ThothHermes:
You dey learn how to rap abi wetin?

Klass99:


Please die this yarn! Of what benefit will another child or more children be to him in his present situation? Will more children make him healthier, happier or wealthier? Or should he breed more and wait to reap that blessing you mention and the fruits of his labour in old age? What guarantee does he or any of us have of living till 2040?

One of my relatives has 5 kids and almost every bill payment in that household is becoming a matter of family contribution, where other family members have to chip in and contribute money to help them. This is a household where both parents are still alive, please where is the blessing in having 5 children when you cannot pay your bills?

This our backwards thinking and claims about children needs to end.

Klass99:


I honestly think one of the ways to achieve some of your dreams is to permanently end child birth. As in, do not have anymore children! My father had 7 kids and in one conversation he said two children are more than enough in this present age, because children are going to be more difficult to manage and our economy keeps deteriorating. Grasp some worldy wisdom from an old man who has lived 7 decades on God's earth.



I know you said this but think about making it permanent. You already have 5 kids as far as I am concerned, there is you, wifey, your sister and two kids. Consider yourself a child who also needs to be taken care of as well (mostly by you and wifey sha).

You still need to buy good shoes, underwears and shirts for yourself, visit the hospital when sick, get a haircut, eat shawarma or suya, etc. So, don't over do it with a large sized family. Think quality over quantity, the fewer the better!

I don't know how old your sister is but if she's old enough to find a legitimate income source with your help or by herself, that will take a load off you and free up some disposable income for you. Try to get her self sufficient and financially independent so she is not a life long responsibility of yours.

Keep trying and doing your best, the good book talks about time and chance, perhaps it is not your time and chance to blow yet, but that shouldn't stop you from dreaming and working towards it. Saka, the Etisalat/9mobile ambassador talked about finding success at a later age in life, let that encourage you while you also take the time to enjoy the good things you have now.

Emmanuel30a:
Dis is reasonable...Probably adorable&admirable...It's good(...maybe unbelievable...),dat it's said by a woman..."Dey" won't talk abt bin stable,amiable,able,enabled,affable,"preferable",etc;b4 dey wud bcom a constable

GboyegaD:


Because USA treats HND as same as BSc for academic purposes. All you need to get into a PhD often times is a BSc.



Unfortunately, ignorant ones like you are the ones to be avoided. I have a PhD and I know many who has HND and were admitted into PhD programs fully funded. Besides in my case, I have both HND and BSc and both were considered for my admission because my HND gave me the Math requirement I needed for my program. I would have thought someone with a username like yours would act in line with your username alas, you are just an opposite of what you claim you are.

That said, if he avoids me; that is his choice. I only gave him a suggestion that would help him achieve his dreams and here on Nairaland, the information abound.

Femich18:
Be calm and keep pushing. Consistency is the key

greatopec:


OP pls don’t be annoyed with him. I appreciate greatly your suggestion and I will definitely try my luck sir

SmartyPants:
Well for you I think it may be too late - you may need to adjust your dreams a little.

But I think this thread should be a warning to the unmarried - don't rush into marriage. Before you do, you need to work and build up to the stage where marriage will help you develop your dreams, not hinder them.

2 years ago, a colleague from the university who had gotten married looked me in the eye and said Smarty don't do it! - until you've accomplished your self development dreams otherwise marriage may become a trap.

Get that master's first. Build that side business first. Buy that car first. if within reach, build that house first. And not getting married early doesn't mean running around with women either.

blacksam01:


loans ar not a bad idea...it helps one to grow..just that we all like to mismanage funds or venture into not well thought out businesses

Georgejeez:

Thanks boss for this piece , it's as if you are talking to me directly

greatopec:

I am an HND graduate
I have a sister who am responsible for also.
I have a wife and two kids.
I work 8-5weekdays

Yoighaman:


There is an adage that says: When you wake up is your own morning.

Life is not usually measured by how quick but how well.

Pray to God, keep believing in yourself, keep your dreams alive, work hard and smart and someday, your story will inspire others.

