Kobojunkie:
1. Why should she be ashamed when culture, even to this day, glorifies this way of living as far as women? You lot enjoy it when your pastors and mogs stroke your egos and fill your heads with lies of how women are meant to be cared for by their men and in turn submit to them and it never occurred to you that this is exactly what you glorify in your delusion?

2. Oh, so your wife does not even contribute fairly to her own family hence the reason why you cherish her every time she brings money out to by one or two things? How is that any different from OP who looks for a man to care for her needs?

Stop mentioning me. Argue with them on their take. You think say you get bad mouth, if I start with you, you go run.

fortyishcouga:


What will you do though if he can meet your needs now but no longer able to after marriage due to some misfortune? There is no methodology to these things.

I think you should ask yourself that question because I never envisaged such. I don't entertain negative thoughts so the issue of misfortune is overruled here but since you believe in such, what will you do?

Now back to the matter. When I say a man that can take care of you, I mean... a very rich man. I'm talking about a man with landed properties and companies or businesses that can keep him financially afloat for as long he lives and of course with such, he can establish the wife to a point where she can conviniently chest any financial responsibilities in his absence. However my sis, if you choose to go with a struggling man because of that mentality of yours, your choice. please do. Since it's better to be with a struggling man than being with one you fear will have misfortune. Being with a struggling man is kukuma natural misfortune and disaster. so be with him.

I don't know why people always foresee evil around good things. Always trying to pamper and romance poverty na wa o! Since that's how you perceive life, Biko, hold the struggling one tight to avoid misfortune according to you.

Your methodology really suits you o.

EriMma1:


You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

I find it interesting that you've mentioned ancient times, our forefathers and whatnots.

But I'll have to ask if you are a virgin. Yes, I'm asking you that question.

Because while men were expected to be providers through and through, the women had to be sexually pure, virginal, soft, supple, feminine with no rubbish past.

So I ask again, are you a virgin?

You can't be referencing ancient times with regards to a man's responsibility and ignore that of a woman.

EriMma1:



The same ashawo that you patronize and pay (her bills) but cannot pay your wife who takes care of the home.
Ashawo go bill una for just a few mins and you men will pay but expect your wife to bring her money to the table. You see why I said better to put that your money to good use in the home by taking care of wifey.

Why should I be ashamed for wanting a good life? Is Regina ashamed today? Many women who's husband are taking care of their needs 100%, how many are ashamed? Rather it's the one who's husband can't cater for that faces disgrace and shame all the time where she'll be looking like a mad dog or a shadow of herself especially if she's not financially Independent. Or you'll hear husband kills wife because of pure water or agege bread. That is why you see a lot of women trying hard to get something doing Then whats the point being with a man if my life cant be affected positively by his presence and I still need to work to cater for myself?
What will he be doing in my life? No you tell me... Especially when there are other capable men out there. Spare me abeg!

Whatever rocks your boat madam, I didn't intend to insult you in any way.
You have every right to pursue your dreams and live the life you want.
I know you are educated from the way you presented your write up, very sweet ENGLISH
Enjoy your weekend

EriMma1:



Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

So what's the meaning of Gender equality?

I believe in Gender equality, so I can't take the responsibility of paying the bills of my equal.

EriMma1:


I think you should ask yourself that question because I never envisaged such. I don't entertain negative thoughts so the issue of misfortune is overruled here but since you believe in such, what will you do?

Now back to the matter. When I say a man that can take care of you, I mean... a very rich man. I'm talking about a man with landed properties and companies or businesses that can keep him financially afloat for as long he lives and of course with such, he can establish the wife to a point where she can conviniently chest any financial responsibilities in his absence. However my sis, if you choose to go with a struggling man because of that mentality of yours, your choice. please do. Since it's better to be with a struggling man than being with one you fear will have misfortune. Being with a struggling man is kukuma natural misfortune and disaster. so be with him.

I don't know why people always foresee evil around good things. Always trying to pamper and romance poverty na wa o! Since that's how you perceive life, Biko, hold the struggling one tight to avoid misfortune according to you.

Your methodology really suits you o.

Will u settle for polygamy because such men are allready taken.
I mean a man thatvrich will have too many ladies and will probably be married by the time u meet him. Oko won no igboro. Husband is scarce to get.

Most men under 30 are not that successful.
Life is not that straightforward

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

and vice versa.

EriMma1:


No.. I mean men should learn to be men. Man up to their responsibilities and stop expecting a woman to bring to their empty table.

Make una dey look up to people like Ned Nwoko, Tinubu and the odogwus wey know how to be a man.

Hmmm, I won’t want my Daughter or Baby Sister to get Married to a Guy Who Can’t take care of Himself Financially and Mentally!

