Autobot05:
■Lmao how many rich women look for financially lower guys?? Men practice hypogamy for security purposes . Once a woman is richer than her man you see her misbehaving . Btw how many of you starting from yourself will marry a guy she's richer than ?? Y'all will feel like he came to eat your money
■ I disagree. The woman continue to live as dependent while saving her own money ba . Most women rise from there and start seeing the mass as a low class They'll now start seeking for an upgrade

1. Only a fool, an slowpoke even, would look for and bond with a person of lower financial status in marriage. Also, hypogamy offers men none of what you claim as reality clearly reveals.

2. LOL... so every market woman wey dey sell shop na closet millionaire according to you? You don't like to visit reality much, do you?

Autobot05:


And her need must have to do with finance ba ?
Learn to cater for yourself ... then the man will respect you not begging for sub , money for hair , wigs and clothes etc everytime

An average Nigerian girl can't even transport herself to go see her boyfriend or pay for a meal when they both go out . Is it the same way in Europe and the west . Hungry girls everywhere. No wonder una nor dey see husbands sef.

LoL.. where the husbands kwanu? Is it the ones that are still struggling to feed themselves? You don't seem to get the drift.

Bye o.

Lazy, jobless,self entitled fools everywhere

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

The issue is the problrm of age. A 35 year old lady needs a husband before menopause sets in. You ladies dont have the luxury if time. I believe ladies settle for a poor guy because tine is not on their side

Secondly it depends on the type of guy. A giy with brilliant business ideas can easily make money if his woman helps him out with money. Hardworking intelligent men can easily make it with some loans from their women

EriMma1:

No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

So The Moral Of Your Epistle Now is:
So You Mean You Should Be A Liability Right?

StrongAlphMale:


What a parasite and a liability you are!

Waiting for a man to provide for you? As in per your father or what? Your father is the only man God created to provide and take care of you until you're married. Stop being entitled parasite. No man is responsible for taking care of you except your father!

Why are you insulting her? Is she the one that made you poor? Groan,cry,and type from now till tomorrow,women will prefer financial stable men. There is nothing you can do about it....sadly

EriMma1:



Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

But I wi til the ground finish and that gives her the right to my money abi?
Sometimes eh una reasoning no just the correspond.
Have you forgotten “what a man can do a woman can do better”
Make she go hustle for her money and stop depending on a man for survival, na una post they give all this useless gals on and off nairaland moral to the do rubbish.

I have nothing to say. To each mallam e own kettle.

I have said nothing. I have nothing to say.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

So if the man that is taking VERY GOOD CARE OF YOU eventually dies you will go out and look for another one that will continue taking of you?
Aren't you ashamed of yourself? Haba
What happens if you are gainfully employed and you take care of your needs, will you die?
Don't you know the value of a woman that helps her husband financially is better than the one who sleeps 24 hrs.
I cherish my wife when ever she receives her salary and buy even the very little things for the house, please begin to perish this idea from your mind, i wonder which FOOLISH MAN will marry you after seeing this nonsense you posted.
That's ASHAWO mindset oooooo

All I took from this is that you are broke, hungry, homeless (always in one man’s house or the other), and your family are broke. so, it is a must that you find a man to save you from this poverty. I pray with you 🙏

Philosopher1979:
■ The issue is the problrm of age. A 35 year old lady needs a husband before menopause sets in. You ladies dont have the luxury if time. I believe ladies settle for a poor guy because tine is not on their side
■ Secondly it depends on the type of guy. A giy with brilliant business ideas can easily make money if his woman helps him out with money. Hardworking intelligent men can easily make it with some loans from their women

1. The average age for menopause in women is 45 - 55, and so a 35-year-old woman has lots of time, assuming she wants kids, to have at least one child. Only, so, try instead to stick to approaching this topic from the point of view of commonsense and not bigotry. As for your claim that ladies settle for poor guys because time is not on their side, you obviously aren't in touch with the reality of Nigeria. Are all the women, some in their late teens, others still in their 20s, married to poor men did so because time was no longer on their side?

2. Rubbish! Having what you call a brilliant business idea does not guarantee success, whether a woman helps him out with money or not. It is one thing to have a good idea and another to make a business work, and this no matter how hardworking you are. Google to find out how many businesses crash each year to get an idea of how hard it is to do such things.

talk2hb1:
So The Moral Of Your Epistle Now is: So You Mean You Should Be A Liability Right?

