U think nl is d best place to seek advise when 95 percent of people on nairaland Including me are gamblers.its like coming to report a thief to thieves wat do u want us to tell u now

Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

The season will soon be over and he will have no option than to stop

I might sound wicked but speaking from experience, you have entered one chance. You better leave or manage him like that.

Billionaire2:
Talk to him, not us

Who be US?
Dey ur lane abeg.

ProphetM0hammad:


The season will soon be over and he will have no option than to stop

some seasons will be over while iceland sweeden norway japan just they kick of..or for ur mind na only england and Spain them take they bet...its 365 days

I feel your pain, the solution is not about fighting.
The only way to stop such addiction is to get him something doing, he's just frustrated maybe by things around him or people around him.
Give him reason to stop also tell him to enter plan with you on how to regulate his finances to stop the act.
I was once an addict when i had no job it was so frustrating that i took a personal decision to reduce the amount i spend on sport betting.
Please ma, wake him up in the middle of the night tell him not to stop but to regulate the amount he spend on gambling, also look for another addiction that can help him positively.
I pray God help you, because no pastor will help you

Hardmirror kindly contribute your piece of wisdom. Thank you.

Officialetila:
Take it easy with him,I own two houses and a car:I would’ve won 200m yesterday on draws if not the late minutes goal courtesy gambling

r Felix deciples .. what's your handle make I follow you

Kobojunkie:
Praying to whom exactly? Are you kidding?

You see, Scripture states that God does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous; the pleas and requests and every petition, praise, offering, work, plea, sacrifice, etc., of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins(disobedience/unholiness) and are hence an abomination to God. So, what is definite is that even your many pleas for the forgiveness of sins are not answered by God given that God made no special exemptions for that kind of plea. No amount of praying can cause God to change His mind regarding that which concerns the unrighteous by the way. So if you are thinking of prescribing more prayers that only means you really don't understand or know God at all.

God, however, openly bragged about how He only answers the prayers of the righteous; He delights in granting them the desires of their heart meaning that they are those who are loved by Him. For this very reason, Jesus Christ urged His followers to seek first the Kingdom of God and God's Righteousness in order that all things— the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(holiness), answers to prayers included—shall be added on to them. And as Jesus Christ explained in His Gospel, the only way to become Holy, and then also Righteous, is by way of continuous submission and obedience to the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ, god's Truth and Law in the Kingdom of god - John 8 vs 31 - 36 & John 14 vs 15 - 23. Jesus Christ is the only way. Obedience to the Truth of God is the one and only path to righteousness. No amount of praying and other religious rituals can accomplish that.

God deals indirectly with the unrighteous, the same way He deals with the unbelievers including the wicked and the ungrateful and that is by pouring out His mercy and kindness on them daily. So every time as an unrighteous you feel that God has answered your prayer know that at that same moment, or moments before that, God also provided the same mercy or similar to someone else across the world — or maybe just across from you— who does not even believe in God, nor asked God for anything. So, if answers from God are what you seek, then do what Jesus Christ said you should, which is to seek first the Kingdom of God(holiness), and then God's righteousness, in order that all these things —the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(including answers to prayers) can be added to you.

Magic has a better chance of happening to her than God hearing her prayer. She needs to get off her arse and move for the sake of her own life and future.

Kobojunkie abiakwala

ProphetM0hammad:


The season will soon be over and he will have no option than to stop

Lol I don't think it's Sports betting... E be like virtual addict

Dearlove2me:
He really does annoying things. How can a grown man gamble away with all he has and return home empty expecting food to eat from his wife and little baby whom he left without anything?
My attitude has nothing to do here. What I tolerant, even you can not withstanding it.

Yesterday was the very first time I really insulted him. It was very annoying but I later regretted it though.

we understand what you are going through but trust me, he doesnt like it too. It seems you are impervious to change and I doubt if you really love your husband. you do not care if he changes or not otherwise, you can adopt other ways since you have seen that shouting can not change anything.

My brother introduced me to sporty bet 2 years ago and it almost ruined my life and reputation.
Currently, I'm into so many debts. Me that I used to have money in my account with nothing to do with it. Ever since I started gambling, I cant even keep 1k in my account for a week.

Today, I deactivated my sporty bet account using the self exclusion option and I set it to years 2048, with that I wont be able to place any bet till 2048 even if I'm tempted to download the app again.

