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concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again

akinsmyk:
Forget what everyone is telling you. They’re not practical and realistic enough. Everyone forming commando coz they’re not in your position at the moment. You can’t break up with her now. You’re just playing. It will be hard and difficult. You didn’t love and trust her in a day, you built the love over time so you can’t break up with her immediately. Your heart won’t.

You will definitely move on from this and continue dating. What happens after this is what will lead to the systemic end of the relationship. You will no longer feel hurt and depressed, only feelings of disappointment. You won’t be able to trust her again, you will keep wandering where she is at every time. Those are the stress that will make you move on.

No one will advise you to leave, you will leave at that time yourself. That time is not now. No advise they give you now will work. It is when you guys decide to make it work is when you will be resolute to dead it gradually.

KidDarkness:
You better pick yourself up, dust your shoes and run. Na who live to tell the story dey enjoy pass. You don't need her. You don't need her baggage weighing you down
Her family members are just preying on you
Move on with your life.
Someone better always comes along

Newton2024:
Dey play

My Pastor was conducting a seminar for some grandmothers some years ago. He asked them, "who among them married as a virgin?" Only one of them (the eldest among them) signified. According to my Pastor, she later came back to him to confess that it was a lie that she raised her hand out of shame because she was the eldest among the women.

As for me, I didn't cheat back. I am a heavenly minded person. I want to see my God one day.

malcom1X:
You never cheated back just once, and you know that once you do not provide for your family your wife will definitely cheat again

😆😆😆

Newton2024:
Not every one is sexually immoral. And not everyone is ready to bear the consequences of immortality.

malcom1X:
So what about your wife does she believe in this immortality thing you're talking about?
This is an innocent question, I just want to understand why you feel comfortable that your wife can cheat on you and you do nothing about it.

And she knows she can cheat when you don't fulfill certain criterias in her life and you'll do nothing about it.

djon78:
The realest reply

Very matured

Zonefree:

A girl and her wretched family are using you to play ludo and you're trying everything possible to forgive her

I love that you're losing weight and falling sick day by day. It's a good sign for others to learn not to be like you. You're a disgrace to humanity and a waste of space.

A bandit is valuable than you! Tueh!

concho:
We started dating when she got admission in 2018. She was a novice and a church girl then .
There was nothing like intimacy till 2021 and that was when I deflowered her ,

Since I promised my self that I must marry who ever I deflowered , I started taking care of some parts of her needs hoping that I will get financially stable and settle down with her .

She was the type of girl that everyone assumed to be an angel . I trusted her more than anything on earth .

She is too jealous that she suspects that I’m cheating even when I was not . She misinterprets everything an opposite sex sends to me

Fast forward to 2022 . She visited one day and got upset that another girl referred to me as “babe” on chat instead of saying “hi” . I insisted that she brings her own phone so I check if a guy has never called her babe

On getting to her chat , I noticed this guy that she saved as “my favorite” . They had no chats (she deletes everything) . I decided to dig deeper only to find out that this guy has been going to her house (family house ) to sleep with her . It’s not once , it’s not twice . And it was frequent the period she even said I should give her space that they were doing family prayers

The worst is that I told the mum and elder siblings out of anger. They did absolutely nothing . The mum only denied knowing that the guy comes around when everyone is out

A month later, I saw a chat of the mum asking her why she doesn’t pick the guy’s call again . I almost ran mad

She has promised and vouched that she won’t try such again and doesn’t know what came over her her .

I have tried everything possible to forgive her since no one treats me the way she does , but I keep loosing weight and falling sick by day .

I’m currently depressed and don’t know what to do again