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Wealthier:
I have accepted my fate okay. I hate that someone would love to have a family and you tag me as desperate. Everyone is thinking I'm desperate. But when I go ahead to have kids on my own because noone would take me seriously, I know the new names I will be called. And if I decide to be by myself, I will still be called names.

you worry too much about what people will think or say about you,are you concerned about their happiness or yours,you are not alone in this situation because the current reality is that men are not too eager to get married these days either because of economic reasons or reasons best known to them,at 30 yrs you are not an evening paper but a beautiful matured woman,you can be a single mother,it's your choice and don't give a fvcking damn what people think

Wealthier:
I have accepted my fate okay. I hate that someone would love to have a family and you tag me as desperate. Everyone is thinking I'm desperate. But when I go ahead to have kids on my own because noone would take me seriously, I know the new names I will be called. And if I decide to be by myself, I will still be called names.

It's OK to own up to being desperate.
Our desperation is an access key.
Only the desperate can really see God's intervention.

Amos.6.1 - Woe to you who are at ease in Zion, And trust in Mount Samaria, Notable persons in the chief nation, To whom the house of Israel comes!

Read it from 1-14 and you'll see why.
Not acknowledging our desperation before God and some times before man is a communication of pride of the heart. Its a subtle kind of pride but very dangerouss all the same.

This is why Jesus Christ himself confirm this. We have to be desperate and hungry to contend for our spiritual inheritance. Cos only when you suffer for it will you value it.

Matt.11.12 - And from the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffers violence, and the violent take it by force.

It's the reason God says he hates Esau but Loves Jacob.
He knew afore-time that Esau did not care for his spiritual inheritance. But Jacob knew its worth and was even ready to trick his father for it. Even though God doesn't support trickery.
Imagine selling God's special gift for food just cos you're hungry? No matter how hungry you may be for material things, your hunger for the God and your spiritual inheritance should be more important.
Thats why God tests our seriousness with fasting.

Jesus Christ concludes thus;

John.4.34 - Jesus said to them, "My food is to do the will of Him who sent Me, and to finish His work.

I hope you've picked a thing or two.
I'm only communicating thus cos you are a worker. You should discern this.

In summary, more important than getting married and raising a family is seeking the Kingdom of God and His righteousness.

Grow and have a balance spiritual, professional, academical, emotional, mental, etc life.
Know how God speaks to you and be willing to Obey.

Grace, Peace and Joy multiplied to you Amen.

OP there is no God and you should stop wasting your time praying to him or her.

The time you wasted during and after uni going to crusades and all those other church things could have been used to socialise and meet new people.

And when you were dating you were prolly super faithful and didn't leave your options open, a decision you're regretting now.

Cheating is bad and all but that's just the way the game goes, you gotta play it.

Anyways I wish you find love get married and have kids of your own, so go out and meet new people.

PS. No be only church Dem dey meet people.

Hohenheim:
OP there is no God and you should stop wasting your time praying to him or her.

The time you wasted during and after uni going to crusades and all those other church things could have been used to socialise and meet new people.

And when you were dating you were prolly super faithful and didn't leave your options open, a decision you're regretting now.

Cheating is bad and all but that's just the way the game goes, you gotta play it.

Anyways I wish you find love get married and have kids of your own, so go out and meet new people.

PS. No be only church Dem dey meet people.

Thanks.
But where else do i go? I already attend seminars, also singles seminars. I honestly don't know

Wealthier:
I guess that's what it is then. Let me take my mind off totally. I'm tired.

marriage is not the only thing that there is in this life. Whenever you find yourself unable to be like others, just know that there's something special about you. IRMC

AndrewTate:
well, I think you've been too conscious about it from time so it has influenced how you see the world/act/think or carry yourself...
“There’s more to life” the moment you accept this and start focusing on yourself and your growth in all rounds of your life.
It'll happen!

The quote, "there's more to life" reminds me of someone. 👀👀👀 KB.

Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.

Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money.

Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it.

I started to become afraid when I clocked 25 and saw that most of my friends were engaged. It dawned on me that no serious man is seeing me. I believe I am pretty , doesn't dress extravagantly and not materialistic. Infact the other guy I was hoping we would be serious together told me he doesn't have money for marriage, I told him money will come but he insisted he couldn't start a relationship with me. This was when I was 25. At 26 , 27 up till 28, the same reasons I heard.

What exactly is wrong with me?

Finally at 28, I met my current bf. He seemed very serious and into me until I started to dream about marriage and started to talk to him about it. Today we had serious quarrels, he broke up with me just because I wasn't happy with him that he didn't try to greet my mum on her birthday. I thought he was taking things serious after telling me at the beginning of this year that we would have our court wedding this year. He told me he's not ready for any marriage anytime soon, that he can link me with his friend if i still want to marry this year. We have resolved the issue , but I'm not sure I love him anymore. I'm just rolling with it.


I'm clocking 30 years this month and feeling so much like an evening newspaper.

I'm just here feeling bad and dejected. Why does it take so long for God to show me mercy?