Gambling is demonic, it's killing people silently and turning them into debtors and beggars.

As for your husband, pray hard for him to be delivered or even show him this my post. Someone I was owning threatened me with police last week, something that has never happened to me in my whole life.

Nothing makes man to become reckless and useless more than gambling.

Gambling is not as worse as people thought. Gamblers with 4yrs confirmed experience will know what I meant.. Gamblers wey get regular side work!

Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

Instead of shouting, why not sit him down and talk to him, plead with him, make him understand how much he has wasted and how that could have been avoided. Show him love.

I am the type of person that will listen to advice when you are call and bring valid reasons, but will never listen to you of you try to pass same message while shouting or being disrespectful, maybe because of ego or what, I don't know..
your husband could be that type of person, try to talk to him calmly, stand by him and he will quit gambling. I gamble too, I know it's not right but I do that because I don't have a job presently. However I wouldn't be doing it if it were causing trouble to me, let alone my family.

You go always chop for December to recover your bets

Did you guys not court or date

Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

gambling is an addiction just like cigarettes and hard drugs, the problem this time is that it directly affects finances in such a way that even loved ones feel it. You either leave him or be prepared to stand by him with prayers and encourage him to seek psychological help via therapy but expecting him to change because you're shouting will just not work. Be pragmatic

Baba calm down, you know be God, he decides what he wants to do, God loves all regardless....



Praying to whom exactly? Are you kidding?

You see, Scripture states that God does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous; the pleas and requests and every petition, praise, offering, work, plea, sacrifice, etc., of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins(disobedience/unholiness) and are hence an abomination to God. So, what is definite is that even your many pleas for the forgiveness of sins are not answered by God given that God made no special exemptions for that kind of plea. No amount of praying can cause God to change His mind regarding that which concerns the unrighteous by the way. So if you are thinking of prescribing more prayers that only means you really don't understand or know God at all.

God, however, openly bragged about how He only answers the prayers of the righteous; He delights in granting them the desires of their heart meaning that they are those who are loved by Him. For this very reason, Jesus Christ urged His followers to seek first the Kingdom of God and God's Righteousness in order that all things— the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(holiness), answers to prayers included—shall be added on to them. And as Jesus Christ explained in His Gospel, the only way to become Holy, and then also Righteous, is by way of continuous submission and obedience to the teachings and commandments of Jesus Christ, god's Truth and Law in the Kingdom of god - John 8 vs 31 - 36 & John 14 vs 15 - 23. Jesus Christ is the only way. Obedience to the Truth of God is the one and only path to righteousness. No amount of praying and other religious rituals can accomplish that.

God deals indirectly with the unrighteous, the same way He deals with the unbelievers including the wicked and the ungrateful and that is by pouring out His mercy and kindness on them daily. So every time as an unrighteous you feel that God has answered your prayer know that at that same moment, or moments before that, God also provided the same mercy or similar to someone else across the world — or maybe just across from you— who does not even believe in God, nor asked God for anything. So, if answers from God are what you seek, then do what Jesus Christ said you should, which is to seek first the Kingdom of God(holiness), and then God's righteousness, in order that all these things —the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God(including answers to prayers) can be added to you.

Magic has a better chance of happening to her than God hearing her prayer. She needs to get off her arse and move for the sake of her own life and future.

duality:
Almost everyone says gambling is bad. Yet the bet shops are full of people

full of frustrated people and 95 percent of nigerians are currently frustrated due to buhari.when tinubu enters Office it Will be 100 percent..u go Begin see shell workers and bank managers for bet shops

Madam look for something to do.seems to me you have lots of time to let your husband deficiencies gets to you.

Kobojunkie:
1. Why come on here to ask us what we think if at the end of the day, you don't get to decide what to do next with your own life — you leave it to others to decide for you? Since that is what you wish to do, then wholeheartedly embrace the shit that you are in jor!

2. Since even as a grown-up you own others an explanation as far as how you do your own life, what can you do? Keep crying and waiting for something magical to happen.

3. Commonsense in that would be to find a job or any way to begin bringing in the income you need.

Terrible advise. If you don't have anything logical to say, it's advisable you shut up.

My sister u are in a very big problem. Gambling is an uncurable addiction. Just like robbery, kidnapping, pickpocket and other vices.