Jacobx007:

Whatever rocks your boat madam, I didn't intend to insult you in any way.
You have every right to pursue your dreams and live the life you want.
I know you are educated from the way you presented your write up, very sweet ENGLISH
Enjoy your weekend

I didn't insult you either. Na you bring ashawo enter the matter.

Enjoy.

EriMma1:


I didn't insult you either. Na you bring ashawo enter the matter.

Enjoy.

Sincere apologies please

Philosopher1979:


Will u settle for polygamy because such men are allready taken.
I mean a man thatvrich will have too many ladies and will probably be married by the time u meet him. Oko won no igboro. Husband is scarce to get.

Most men under 30 are not that successful.
Life is not that straightforward

I wouldn't settle for a married man because of wealth. But I also don't agree that there are no rich or comfortable single men out there from where I can make my choose.

Life is not some times straighforward I Know but all I'm saying is let's guard against unecessary pressure.

Jacobx007:

Sincere apologies please

You don't need it. I'm not crossed with you. We just talking. Normal .

talk2hb1:

Hmmm, I won’t want my Daughter or Baby Sister to get Married to a Guy Who Can’t take care of Himself Financially and Mentally!

Be careful what you wish for. There's power in the tongue. Don't place a curse on your unborn daughter. Please.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

Honestly can't fathom the wailing on your post. Since when the poverty/struggling become a virtue? A low value man can never be virtous. If poor men can be virtuous,why are nairaland men(who are mostly poor/struggling) vile?


The men crying want good life for their sisters and daughters.
When it's their sisters enjoying monetary benefits from men they are happy. When it's other ladies they become resentful or accuse them of hookup.

Misery loves company.

People that go to Maldives for vacation,do they have two heads?


Which do you prefer? That your neighbor child in a duplex comes to flaunt the fancy toy their parents bought for them to your child in a boy quarters and when your child asks you to buy such for them also,you can't afford to because of the man you married?

Do you like a situation where you can't attend parties because you can't afford aso ebi because of the man you are with?

Women please consider before commiting to a man that can't provide all your needs. You are a woman,the most beautiful creature on this planet. Men are savages without you,you are the one that lighten up a man's world,so the least they can do is sustain their source of joy by providing her need.

Men are very brutal in vetting. They will never settle for a woman that falls short of the society standards.So never drop your hypergamy. Hypergamy is our compensation for their polygamous nature .it is fair enough.

Ignore broke, frustrated men trying to sham you for wanting a provider man.

Bullythebully:

Honestly can't fathom the wailing on your post. Since when the poverty/struggling become a virtue? A low value man can never be virtous. If poor men can be virtuous,why are nairaland men(who are mostly poor/struggling) vile?


The men crying want good life for their sisters and daughters.
When it's their sisters enjoying monetary benefits from men they are happy. When it's other ladies they become resentful or accuse them of hookup.

Misery loves company.

People that go to Maldives for vacation,do they have two heads?


Which do you prefer? That your neighbor child in a duplex comes to flaunt the fancy toy their parents bought for them to your child in a boy quarters and when your child asks you to buy such for them also,you can't afford to because of the man you married?

Do you like a situation where you can't attend parties because you can't afford aso ebi because of the man you are with?

Women please consider before commiting to a man that can't provide all your needs. You are a woman,the most beautiful creature on this planet. Men are savages without you,you are the one that lighten up a man's world,so the least they can do is sustain their source of joy by providing her need.

Men are very brutal in vetting. They will never settle for a woman that falls short of the society standards.So never drop your hypergamy. Hypergamy is our compensation for their polygamous nature .it is fair enough.

Ignore broke, frustrated men trying to sham you for wanting a provider man.

Lol . This one na total annihilation. Shey me i was still using a corner of my mouth to say it. You just kukuma shatter the table hahaha 🤣🤣🤣.

True o, those people who are living out the life of their head don't have two heads o. Why should I now let my own be different. Mbanu.

The truth is.. most ladies like to be reactive than proactive. They will turn deaf ears to this warnings and go ahead with it. When reality strikes, that's when they'll want to opt out by what time it's already too late to gather the shattered pieces of their lifes

The men are not doing themselves any good by commiting to such Union where you can't have a plan b in case of an emergency. Just like what happened to me in that lawyers house, what if it had gotten worse than that and the yeye garlic didn't work?... Hmmm ... Any time I remember that incidence, I shudder.

Raalsalghul:


I find it interesting that you've mentioned ancient times, our forefathers and whatnots.

But I'll have to ask if you are a virgin. Yes, I'm asking you that question.

Because while men were expected to be providers through and through, the women had to be sexually pure, virginal, soft, supple, feminine with no rubbish past.

So I ask again, are you a virgin?

You can't be referencing ancient times with regards to a man's responsibility and ignore that of a woman.

Erimma1,

You have not answered this young man's curiosity.

