Mboi:

Some women will push their husbands into all these, then turn around and start claiming victim. A man who tries to take care of his family, you women will take him for granted, call him useless man, showing him you can do whatever you like and he can't control you or do anything. Some men, instead of raising voices or raise hands or get angry and make mistake, they will quietly seek for peace somewhere else.
The side chick gives your husband that thing you failed to give him and as you can see, it's not just sex.

Continue playing strong woman and taking rubbish advice from people who claim to love you but hate you with passion. Those same people are the ones who will laugh at you, gossip with your name by the time your husbands takes a second wife. By then you will know that much you've destroyed yourself.
Las las, you will end up with one old man as a second or third wife. Is your life not scattered yet? Sorry.

I detest promiscuity, but when a woman sees she's your ONLY option, she'll begin to misbehave.

The older generation of cultured women still have some level of self-restraint BUT the Gen Z are too narcissistic & would never take accountability for their actions.

a he goat is a he goat, stop stressing urself, just be a good wife, he will return to u and apologize, and again stop monitoring ur husband it will give u more heart ache pls.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Onyioshi anumanu

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

Your husband married you for a reason. If the power of the side chick is so great that he is familiar with the mother. It means you are doing something wrong at home. It means there is something he is no longer getting at home, it may be affection, respect, attention or sex. Most men do not go out looking for what is not lost to the extent of familiarity with side chicks family, except you married a senseless man…in which case that is your fault for marrying a senseless man.

Bottom line the problem is with you. Either you married a senseless man (your decision and you eat your cake as na you put yourself for one chance) or you are not doing your job.

Men will have side chicks, a lot of wives are themselves former side chicks but no sensible man gets familiar with the family of the side chick or does his side-chicking in a way that disrespects his wife unless the wife has completely abandoned her responsibilities.

IyaebeTheGreat:
My fathers house is just a stone throw for me no matter the distance, so let no man deliberately stress my life. You mean the worse there is for a man to be deliberating doing things to hurt his wife and causing her pains? Smh

Your fathers house right? Wait when you're 50years, you'll understand. Even your father will chase you out of his house because you're making him to be a laughing stock in the area. You children think you will be children forever.

By the time you get to 60 years, people will start avoiding you like HIV. If your mother had this kind of foolish mentality, do you think you will even have someone to call a father not to talk of your father's house.

RulerIAm:
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lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

The ball is in your court. Call him and share your thoughts with him and how you found out. Make sure you don't get angry as you talk because he will use that as an excuse to stop further talks on the matter. Please comport yourself and make sure you get a solid promise from him before you let the matter go. Most importantly, work on your marriage, increase the level of intimacy. Increase your sexlife and also ensure that you cook delicious soup for him and pray together always. This is important. Men are like that madam. Hold on to him regardless of his misdeeds

lummy247

Calmly tell your husband everything you know about his relationship after a nice meal one evening, ask him where you went "wrong" in the marriage and if he knows the implications of what he's doing. It might be ordinary, it might just be that he needs a little adventure and as an African man, I can assure you that it could well be diabolical. After that, don't bother waiting for explanations but get yourself busy in other parts of the house, chill with the kids or go to bed. If he loves you, he will apologise BUT after then, take your fitness and appearance seriously if you aren't already doing so, don't force anything by telling him to stop, many marriages go through worse but you shall overcome this setback and testify. Hit me up if you have any more questions

hahaha then u finally give the other woman open door

IyaebeTheGreat:
Leave that thing. I don’t expect a man that claims to be my husband to deliberately hurt and cause me pains, I’ll run back to my father’s house to enjoy my peace and undiluted love. Na my own bdat

marlow1962:
Hmm, I don’t want to give the impression that I supports he’s sidechick lifestyle, but on a serious note there’s something you’re lacking that the so called side chick has. Check within yourself, married man no dy carry get side chick to the extent em dy buy provisions go see em side chick mama, cun even get pet names ontop.

