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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by ChybuzzDD(m): 5:10am On Apr 29, 2023
TheCongo2:


Thank you so much
I have seen it so many times on Nairaland where people were using borrow instead of lend.
I got confused and thought maybe it was acceptable in Nigeria.

No, please, it's not acceptable in Nigeria as a 'Nigerian English'.
It's just a manifestation of carelessness and unwillingness to unlearn old habits at personal levels
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Nobody: 5:13am On Apr 29, 2023
Wahala for who get friends and family laikdais
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Avast(m): 5:20am On Apr 29, 2023
I can't lend you more than I can gift you.

Incase you want to show the devil inside you, I would just forget about the money, then add you to my red list of life.
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Kobojunkie: 5:25am On Apr 29, 2023
SavageResponse:
β–  Look if someone in Nigeria is owing you say 50K and gives you a dud cheque; if you decide the seek legal redress just be sure that you will spend at least 200K before you can make any headway in the case!
1. You really should check your laws so you can begin to deal more confidently with people knowing the law has your back. undecided

Even back some many years ago when I did business with Nigerians in Nigeria, I did so confidently knowing that whatever happened, I was insured against loss of that side by laws in place there too. undecided
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Cornerstone2018: 5:28am On Apr 29, 2023
Never lend money to Nigerians, except you know you can let go of it.
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Sixfeetbelle: 5:28am On Apr 29, 2023
folake4u:
I generally do not lend people money. I'd rather dash. But if you use your own mouth to say I should lend you money or whatever, I must take it back. I am not going to be the bigger person, I will go lower than the devil as I can be very ruthless.

Recently, this love interest asked for funds and clearly gave a deadline for return. The deadline had passed and he kept avoiding convo about the money, until this week's Tuesday that I had his time. I texted him about it and the werey even had the audacity to tell me to dash him. Nor be you go tell me wetin I go do.

He clearly wanted to use emotional blackmail but he met the wrong person to use that on.

I don't even care whether he takes me seriously or not. I hate it when people don't stand by their words. It's a behaviour I particularly find irritating and cannot stand.

Praise be to Jesus, and Our Heavenly Father, I collected my money COMPLETE. grin

You and me? Na the same Mama born us.

Gentleman's word is a very big deal to me.

In this life, you can do anything you want to, but don't ever mistakenly open your mouth and tell me you'll do something and then not do it eventually. I'll torment your life until you do what you said.

*Borrow me money, no problems if you don't pay back.
*Borrow me money, I'll pay back. Even after death, you must pay back.

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Kobojunkie: 5:29am On Apr 29, 2023
Cornerstone2018:
β–  Never lend money to Nigerians, except you know you can let go of it.
1. Would you say the same about lending money to foreigners in Nigeria? undecided
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by smasher1(m): 5:41am On Apr 29, 2023
Evestar200:
Have you ever lend money to someone and when is time for them to pay they will tell you or do something that will make you regret ever helping them?

Share your stories.

From this text you may need to limit borrowing people money. This is an entitlement mentality and very wicked. This type of people don't deserve mercy.
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by smasher1(m): 5:46am On Apr 29, 2023
Evestar200:
This one is from my childhood friend.

This person begged me to send this money to him in 2015 because he is stranded in Borno and doesn't have anything on him to transport himself to Port Harcourt.

As a good person then, I managed to send him from the little one I have even when I was struggling then.

I reminded him in 2021 when I was sick and in need of money to buy drugs but this is what I get back for being kind.

He didn't pay and blocked me last year.

The other person I lend paid half of the money and the other half is history πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

Some people are wicked, Imagine someone I lend 20k on Monday is asking me to send her my account number so that she can send me back my money while some people don't want you to even remind them not to talk about requesting back the money you lend them.


Life.

With this second message, stop borrowing people money πŸ’° for some time. This is worse than insult on your money. This is like curse. Most important, when you renew borrowing, reevaluate who you borrow to. Very important. That you have one billion doesn't mean someone who borrowed 5k from you should refuse to pay back even a small part of the money.
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by smasher1(m): 5:49am On Apr 29, 2023
texannaija:
I no fit borrow person wetin I no fit dash the person…..

