EriMma1:


You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

Can u do the works our mothers did then?
Can u farm?
Can u do cassava work?
Men duty those days are just to clear the farmlands nd bushes, the women do the plantings and harvesting.
Our mothers then contributed a whole lot.
Not all these entitled girls we have this days

The Op is one of these new generation people that have shallow thinking. A man that must meet your needs but you never spoke about what you are going to be bringing to the table. Another thing is what if the said man that can meet your needs today runs into stormy waters especially in a turbulent economy like ours and is no longer able to meet your needs, do you run off to another one that can meet your needs?
The op should get off her ass and get working instead of looking to leech off a man. The world has no place for ladies who are liabilities anymore.

You may not leave daddy's house pretty soon.

I don't blame you guys, I blame your parents that can't provide or set you up financially.

I'm not upset at this content a bit, a financially stable girl will have a completely different view.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

Erimma oh, my stomach don burst oh

EriMma1:


Leave that feminist bullshit! That's what you men are using as excuse to dodge responsibilities these days.

By the way, feminism is widely misunderstood. It doesn't mean equality with men in the area of financial responsibilities but equality of rights to work, earn and occupy certain office and political positions. You are just being ridiculous to think feminism is all about sharing financial responsibilities equally. No!

To your question, a womans duty is to make sure the home is in order and the children and husband are well fed and cared for. Manages the husbands finance very well. Proper Home and financial management are what we bring to the table.

When you're done shedding tears go and kill yyourself

EriMma1:



Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

Instead of you to be begging us for the bad apple you gave to us you are here shining shit

OP choice is a wealthy man as husband. That is her choice. She has right to that.

But wealthy persons are not many. There is not enough of them for ladies looking for husband.
She should be prepared to go as second or third, or fourth, or fifth wife.

Not everyone here is a struggling guy.

Someone paid for your Suya and you expect him to pay to treat you in case you fall sick from eating it. Please what do you ever pay for biko? What does anyone need a liability for?

So if it was the guy that fell sick after eating the Suya, you would have abandoned him because you don't even have shishi to take care of yourself, let alone take care of him? Wetin sane man dey find around such hungry girl?

Your type should just shut up sometimes - I never chop mofos, opportunists all over town.

EriMma1:



Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

So why do you people now fight for gender equality...

Confused creatures.

cococandy:
Y’all hate feminists and still hate traditional women. Oti o

Lele. See, traditional what. Stay there and be doing traditional nah. Feminist Gini. See, if your a feminist and you pay half of all the bills, you are a good feminist. My problem is that they want you to pay all the bills and still claim feminism. I think that's having a mental problem.

Someone is struggling doesn't mean they won't make it
The wealthy people out there, started somewhere, stop being insensitive with your liability mentality
If the stomach cramp had happened in your own house, with nobody with you, what would you have done? It's even clear you're broke too, because if you weren't, you wouldn't wait on a guy to save your own life
As he no get money, why you no fit buy drugs with your own money to save your life first of all
Y'all will be preaching Independence, but wants to survive on men at the same time

EriMma1:


You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

What happened to our forefathers? We had Dorcas in the Bible, we had Abigail... There was a woman who stood and led war...

You speak out of your experience and ignorance... You clearly don't understand when the Bible talks about "HELP MEET". Please, check the meaning of help meet as it relates to a lady in a relationship. You're actually looking for a helper and not a companion

Then back to Nigeria, we had Margaret Ekpo, we had Dora, the NAFDAC DG, today, we're talking about Okonji Iweaka. A woman has been a president in Africa country, many of them are prime ministers all over the continent

You talk about the olden days where women are limited and not given equal opportunities, but today, women attends same school, same courses, even gets lucrative jobs more than the men, yet, you want the man to be responsible for all your needs while doing nothing

Let me say, you're confused, lazy and timid. I'm a guy of vision, so, when I see a woman of vision, I know one. I'm still single, but in a relationship, my girl is a BM already at age 26.... We compliment each other

Peace

Karleb:
I don't blame you guys, I blame your parents that can't provide or set you up financially.