Look how fast you were to blame the lady for the waywardness of a promiscuous husband.

How about the man trying to talk it over with her or trying to fix those things his wife lacks?

The last time I checked, it is still men who say they cannot eat egusi soup all their life, but we expect the women to eat only one species of cassava all their life. If that's not hypocrisy, then what is?

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

the first help you need is to stay away from his phone because the search the more u will what u won't like.

Mboi:

Your fathers house right? Wait when you're 50years, you'll understand. Even your father will chase you out of his house because you're making him to be a laughing stock in the area. You children think you will be children forever.

By the time you get to 60 years, people will start avoiding you like HIV. If your mother had this kind of foolish mentality, do you think you will even have someone to call a father not to talk of your father's house.

My father will never reject me no matter what, if I give my all to a man in the name of marriage and he thinks the best way to reciprocate is by sharing prick like palliative and doing husband duties to a sidechick, believe me I have a place to go, a place where I’ll always be loved and that place is my father’s house.

A leopard never sheds his skin, you must've seen the signs premarital but instead you let civil millionaire money buy you.

sheldonbbt:


You are wrong. If I have the chance, I will cheat on my wife without looking back.

Marriage is less than 2 years, I do everything possible to make her and our soon to be 2 year old child comfortable, I work my ass off and understand she is trying, but how can a wife deny sex for almost a month when I am not impotent or have medical issues.

You sit her down and talk, you threaten, your plead and she promises, I will change then you have sex that day and that's it for the next 2 weeks. When me I am there with wild imagination of what I will do to my wife when I get home but gets disappointed with someone who will ask me, is it only sex you are always thinking of? Errrrm, I am not a sex person, imitimacy is not only sex bullshit and you want me to leave the that type of wife till my dying days where she is able to control me with what she has.

Please stop the nonsense.

The nonsense is you not yet seeing the need for both of you go visit a marriage therapist who has been professionally trained not to be biased and have no vested interest since one on one talks with her is not yielding the desired sustained change.

Such therapy sessions would help your wife to unlearn some notions about intimacy with a spouse, that it is not be rationed nor give the impression you do your spouse a favour by allowing them access to your body and personal space......your wife needs "rewiring" that should result to meeting your fantasies
to an extent. 😆😆😆😆

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

Tell him you know what’s going on DONT say what you know just tell him You know what’s going on and he shouldn’t let what’s outside ruin what he already has going on. Now he will act confused or try to brush it off when he does tell him you know about (Sandra or whatever her name is ) I have seen you with her once , tell him you don’t have a problem with his extramarital affairs as well but he should be careful with his extra marital affairs too that others have seen him too so he will not bring shame to his household.

After this don’t say another word just tell him you love him and you will be willing to do whatever it will take for your marriage to work out end it there then go into your kitchen make him dinner or lunch serve him then go to your room and Relax,

if he is still in Denial keep shut while looking at him eye to eye and don’t say anything just repeat what you said earlier “ if there’s anything you can do to make the marriage work he should tell you after that relax and sleep if you know you have done nothing wrong to him before he will be restless for the rest of the week.

But I don't get how some men do it....

iammolise:
A leopard never sheds his skin, you must've seen the signs premarital but instead you let civil millionaire money buy you.

E don turn military billionaire 😂😂

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

You can subtly confront him.
What is your marital sex life like? Are you the type that normally deny husband using tiredness as an excuse for deny him?
Are you a supportive or a parasitic wife? There is a woman the husband complained to me that she never bought things for their children for once despite the fact she has a good job.
Are always moody to your husband because of your suspicion? If you are not communicating with him or initiate the talk at times or you call his attention to matters or be jovial, he will loose interest in you or you nag instead of communicating to him courteously.

gfelo:
hahaha then u finally give the other woman open door

And who says I’m in competition with any yeye sidechick? Infact I don’t even have problems with the sidechick. If my so called husband didn’t go to her, she wouldn’t have had access to him. If you mistakenly hurt me I’ll forgive wholeheartedly but if you deliberately hurt me as a husband, I swear I’ll leave you without looking back. I did not come to this life to come and be stressed, I can endure physical stress but don’t even try to emotionally stress me, I’ll run away back to my father’s house.