She lives in a society that accommodates such things. Why blame her?

marlow1962:
■ But I wi til the ground finish and that gives her the right to my money abi? Sometimes eh una reasoning no just the correspond.
■ Have you forgotten “what a man can do a woman can do better”
■ Make she go hustle for her money and stop depending on a man for survival, na una post they give all this useless gals on and off nairaland moral to the do rubbish.

1. No one can access your money without you giving it so don't blame her when you give in to hypogamy in the name of marriage. Culturally, she is in her right to demand she be taken care of, and last I checked those rules were implemented by the men folk for the benefit of their egos.

2. So what? Does your culture even begin to recognize that saying?

3. Useless girls yet many of you are dating or married to many of the same girls... women whom you provide and pay for. Even your many side chicks are many of the same girls. Don't you see that what you typed is an indictment against your person?

Jacobx007:
■ So if the man that is taking VERY GOOD CARE OF YOU eventually dies you will go out and look for another one that will continue taking of you? Aren't you ashamed of yourself? Haba
■ What happens if you are gainfully employed and you take care of your needs, will you die? Don't you know the value of a woman that helps her husband financially is better than the one who sleeps 24 hrs. I cherish my wife when ever she receives her salary and buy even the very little things for the house, please begin to perish this idea from your mind, i wonder which FOOLISH MAN will marry you after seeing this nonsense you posted. That's ASHAWO mindset oooooo

1. Why should she be ashamed when culture, even to this day, glorifies this way of living as far as women? You lot enjoy it when your pastors and mogs stroke your egos and fill your heads with lies of how women are meant to be cared for by their men and in turn submit to them and it never occurred to you that this is exactly what you glorify in your delusion?

2. Oh, so your wife does not even contribute fairly to her own family hence the reason why you cherish her every time she brings money out to by one or two things? How is that any different from OP who looks for a man to care for her needs?

Kobojunkie:
1. Why should she be ashamed when culture, even to this day, glorifies this way of living as far as women? You lot enjoy it when your pastors and mogs stroke your egos and fill your heads with lies of how women are meant to be cared for by their men and in turn submit to them and it never occurred to you that this is exactly what you glorify in your delusion?

2. Oh, so your wife does not even contribute fairly to her own family hence the reason why you cherish her every time she brings money out to by one or two things? How is that any different from OP who looks for a man to care for her needs?

What are you saying? I don't understand a thing out of all your words.
And who told you I enjoy what the pastor says on the subject?
As for my wife I earned far more than she does, so we can't possibly contribute same amount at the moment, she will probably earn more when she finished her program.
I wonder how you can support the OP, you are indirectly telling her to become a sex worker

Jacobx007:
■ What are you saying? I don't understand a thing out of all your words. And who told you I enjoy what the pastor says on the subject? Nonsense

Your pastors and mogs simply regurgitate what is accepted norm as far as culture in much of Nigeria.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

I had a few choice words but being that you’re a newbie . I’ll just read comments

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?


Enjoy.

What will you do though if he can meet your needs now but no longer able to after marriage due to some misfortune? There is no methodology to these things.

talk2hb1:

So The Moral Of Your Epistle Now is:
So You Mean You Should Be A Liability Right?

No, she is simply looking out for herself, which is not a bad thing. Just that life is rarely as straightforward as she thinks.

Kobojunkie:
She lives in a society that accommodates such things. Why blame her?

I am not blaming her, if she is my sister I will advise her in like manner.

talk2hb1:
I am not blaming her, if she is my sister I will advise her in like manner.

Much of this has to do with what is culturally accepted upbringing and if you hate it, start by hating the culture that justifies this mindset for our women and praises men when they foolishly submit to hypogamy.

fortyishcouga:


What will you do though if he can meet your needs now but no longer able to after marriage due to some misfortune? There is no methodology to these things.

Thank you my dear, she will divorce him and go look for a more capable man.
So she'll be moving from one man to another looking for chicken change, probably end up with HIV and die for nothing.
When so many women are now CEOs and earning six digits figures this one is looking for a man to give her peanut.

fortyishcouga:


No, she is simply looking out for herself, which is not a bad thing. Just that life is rarely as straightforward as she thinks.

