.

I hope you have your own income, pls separate from him if possible, do not subject yourself to emotional turmoil in the name of endurance, no man is worth it because if you die he will move on fast.

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

You are not serious, why should I give you advise?


If someone slaps your father in front of you, will you run online to ask for advise?


You are very slow

Since it's still a gradual effect, come back when the impact is rapid, u hear?

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

This is a lot of assumption.....

On the other hand, maybe the hubby is laccking something that other men who dont carry side chick matter on their head to this extent have like maybe common sense.

marlow1962:
Hmm, I don’t want to give the impression that I supports he’s sidechick lifestyle, but on a serious note there’s something you’re lacking that the so called side chick has. Check within yourself, married man no dy carry get side chick to the extent em dy buy provisions go see em side chick mama, cun even get pet names ontop.

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

my dear you are not alone, we are facing the same thing with my dad, he spends money on young girls outside, and neglects his own family, we are only praying that God will arrest him because my mum has done everything possible to stop him, she has even confronted some of his numerous Girlfriends, still it doesn't change anything.

No gender has the Monopoly of cheating. If he has a side chick, endeavor to have a side cock or else you will die of depression.

Chasito:
my dear you are not alone, we are facing the same thing with my dad, he spends money on young girls outside, and neglects his own family, we are only praying that God will arrest him because my mum has done everything possible to stop him, she has even confronted some of his numerous Girlfriends, still it doesn't change anything.

Truth is, your mum have no business confronting his girlfriends, how many would she confront while your dad keep having more?

As a family, I will encourage you all to ignore him but intermittently remind him to make sure that some of his girlfriends will be around to cater for him when he becomes frail and sick, which is expected in old age.

Goodlady:

You mean a wife that's depending on her husband abi?
My advise, dear females, empower yourself.
Don't be a second class citizen in the house of any man. They all v tendencies to cheat. It's just that some are hiding cos of their financial ability. The first thing that enter a hustling man's head after getting rich is how to sleep with all.the girls that do him yanga before. That's the begining of badluck!
Men are scum!

True she. God made it that way for men

Chasito:
my dear you are not alone, we are facing the same thing with my dad, he spends money on young girls outside, and neglects his own family, we are only praying that God will arrest him because my mum has done everything possible to stop him, she has even confronted some of his numerous Girlfriends, still it doesn't change anything.

You guys need to brainstorm on how to get steady income, apart from him.

Your mum & the eldest child need to act on this ASAP.

If you children depends on his inheritance, you'll end up getting nothing.

Promiscuity is a very deep rabbit hole 🕳️ Once your two legs are inside, you keep sinking & if not redeemed on time, you will self-destruct without remedy.

But why do men love having a Sick Chick?

Are they not satisfied with their wives?

I have not been able to understand this.

Have you gone on your knees to report to God? As funny as it is, kayanmata, graven image of a male and female binded together with a red rope, fanta and other fetish items, are as real as hell. But most wives do not pay serious attention to it..

No man takes a sidechick seriously to that extent. When a man begins to go beyond what other men normally do, then as a wife, seek wisdom..

But if there's nothing diabolical about it, check what you're missing as a woman (some married women have lost touch with current trends, on how a woman should be in looks, character and speech)..

If you're still without blemish, then your husband is not just an e-idiot but very wicked...

IyaebeTheGreat:
No husband will stress me in this life, that’s all I can say.

Then you're not ready for better or worse

marlow1962:
Hmm, I don’t want to give the impression that I supports he’s sidechick lifestyle, but on a serious note there’s something you’re lacking that the so called side chick has. Check within yourself, married man no dy carry get side chick to the extent em dy buy provisions go see em side chick mama, cun even get pet names ontop.

why are you justifying cheating?

iHateFraudsters:


Then you're not ready for better or worse

Does better for worse means stressful life?

Ma'am
Quit giving yourself unnecessary headaches.
Life is beautiful and sweet; if you want it to be.