I'm somehow regretting not joining my female friends in double dating and then go with who's more serious.

Not one, not two or 3 of my friends did this same thing and they are now all married.

Honestly, I feel so much like a loser. I guess I may eventually just try to get kids of my own once I earn more money.

I feel depressed whenever I see couples together. I've had to rub away from my sanitation group in church because of a particular young couple in my department that I'm beginning to get jealous of. Like , will this ever be me?

I've been attending couples seminar since 2021 and northing yet. Is this how another 5 more years will add to my life and everyone will officially be calling me evening newspaper.

I've told my family to not judge me when I find a way to have my own children cos I'm tired of crying to them and they shouldn't ask me where is my man.

If there's any prophet amongst you. I'd really appreciate a word of prayer. Seems God doesn't care of my feelings.

Please ignore my typo error. I typed from too much pain

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Nia69:
The quote, "there's more to life" reminds me of someone. 👀👀👀 KB.

who’s that someone?

AndrewTate:
who’s that someone?

You.

Nia69:
You.

😳have we met before?

AndrewTate:
😳have we met before?

No actually. Maybe I'm wrong, my instinct is telling me you're the guy I know.

Nia69:
No actually. Maybe I'm wrong, my instinct is telling me you're the guy I know.

oh… I’m not, trust me lol

AndrewTate:
oh… I’m not, trust me lol

Then why are you sounding like him.

Nia69:
Then why are you sounding like him.

dunno…some people make similar choices 🤷🏽‍♂️

AndrewTate:
oh… I’m not, trust me lol

Smiles, do you have to convince someone otherwise?

4Humanity4All:
Smiles, do you have to convince someone otherwise?

yes…if she already knew she wouldn’t ask. And I got no profile picture too so why leave her confused?

AndrewTate:
yes…if she already knew she wouldn’t ask. And I got no profile picture too so why leave her confused?

OK, I get it but you can't keep reassuring millions of people out there that you aren't who they think you are. Let everyone think what they want to think. You get?

4Humanity4All:
OK, I get it but you can't keep reassuring millions of people out there that you aren't who they think you are. Let everyone think what they want to think. You get?

Totally get you sir!..as soon as I get tired of explaining.
But if it won’t cost me anything I’d answer a genuine question.
🫡

AndrewTate:
dunno…some people make similar choices 🤷🏽‍♂️

Okay.

AndrewTate:
Totally get you sir!..as soon as I get tired of explaining.
But if it won’t cost me anything I’d answer a genuine question.
🫡

Alright

Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.

Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money.

Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it.

I started to become afraid when I clocked 25 and saw that most of my friends were engaged. It dawned on me that no serious man is seeing me. I believe I am pretty , doesn't dress extravagantly and not materialistic. Infact the other guy I was hoping we would be serious together told me he doesn't have money for marriage, I told him money will come but he insisted he couldn't start a relationship with me. This was when I was 25. At 26 , 27 up till 28, the same reasons I heard.

What exactly is wrong with me?

Finally at 28, I met my current bf. He seemed very serious and into me until I started to dream about marriage and started to talk to him about it. Today we had serious quarrels, he broke up with me just because I wasn't happy with him that he didn't try to greet my mum on her birthday. I thought he was taking things serious after telling me at the beginning of this year that we would have our court wedding this year. He told me he's not ready for any marriage anytime soon, that he can link me with his friend if i still want to marry this year. We have resolved the issue , but I'm not sure I love him anymore. I'm just rolling with it.


I'm clocking 30 years this month and feeling so much like an evening newspaper.

I'm just here feeling bad and dejected. Why does it take so long for God to show me mercy?

I'm somehow regretting not joining my female friends in double dating and then go with who's more serious.

Not one, not two or 3 of my friends did this same thing and they are now all married.

Honestly, I feel so much like a loser. I guess I may eventually just try to get kids of my own once I earn more money.

I feel depressed whenever I see couples together. I've had to rub away from my sanitation group in church because of a particular young couple in my department that I'm beginning to get jealous of. Like , will this ever be me?

I've been attending couples seminar since 2021 and northing yet. Is this how another 5 more years will add to my life and everyone will officially be calling me evening newspaper.

I've told my family to not judge me when I find a way to have my own children cos I'm tired of crying to them and they shouldn't ask me where is my man.

If there's any prophet amongst you. I'd really appreciate a word of prayer. Seems God doesn't care of my feelings.

Please ignore my typo error. I typed from too much pain

babe you need to calm down and focus on yourself when you are desperate guys will take you for granted

Rokiat:
Is your solely purpose in this life marriage?

As in ehn I just tyre. Her mates are growing their career to a bigger level, this one is looking for a man.

The part where she said, "all she wants to do now is to make money and she will become a baby mama"

So you 5 years of your life, you couldn't atleast save 3milion atleast.

This is why men sleep with women and drop them anyhow, because of lack of empowerment. You feel your man should be your empowerment.

