's not doing badly currently on a salary of 250k before tax. He is 31 and the lady in question is 29.
According to him, they have been dating for over 6months, so last week he brought up the marriage conversation and the lady told him that she is not mentally ready for a marriage, that even at all,they are to get married, he need to change from his mini flat to bigger apartment and get a car.
Note : he stays in a mini-flat at an estate at Gbagada.

If na so Big4 be, I dey imagine how it is for the likes of the MBB

Dirtyyansh:


KPMG, EY, Deloitte and Pwc.

HudaIna:


When a man ain’t got no money, the sofa becomes more erm… I can’t find the word, USEFUL! (According to my girlfriend).


God don’t shame us! Our generation is paying for something we don’t even know about!

Gerrard59:
I had a few female acquaintances/friends who worked in the Big4 and finance industry. Trust me, unless you are financially above them, you won't be able to date or eventually marry them. They are intelligent, speak eloquently and are well-exposed. But biology will always biologicate - women marry up, and men marry down. It is the same everywhere. In East Asian societies, women will judge a man by where he works before thinking of dating him. The man is expected to earn a particular amount of money (usually more than they do) before marriage. It is part of life. He can befriend them platonically - they are exposed to business deals and have an invaluable network/contacts. Unless you are working in an industry where you are paid more than she does (oil and gas, senior software engineer earning in dollars, top medical consultant, investment banking) or own/run businesses whose revenues run into hundreds of millions of naira, better date a woman who you out-earn.

It is not your fault (nothing like your friend here. Na you be the friend ). It is just life being what it is.

_{I really thank God, my parents, myself and Lee Kuan Yew for the dose of pragmatism I have received/read over the years. It has made me to be very realistic and understand how the world works.}

Kasdat5:
Make I no talk my own experience, na winch almost all of them be , ladies in the Big 4 , run from them .

Gerrard59:
I had a few female acquaintances/friends who worked in the Big4 and finance industry. Trust me, unless you are financially above them, you won't be able to date or eventually marry them. They are intelligent, speak eloquently and are well-exposed. But biology will always biologicate - women marry up, and men marry down. It is the same everywhere. In East Asian societies, women will judge a man by where he works before thinking of dating him. The man is expected to earn a particular amount of money (usually more than they do) before marriage. It is part of life. He can befriend them platonically - they are exposed to business deals and have an invaluable network/contacts. Unless you are working in an industry where you are paid more than she does (oil and gas, senior software engineer earning in dollars, top medical consultant, investment banking) or own/run businesses whose revenues run into hundreds of millions of naira, better date a woman who you out-earn.

It is not your fault (nothing like your friend here. Na you be the friend ). It is just life being what it is.

_{I really thank God, my parents, myself and Lee Kuan Yew for the dose of pragmatism I have received/read over the years. It has made me to be very realistic and understand how the world works.}

Gerrard59:
I had a few female acquaintances/friends who worked in the Big4 and finance industry. Trust me, unless you are financially above them, you won't be able to date or eventually marry them. They are intelligent, speak eloquently and are well-exposed. But biology will always biologicate - women marry up, and men marry down. It is the same everywhere. In East Asian societies, women will judge a man by where he works before thinking of dating him. The man is expected to earn a particular amount of money (usually more than they do) before marriage. It is part of life. He can befriend them platonically - they are exposed to business deals and have an invaluable network/contacts. Unless you are working in an industry where you are paid more than she does (oil and gas, senior software engineer earning in dollars, top medical consultant, investment banking) or own/run businesses whose revenues run into hundreds of millions of naira, better date a woman who you out-earn.

It is not your fault (nothing like your friend here. Na you be the friend ). It is just life being what it is.

_{I really thank God, my parents, myself and Lee Kuan Yew for the dose of pragmatism I have received/read over the years. It has made me to be very realistic and understand how the world works.}

Gerrard59:


Women's hypergamy is displayed. Female colleagues not rating their male counterparts because of the kind of men they roll with.

No wonder you too no rate those women wey dey disturb you for IG.

faceLAGOS:
Naija career lady?