That's very important.
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by 1Sharon(f): 5:55am On Apr 29, 2023
Tohsynetita1:
Lets try to be putting ourselves in others shoes in whatever we do. some months ago, a friend of mine wanted to use money for his piggery business, he looked everywhere but hope wasn't forth coming. He then asked me to help him get money of about 500k from a third party. Then I told him that it's not easy to borrow such without collateral and guarantor.He refused, saying he didn't want such. Then I asked him if he can also borrow someone's such without collateral. And he said No. Then I tried my best but was to futility.
Then after some months later, I asked him to lend me money of 20k which I will return same day. it was for a very urgent stuff I needed it for . Then he said, he can't lend out money he cannot forget if it wasn't returned. So, I now remembered he was the same person asking for 500k without collateral some months ago. Let's try to put ourselves in others shoes in whatever we do. That kind of person, I can't lend him money in future even if he ask. Some people do forgets easily what they did wrongly in the past and will still come for same help. To me, any money that was given out on the note of "lend" should be returned, no matter how small, you don't assume the person doesn't need it anymore.

Do you really think if you lent your friend the 500k, you would have gotten it back? undecided

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by KingLennon(m): 6:17am On Apr 29, 2023
Zonefree:
Omo, if you ask me to borrow you 10k, I'll send you 5k and I'll never ask you for the money. That way, I know you'll never demand for another loan cos you're still with my 5k. Life na wisdom.
You are a true son of your father wink
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by miqos02(m): 6:22am On Apr 29, 2023
Evestar200:
This one is from my childhood friend.

This person begged me to send this money to him in 2015 because he is stranded in Borno and doesn't have anything on him to transport himself to Port Harcourt.

As a good person then, I managed to send him from the little one I have even when I was struggling then.

I reminded him in 2021 when I was sick and in need of money to buy drugs but this is what I get back for being kind.

He didn't pay and blocked me last year.

The other person I lend paid half of the money and the other half is history πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

Some people are wicked, Imagine someone I lend 20k on Monday is asking me to send her my account number so that she can send me back my money while some people don't want you to even remind them not to talk about requesting back the money you lend them.


Life.

Are you a micro finance bank ?
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by PDJT: 6:22am On Apr 29, 2023
-A close family friend is still owing me a little over 1.5 million since 2015, and still expecting me to keep asking him about the money. But man don lock up throw key away. Five years ago when the issue came up, he told family members he will pay me but my people I never see shishi till date.

-Needless to say, the relationship has since gone south even business deals he would have made some cool cash and acquired properties from also died with his attitude.

-The informality of our cultural interactions have some serious flaws and this is one of them.

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Klass99(f): 6:26am On Apr 29, 2023

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by oz4real83(m): 6:30am On Apr 29, 2023
Some will even have the money but find it difficult to pay their debts embarassed. A debtor once made this comment to my hearing "how I go just carry this kind big money go give person all because I wan pay debt"? This same person collected the money from our German boss in a company I worked with at a point when his wife was having labour issues embarassed embarassed. Some people don't deserve help at all.

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Stanweezy(m): 6:31am On Apr 29, 2023
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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by transient123(m): 6:31am On Apr 29, 2023
Zonefree:
Omo, if you ask me to borrow you 10k, I'll send you 5k and I'll never ask you for the money. That way, I know you'll never demand for another loan cos you're still with my 5k. Life na wisdom.

Becos u never jam shameless idiots. If you like send 20k when they asked for 10k, they will come a million times. Some are born utterly shameless.

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Paretomaster1(m): 6:38am On Apr 29, 2023
I borrowed one 50k since last year, not even an attempt to pay back...

Last week she was calling her best friend out on their thrift whatsapp group to pay her 27k..

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Paretomaster1(m): 6:41am On Apr 29, 2023
transient123:


Becos u never jam shameless idiots. If you like send 20k when they asked for 10k, they will come a million times. Some are born utterly shameless.

Come a million times, I will d3cline a billion times..

One Bagga borrowed 5k since last year, he is not even talking about it again, and we see everyday..