Honestly I am not blaming her

EriMma1:


LoL.. where the husbands kwanu? Is it the ones that are still struggling to feed themselves? You don't seem to get the drift.

Bye o.

Lol don't come back here to wail I'm 35 and still single . Wait for mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates . There's nothing to get here than another female manipulation

Kobojunkie:
1. Only a fool, an slowpoke even, would look for and bond with a person of lower financial status in marriage. Also, hypogamy offers men none of what you claim as reality clearly reveals.

2. LOL... so every market woman wey dey sell shop na closet millionaire according to you? You don't like to visit reality much, do you?

Well unfortunately for you ... you can only cry, wail and rant . That's the the society is . You give a woman feathers and she tends to fly towards the sun at her own risk too .

I've seen things ma'am. You don't have to be a millionaire before assisting your husband in the family . I no get time to type I'd have shared a story of a middle aged man that opened a cool business for his wife yet she was still asking him for money . She never assisted with catering for the kids financially( no matter how lil ) which was the main reason he set up the business for her . Learn to fend for yourself like a proper adult and stop begging up and down looking for alms like . You'll never see a woman from the west or Europe thinking with am orphan mentality like this .

Get a Job

Autobot05:
■ Well unfortunately for you ... you can only cry, wail and rant . That's the the society is . You give a woman feathers and she tends to fly towards the sun at her own risk too .
■ I've seen things ma'am. You don't have to be a millionaire before assisting your husband in the family . I no get time to type I'd have shared a story of a middle aged man that opened a cool business for his wife yet she was still asking him for money . She never assisted with catering for the kids financially( no matter how lil ) which was the main reason he set up the business for her . Learn to fend for yourself like a proper adult and stop begging up and down looking for alms like . You'll never see a woman from the west or Europe thinking with am orphan mentality like this Get a Job.

1. Who send you business?

2. Abeg stop convoluting o'jare! How does your one story change the condition for millions living before our korokoro eyes in poverty?

Kobojunkie:
1. Who send you business?

2. Abeg stop convoluting o'jare! How does your one story change the condition for millions living before our korokoro eyes in poverty?

Lol I can never fall into such trap . If i ever open a business for my partner ... there will be deals to be signed at my own terms


That's just one out of many I've encountered. Y'all are ingrates by nature that's why no matter what a man does for a woman, she'll still end up asking him " what have you done for me. If he over do to prove his love they'll still ask " I never told you to "

Go and get a job and stop pretending to be an orphan
Even orphans leave the orphanage when they're 18
You just want to relax and be taken care of .......sorry

EriMma1:



Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

Why do you women always switch laws from one side to the other.
Pls which law should we apply now? Religious law, traditional law or government/national law?
Nitori ofin to mu eleha na lo mu elegun - the law that holds a woman in hijab/veiled/covered person na him still hold masquerade. They are both covered.
If the bible says a man must till before he can feeds his family, the same bible orders the woman to be a virgin/untouched for her man tilling the ground seriously. So that he can have a value for his efforts.
You can't start dating and banging from secondary school days to uni to nysc to working place without remembering the law all then to just remember when it is time to settle down.
The law you quoted said we should stone to death a disvirged woman.
Have we done that? Have we taken the laws into our hands? Are men not benevolent with this law?
Secondly, I don't know why women complain about working and also not wanting to contribute into the family purse while working.
Then of what use is woman empowerment? When it is not reflecting in the farm lifestyle.
Then it is better women empowerment and give women job scrapped and let men who are ready to work and not complain to feed their own women take up these jobs because to whom much is giving, much is expected.

Jacobx007:

So if the man that is taking VERY GOOD CARE OF YOU eventually dies you will go out and look for another one that will continue taking of you?
Aren't you ashamed of yourself? Haba
What happens if you are gainfully employed and you take care of your needs, will you die?
Don't you know the value of a woman that helps her husband financially is better than the one who sleeps 24 hrs.
I cherish my wife when ever she receives her salary and buy even the very little things for the house, please begin to perish this idea from your mind, i wonder which FOOLISH MAN will marry you after seeing this nonsense you posted.
That's ASHAWO mindset oooooo

The same ashawo that you patronize and pay (her bills) but cannot pay your wife who takes care of the home.
Ashawo go bill una for just a few mins and you men will pay but expect your wife to bring her money to the table. You see why I said better to put that your money to good use in the home by taking care of wifey.

