So many married men are faced with this challenge

Me I get em side chick plenty normally.

pls everyone on nairaland, i am apealling to you all. pls can anyone help,me with 1k, just 1k nothing more than that. i am very very hungry, i havent eaten since saturday last week. At least let me get something to eat today, so i can have energy to go out and look for money or hustle. PLS SAVE A HUNGRY BROTHER

Your wife is a killer! Bleep her sister if she lives with you instead.

tonye33:
Hi Dickson,
I have seen your messages about wife denying husband sex and I must confess that mine is epic. I dated my wife for 4 years before marriage. After the first 2yrs of dating, she put a stop to our sex and said she felt guilt and all, I accepted because I have dated 2 girls previously with sex, so it wasn't a new deal.

She is 2yrs older than me, I was younger and naïve, cos knowing what I know now, I wouldn't have done a lot of things.

After marriage, she opened up to me that she has never enjoyed me cos I was huge, last more than 30mins and thrusts faster. I felt bad, started developing anxiety towards sex cos I was always thinking whether I was injuring her, she was enjoying it, or I will finish fast so she doesn't get angry cos she s hot tempered, can even get very very angry even during sex.

Additionally, she cancelled all sex position because she said they were painful, only one position and its with her lying straight on her belly, or at most by her side. Anything that will make her raise any part of her body was painful, doggy was totally out of the way, and all these were never raised during our dating period.

Any other position you attempt will make that night miserable because she will just be angry and asking every 5secs if you are not cumming.
Something that was supposed to be fun ends up being a task. I wanted to meet her halfway and that was my huge mistake. I changed all my strategy and then I started losing my erections and most times I won't even be able to get one, and then her complaint changed that I was falling even in the act and that she was not enjoying me again cos i no longer thrust fast.

Infact eeh........... I knew what the problem was, topped my game and we went back to square 1. The monthly count was like 7 or 8 times then as newly married couple while targeting conception. The moment she conception. The moment she took in, she locked up till the baby was in the 5th month. Infact the 9 months preg period was like 6 times only with curses, different conditions and rules before she will agree. I just managed the little wey i see. Mind you, we live peacefully, communicate almost every time, greet with kisses, pet names, dine and even play games but no sex.

She is a full housewife and I earn 7 figures monthly. After our first baby, I begged for sex for 7 months and anytime I bring up the sex, it was followed with blackmail, anger, back talks and even silence. On the 8th month, the rule was "it must be with protection", I obliged. By the 9th
month, which was the 5th time, she took in again. Almost same thing like the first preg period.

After second delivery, I decided not to demand and just observe her. Bro, we stayed 1year living in the same house without sex as couple. I work from home, so I was always around. I have househelps that does practically everything at home, except mixing food. Yes, I the same house without sex as couple. I work from home, so I was always around. I have househelps that does practically everything at home, except mixing food. Yes, I used mixing because they prepare everything needed to make food. I do the monthly shopping and even take care of the baby at night after working several hours during the day ooo, I support her to the best of my knowledge and still don't know why.......I just feel shedoesnt love me and not attractedto me, probably i was just the available status changer, because how can a woman stay in the same house with someone she loves and never feel the need to go intimate?

I bumped into an ex and she suggested that I act like I was seeing someone, I then started living the house every evening and most times will drive to a car wash and stay for like 3 hours before coming home, and it didn't change anything, instead she became irate.

This year, I have not even had it up to 10times with her for a marriage of 5yrs. Its really crazy.

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So sorry this is happening.
I will suggest you have an emergency family meeting. Let her know how you sincerely feel. Intimate is a major part of marriage.

Only a weak guy will lament over this.

Legends will understand.

Na wa O

Firstly she deceived you into marriage

I read this rubbish on Twitter the other day. If you married the right person you don't know what God has done for you.

Hades2016:
Because your wife denied you of sex and you write this whole note … Oga go outside go find you some good and nice coochies and stop complaining… Ode

It shows his pain. It's not too much to write for love moreover God bless them with children.

Every married man has this complaint.

Cococandy is dis ryte? Later u will be shouting as hippocrates how can a man Married yet cant get sex wat d way foreward cos I think any woman who do dat is mad and asking for beating.

Floramie:

It shows his pain. It's not too much to write for love moreover God bless them with children.

so because we have been married for years and she start denying me of sex and I shouldn’t find solution lol.. It shows she doesn’t want him to have sex with her again… So make baba go yansh outside abeg, but he should remember to use condom

tonye33:
Hi Dickson,
I have seen your messages about wife denying husband sex and I must confess that mine is epic. I dated my wife for 4 years before marriage. After the first 2yrs of dating, she put a stop to our sex and said she felt guilt and all, I accepted because I have dated 2 girls previously with sex, so it wasn't a new deal.

She is 2yrs older than me, I was younger and naïve, cos knowing what I know now, I wouldn't have done a lot of things.

After marriage, she opened up to me that she has never enjoyed me cos I was huge, last more than 30mins and thrusts faster. I felt bad, started developing anxiety towards sex cos I was always thinking whether I was injuring her, she was enjoying it, or I will finish fast so she doesn't get angry cos she s hot tempered, can even get very very angry even during sex.

Additionally, she cancelled all sex position because she said they were painful, only one position and its with her lying straight on her belly, or at most by her side. Anything that will make her raise any part of her body was painful, doggy was totally out of the way, and all these were never raised during our dating period.

