Autobot05:
With the shortage of men put there ??

Thewrath:
■What kind of common sense tells you not to marry a woman of lower economic class because you think she expects you to shoulder most responsibilities?
■ Are you marrying out of common sense or love?
■ What every man should do if you have the capacity is to assist in establishing your wife to be supportive…..
■ even if you marry a woman of higher or same economic class as you, a woman’s money is for her ALONE, while a man’s money is for the home…this is not something you learn just anywhere,thats why there is marriage course…man up to your responsibilities.

Kobojunkie:
1. What you just asked makes no sense. A majority of the time, marrying someone of lower economic status almost always means one partner would have to shoulder more of the financial burdens in the household than the other. Also, the majority of the time, you lot embrace hypogamy in order that you might sit as gods over your spouses, despite the fact that almost 83% of the time that never works out the way you picture it in your head. Open your eyes to see others who are suffering from exactly that terrible choice they made and learn to apply commonsense instead.

2. We have all seen what and how your "love" is revealed and it is almost always ugly to behold!

3. Na that Savior complex na him dey make una they think say una fit skip over commonsense and still end up happy at the other end. Again, 83% of the times it never works out the way you picture it in your head. So will you continue to repeat the mistakes of those before you or will you make wiser choices in your own time and life?

4. When Osinachi was making her money and putting it towards the general upkeep of her family, was it not her money?

Again, visit commonsense abeg! Marriage is an agreement between a man and a woman. The only way you can get a woman who will use her money for her family is if you in fact marry a woman who will do that. You cannot blindly go after a woman who does not want to contribute financially to the upkeep of her own household and then come back to complain that women don't contribute. Na your foolishness alone fit carry you enter such a union to begin with.

Thewrath:
■You think marriage is theory and long grammar?
■come back after your marriage course,for now,nothing you will say makes any sense because you have no experience…

Kobojunkie:
1. So, in your head, telling you to stay away from women you will more than likely regret marrying is "theory" speak abi?

2. People who believe that experience is the ONLY teacher in life are some of the biggest fools out there? If you refuse to learn from the mistakes of others around you, what you do is guarantee yourself a life full of regret.

Thewrath:
■do people make mistakes equally?
■ Are you having thesame problem with the person you are learning from his mistakes?
■ When it comes to marriage,your own experience is the only thing that you can learn from..not even the marriage course will save you,it will only serve as a guide.
■ From your choice of words,its obvious you are just an emotionally unstable kid with access to internet….not worth my time.

Kobojunkie:
1. I learn first from the mistakes of others so I at least don't repeat the same mistakes in what is my own life. Works like magic too!

2. You don't need to first have the same problems before you learn from the mistakes of another. The reason you learn from the mistakes of others is so you don't make that particular mistake in your own life.

3. I am afraid that is a lie. We are individuals who are unique in the way we experience reality and life. However, when it comes to our interactions with others — relationships — the level of uniqueness becomes greatly diminished, even more so in a heavily templated situation like a marriage where in the minds of most Africans, the man is the head of the family whereas the woman is the one who takes care of the home. What that means is that most of the problems you experience in such settings can be easily resolved by following many of the already discovered problem-solving steps/templates out there, and yes, there, there are many of those out there today. So many of the problems people experience in marriage can be resolved by following problem-solving templates that are available everywhere you look today. Even child-rearing now has templates that you can follow or even tailor to the personality of the child you are raising. Why do you think the area of professional marriage counseling is now a big deal? It is because these templated approaches to problem resolution have been shown to be of great value even in marriage.
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4. Insulting me won't change any of the facts I have stated which is that when common sense is overlooked, regret dey full basket.

Thewrath:
■What experience,mistakes or common sense are you speaking from? The thing is i care less of who or what you decide to learn from, my experiences are working for me,yours is your call and your reality.

Kobojunkie:
Na so many Nigerian dey like claim, yet every day na so so complain over problems brought on by their own foolish decisions in life.

Thewrath:
You don’t have any experience,yet you think you know better? In what capacity are you speaking? As some girls’s boyfriend or what?

Kobojunkie:
Common sense is nobody's personal property. It is easily learned by paying attention to even one's surroundings. You would think that with the population of the world at over 8 billion that it would be quite common in the sense that everyone would have a commonsense sense at this point. Sadly, the reverse is the case as more and more people continue to foolishly ply life and repeat the mistakes of many of those before them for reasons unknown to even themselves.

Thewrath:
■Same common sense could have told you you can’t entirely depend on common sense when it comes to marriage issues..Come back after your marriage course,you are theoretically speaking without experience.

Kobojunkie:
1. So, you can't depend entirely on wisdom aka commonsense when it comes to marriage issues?

Thewrath:

Wisdom is not common sense..

com·mon sense
/ˌkämən ˈsens/

good sense and sound judgment in practical matters.

wis·dom
/ˈwizdəm/

the soundness of an action or decision with regard to the application of experience, knowledge, and good judgment.

Kobojunkie:

Thewrath:
Even wisdom was defined with experience..but here you are trying to separate them,lol

Kobojunkie:
So, It never occurred to you even up till this point in the conversation that by learning from the experiences and mistakes of others you in fact acquire experience as far as resolving their particular problem, the only kind of experience that holds great value in any situation?

Kobojunkie:
So, It never occurred to you even up till this point in the conversation that by learning from the experiences and mistakes of others you in fact acquire experience as far as resolving their particular problem, the only kind of experience that holds great value in any situation?

Thewrath:
We are built to survive on our own, yet simultaneously could not stay sane if isolated indefinitely…..we both need and don't need other people.good night

Thewrath:
■You can’t learn driving with another person’s experience..
■ You can’t get a job with another person’s experience..
■ So therefore your experience is for you and you ALONE.

Kobojunkie:
1. People do exactly that every single day when they ask others to teach them to drive or learn not to run at high speed over potholes after seeing what happened to another driver who did just that.

2. People do that every day. They work to obtain skills that they are aware others who got the same job also had on their resume.

3. Abeg, please start using your brain more.

Kobojunkie:
1. People do exactly that every single day when they ask others to teach them to drive or learn not to run at high speed over potholes after seeing what happened to another driver who did just that.

2. People do that every day. They work to obtain skills that they are aware others who got the same job also had on their resume.

3. Abeg, please start using your brain more.

Thewrath:
■People do all these,do they learn from their own experience or from that of their teachers?

Kobojunkie:
That will happen if you marry a woman who will share the expenses this instead of letting a lack of self-confidence on your part cause you to choose a woman of lower economic status in order to soothe your ego. Major regrets are what follow those who do that.

Thewrath:
■You learn from knowledge passed onto you by people with experience..you can also acquire more knowledge through your experience…
■ Depend on yourself and your experience for we are all built differently

talk2hb1:
■You Can Be a Liability on your husband all in the name of self confidence. I am an African Child, that’s all I know.

Kobojunkie:
People who learn from teachers obviously learn from the experiences of others.

Thewrath:

How do you learn driving from another person’s experience? There are things you can’t learn without your own experience…. driving and marriage are few of them,these a practical issues and not some mumbo jumbo theory stuff.

peepydelano:
I don’t do domestic work as a single sef so it’s when I’m married I’ll start doing it? If I’m providing then she should handle her domestic work to the fullest as well.

ibechris:



There is nothing like shortage of men,rather u have shortage of reasonable men and women.