Contact me.
Let's get back at that cheat

As a married man I think the best way our women can really get to us to is pretend like they are cheating but not actually cheat. If a man ever gets to find out his wife will cheat because of his own unfaithfulness, it will bruise his ego and would force him to retrace his steps. But don't cheat because if you do it gives him that excuse he needs but pretend it threaten to cheat and let him know you caught him but not in a messy way. Also, show him more respect. Not even love. More respect!!!

IyaebeTheGreat:
No husband will stress me in this life, that’s all I can say.

Who wan settle with an agbaya ?

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

Na wa oh.



Some men no de try sha.


If you must play game, play safe and smart, and make sure you aren't playing the game too reckless to the extent of hurting other parties in the game.



It is well, sighs

Your husband dey treat you well?
If yes,call for dialogue and ask am, if he want marry second wife?
Then make your choice.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Does better for worse means stressful life?

What do you think the worst thing is in marriage?

You think it's by showing off your wedding ring on Instagram?

callthefred:
As a married man I think the best way our women can really get to us to is pretend like they are cheating but not actually cheat. If a man ever gets to find out his wife will cheat because of his own unfaithfulness, it will bruise his ego and would force him to retrace his steps. But don't cheat because if you do it gives him that excuse he needs but pretend it threaten to cheat and let him know you caught him but not in a messy way. Also, show him more respect. Not even love. More respect!!!

lol, unfortunately all these won't stop a man from cheating, it will only make him to become more tactical and discreet with his cheating lol



And the woman pretending she is also cheating can backfire

Get yourself in shape and get a sidecock. Most young men now are looking for bread, so they will likely date you if you are older and can give them a little cash once in awhile. Some young men are also into older ladies.

You can get someone that at least fulfills you emotionally and physically like your husband’s sidechick. Don’t die of depression.

U just want to rub onions in ur eyes.

IyaebeTheGreat:
See them talking through their noses. They are so unconcerned about the hurt of their wives when it comes to coitus matters

. Most of them are children. They don't know what that woman is passing through.

BloomingDale:
Get yourself in shape and get a sidecock. Most young men now are looking for bread, so they will likely date you if you are older and can give them little cash once in awhile.

Some young men are also into older ladies. You can get someone that at least fulfills you emotionally and physically like your husband’s sidechick. Don’t die of depression.

Hahahahahaha

Kobojunkie:
1. Well, all you can do is decide for yourself whether you want to be part of a polygamous union that he has already forced on you — he already has at least one concubine, according to you — or whether you would rather divorce him and move on. I'm sorry but there isn't much else you can do.

Are you married that you are suggesting divorce for your fellow?

Tenrack:
cheat on him.

You want him to finally have the excuse to dump the wife.

I am sorry to hear about the situation you are currently in. It can be very difficult and emotionally challenging to discover that your partner is having an affair.

Firstly, it's important to acknowledge that it's not your fault that your husband is cheating on you. No matter what may be going on in your marriage, it's never an excuse for infidelity.

In terms of what you can do, it's important to have an honest conversation with your husband about what you have discovered. It's understandable to feel hurt, angry, and betrayed, but it's important to try to remain calm and communicate effectively.

You can let him know how his actions are affecting you and your marriage and ask him to end the relationship with his side chick. If he agrees to end the affair, you both should take steps to rebuild trust in your marriage. You can seek professional counseling to help you work through the issues in your marriage and prevent such incidents from happening again.

However, if your husband is unwilling to end the affair, you may have to make some tough decisions about the future of your marriage. You deserve to be with someone who is committed to you and your relationship.

Whatever decision you make, it's important to prioritize your emotional well-being. Seek support from trusted family and friends, and consider reaching out to a therapist or counselor to help you process your emotions and make the best decisions for yourself.

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

Give him an ultimatum,if he chooses her then you move on with your life. Don't let any man keep you emotionally sad for the rest of your life. They aren't worth it.i always advise women to be financially dependent. It takes two to make a marriage work,if the other party doesn't want it to work u can't kill yourself. Nigerian men are getting away with a lot . Nonsense. My peace of mind and my children are my priority.

You went through his phone looking for what you have found, deal with it.