No one ever asked if his religion permits. Everyone becomes an adviser

Like someone rightly said.... Ders notin u can do...it's okay for most folks here to make light of this matter and joke about it...
Dem never Sabi pain...

Op... If uve got kids n a job... Let dem take priority over everything... Pet ur children... Put smiles on their faces.. make em stand out... Always neat n well fed... Find happiness for yourselve...do wat u love most.. Dnt wallow in envy n self pity... Ud jus grow older n cranky fast...

They will definitely get what's coming to dem... It won't be rosey forever

Befo I forget... D day u start checking a spouses fone is d day u start huming d hymn ' dis world is not my home' by Jim reeves

marlow1962:
Hmm, I don’t want to give the impression that I supports he’s sidechick lifestyle, but on a serious note there’s something you’re lacking that the so called side chick has. Check within yourself, married man no dy carry get side chick to the extent em dy buy provisions go see em side chick mama, cun even get pet names ontop.

It is not true!!! Some men are just born idiots!!

Don't fight him, but confront him with your reality findings, he might end up hating the lady, that's if you are not a nagging type.

KarinaSlim:
But why do men love having a Sick Chick?

Are they not satisfied with their wives?

I have not been able to understand this.

Funny question

lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

My answer is one of perspective, your perspective.

Are you a Christian ❓then the dynamics are different.

Are you just a free thinker, then you do according to how you FEEL. Remember that feeling are temporaral not permanent .

You come here now looking for advice. But you didn't tell us how it all started. Because there was once just the two of u and now there is a side chic. Why?
Rather than worry about the side chic. I think you should think and reflect on the things you've been doin wrong that has led to this.
The side chic matter wey u narrate so is inevitable. It's a 50-50 split, the way I see it. It's either you are gone or he'll dump the side chic. Either way, you can't make him do any.
Wait first, do you even know how to say "I am sorry dear"! Because all these wahala wey you get starts from there. There is even one like you that I know sef. She'll get her own notice soon. It's inevitable.

Men,smh. Why get married if you can't fully commit and be faithful to one partner, it's unfair to stress the faithful partner unnecessarily.

BloomingDale:
Get yourself in shape and get a sidecock. Most young men now are looking for bread, so they will likely date you if you are older and can give them a little cash once in awhile. Some young men are also into older ladies.

You can get someone that at least fulfills you emotionally and physically like your husband’s sidechick. Don’t die of depression.

She will still lose and driven out of the house, always reason well.
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lummy247:
Please, I need advice. I went through my husband's phone and I saw a message he shared with his side chick.

In the text message, the side chick was telling him to get something for her mother. He responded that he doesn't have an idea on what to buy. The lady later suggested that He should buy Provisions for her.

They talk everyday and they exchange romantic texts everyday. They even have a pet name for each other.
My husband is a Civil Engineer and some weekends he travels for 'work', I know he has gone to see her.

This relationship with the side chick is gradually affecting my marriage. I have the fear of what will happen if she gets pregnant. For him to see her mother, it shows that they are already very close. He also sends her money. I see the transactions on his Bank App.

Please I need advice, what can I do.

Stop playing head games with your self, that is not a side chick, no man meet his side chick mother.

Talk to your man so you can know where you guy are and what he have in mind.

deavicky:
the first help you need is to stay away from his phone because the search the more u will what u won't like.

Op don’t ever take this advise, it has cost many women their marriage

It's puppy love. It will soon fade.
Tell him you know, and it's okay.

Truth is, I don't know how exactly you feel, so it's hard to say,move on or don't.