He have the money o, but he don't want to pay, in my mind I have already used that one block every other opportunity for him even if he asked for another one, I no get, if e like make e dey comma...

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Mitchy49(m): 6:41am On Apr 29, 2023
Basic123:

Some obidients are mad people

Bro, pls react to your promise. I have sent my details since
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Bimpe29: 6:42am On Apr 29, 2023
Evestar200:
This one is from my childhood friend.

This person begged me to send this money to him in 2015 because he is stranded in Borno and doesn't have anything on him to transport himself to Port Harcourt.

As a good person then, I managed to send him from the little one I have even when I was struggling then.

I reminded him in 2021 when I was sick and in need of money to buy drugs but this is what I get back for being kind.

He didn't pay and blocked me last year.

The other person I lend paid half of the money and the other half is history πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

Some people are wicked, Imagine someone I lend 20k on Monday is asking me to send her my account number so that she can send me back my money while some people don't want you to even remind them not to talk about requesting back the money you lend them.


Life.
That's life for you. At times, you deprive yourself of comfort in order to help out, alas your rare kindness will not only be appreciated but utterly abused.

In fact, it is even better not to lend out if you can't dash the fellow.
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by juman(m): 6:42am On Apr 29, 2023
Lend the amount of money you can give away as gift.

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Paretomaster1(m): 6:44am On Apr 29, 2023
Meanwhile just few days to Sallah a family member asked for 100k loan, even though I don't have much, I gave it out, cos I know d person wil pay... Just few days after sallah, he called, asked for my aza, and refund d Money..

Some people don't know they use such dumb attitude to deny themselves future help... In their Mind they are smart..

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Klass99(f): 6:45am On Apr 29, 2023
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by vickydevoka(m): 6:46am On Apr 29, 2023
Zonefree:
Omo, if you ask me to borrow you 10k, I'll send you 5k and I'll never ask you for the money. That way, I know you'll never demand for another loan cos you're still with my 5k. Life na wisdom.
Simple
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by vickydevoka(m): 6:47am On Apr 29, 2023
Zonefree:
Omo, if you ask me to borrow you 10k, I'll send you 5k and I'll never ask you for the money. That way, I know you'll never demand for another loan cos you're still with my 5k. Life na wisdom.
Simple!!! What if him come pay back the 5k come ask for 20k

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by sgtponzihater1(m): 6:47am On Apr 29, 2023
Evestar200:
This one is from my childhood friend.

This person begged me to send this money to him in 2015 because he is stranded in Borno and doesn't have anything on him to transport himself to Port Harcourt.

As a good person then, I managed to send him from the little one I have even when I was struggling then.

I reminded him in 2021 when I was sick and in need of money to buy drugs but this is what I get back for being kind.

He didn't pay and blocked me last year.

The other person I lend paid half of the money and the other half is history πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

Some people are wicked, Imagine someone I lend 20k on Monday is asking me to send her my account number so that she can send me back my money while some people don't want you to even remind them not to talk about requesting back the money you lend them.


Life.

This is really sad to read. I suggest giving people what you can afford to loose. If they need a loan, they can try loan companies or banks. That should be the best way. There's also no harm in saying that you cannot help.
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by vickydevoka(m): 6:48am On Apr 29, 2023
Evestar200:
I no longer lend out money but I have to lend this particular person because there is no way I will be happy to see her lose her life or her baby when I have the opportunity to help.

You think if u don’t give her she won’t get from someone else
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by Kobojunkie: 6:48am On Apr 29, 2023
PDJT:
-The informality of our cultural interactions have some serious flaws and this is one of them.
Seriously flawed indeed! Had you had that loan formally handled, you would have maybe gotten your money back and then some. And could have even helped grow your friendship too.. undecided
Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by sylve11: 6:49am On Apr 29, 2023
Zonefree:
Omo, if you ask me to borrow you 10k, I'll send you 5k and I'll never ask you for the money. That way, I know you'll never demand for another loan cos you're still with my 5k. Life na wisdom.

Iroro nor go kill you my guy. cool

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Re: Borrowing & Not Repaying: Have You Ever Encountered Such From Family Or Friends? by fisco82(m): 6:49am On Apr 29, 2023
That is human being for you

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