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Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Karlifate: 12:50pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
Mboi: I detest promiscuity, but when a woman sees she's your ONLY option, she'll begin to misbehave. The older generation of cultured women still have some level of self-restraint BUT the Gen Z are too narcissistic & would never take accountability for their actions. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by gfelo(m): 12:51pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
a he goat is a he goat, stop stressing urself, just be a good wife, he will return to u and apologize, and again stop monitoring ur husband it will give u more heart ache pls. |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by RulerIAm(m): 12:51pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
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Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by casualobserver: 12:51pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247: Your husband married you for a reason. If the power of the side chick is so great that he is familiar with the mother. It means you are doing something wrong at home. It means there is something he is no longer getting at home, it may be affection, respect, attention or sex. Most men do not go out looking for what is not lost to the extent of familiarity with side chicks family, except you married a senseless man…in which case that is your fault for marrying a senseless man. Bottom line the problem is with you. Either you married a senseless man (your decision and you eat your cake as na you put yourself for one chance) or you are not doing your job. Men will have side chicks, a lot of wives are themselves former side chicks but no sensible man gets familiar with the family of the side chick or does his side-chicking in a way that disrespects his wife unless the wife has completely abandoned her responsibilities. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Mboi: 12:51pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
IyaebeTheGreat:Your fathers house right? Wait when you're 50years, you'll understand. Even your father will chase you out of his house because you're making him to be a laughing stock in the area. You children think you will be children forever. By the time you get to 60 years, people will start avoiding you like HIV. If your mother had this kind of foolish mentality, do you think you will even have someone to call a father not to talk of your father's house. |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 12:51pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
RulerIAm:Ntorrrrrrrr |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Dbestbrest: 12:51pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247: The ball is in your court. Call him and share your thoughts with him and how you found out. Make sure you don't get angry as you talk because he will use that as an excuse to stop further talks on the matter. Please comport yourself and make sure you get a solid promise from him before you let the matter go. Most importantly, work on your marriage, increase the level of intimacy. Increase your sexlife and also ensure that you cook delicious soup for him and pray together always. This is important. Men are like that madam. Hold on to him regardless of his misdeeds 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by RZArecta(m): 12:52pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247 Calmly tell your husband everything you know about his relationship after a nice meal one evening, ask him where you went "wrong" in the marriage and if he knows the implications of what he's doing. It might be ordinary, it might just be that he needs a little adventure and as an African man, I can assure you that it could well be diabolical. After that, don't bother waiting for explanations but get yourself busy in other parts of the house, chill with the kids or go to bed. If he loves you, he will apologise BUT after then, take your fitness and appearance seriously if you aren't already doing so, don't force anything by telling him to stop, many marriages go through worse but you shall overcome this setback and testify. Hit me up if you have any more questions 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by gfelo(m): 12:53pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
hahaha then u finally give the other woman open door IyaebeTheGreat: |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by SmartPolician: 12:53pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
marlow1962: Look how fast you were to blame the lady for the waywardness of a promiscuous husband. How about the man trying to talk it over with her or trying to fix those things his wife lacks? The last time I checked, it is still men who say they cannot eat egusi soup all their life, but we expect the women to eat only one species of cassava all their life. If that's not hypocrisy, then what is? 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by deavicky(m): 12:53pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247:the first help you need is to stay away from his phone because the search the more u will what u won't like. |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 12:54pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
Mboi:My father will never reject me no matter what, if I give my all to a man in the name of marriage and he thinks the best way to reciprocate is by sharing prick like palliative and doing husband duties to a sidechick, believe me I have a place to go, a place where I’ll always be loved and that place is my father’s house. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by iammolise(m): 12:55pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
A leopard never sheds his skin, you must've seen the signs premarital but instead you let civil millionaire money buy you. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Mindlog: 12:55pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