Why should I be ashamed for wanting a good life? Is Regina ashamed today? Many women who's husband are taking care of their needs 100%, how many are ashamed? Rather it's the one who's husband can't cater for that faces disgrace and shame all the time where she'll be looking like a mad dog or a shadow of herself especially if she's not financially Independent. Or you'll hear husband kills wife because of pure water or agege bread. That is why you see a lot of women trying hard to get something doing Then whats the point being with a man if my life cant be affected positively by his presence and I still need to work to cater for myself?
What will he be doing in my life? No you tell me... Especially when there are other capable men out there. Spare me abeg!

emmaodet:


Why do you women always switch laws from one side to the other.
Pls which law should we apply now? Religious law, traditional law or government/national law?
Nitori ofin to mu eleha na lo mu elegun - the law that holds a woman in hijab/veiled/covered person na him still hold masquerade. They are both covered.
If the bible says a man must till before he can feeds his family, the same bible orders the woman to be a virgin/untouched for her man tilling the ground seriously. So that he can have a value for his efforts.
You can't start dating and banging from secondary school days to uni to nysc to working place without remembering the law all then to just remember when it is time to settle down.
The law you quoted said we should stone to death a disvirged woman.
Have we done that? Have we taken the laws into our hands? Are men not benevolent with this law?
Secondly, I don't know why women complain about working and also not wanting to contribute into the family purse while working.
Then of what use is woman empowerment? When it is not reflecting in the farm lifestyle.
Then it is better women empowerment and give women job scrapped and let men who are ready to work and not complain to feed their own women take up these jobs because to whom much is giving, much is expected.

This your analogy doesn't follow because the two scenarios you painted are not of the same category. The stoning of nonvirgins and man tilling the ground are not the same because one is a man-made law ( stoning of nonvirgins) while the other is a decree from God for man to til the ground and in that same line of decree, God gave the woman her own duties which is to bear children in pain. So the first is not of God. That was man-made therefore should not be in comparison here.

The use of women empowerment is to save her from an a irresponsible man. Women empowerment came as a result of men falling from their first estate as bread winners and falling short of their responsibilities forcing the women to literally beg to fend for themselves and their children in the past while the men look on like lazy baboon. Na then e start. Meanwhile there were men who were living up to their responsibilities and these one took advantage of the suffering married women. That was when snatching of peoples wife
Started and really trended. You don't hear such again because women are now empowered. What then do you need such irresponsible man for if you still have to fend for yourself ?

Regina was doing well for herself as an actress yet she went for a higher level in marriage to maintain the level she wants. Does she give Ned nwoko her money? That is what I call marriage.

Ned Nwoko worked his way to the top, let the men learn to work hard to guard against situations that will warrant bringing to the table nonsense talk. Many men have become so lazy. Na only to talk choo choo choo like woman up and down them Sabi. Time Dem go use go hustle and become a man they'll sit and trash talk a woman wey no bring for table.

Una whehdone

talk2hb1:

So The Moral Of Your Epistle Now is:
So You Mean You Should Be A Liability Right?

No.. I mean men should learn to be men. Man up to their responsibilities and stop expecting a woman to bring to their empty table.

Make una dey look up to people like Ned Nwoko, Tinubu and the odogwus wey know how to be a man.

Kobojunkie:
1. The average age for menopause in women is 45 - 55, and so a 35-year-old woman has lots of time, assuming she wants kids, to have at least one child. Only, so, try instead to stick to approaching this topic from the point of view of commonsense and not bigotry. As for your claim that ladies settle for poor guys because time is not on their side, you obviously aren't in touch with the reality of Nigeria. Are all the women, some in their late teens, others still in their 20s, married to poor men did so because time was no longer on their side?

2. Rubbish! Having what you call a brilliant business idea does not guarantee success, whether a woman helps him out with money or not. It is one thing to have a good idea and another to make a business work, and this no matter how hardworking you are. Google to find out how many businesses crash each year to get an idea of how hard it is to do such things.

Try to be civil in your argument for your own sake. You're becoming too toxic and abusive these days and it's not good. Small thing, you don abuse person. You can't make a line of sentence without a derogatory word. Stop it!