I pity your brother.

ednut1:
hahahahaha i know them like the back of my hand. She will also tell him the house should be in chevron to Oniru axis where houses cost 1m to 2m. A typical big 4 babe will never marry a man on 250k salary. Tell your brother to go find his level.

emmaodet:


Lol

So Love is just a word used for deceiving men? When it comes to a woman earning higher, all of a sudden Love is thrown out of the window?

ednut1:
hahahahaha i know them like the back of my hand. She will also tell him the house should be in chevron to Oniru axis where houses cost 1m to 2m. A typical big 4 babe will never marry a man on 250k salary. Tell your brother to go find his level.

Gift96:


Some times it's best to dive in and later regret than not diving. Life is all about experiences either good or bitter.

Op let your brother ttake the dive, life is all about experiences. The lady might genuinely like your brother regardless of how much he earns or where he stays .

Although I would suggest your brother move in to a bigger apartment as she has requested. Women always care about where they settle down in. It's logical if he can afford it

ednut1:
I worked in a BIg 4for 5 years. There we’re married women working there. E no easy but it’s doable. After 3 2 to 3 years there you can easily get job in big 4 abroad or get mid manager or manager role in another company. The job exposes them to powerful men like Chief financial officer, finance manager and others. Many of the female managers in my unit were married to men working in shell, mobil, Oando and the likes. The ladies no rate us the guys because of this. We also work some weekends too . Is your brother rich or had a good career trajectory If not she may dump his ass. So the relationship fit likely crash na long distance relationship better when dealing with a babe in big 4 hahahaha.

emmaodet:


Lol

So Love is just a word used for deceiving men? When it comes to a woman earning higher, all of a sudden Love is thrown out of the window?

DrinkWater10:

Is this trajectory same for people without accounting background that join these big 4 companies. I mean after 3 years, can they also transition to their partner companies abroad?

ednut1:
A man earning 250k cannot afford to rent the kind of house many of them want. We close around 10pm to 12am, some close at 3pm and go to hotels to sleep at certain times of the year. So they prefer Lekki, Oniru and the likes. He has talked marriage to the babe and from her response she no dey feel the guy lol

ednut1:
both genders use that term love to deceived each other. Women love comfort and a man who cant provide that makes life hard for them. In two to three years time this babe will be on a 800k to 2m job due to the big 4 background.

onyeadurunujoel:

I for like hear your experience o

Dirtyyansh:


I really do not know why you are making fuss all over the thread. If someone had hurt you in the past, then deal with it and get hold of yourself.

I am a 38yr old, married with 2kids to a beautiful woman whom I met when I was earning 40,000 naira. She never bat an eyelid over my earnings and to the glory of God, we have overcome and are doing just fine.

I brought a matter to the forum because they said in the multitude of counsel there is wisdom. In my hearts of hearts, I would have told him to forget about the relationship but he said, the lady in question do care but I don't know how long that would last considering the discussion they have had.
Not like the boy is begging for food or cannot afford his rent or take care of himself, he was just worried about the family life if they eventually get married.

If you cannot act like a mature woman, it's better you stop commenting on the thread.

emmaodet:


I have seen many of them in my field too.
Unfortunately for them in my field, they hardly stay at home. Doing like 8/9 months in a year on a ship while at home running around to upgrade or renew one certificate or the other. So their social life is very very poor and hardly mingle.
Most of them are always looking for serious relationships but the problem is that they are too exposed, many rude, arrogant and live wey more expensive life than we their counterparts.
I know of a lady that goes to Dubai, Egypt etc for vacations on time off. Even me wey dey collect pass am never do that since am a man with a lot of baggages - wife, kids, family etc but for them, it looks as if they don’t even have any responsibilities

Prettygirl200:
Am yet to understand the men in this forum, like what do you people really Want? It is believed by all the little things here that call themselves men that women are confused and don't know what they want.

But now it's clearly showing now that u lots don't know what u want either. Marry a girl that isn't working u all will start screaming what will she bring to the table, nothing only her overstretched pussy u all start preaching don't marry leaches, Nigerian girls are lazy, they are useless they have nothing to offer.
Marry a working class lady, oh no I cannot Marry a woman that earns more than me, I cannot Marry a woman that cannot take care of my kids bc she's working, I cannot this, I cannot that. Why are u all confused even more than the female gender?
What in god's name do u guys fucking want in this life?