jesmond3945:
is better you catch her red handed. Bug her phone and follow her up.

Insultme:
This is a true life story and it's really a long epistle, so take your time to read it. Insults and advice are welcomed as well.

There is this girl we're dating in Nigeria, which I intend to Marry though eventually. It started that I got my student visa in Nov 2021, so instead of me coming alone and leaving her alone back home, I decided to get Married to her same Nov 2021 and same year I did my house warming, that was in December. So she moved in to my house and I traveled for my Masters in January 2022.

So I came in alone to put everything in place, renting apartment and starting my studies. It was really an heculeous task, my eyes see shege as I was unable to pass through verification / affordability check, so I had to offer 6 month upfront before I was later considered. By end of January, she started with she is feeling lonely and can't stay alone in the house, so I started processing her visa February and I went back to Nigeria during Easter to bring her myself, just to avoid unnecessary wàhálà at the POE.

I will give you one advice soon

kingthreat:
This need to japa is currently destroying many Nigerian marriages.
If your woman is a slay queen, please I beg you. Marry her, keep her for Naija o. No dare japa with her. Cos there she will do whatever she wants with no family members to caution her, with the law on her side and will get away with it.
However, if your woman is the homely type, not about slaying and religious, please take her abroad. She'll be all about building your finances and a home.

PureFace1:


He is a very Nice and weak man

The truth is he is the reason the woman is misbehaving

That woman know he is very weak without any backbone, he is so scare to be alone, he thinks he can not find a better woman.

he already lost the frame so he is not going to get it back, I bet that woman is no longer attracted to him, any sex she give him is going to be obligatory.

Romanoff:
You married materialistic woman. Slay queen extraordinaire.

sulex05:
I Ve read your story with keen interest. First of all talk to her, express your dissatisfaction. From there, depending on her response go for counselling. It's too early to go for divorce.

justwise:


Are you joking with this post?

Romanoff:
You married materialistic woman. Slay queen extraordinaire.

CodeTemplar:
Shove your random guess back into your gutter synapses.

Insultme:


😂😂. It's just funny though that am laughing.
And the reason is because when you get to a certain stage in life ehn, and you're comfortable, you will understand everything no be gra gra. You need to be diplomatic about things. That by the time you call a family meeting, you have all the Ace's with you. If I confront her now and it turns to argument and she calls the police, and I was sent packing. It is same you that would say I should have waited for a perfect time. UK no be Nigeria that you can just send her packing no questions asked. Think think and think.

Zonefree:

Please don't respond to that guy again, his head is not correct.

A woman you called your wife went to a guy's house to collect gbola cos of three handbags and the morón is proud and defending her. Na so the woman go bring another man's child heap up for the man head. Foolish horseband of a whoré! E better make person born bandit than to born a headless Simp.

I've failed as a father if a have a son like the OP. Tueh!

*Spits on his empty head!

Uptheante:

The best thing is not to even marry a slay queen in the first place.
If you marry her & leave her in Nigeria, I can assure you that so many men will drill her kpekus tirelessly while you are hustling & sweating abroad to fend for her needs.
A guy once told me how he used to Bleep a woman whose husband travelled abroad & left her in Nigeria. The guy really drilled her kpekus mercilessly while chopping part of the money her husband usually send to her.
There were times he would be bleeping her raw while she's on call with the husband. He always nuts in her womanliness but she's so good with her pills that never got pregnant except on one occasion that she aborted for him.
Never ever trust any woman bro

Insultme

Insultme:


Thanks.
The reasons am not saying anything now is that the guy is here and if I should agree or disagree with any advice here is that, she might be informed before I can execute my plans.

Insultme:


I think I rushed everything.
Thinking am doing her and myself a favor by bringing her in.
I should have left her behind and keep sending her upkeep, but still. Na Nigeria own go worst pass😂😂😀

Insultme:


So I should stay single cause someone cheat on me? Let me ask you a question. Even if you're so rich like that of Dangote, can you live your life alone? So in the case I neva born, so I should do what please?

Karlifate:
This is a case of see finish;

1. The OP has a very weak (masculine) frame.

2. The OP fell for the "I'm lonely" trap — Doesn't she have family members, trusted friends etc in Nigeria — You failed the shit test, because you should have proffered a better alternative.

3. The OP is passive-agressive & can't take decisive actions.

4. The OP has already made up his mind to continue with this situationship due to sunk cost fallacy — He's scared of losing his "investment"

5. In conclusion, no matter the advice you give him here, he won't adhere to it, until he gets burnt 🔥 in reality.


Au revoir!

bamgboseisraeli:
bro women are not to be trusted and you can never satisfy a woman no matter what you offer her.if she presist without changing ,bro strategies a way to deport her back to nigeria,else make e no be say na this woman go find way cross you over to the after life o

abobote:
Why will someone even think of marrying before going abroad.
So sorry for all your, just divorce her and move on.

My advice, before you spend much on a girlfriend or fiancee, make sure you impregnate her, so that when she disappoints, you won't lose all

Insultme:


😂😂.

It's just funny you know.
I believe you don't understand what is called marriage.
Also, there is no where in my post I am defending her, cause if i want to defend her, I won't be here in the first place.
Am worries are what have listed above. If you don't have any solution to all have mentioned above, when it gets to your turn. Play break your son head. Your comment shows your age. And I don't think you understand what they call Mental Health abroad.

Insultme:
Now I don't feel like having sex with her.

I always think about how someone can leave his husband and go to a man's house cause of 3 bags.

Some are saying it is too early to divorce her.

Some are saying I should forgive and let her swear that she won't do such thing again.

Some are saying I should think of how much have spent in total and not allow the devil to push me to take irrational decision.

WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?

ZINNYBANKS:

To marry self don dey scare persin aje all these leeches are unfaithful someone who rescued you from hell .
This is not what you're supposed to pay him with ..

Sixfeetbelle:


Finally, someone says it. How can a man knowingly cause harm to his fellow man?

Sometimes, it'd even be a friend of the main guy that's drilling the babe oooh.


But watch guys defend it and place all the blame on the lady