I'm not upset at this content a bit, a financially stable girl will have a completely different view.

But she made a good point.


Going into marriage without having a certain level of financial stability or having a sustainable means of income is a recipe for disaster.



That mantra of building together with a girl doesn't always end well. If truly couples do become financially better after marriage as a result of some mythological belief that marriage brings blessing, then we shouldn't have more than 150 million Nigerians living in poverty with over 50million married couple struggling to feed today. So you see?



Every single man should strive to achieve a certain level of financial stability before venturing into marriage, or have a sustainable means of earning income, be it through business, trade, craft, handiwork or paid job, it is important. You are not doing it for the girl but for your own safety and mental being oh because the world of today is becoming more and more difficult to survive if you are from a poor family and it will be more difficult to maneuver through our current difficult economy with the burden of innocent kids

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

You must be from a poverty-stricken home.
Don't go to school and get a good job.Be waiting for a man to take care of you as a housewife.
Pig!

He should meet ur needs. Wetting come be ur papa work? U have a very perverted mentality. U can't even meet ur needs, I pity ur future.

EriMma1:
nlfpmod

Hello young lady,
I don't know why there are fight and banters over your position on this topic. You're entitled to your opinion and choice of partner.
A question - You know that your financial spec is hustled by other girls. You may win. Congrats.
But since he has money, hope you won't nag if other girls are sharing him as side chick's, correct? May the best hustler win.
Again be mindful on other qualities once the basic needs are met. Even female beauty is subjective and not so fine girl's are still chosen by men. Remain blessed.
Contentment and gratitude are not always common qualities.

All this na shinanigans..once you are lucky to find someone who you love and equally loves you back then everything just falls in place...God bless my harly...taught me the spirit of giving...way back then she was barely 18 but was xo thoughtful in her gifts and prefers i gift her something i own already...even only 100 Naira overcharge when we want to transport..she no gree enter...am a sucker 4 her for life

I couldn't meet the needs of my fiance, it was in the process of dating I got a good job. I think we need to slow down a little.

EriMma1:



Why should a woman be the one to meet your needs? Are women meant to til the ground? That's the man's duty from creation and even though women are now doing it. It still doesn't give a man the right to her money.

Shut up, you aren't making any sense...
Don't you have a Father?

Unrated900:



What do you got to offer..

Even me i dont date broke girls

They have winked me tire i always ignore.

Though i aint handsome nor ugly but got good job.

In my diction i date working class babe of age 36 and 39 or single mothers who are well to my standard...

I do not date broke ladies

Your Pussies isnt my want..

I spend 100k

I expect u to spend 50k as well

The relationship go sweet..

You can do better. This is an age of gender EQUALITY. TEAM50-50

Written by an Olosho that has nothing to offer. What needs can you render a guy in life except puxxy
Say i'm a multimillionaire, Name 5 things you can offer me that i don't already have useless gender always making a fool of themselves.

Guys are the most hardworking, They get depressed but don't start crying about it, They fall and rise again. They do all this only for a useless broke clown to be saying don't be with a guy who can't meet your needs. NEEDS KILL YOUR USELESS HEAD THERE.

Guys keep up the Hustle, make yourself better and ignore girls, don't spend your future on them until you're ready to get married. If a girl ask you for money, ask them to go ask their fathers, If he can't meet your needs that you have to depend on a guy, then he should have never birthed you.

EriMma1:


That was why I said you have no business being with a woman if you can't cater for her needs. Period!

say an angel on earth.well anyone can think whatever they want,it still doesnt change anything no be your ideology the creator use create the world.the world have moved pass those stone ages.that you dont eat fish shouldnt make you to say no one should eat it.mind your business in this world

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

This girl wey dey run hookup for instamessage come here dey yarn Bants,abeg shift go one side poor girls full this nairaland


You can never see a girl write a post about how to make money,how to drive a car,how to save properly na so so so my man wants to leave me,my man can't buy me a car,my man can't last in bed



Go and work and stop stressing someones child,na people like you dem dey use and dump


All Nigerian girls are useless

Lazy women

A man is financially responsible to only his legally married wife.

franchasofficia:
But she made a good point.