Also, learn to count your blessings, one by one. We sometimes focus on the things we don't have and overlook those we have. You have eyes and can see; legs and can walk; tongue and can taste; hands and can feel; mouth and can eat; ears and can hear; brain and can think; di*k and can fu*k, nose and can breathe (and smell), etc. Many are willing to give up millions of naira for these blessings we take for granted.

Be grateful to God for the things you have, whilst diligently working, praying and pushing for those you don't have. Your time will surely come.

Best wishes.

greatopec:


I just don’t understand all this grammer

GboyegaD:


Just read through and you will get all the information you need. Focus on Fall, 2024 admission which opens towards the end of the year. Get every necessary documents in place and if possible, use WES to evaluate your transcripts so that you have more options of universities. Here is the most recent thread on this.:
https://www.nairaland.com/7194807/general-usa-student-visa-enquiries-part

Adakintroy:
Its not a must you must have a dream..look at me,I did not have a dream but am fine.

Some of you never had any dream. You just woke up to the reality that successfull people had dreams and vision so right away you started dreaming. Dont lie.

You know many do not have any dream when their dream is just to be rich. Nobody dream of being rich. You dream of doing something y you love. If you had such you would have been about it till date and some how would have done enough in it to be consider successful.

greatopec:
Good day Nairalanders
I will be 40 on Oct 19 this year and I am scared the kind of life I have always desired may not be
achievable. Let me list these things that worries me so that you can probably advise me or assist me in achieving any of them.
1) By 40 I had wished I will be living in my house with cars in my garage
Current situation- I am a salary earner who eagerly waits for the salary to drop before my family can eat conveniently every month.
2)I love cars and driving. Was thinking of getting a good car for Uber business.
Current situation- I have not been able to gather enough money to buy a car for Uber or personal use.
3)Seeking greener pasture abroad.
Current situation- I have not been able to have enough disposable income to even get a passport to start with in the first place.
4)Self development. I had interest in programming so I decided to learn coding and all that. I started with free code camp and also this thread by iyenimofe on nairaland has been so helpful https://www.nairaland.com/1383359/learn-web-design-live-nairaland/6#17571611
The issue I have progressing is that of enough data subscription to watch more tutorials.
5)Acquisition of at least Masters.
I have a passion for learning and self development but I struggled to have my HND with distinction. Gathering enough funds to start my masters program has been an uphill task.

Little about my background
I am an HND graduate
I have a sister who am responsible for also.
I have a wife and two kids.
I work 8-5weekdays

greatopec:

What kind of business can I start with little capital. And can I quit salary work when I don’t have side hustle yet?

greatopec:
Good day Nairalanders
I will be 40 on Oct 19 this year and I am scared the kind of life I have always desired may not be
achievable. Let me list these things that worries me so that you can probably advise me or assist me in achieving any of them.
1) By 40 I had wished I will be living in my house with cars in my garage
Current situation- I am a salary earner who eagerly waits for the salary to drop before my family can eat conveniently every month.
2)I love cars and driving. Was thinking of getting a good car for Uber business.
Current situation- I have not been able to gather enough money to buy a car for Uber or personal use.
3)Seeking greener pasture abroad.
Current situation- I have not been able to have enough disposable income to even get a passport to start with in the first place.
4)Self development. I had interest in programming so I decided to learn coding and all that. I started with free code camp and also this thread by iyenimofe on nairaland has been so helpful https://www.nairaland.com/1383359/learn-web-design-live-nairaland/6#17571611
The issue I have progressing is that of enough data subscription to watch more tutorials.
5)Acquisition of at least Masters.
I have a passion for learning and self development but I struggled to have my HND with distinction. Gathering enough funds to start my masters program has been an uphill task.

Little about my background
I am an HND graduate
I have a sister who am responsible for also.
I have a wife and two kids.
I work 8-5weekdays

dawnomike:
I am glad you came to the realization of this, but it is better late than never
Solution: Seek for other sources of income maybe online or a tangible side hustle.

What does your wife do for a living?

Also, seek to join co-operative societies where you can dave and later borrow money to buy the car you want for Uber.

Express all these to your wufe as well so that you both can make your goals a family project to strive at.

Above all, no matter what happens, do not impregnate your wife with a baby for now... Cheers sir