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EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

do4luv14:
■ Hmmm eleyi gidigann ooo She is looking like an egotistic to me , Buh you should do something about the bills you paid,

I Advice you to give her for peace to reign, If she is the one that is prudent with money, those Allowances will come handy soon, If she is not, my guy try as much to save enough for investment and future, Seems you are in the raining days now

IblivinJesus:
You suppose discuss such thing with her before marriage .

Even if you are dangote you should both agree on responsibilities to handle with your wife.
65 percent from you and 35 percent from her is not bad or even 60 40.

However, take her out to somewhere nice and during your enjoyment time discuss it with her that you would like the both of you to take responsibility of the home so that one person doesn't get depressed .
Ask her an open question
What responsibility would she like to handle in the house?
What ever responsibility she accepts start from there even if it is 80 20 with time she will grow mature but if she doesn't accept to take any responsibility your name is OYO .

Plan B
After about three months she gave you the response that she is not going to take any responsibility;

Tell her you boroad money and you are paying back with interest and cut short the money you give to her.

Since she is working she will adjust .

Lastly,
Give her timely gifts.

Don't gift her as if you are trying to woo her.

You also need to start attending church with her if you don't,it will help .

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

IblivinJesus:
You suppose discuss such thing with her before marriage .

Even if you are dangote you should both agree on responsibilities to handle with your wife.
65 percent from you and 35 percent from her is not bad or even 60 40.

However, take her out to somewhere nice and during your enjoyment time discuss it with her that you would like the both of you to take responsibility of the home so that one person doesn't get depressed .
Ask her an open question
What responsibility would she like to handle in the house?
What ever responsibility she accepts start from there even if it is 80 20 with time she will grow mature but if she doesn't accept to take any responsibility your name is OYO .

Plan B
After about three months she gave you the response that she is not going to take any responsibility;

Tell her you boroad money and you are paying back with interest and cut short the money you give to her.

Since she is working she will adjust .

Lastly,
Give her timely gifts.

Don't gift her as if you are trying to woo her.

You also need to start attending church with her if you don't,it will help .

Modified
She has to be supportive .

mployer:
The Op foots the bills too. His problem is that the wife is demanding allowance.

Kobojunkie:
1. If OP is a traditional man, then giving her an allowance is also not out of the question.

MartinsD12:
■ That useless mindset that her money is hers and your money is for you and her is definitely the height of irresponsibility in marriage,
■ marriage is between two people, you both share everything together in other to make it work , not when a woman is having a parasitic mindset, you earn more than your husband, he pays the bills you still want monthly salary, who are you keeping or making your money for if not for your own family, at times I wonder the kind of useless irresponsible mindset some women in marriage has.

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

Praisepriest:
You won't have savings not to talk of a future. If your salary is ,#100. Feeding should be #40, give her #10. You too take #15, parents #10 invest the rest for future. Women will push you into well and claim innocency

Kobojunkie:
1. That mindset is what is traditional marriage culture in Nigeria.

2. Women are allowed by tradition to sit as liabilities in their marriage .

deltateam:
■ That's where she failed. She can't decide to be useless in the home and still claim wife. She's supposed to be supportive maybe she forgot to learn it at her father's house so op needs to package and bundle her back to retake her carryover course.

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

Kobojunkie:
1. She believed she married a traditional man who will carry 100% of the financial weight while sitting as king in the marriage. Why is she a terrible person for that when that is the culturally accepted norm to this day?

EriMma1:
This is why I'll never marry an average income earner because they can complain and press calculator? See all of them here. Calculator pressers.
That is why i advise men not to get married until they have a high income job, to avoid all this kind of headache but no, that small thing dangling under can't wait to start eating what the big boys are eating. They just jump enter marriage with 120k salary and start punching calculator here and there.

So when it comes to giving your wife money, mathematics go enter am?. You can't give her money to maintain that same body you mount every now and then? Na him you turn financial expert seeker/adviser.? SMH. This generation of men have lost it.

Na this kind things make marriage no dey hungry me again because if all a man can offer is to panel-beat my body and not care whether knots and bolts don dey loose or find it difficult to give me when I request, then ill rather live singularly, work and take care of myself without stress or any body knacking me up and down with no benefits or care. abi you wan dey chop me make i no chop you back? Damn! Na wa o.

Oga, give her pocket money. Na that one she go take know say she marry. Men are supposed to spend on their wife's, working class or not. That is why igbos name their wifes Oriakum, "eater of my wealth". It is your obligation to spend on her. I'm guessing you're Yoruba otherwise mouth no go gree you come talk this kind thing outside. I'm sure all your supporters here na Yoruba men. Kobojunkie number one.

zed7:
My wife works but I foot all the bills because I choose to. Although she buys things for the house on her own accord.

I'm a traditional man and I choose to take care of everything. I don't give her an allowance though, just occasional gifts, monetary or in items.

I'm not advising for people to do same, split the bills if that's what works for you.

My handling all the bills comes with its advantages, my wife doesn't begin to challenge me unnecessarily. When women contribute with you, they start seeing you as equals instead of you being the captain.

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

BRATISLAVA:
The side chicks aren't women. And they aren't selfish. Neither are they everywhere.

O...K.

Nazgul:
Didn't you guys date before getting married. Sometimes when I read questions like this, I do ask myself if you guys just met each other and got married the same day. Cos this my dear friend is what you should discuss with whoever you're planning a future with.

Also, your wife doesn't love you. Once you're dating a girl, and she feels it's odd to spend her money on you, kindly let her be. Cos such girl can never support you financially in marriage. The problem with a lot of foolish boys today is that they'll feel it's normal, many would even defend the girl if you try to advice them and tell you that it's a man's responsibility to take care of his woman.

But when reality begins to hit them in marriage, they'll be the first to complain...

My take is that your wife doesn't love you.

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

Nazgul:
Didn't you guys date before getting married. Sometimes when I read questions like this, I do ask myself if you guys just met each other and got married the same day. Cos this my dear friend is what you should discuss with whoever you're planning a future with.

Also, your wife doesn't love you. Once you're dating a girl, and she feels it's odd to spend her money on you, kindly let her be. Cos such girl can never support you financially in marriage. The problem with a lot of foolish boys today is that they'll feel it's normal, many would even defend the girl if you try to advice them and tell you that it's a man's responsibility to take care of his woman.

But when reality begins to hit them in marriage, they'll be the first to complain...

My take is that your wife doesn't love you.

Connected1:
If you have control over your family as the head of the home, then make her spend her salary on feeding and other subtle expenses, that way, she won't even save much monthly that will make her want to rant with you someday

She may tell people that she feeds you daily but then she knows you can do without her and you may also choose to use her words against her.

Pay all the major bills like rent and buying of properties, well if you don't have control over your home.... Then I am sorry for you.

Na Logic we dae use

Femmyfamous4u:
Hello all, I need to know if I'm doing some things right or over reacting.

My wife and I just married some months ago and we just spend here and there on stuffs. I bought food stuffs in the house and told her I will place her on 40k monthly to cover for soups and all and I expect her to add to it if it's not enough.

I foot all bills- house rent, Power, and all . She earns a decent 6 figures salary also which is slightly higher than mine without the allowances I get.

She expects me to still give her another allowance apart from the 49k I give her for food.

Each time she buys stuff in the house she always want me to pay back in full; most times, I just pay a part of it which she always frowns and complains about.

It appears she has a notion that her money is her money and mine is ours.

My income is more than hers though.

Do you think I should still give her personal pocket money?

Kobojunkie:
1. That mindset is what is traditional marriage culture in Nigeria.

2. Women are allowed by tradition to sit as liabilities in their marriage.