sheldonbbt: The nonsense is you not yet seeing the need for both of you go visit a marriage therapist who has been professionally trained not to be biased and have no vested interest since one on one talks with her is not yielding the desired sustained change. Such therapy sessions would help your wife to unlearn some notions about intimacy with a spouse, that it is not be rationed nor give the impression you do your spouse a favour by allowing them access to your body and personal space......your wife needs "rewiring" that should result to meeting your fantasies to an extent. 😆😆😆😆 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 12:56pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247:Tell him you know what’s going on DONT say what you know just tell him You know what’s going on and he shouldn’t let what’s outside ruin what he already has going on. Now he will act confused or try to brush it off when he does tell him you know about (Sandra or whatever her name is ) I have seen you with her once , tell him you don’t have a problem with his extramarital affairs as well but he should be careful with his extra marital affairs too that others have seen him too so he will not bring shame to his household. After this don’t say another word just tell him you love him and you will be willing to do whatever it will take for your marriage to work out end it there then go into your kitchen make him dinner or lunch serve him then go to your room and Relax, if he is still in Denial keep shut while looking at him eye to eye and don’t say anything just repeat what you said earlier “ if there’s anything you can do to make the marriage work he should tell you after that relax and sleep if you know you have done nothing wrong to him before he will be restless for the rest of the week. |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by fykes(m): 12:57pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
But I don't get how some men do it.... |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Karlifate: 12:57pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
iammolise: E don turn military billionaire 😂😂 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Gboom: 12:58pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247:You can subtly confront him. What is your marital sex life like? Are you the type that normally deny husband using tiredness as an excuse for deny him? Are you a supportive or a parasitic wife? There is a woman the husband complained to me that she never bought things for their children for once despite the fact she has a good job. Are always moody to your husband because of your suspicion? If you are not communicating with him or initiate the talk at times or you call his attention to matters or be jovial, he will loose interest in you or you nag instead of communicating to him courteously. |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 12:59pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
gfelo:And who says I’m in competition with any yeye sidechick? Infact I don’t even have problems with the sidechick. If my so called husband didn’t go to her, she wouldn’t have had access to him. If you mistakenly hurt me I’ll forgive wholeheartedly but if you deliberately hurt me as a husband, I swear I’ll leave you without looking back. I did not come to this life to come and be stressed, I can endure physical stress but don’t even try to emotionally stress me, I’ll run away back to my father’s house. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by 4ward4: 1:00pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
No one ever asked if his religion permits. Everyone becomes an adviser |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Ekabobo: 1:00pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
Like someone rightly said.... Ders notin u can do...it's okay for most folks here to make light of this matter and joke about it... Dem never Sabi pain... Op... If uve got kids n a job... Let dem take priority over everything... Pet ur children... Put smiles on their faces.. make em stand out... Always neat n well fed... Find happiness for yourselve...do wat u love most.. Dnt wallow in envy n self pity... Ud jus grow older n cranky fast... They will definitely get what's coming to dem... It won't be rosey forever Befo I forget... D day u start checking a spouses fone is d day u start huming d hymn ' dis world is not my home' by Jim reeves 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by DaveJacuzie: 1:00pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
marlow1962:It is not true!!! Some men are just born idiots!! 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Fcwilly: 1:02pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
Don't fight him, but confront him with your reality findings, he might end up hating the lady, that's if you are not a nagging type. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by ogbe88(m): 1:02pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
KarinaSlim:Funny question |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by komekn(m): 1:02pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247: My answer is one of perspective, your perspective. Are you a Christian ❓then the dynamics are different. Are you just a free thinker, then you do according to how you FEEL. Remember that feeling are temporaral not permanent . |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Minatouchiha(m): 1:02pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
You come here now looking for advice. But you didn't tell us how it all started. Because there was once just the two of u and now there is a side chic. Why? Rather than worry about the side chic. I think you should think and reflect on the things you've been doin wrong that has led to this. The side chic matter wey u narrate so is inevitable. It's a 50-50 split, the way I see it. It's either you are gone or he'll dump the side chic. Either way, you can't make him do any. Wait first, do you even know how to say "I am sorry dear"! Because all these wahala wey you get starts from there. There is even one like you that I know sef. She'll get her own notice soon. It's inevitable. |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Kemadealadire(f): 1:03pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
Men,smh. Why get married if you can't fully commit and be faithful to one partner, it's unfair to stress the faithful partner unnecessarily. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by ogbe88(m): 1:04pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
BloomingDale:She will still lose and driven out of the house, always reason well. . |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Ola4lead(m): 1:05pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
lummy247: Stop playing head games with your self, that is not a side chick, no man meet his side chick mother. Talk to your man so you can know where you guy are and what he have in mind. |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by Nobody: 1:05pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
deavicky:Op don’t ever take this advise, it has cost many women their marriage |
Re: My Husband Has Gone To See His Side Chick's Mother by marsup: 1:06pm On Mar 15, 2023 |
It's puppy love. It will soon fade. Tell him you know, and it's okay. Truth is, I don't know how exactly you feel, so it's hard to say,move on or don't. 1 Like |
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