Kobicove:


There is no love without money

BloomingDale:


Better stay alone than stress someone’s daughter.

tensazangetsu20:
75k salary and you rushed to get married. How do you even cope with such salary. Rent and food alone especially in the major cities is killing. Na wa o. When will you finish learning work? When will you be good at it? When will you start getting clients? Pikin go go school na. Pikin must chop. You don't have sense op and you are even Igbo. What's wrong with all these small Igbo boys now making Stupid decisions like this. You guys should go and check yourselves o

Neddstark:
Who told you to marry on a salary of 75k.
You see men getting to their late 30s to attain financial stability before marriage and you are whinning because your decision went sour for you.

greatiyk4u:
Nwoke
Let me advise you as an elder
You wrote you are from Enugu and I think it is probably Nsukka
She is from Imo state and maybe again Mbaise

"Oburu eziokwu mara na alum di'na nwunye adighi adabar'ha abuo;

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

Nice2023:
U created a new account to appear innocent.

U were earning 75k and u went and married and u think she wouldn't run like Ben Johnson.

U should have saved money and invest it to provide u with a passive income but na marriage u follow.

I don't think u love yourself,if u really do,u would not marry a woman whose income u do not know.

Na only u enter that marriage...and that is why u are begging ur mother in law and also begging your wife.

Advice:
Start earning income and see ur wife come with full force.

Pls,in ur next life,do not marry semi liability as a wife and for women out there,do not settle for a man who can't take care of u.

U can abuse me i don't care but let us join hands in reducing poverty in our land.

Marriage needs money and without it,na trouble u dey look for.

Wish u the best in all u do.

clockwisereport:


Stop this shit. I am from Nsukka and I have friends that are happily married to Imo and Abia people.

clockwisereport:


OP belongs to the category of people who believe that marriage opens doors for people

Klass99:


But I thought you people said you are logical and not emotional, and women bring nothing to the table except sex?

Again, I mean no offence to you I couldn't help myself . You will be alright OP, in fact all of una go dey alright las las.

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time

Klass99:


FK, ke kwanu & ogini? Did I lie? 😂

EriMma1:
Money go, woman go. When I was warning you guys in my post that a woman needs to be taken care of if you want your marriage to last, some empty skull said I too like men matter. Now see.

This skill is what you ought to have learnt first, then build your financial security before talking about marriage but You men like putting the cart before the horse.

Number 2, marriage is not for children. Forget the general opinion that it's better to marry a younger girl. mature ladies are still far better in terms of managing hard times and handling tough situations unlike your 23 yr old who has not been through lifes hurdles or surmounted challenges on her own. Prolly she just moved in with you from her parents house where everything is being done for her.

As long as you're still broke and can't meet her needs yet, no amount of begging will make her come back cos that was why she left in the first place.

Focus and complete your skill training. Make sure you learn it very well and start sourcing for jobs.. Also keep looking for a regular job to sustain in the meantime. Forget about her but try to send upkeep for your child

If you hammer tomorrow, look for a mature lady and marry.

All this 20 yr old ladies without tangible source of income rushing into marriage with average Nigerian guys, I pity all of you. You people think marriage is childs play. Make una dey play.

folake4u:


You didn't lie at all. Spot on reply to him. 🤣

I'm fine oh. How are you doing also?

folake4u:


You didn't lie at all. Spot on reply to him. 🤣

I'm fine oh. How are you doing also?

clockwisereport:


OP belongs to the category of people who believe that marriage opens doors for people

greatiyk4u:


Do you also have those who are not happily married?

No shit here, mum is from owerri

mariahAngel:
Since you've asked (and begged) her to come back and she has refused, then ignore her.

Make the most of the freedom that you've been given to focus on and build yourself.
Don't be too needy.
Preserve your dignity.

When she's had enough of her vacation , she'll come back.
If not, good riddance.

Best post here thus far and coming from a lady is why the post holds the most points for me. I don't normally post here because most times it's pointless doing so with the crazy mindsets of people out there. Even Solomon who was blessed beyond measure by God himself under the inspiration of the God's spirit of wisdom said riches borrow wings, they fly away; meaning it will never be there all the time and people still come here to glorify the same riches like they can just snap their fingers and money will show up! It frightening honestly! I do know one thing though no one can truly love and disseminate the same love to another person unconditionally without having that God's essence in him or her. That's the reason we have all the nonsense flying about these days.

GeorgeForeman:
I had to create a new account specifically for this post.

Today makes it 7 months my left with my kid.

I married my wife in feb 2021 in a low key ceremony.I have known my wife for years before get married to her as we lived in same compound.She is from Imo and I am from Enugu state.She is 23 and i am 26

We have a daughter together.Trouble began about 7 months after my daughter was born,my wife always complained i dont give her enough money for upkeep.I work as a security guard for a company earning 75k monthly.Out of that 75k,I remit 40k to her monthly for upkeep.She is a school teacher but i don't really know how much she earns.

Given the situation of things in the country,I know she may be right when she says the money i give her isn't enough but i am genuinely trying my best.it hasn't been easy.

Asides from her nagging about upkeep money,my wife is a good woman.She cooks and takes good care of our daughter.

Things got worse when the company i was working for folded up.I think the owner got involved in some shady deals and the company building and assests were confiscated.I was without a job for some time and we were surviving on my savings and and some menial jobs i was getting.

Times were hard.I opened up to my wife that i want to learn cctv And solar panel installation.I viewed this as a good skill to learn and have.I enrolled and i am an apprentice now learning alongside some other boys.

My wife couldn't bear any longer and she left with our kid without informing me.I have called her mom to beg.She said she will talk to her.I don't even know where she is though i heard she stays with her aunty.

I have begged her to return home to no avail.The issue is affecting me emotionally and mentally.I mean i'm already having a hard time trying to learn this skill,why should my wife add to it?

I really need the encouragement and warmth of my wife especially now i haven't been feeling fine for some time