But then, I recall well-to-do Nigerian men who still married ladies who fvcked around when they were younger or in school. Sha, I don talk am, the average Nigerian man has no standard when it comes to marriage. Na to dey shout alfa meil for road while dangling the smelly preek.

EriMma1:
You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

The ancient landmarks set by your forefathers is what brought you a lot to where you are today where reality finally crashes down that delusion revealing it for the foolishness that it always was. Are you certain you want to continue to live such a foolish reality?

Gerrard59:


Erimma1,

You have not answered this young man's curiosity.

But then, I recall well-to-do Nigerian men who still married ladies who fvcked around when they were younger or in school. Sha, I don talk am, the average Nigerian man has no standard when it comes to marriage. Na to dey shout alfa meil for road while dangling the smelly preek.

Everything we complain about in women are caused by men changing themselves.

And most men are wrongly seeking for the solution by expecting women to change when it is they (men) that should.

Gerrard59:


Erimma1,

You have not answered this young man's curiosity.

But then, I recall well-to-do Nigerian men who still married ladies who fvcked around when they were younger or in school. Sha, I don talk am, the average Nigerian man has no standard when it comes to marriage. Na to dey shout alfa meil for road while dangling the smelly preek.

I know of a man who married a girl that it was obvious to everyone in the department she was sleeping with her lecturer. I saw one of her post where she was adoring the husband on Facebook on his birthday, I was pretty disgusted.


I used to be friends with guys who organised shows for models etc when I was in Nigeria, I happened to attend one of their shows and after show and after party, God! You needed to see how they were sharing the female models around and what they're doing to them... I mean the organisers. Needless to say, the male models are not left out, most of them have become homosexuals.

Kobojunkie:
The ancient landmarks set by your forefathers is what brought you a lot to where you are today where reality finally crashes down that delusion revealing it for the foolishness that it always was. Are you certain you want to continue to live such a foolish reality?

Which one are you living?

Gerrard59:


Erimma1,

You have not answered this young man's curiosity.

But then, I recall well-to-do Nigerian men who still married ladies who fvcked around when they were younger or in school. Sha, I don talk am, the average Nigerian man has no standard when it comes to marriage. Na to dey shout alfa meil for road while dangling the smelly preek.

Answer him what exactly? His question does not aligned with the post cos I'm not talking about body count here. Let him read the post again and come up with a more correlative question. Then will I be obliged to answer him.

You guys have deviated from the original context of this post.

As if the men are saints themselves.

EriMma1:
Which one are you living?

I ply the path of commonsense in all my dealings.

Poverty can make you believe that some write up are normal. I encourage guys to forget anything that concerns love in a country where love is been paid for. Move out to develop countries if you really want to experience love. Please not with a Nigeria girl. Don't date women that can't stand on there own.

As a man your only responsibility is to take care of your kids . Once they reach 18 in most develop countries they are on there own. The only fulfilment you get in these life is always let your happiness comes first.. Dey no put you for these world to work and Carter for people till you die, Enjoy your life.

Kobojunkie:
I ply the path of commonsense in all my dealings.

O han Lara yin. Eku orire.

purehustle101:
As a man your only responsibility is to take care of your kids . Once they reach 18 in most develop countries they are on there own. The only fulfilment you get in these life is always let your happiness comes first.. Dey no put you for these world to work and Carter for people till you die, Enjoy your life.

Then stay by yourself now. Why go and bring somebodys daughter to come be looking like lucozade in your house? See me o

purehustle101:
Poverty can make you believe that some write up are normal. I encourage guys to forget anything that concerns love in a country where love is been paid for. Move out to develop countries if you really want to experience love. Please not with a Nigeria girl. Don't date women that can't stand on there own.

Whos talking about love? Abeg snap out of your delusions. We are talking nitty-gritty, you're talking indian film. You think marriage is all about fairytale or zeeworld? Let responsibilities hit you left front and right, even with your woman working and supporting your struggles, you'll know what's up.

The so called developed countries that you can't even talk to their women anyhow and you'll lose all that makes you a man. God help you, you are the type expecting what she will bring to the table, youll land in naija with the next available flight if you try one inch of the rubbish you do with naija girls.

How you men glorify slavery in a relationship with a white girl all because of selfish gains ( which in most cases doesn't last) is what baffles me. Atenu

nlfpmod

Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.


RUN AWAY FROM THIS TYPE OF CREATURE,THEY HAVE NOTHING PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY,MENTALLY. ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO OFFER A MAN

Tell them o , some women will be forming super woman but deep down in their hearts they're dying .

You better don't start what you cannot finish.

If your man don't spend on you , definitely he's spending on someone else .

To look good and healthy it entails money .

Make nobody bobo you .

Erinmma,

As a guy, i wholeheartedly agree with you.

She should go, so that the man can have his peace and manage his life. Simple

Don't beg anybody to stay with you. Let her go