Going into marriage without having a certain level of financial stability or having a sustainable means of income is a recipe for disaster.



That mantra of building together with a girl doesn't always end well. If truly couples do become financially better after marriage as a result of some mythological belief that marriage brings blessing, then we shouldn't have more than 150 million Nigerians living in poverty with over 50million married couple struggling to feed today. So you see?



Every single man should strive to achieve a certain level of financial stability before venturing into marriage, or have a sustainable means of earning income, be it through business, trade, craft, handiwork or paid job, it is important. You are not doing it for the girl but for your own safety and mental being oh because the world of today is becoming more and more difficult to survive if you are from a poor family and it will be more difficult to maneuver through our current difficult economy with the burden of innocent kids

Stop behaving like you dont know what she is doing...nobody is arguing that men shouldn't be financially stable before marriage everybody knows that...but why is she attacking men for not carrying her baggage is the problem..and that's why we have a lot of unmarried women that will remain single because majority of you have bad and entitled attitudes towards mens resources...shame has departed from these generation of women

udeh3:


What happened to our forefathers? We had Dorcas in the Bible, we had Abigail... There was a woman who stood and led was...

Then back to Nigeria, we had Margaret Ekpo, we had Dora, the NAFDAC DG, today, we're talking about Okonji Iweaka. A woman has been a president in Africa, many of them are prime ministers all over the continent

You talk about the olden days where women are limited and not given equal opportunities, but today, women attends same school, same courses, even gets lucrative jobs more than the men, yet, you want the man to be responsible for all your needs while doing nothing

Let me say, you're confused, lazy and timid. I'm a guy of vision, so, when I see a woman of vision, I know one. I'm still single, but in a relationship, my girl is BM.... We compliment each other

Peace

My brother, the op have a good point, let single men learn from her write up instead of getting worked up.



There is a difference between our forefathers and father's time and our present time.


During our forefathers' or father's time, the population of the world was very small, in fact sizable and opportunities were enough for willing men ready to exploit them unlike now that overpopulation is fast depleting available opportunities and making things highly competitive.


Some decades ago, Europe had so many opportunities such that once you find your way and enter Europe, your life will become better but the case is different today.


US DV lottery existed for Nigerians and many countries some years back which helped a lot of Nigerian families to escape generational poverty, is that opportunity available today again?


There were several scholarships for intelligent students in Nigeria back then, today such scholarships are highly competitive.


In our forefathers' time, women were mostly housewives and helped their husbands in the farm, but today we have even more educated and qualified women than men who have taken up jobs that men once had exclusively.


Where do I even start and stop?



So don't expect the dynamics of marriage to remain the same brother, marriage must change, husbands and wives must change as life and situation changes too. We are humans born to adapt to changes in order to survive

Nl mods should stop pushing stvpid threads as this to frontpage.. na bad market for the independent working class ladies in need of serious relationships.

A girl that can't work or go into a business to sustain herself and support her bf doesn't deserve a relationship. That kind of girl is nothing but a liability in this present day and time. Asides overused pvssy, what else do you have to offer?
You have been with this, been with that.. oju o ti e. you no go check yourself.

You have a very poor mental health dear
Let's see how I can help you psychologically.
1)What are your Personalities and temperaments.
2)Do you hold on to any Psychological Ideologies or thoughts to Life?
3)How do you classify success?
4)Is it to you a PROCESS or a STATE OF BEING?.
5) What is your philosophy of hard work?
I always tell people this,you somehow attract the kinda man you meet as a woman and as a Man.
You can't live your life with the mindset of it's cool to play with a guys feelings and meet a good man,it happens but quite very rarely
when you are just plainly the material minded person, which ofcus you should not be judged for nature and psychology agrees that we all percieve and view life and it's elements differently.
Just as you think the guy must be well to do, some other gurl feels as long as the guy has a Job. A Plan for a better tomorrow. A map to achieve His plans for tomorrow,then they are good to go.
Life is more than you think of it dear.
Ask your elderly sisters they'd let you know that it's safer to classify a man by what He has in Him than what they see outwards.

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