Any other position you attempt will make that night miserable because she will just be angry and asking every 5secs if you are not cumming.
Something that was supposed to be fun ends up being a task. I wanted to meet her halfway and that was my huge mistake. I changed all my strategy and then I started losing my erections and most times I won't even be able to get one, and then her complaint changed that I was falling even in the act and that she was not enjoying me again cos i no longer thrust fast.

Infact eeh........... I knew what the problem was, topped my game and we went back to square 1. The monthly count was like 7 or 8 times then as newly married couple while targeting conception. The moment she conception. The moment she took in, she locked up till the baby was in the 5th month. Infact the 9 months preg period was like 6 times only with curses, different conditions and rules before she will agree. I just managed the little wey i see. Mind you, we live peacefully, communicate almost every time, greet with kisses, pet names, dine and even play games but no sex.

She is a full housewife and I earn 7 figures monthly. After our first baby, I begged for sex for 7 months and anytime I bring up the sex, it was followed with blackmail, anger, back talks and even silence. On the 8th month, the rule was "it must be with protection", I obliged. By the 9th
month, which was the 5th time, she took in again. Almost same thing like the first preg period.

After second delivery, I decided not to demand and just observe her. Bro, we stayed 1year living in the same house without sex as couple. I work from home, so I was always around. I have househelps that does practically everything at home, except mixing food. Yes, I the same house without sex as couple. I work from home, so I was always around. I have househelps that does practically everything at home, except mixing food. Yes, I used mixing because they prepare everything needed to make food. I do the monthly shopping and even take care of the baby at night after working several hours during the day ooo, I support her to the best of my knowledge and still don't know why.......I just feel shedoesnt love me and not attractedto me, probably i was just the available status changer, because how can a woman stay in the same house with someone she loves and never feel the need to go intimate?

I bumped into an ex and she suggested that I act like I was seeing someone, I then started living the house every evening and most times will drive to a car wash and stay for like 3 hours before coming home, and it didn't change anything, instead she became irate.

This year, I have not even had it up to 10times with her for a marriage of 5yrs. Its really crazy.

This story long...

The guy should first do DNA to check if the child is his own.

This is wat weak men get wen u marry a girl that is older then you she have use 😡 her youth age to Bleep all the sweetness in her life .I have a 9 inches dick and I marry a 18 years old virgin...if she mistakenly offend me I Bleep her still dead

Marriage wala nor too much, this is why you should marry a Nlander. I have been sampling two Nlander feminist puna and this babes nor dey taya. Naira land is a blessing

Your wife is weaponizing sex. There is no gain in being in a marriage where two people don't feel equally loved. You have to make a harsh decision. No matter how much you love her, please do no endure any maltreatment in your marriage. We only have one life to live. As your lifetime is running out, her own lifetime is also running out, so why do you allow a person you call your wife maltreat you sexually??
Please divorce that woman and remarry or remain single. In all you have enough sex as much as you want. Don't feel any form of guilt. The urge for sex is just like the urge to eat, or drink water or use the restroom. The faster you act, the better. In the end, we all know what we are doing.

Ibkayee jodha dangotesmummy eyinjuege ahnie mariangeles is dis right

kkins25:
what kind was used on her?

I was inserted in her, painless

MechanicMike:



Bros...can't u juss find olosho?(no offenscce)

na Mumu dey worry the werey… Olosho wey full everywhere… just use protection that’s all

Many Men including myself is passing tru such also...I am not surprised...many decisions would have been avoided in the beginning if we were more mature like now

BRIMBRAM:
Marry a second wife.

I agree with you. It will make her step up.

Hmmmm....he has it huge, trust hard and stay for 30mins ! That's a joy killer biko!

Meanwhile, I wish una good luck o.

Persephone1:
Dangers of having a pestle in your pants. My advice seek out the help of a sex therapist. It's the best way to save your marriage.

As for the comment above, please ignore. Nigerian men only have a single solution to all marital problems which is get a "new woman " sadly this doesn't solve their problems but compound them.

Sex therapy (whatever that means) will save the situation, abi?
Pray what the negative and self-centred type of woman does not happen to you. Can't imagine how a sex therapist can help you; unless they get you castrated. Solution is either the complainant enters a monastery, or get castrated, if not, let him get a side kick or marry a 2nd wife.

Blackman! Everything na sex!

Olosho no dey your area

I can bet my left ball that you saw sign of these during courtship but you choose to ignore.
Now, deal with it.

Sucre6:
I don't support polygamy but if I am to be on your shoes I would get. Side chick that satisfies my sexual needs, I have a very high sex drive, on a norms if my babes comes around we for the weekend we have can have sex more than 15 times, not exaggerated before she goes, during lock down, we had to go do family planning for her not to get pregnant because i was tired buying condoms everytime, the pharmacist in my area self don tire to dey sell condom for me , 😂

I ordered one carton on Jumia, I was just taking and using, one day I checked and it aff finish 😂,

What am saying in essence is that no one should be in prison in the name of marriage, the op is really suffering, me I can't endure such

Thank you for this information. Na from Jumia i go dey order my own now.

See lamentations...smh

He no get friends and family to seek advice from? Na online people e dey disturb.

Meanwhile, I know a man who's currently avoiding his wife. He's the one not wanting to sex his wife o. Reason is he's afraid she'll born twins

É ma gbami

Tell her to take Maca root, It boosts your libido to the extreme. Get a vibrator for her, every single woman enjoys it. As a married man don’t expect to have sex every week. If you can have sex three times a month, you should be fine.