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Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Klington: 1:43pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by GboyegaD(m): 1:43pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Life is no competition. Keep working towards them. If you have passion for learning, with your HND, you should be able to get into a fully funded PhD in America and that will answer your migration quest. 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by qtguru(m): 1:46pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
didroon43: True 1 Like |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by SmartyPants(m): 1:46pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Well for you I think it may be too late - you may need to adjust your dreams a little. But I think this thread should be a warning to the unmarried - don't rush into marriage. Before you do, you need to work and build up to the stage where marriage will help you develop your dreams, not hinder them. 2 years ago, a colleague from the university who had gotten married looked me in the eye and said Smarty don't do it! - until you've accomplished your self development dreams otherwise marriage may become a trap. Get that master's first. Build that side business first. Buy that car first. if within reach, build that house first. And not getting married early doesn't mean running around with women either. 26 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Yoighaman(m): 1:46pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
greatopec: There is an adage that says: When you wake up is your own morning. Life is not usually measured by how quick but how well. Pray to God, keep believing in yourself, keep your dreams alive, work hard and smart and someday, your story will inspire others. Also, learn to count your blessings, one by one. We sometimes focus on the things we don't have and overlook those we have. You have eyes and can see; legs and can walk; tongue and can taste; hands and can feel; mouth and can eat; ears and can hear; brain and can think; di*k and can fu*k, nose and can breathe (and smell), etc. Many are willing to give up millions of naira for these blessings we take for granted. Be grateful to God for the things you have, whilst diligently working, praying and pushing for those you don't have. Your time will surely come. Best wishes. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by BigDawsNet: 1:46pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
greatopec: Your story will change for good 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by GoodbutBadguy: 1:49pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
One word for you @OP "Never say die until bones are rotten". It's never too late to achieve your dreams until your last breath on earth, one thing I learned about life is that there is a time for everything under the sun. Don't give up bro, one day you go make am. Meanwhile, keep yourself away from all evil appearances so that your past won't hunt you down when your uplifting comes. Keep on trying, fail again, fail better, read books, believe in yourself, and trust in God. I recommend you read MIDAS TOUCH a book by Donal Trump (one of my mentors) 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by OLOKOESHIN: 1:49pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Solsix:Many Many gidigan...nah social media dey make a lot of people think say everything is well with everybody 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by moscobabs(m): 1:49pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
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Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by eaglez(m): 1:50pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
I love your words of encouragement, I just hope he puts all of that to actions. As for moove, you have to pay 11milluon naira in 4 years, boy that one na slavery oooo, I think the guy is not talking, someone that is down already fears no fall. No close your mouth,Approaching 40 without the basic things sincerely is discouraging. God bless your hustle ops. VCMoneyInsights: 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Dshocker(m): 1:50pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
greatopec: My brother, you can't kill yourself naaaa, all this years you've been pursuing your dream, i think it is time you relax and allow your dream to pursue this time around. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by otipoju(m): 1:51pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
greatopec: 1. Look for Scholarships and tuition free schools in Europe and USA 2. You don't plan travel with "disposable income" You make it a priority and do what needs to be done in stages. 3. You have too many conflicting goals. Decide what you really want and focus on it. 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by rajiedreez: 1:51pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Vinnie2000(m): 1:52pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
OP
If i want to be honest, I will say YOU MARRIED TOO EARLY. Since you have such lofty Dreams, you would have Tried achieve 50% of them before you thought about marriage. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Bsmartt(m): 1:53pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
This is very insightful. A lot of Nairalanders have recommended possible solutions to these challenges. This will not only help the OP but also other people like myself. It is never too late. Cheers! 1 Like |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Rizzputin(m): 1:53pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Take it one step at a time. Too many goals or dreams can leave you feeling confused. Causing you to lose focus. Take a step back and find one or two goals that if you achieved them, others will fall into place easier. 10 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by yahoodetector: 1:53pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
You had dream attainable but the problem is bad leaders under APC who are dream truncated-demons. Make efforts and leave this country with your family because you will be 48 by the time Tinubu and APC finishes his tenure and also finishes this country. But there's another catch...if you are travelling out, make serious inquiries about the country you and your family is relocating to so as not to make the wrong choice. If it is countries like the ones in Europe and US where women are given excess freedom, then be wary so that your wife won't turn you into a slave. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by falcon01: 1:54pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by millionboi2: 1:54pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
tensazangetsu20:can you imagine op, instead to b greatful he is complaining. |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by staga: 1:54pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
greatopec: Number 4 will pay for the rest. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by WHITELIGHTER: 1:55pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
dawnomike: @OP, that's the situation of over 100m Nigerians. Take advise above, it's realistic 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Passionate1(m): 1:56pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Progress is still progress, no matter how slow . . 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by blaquebelle: 1:56pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
How on earth do you want to be able handle all of these things at the same time? So you want to keep your 9-5, come back and do uber, learn coding, pursue masters too and maintain family life? Simultaneously? Haba mana! Cut yourself some slack. Stream line your interest and make clear goals. Focus on one at a time first and you will start to see progress. At the end of the day, not all of them will work out, but one will pave the way for the future you've always wanted. Best of luck. 13 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by obaidan: 1:56pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
I don't think anyone can give u suitable advice except they know your complete profile(ur family income, savings, possible savings in the next one year, ur family cost of living and the standard, ur wife's income, your highest academic achievement). In any case, don't ever give up on your dreams at any age...there's a thing called "late bloomers" and one thing I've noticed about blooming late is that when it starts, people go say na jazz u do. About career? Choose a struggle and stick to it...about travelling...you just have to be realistic as per your situation, not just you but people around u will have to make sacrifices for things to fall in place(especially your wife). Financial sacrifices, sacrifice of having to raise the kids alone while u are away for a few years, because sincerely with all u posted, I'd assume with so much savings u can raise funds for more than one person to relocate abroad. Choose ur abroad destination carefully. Once again it's more honorable to die trying than to die defeated....and you won't die trying by God's grace. You will win 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Skyciel: 1:57pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
tensazangetsu20:He's just ambitious, to him he's still lacking if he haven't achieve all what he listed. He's doing alright tho' 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by slimtoney(m): 1:57pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
WaleCapital: shebi the small money wey e dey take dey manage life na I'm u wan go colobi so 8 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by emerged01(m): 1:58pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
Thank God for your life. You are suppose to have house and car but if you dont still have them after few years,lay a very good foundation for your children that they can build on. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Fatbam003: 1:58pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
I stopped worrying about issues of life. After all life itself is permanent. What matters most is eternity mk person no regret coming to did world 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by Brownshoe: 1:59pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
tensazangetsu20:no mind him, he wan own cars in garage, he doesn't know his own is even better, some 40 no even get wife or kids. 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by spiralwedge(m): 1:59pm On Apr 28, 2023 |
You are experiencing mid-life crisis and this is just the start of it. It will take years before you can come out of it, some don’t (either alive or kpai). To win this, you need to be as realistic as possible all the time. Your post shows you are in the first stage - that is accepting what it is and coming out of childish fantasy about life. You will go through many processes. One of such is truly pursuing what makes you happy by leaving all life’s attachments- sometimes marriage, toxic family & friends, and even career. Environment too. You will assess what you can truly and practically achieve and you will go for it damning the shame that you once wouldn’t consider. You will be more specific about your life choices - partner, friends, nutrition, fun etc. Even your outlook would be more permanent… your facial look, grooming, fashion sense etc. In summary, You are resigning to fate, but you are going for what you are capable of doing to make you happy without minding the consequences any longer. It is at this point you are burying your regrets and leveraging on them to be a better version. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
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