Empowerment yourself, you are the only one that can love yourself most. A man of 30years is still hustling saving money for him self and family, you! In your 30's you are still looking forward to making money. Like seriously, why do most of you women decieve yourself and start reciting affirmations to console yourself when you should be putting in extra work. Well I feel your pain, but you see this husband you are crying over. Hmmm aunty cry to God to open doors of success for you. So you can own a car, rent an apartment, dress and look good. I bet you within a month you will get troops of men. Taking you out on dates. For your hand in marriage

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Wealthier:
I guess that's what it is then. Let me take my mind off totally. I'm tired.

So, would you marry me; or you would come to me,etc; so that I can/would tells u about marriage&marriages...? Hmmn...?...

Nia69:
Then why are you sounding like him.

Like who or like whom...? Like me...? Who is me, or who am I...? Who are you...?...

AndrewTate:
yes…if she already knew she wouldn’t ask. And I got no profile picture too so why leave her confused?

Huh...? AndrewTate?... Then, it was u&iyaebe... Now, it is u&who...? Seems u are a "femolacaster/fimolacaster/femalelacaster, etc..." Femalecarter, femalecharter, femalechatter, femalecaster,etc...? Like Carter, John Carter or Mr Femolacaster,etc; dat is/dat are living in Leicester, Colchester...? You do likes females coasters&rollercoasters...? Are u a newscaster or a broadcaster...? U are from or living/residing in Manchester,Leicester or Colchester,etc...? Which of the chester&hester/ester,etc...? Are u...or did u like(...or in love...?) those Esthers,etc; dat don't do, don't go, or don't likes 2 go 2/4 Easter...? Dey only, are observing/having siesta every semester... Did u av a sister bearing Esther,etc; who is living or residing in Manchester,Leicester,Colchester,etc...?... Who is or wat is d subject matter...? Do u or did u understands...? Mr J. Carter...

Huh? [quote author=AndrewTate post=122526034]Totally get you sir!..as soon as I get tired of explaining.
But if it won’t cost me anything I’d answer a genuine question.

Weit:
@Walex did you get that factory gig?

am sorsyi don't have their number on my phone again

Chai...wolves everywhere still trying to devour what's left of the op. No conscience anymore

You have not replied me

Wealthier:
Hi Nairalanders,

Permit me go straight to the point. So I've been praying to God earnestly, with tears since I was 25. Up till now that I'm clocking 30 years this month. It seems God doesn't want to answer my prayers to bless me with my husband.

I have fasted, prayed, cried, sowed seeds, join others to celebrate, sow seed in theirs and yet I'm still not taken seriously.

Honestly, I've begin to lose faith many times and already planning to be a baby mama as soon as I earn more money.

Before the age of 24, I wasn't thinking about marriage. I majorly wanted to be done with school and get a job because I do not want to be a liability to my husband. The whole thing though, there were no serious suitors , but I wasn't worried. I had a boyfriend then of 3 years but I knew we wouldn't end up together because he was too focused on being an Activist, his communication became poor. No matter how I complained about it.

I started to become afraid when I clocked 25 and saw that most of my friends were engaged. It dawned on me that no serious man is seeing me. I believe I am pretty , doesn't dress extravagantly and not materialistic. Infact the other guy I was hoping we would be serious together told me he doesn't have money for marriage, I told him money will come but he insisted he couldn't start a relationship with me. This was when I was 25. At 26 , 27 up till 28, the same reasons I heard.

What exactly is wrong with me?

Finally at 28, I met my current bf. He seemed very serious and into me until I started to dream about marriage and started to talk to him about it. Today we had serious quarrels, he broke up with me just because I wasn't happy with him that he didn't try to greet my mum on her birthday. I thought he was taking things serious after telling me at the beginning of this year that we would have our court wedding this year. He told me he's not ready for any marriage anytime soon, that he can link me with his friend if i still want to marry this year. We have resolved the issue , but I'm not sure I love him anymore. I'm just rolling with it.


I'm clocking 30 years this month and feeling so much like an evening newspaper.

I'm just here feeling bad and dejected. Why does it take so long for God to show me mercy?

I'm somehow regretting not joining my female friends in double dating and then go with who's more serious.

Not one, not two or 3 of my friends did this same thing and they are now all married.

Honestly, I feel so much like a loser. I guess I may eventually just try to get kids of my own once I earn more money.

I feel depressed whenever I see couples together. I've had to rub away from my sanitation group in church because of a particular young couple in my department that I'm beginning to get jealous of. Like , will this ever be me?

I've been attending couples seminar since 2021 and northing yet. Is this how another 5 more years will add to my life and everyone will officially be calling me evening newspaper.

I've told my family to not judge me when I find a way to have my own children cos I'm tired of crying to them and they shouldn't ask me where is my man.

If there's any prophet amongst you. I'd really appreciate a word of prayer. Seems God doesn't care of my feelings.

Please ignore my typo error. I typed from too much pain

I am available for relationship, DM, you must be a graduate and with zero nagging attitude because I no like wahala