Kobojunkie:
Same goes for your men folk. You all like to invoke the name of God when you desperately need justification for a lie you are not ready to reasonably process against reality even.

EriMma1:


Are you a virgin yourself? By the way I never said virginity should not be kept or be a "condition " for a woman to be catered for by her man ( according to you). What im saying is, people should not hide under the guise of " love" or turn blind to the important things in the name of love only to end up with wrong decisions that will affect the so called love in the long run.

As much as you love, try to improve your financial status so you can maintain and sustain the love you have for each other. Shikenah!

Thomasankara:
[/color]in short that's the opposite, we've heard stories of rough guys ignoring the slay ladies and going to place of worship to seek partners when they want to settle down[color=#770077]

Kobojunkie:
1. Your culture and traditions tell women that all they have to do is bring their bodies and minds prepared to serve their husbands in marriage so what are you rambling about a woman bringing sex to the table when the patriarchial culture created to benefit the men in marriage insists it should be so?

2. Who made whom for life support? The culture insists that the man bears sole financial responsibility in the marriage in order that he may sit as god over the woman in marriage. So when the man is not able to keep up his end of the agreement, he essentially breaches the marriage contract itself. Why resort to putting blame on women when the problem, as you explained was created by the man?

zoghys:


You are been stupid dear. If truly you a woman of virtue this nonsense you typed is not going to help you. And for dowry, we don't collect that where I come from.

EriMma1:


You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to the ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

DonBenny77:

Ancient landmarks women didn't go to school.
Now you started kindergarten same age with a man and progressed likewise. You should be able to at least feed yourself and provide your basic needs.

EriMma1:


Suffering and smiling. Body go tell you when the time comes unless you come run go for back go hook one rich man cos I know your type. You come and say wrong perception to appear nice. Make one guy living in a face me I slap you house come approach you now, you go spit fire for him head.

Aunty, Weldon.

EriMma1:


So a married woman should be feeding herself in her husbands House? You men have really lost it and funny enough, this is what is obtainable in most Nigerian homes. The women are not only feeding themselves but the children and in some cases the man.

EriMma1:


LoL... @ awwnnning.. . True o. They'll be shaking like electric fish and drooling over a lady being taken care of by a man like them. Meanwhile their girlfriends who's now looking washed out due to lack of care will no longer appeal to them. No be men wen I know? Then theyll start creating threads like "she's no longer attractive, how can I tell her I'm no longer interested."

ogbe88:
This one never still get sense, until life teach u lessons.

EriMma1:


Do you know my age? No. So don't conclude yet.

I still maintain my stance. Don't ever be with a man that cannot meet your needs.

EriMma1:


E never reach crying matter abeg. Learn to be constructive in your argument, stop getting personal with people when driving home your points.

EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

kazyhm:


Your age is not a secret going by your experiences with this two men you stated......at what can a gal go spend weekend with a boyfriend?

Kujo:
I■ You keep talking about culture and traditions. By tradition a woman should remain a virgin till marriage. Op are you still a virgin?
■ Women who can takecare of their needs doesn't look out for rich men who will do what they already can do for themselves! They lookout for outstanding men who will make them happy for the rest of their lives.. Op pray hard that life should not hit you
■ See Ekweremadu with all his money see what he's going through. I know a young lady that sells ebooks on amazon with her writing skills and makes money from it.. Op don't waste your time complaining about men not able to meet your insatiable needs please do something with your writing skills. Have a wonderful day

REALretep:
While I agree with your submission on the basis that the society expects a man to be able to cater for the needs of his family, I however feel I should remind you that all that glitters is not gold.

Don't focus your mind wholly on a man's economic status and forget other equally important marital matters.
It's a crazy world we live in. Let God guide your steps.

EriMma1:


Go and read your bible oga. God placed that responsibility on the man.

So far, women have been getting empowered financially and meeting their needs by themselves since the men are beginning to fall short in their responsibilities and original position. So no biggies but that does not erase the fact that a man should cater for her needs.

Kobojunkie:
So, you will not come tomorrow to introduce us to a woman who you plan to open business for as your wife? That na una way.

MrBroke:
Oh nigga, you don't know me,

leketon:
■ I hope you are also comfortable with the part of the Bible that says women should be submissive?
Thisame Bible you are quoting said you should remain virgin till your bride price is paid.
■ When is about responsibilities, you adopt Bible and African culture standards but, when it's comes to respect and submissive you throw Bible and culture away and adopt western life.

EriMma1:


See them. Na Dem 😂🤣😂🤣

Kobojunkie:
Na question I ask o!

MrBroke:
That na ona way. that's a prospect not a question

Autobot05:


And her need must have to do with finance ba ?
Learn to cater for yourself ... then the man will respect you not begging for sub , money for hair , wigs and clothes etc everytime

An average Nigerian girl can't even transport herself to go see her boyfriend or pay for a meal when they both go out . Is it the same way in Europe and the west . Hungry girls everywhere. No wonder una nor dey see husbands sef.

EriMma1:


You're missing the point and that is why a lot of you men have become so complacent and have refused to rise up to your duties as a man; expecting what a woman will bring to the table to feed you.

Go back to the ancient landmarks our forefathers set.

EriMma1:


So a married woman should be feeding herself in her husbands House? You men have really lost it and funny enough, this is what is obtainable in most Nigerian homes. The women are not only feeding themselves but the children and in some cases the man.