minato12:


just 2 weeks into dating she has never spent 50 naira on herself or me, she ask me for everything, and have always given her, when i pet her for sex, she says not yet, yet when we have a clique outing, she will ask them to ask me.for her own contribution, and had pay..... i got upset one day and told her she was been unfair, and she got up angry that so its only sex i want from her, and stormed out angrily, its 3 days now and have not called her, and she has not either (she never calls, only flash and i call back) good riddence, i only see a parasite, nothing more.

Lokojaman:
Realised she is some kind of unofficial sex worker codedly and semi codedly doing her job with bad men, while pretending to be a decent and religious girl

Eyinju112:
True tho. men should know the right time to date. Men should work on themselves first before thinking of dating and in the process impregnating a promising lady. I can’t date a jobless man as he’s gon be a burden to me. How can I be working and he be sitting his ass in the house watching movies and roaming about the community with his corp uniform… I know myself very well, I’d be the one spending my hard earned money on him, after service gan work never sure for you, if work sure self him fit jilt you. This isn’t gold digging it’s just knowing what you want. I’m independent and I need an independent man too, i want to be convinced that we’re both ready if the unexpected happens (pregnancy) Not someone who doesn’t have a bustop.

IyaebeTheGreat:
OP, that lady has sense for saying she can't date a youth corper, what does a youth corper has to offer her apart from using her to practice all sort of fantasies and sex styles? I knew very early in life that I should never date an unemployed man that has nothing meaningful to offer. There are ages of men you don't date(18-29) these men in this age range are not settled, you'll end up miserable if you date them. God bless that sensible lady wherever she is.

Yomit71:

Pregnancy out of wedlock, Eyinju sogbadun

Eyinju112:
lo bere lowo iya e

Asour:



Proverbs 14 isn't referring to life choices that are not sinful. For instance, choosing a red shirt Vs a blue one. Choosing an SUV Vs a sedan.

Proverbs 14 is referring to a way of sin that seems right to us. but destructive. NOT the choice of marital age — which is NEVER wrong.

That's to the discretion of each individual.

Paul (Apostle) for instance wasn't married. You'll say it was his devotion to God BUT realize that he was already a GROWN UNMARRIED adult before his conversion.

Yomit71:

Sori iya e buru ni, you want die

Magnoliaa:


I mean, right?


It's crazy how everyone literally judges others based on financial status. And it's more annoying how the economy has exacerbated it.

Food and money is the start and end of our problems in this country lol.

What will make a promising young man "undateable", but won't make a woman so?


I be student myself, and I'd hate for my whole existence to be reduced to that. Literally a phase of my life. That everyone has gone through. And it pisses me off when I see stooped men (and women) doing so. That's exactly just how people in their service year too are.




Times have change. Sticking to the rigid gender dictates of man must bring money, woman must bring body (or other stuff) is just a recipe for disaster, as far as I'm concerned.

And I say this because some might disagree and say that I'm trying to say money (stability) isn't important for a man to have, when I will be expected to offer domestic services, or that a woman should become masculine and be bringing money, when things easily could have been solved if the two partners are committed to helping each other financially, domestically and in other ways.


If you want to demand that the opposite gender has something they were expected to have, then you must be the complete opposite requirements that your gender is supposed to have as well. No ifs, no but.

pressplay411:


Prov.3.5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

Johnholt909:
First of all, let me start with myself. It was during the NYSC and was living in a very nice two bedroom flat apartment. She said she can’t date a youth corper. I was so surprised and a little bit downhearted.

One month later, I met another lady much better than her.

Asour:



Yes.

But that wasn't what you quoted?

And even this says nothing about the 'appropriate' age for marriage in. The bible?

So I ask ; what's the biblical appropriate age for marriage since it not in the bible?

Oh! We may have to rely on our understanding here.

folake4u:



Hahahahaha Perse. 😂😂😂😂

What killed my feelings for a guy is that he was too stingy. A stingy man is worse than an infidel.

REALretep:
It's not everyday one reads cerebral opinions especially from female Nairalanders
I love the way you wrote strongly and confidently while at the same time you didn't denigrate the opposite sex.
😘❤️

UyaiIncomparabl:


No woman is hard to get. You either aren’t her type, she doesn’t like you or she has her eyes on other men (that makes you her last choice).

Willsland:


I was already earning a one unit of six zeros though not monthly sometimes half sometimes close to it as a.coper, drove Toyota Yaris, No lady, i reapeat no lady said no when I made advances , I had to advice myself cos i had.bigger plans for my career..
Y'all supporting the ladiy are all making excuses but trying to sound reasonable so that the guy won't feel bad.

Eyinju112:
True tho. men should know the right time to date. Men should work on themselves first before thinking of dating and in the process impregnating a promising lady. I can’t date a jobless man as he’s gon be a burden to me. How can I be working and he be sitting his ass in the house watching movies and roaming about the community with his corp uniform… I know myself very well, I’d be the one spending my hard earned money on him, after service gan work never sure for you, if work sure self him fit jilt you. This isn’t gold digging it’s just knowing what you want. I’m independent and I need an independent man too, i want to be convinced that we’re both ready if the unexpected happens (pregnancy) Not someone who doesn’t have a bustop.

Johnholt909:
First of all, let me start with myself. It was during the NYSC and was living in a very nice two bedroom flat apartment. She said she can’t date a youth corper. I was so surprised and a little bit downhearted.

One month later, I met another lady much better than her.

sulakishop:
I hate when dey act card less, dataless, fatherless, motherless and cashless once dey give you their number.

Dating should be a mutual thing , not one totally dependent on the other

Lokojaman:
Realised she is some kind of unofficial sex worker codedly and semi codedly doing her job with bad men, while pretending to be a decent and religious girl

folake4u:



Hahahahaha Perse. 😂😂😂😂

What killed my feelings for a guy is that he was too stingy. A stingy man is worse than an infidel.

Magnoliaa:


I'll pass. 😂

But if you guys want to derail the thread, which will definitely soon be a breeding ground for and boiling pot of misogyny, I endorse 📋 📌.

Persephone1:
This should be a lyrics in the National Anthem

Persephone1:
This should be written in stone and placed at every borders of Nigerian states .
It should be introduced into moral/ civic education subject as a topic.

Thank you.

Jashub:
What killed my feelings for women actually started when I listened to guys like FreshandFit, Kevin Samuels and Andrew Tate.

Their views, opinions and thoughts really made me see into the deception of women and the motives behind why women deserve less than what they get .