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Since you do not want to appear disobedient, better gather yourself together. No more crying or shouting. Just lockup as if nothing he does affects you. Rather, make it a weekly thing to call your family and his for money for food. By the time they get tired of sponsoring your family, they will change tune. For now, biko no stress yourself again.

Skyfornia:
If you have done enough and he doesn't want to change..join him. They said if you can't beat them, then join them.

Locate his popular betting spot and meet him there, as he is staking games, stake your own too. Two of you will join hand and go home empty after loosing..he won't expect you to prepare food at home since both of you went to work gamble at the betting shop..

You will sleep with empty stomachs, but make sure your baby dey chop.

Na the man go use him hand begin advice you say make una stop.

No be only him sabi madd

Like seriously.. do this or if there is any baba ijebu shop or kiosk around u.. go n pick the lost bet people throw away... pick as Many as u can for different games..
Take it home. Display it around the home..
When he sees it..and questions u.
Just tell him two can play the game...
Watch his reaction..if he will beg u to stop or report you to ur parents or his.

Your husband is full of shit.

He can't lead, provide, and protect his family.

He is not ready.

Go for divorce, if you can survive without him.

Don't let his dirty spirit get to you.

Once gambling takes root, it's hard to root out.
Any money that comes to him would continually be sunk into that habit until he has nothing left, it's a very dangerous addiction, most gamblers run into debt and always believe that one day they'd make it big, but don't be deceived even when they make it big or make a win, they'd spend every penny back. Addiction problem is often recognized and treated as a mental illness abroad. Here are a few things you can do to help yourself ;

1) sit him down and have a talk, in the talk agree on a certain amount of money that should be given to you ,the house, kid and savings monthly then he can do what he likes with the rest. Once you reach this agreement, ensure he pays this money on the day of salary , infact you can take a loan in advance and let him be the payer of the debt monthly to avoid issues. You can use the funds to buy foodstuff in bulk at home, save for yourself and kids

2) identify the stimulant, most gamblers have things that trigger them into gambling , most of them are friends, many have joined telegram groups and Whatsapp grp or follow social pages that offer bet picks , these things trigger degenerate gamblers to part money thinking if they don't play they may miss out , if you find those items you can remove them, e.g destroy the sim card, make sure those friends don't visit etc.

3) Play the devil's advocate, most gamblers don't come to their senses until they see how much they've lost and the opportunity cost., I once had an addicted cousin and what I did to make him realize his folly was to join him, for every game he plays , I'd record the amount he used, we did that for 3 months, by end of three months I gave him the net of how much he's won and lost. He couldn't believe he has made that much money and spent it gambling, then by the side I wrote down all what that money could have gotten for him. When he saw the opportunity cost, baba shut down all his betting account and opened a piggy vest account.

Dearlove2me:
Is like I'm in a sound prof house shouting on top of my voice and no one is hearing me. It seems they don't even understand what I'm going through.

I explained everything to my family and everyone including my mother, and they keep advicing me to stand on my feet and fight for my home, so long as they's no violence. That I shouldn't divorce my husband.
We always have heated argument, raising voice at each other.

My mother inlaw on the other hand, was crying on the phone. Telling me not to mention that name (divorce) ever again.
All the family members are not in support of divorce, but the main person I'm married to seems not to care at all.


He obviously refused to stop gambling away with any money that comes to his hand.
He presently have no job and he's owning a lot.

He's addicted and he's not making effort to stop. This is the root problem in my home. Because he exhibit all the wrong behavior as a result of this addiction.
Once he have any little money, his attitude, everything changed. He becomes scary. Until he finishes everything in betting, I wouldn't be able to talk to him and he will listen.

What should I do? Where do I go that I wouldn't look like a disobedient person, dispite everyone's pleade?
I'm using all my time to cry, qurrel and grieve here. Can't find myself.
I am not financially stable to make a move without my family's support.

I hope you will come here to tell us when he wins big money, because he could hammer via betting

LOL 😅😅😅😅😅😅

People wey dey gamble and bet no dey ever hear word. It's like there's a stubborn spirit /demon in control of their lives.
They never listen to anyone, mostly broke and do nothing meaningful

1.How many kids? Stop having sex lest you breed more.
2.Get a job! Get busy with your time and stop reprimanding or teaching an adult how to live his life. He is not a Child!
3. Start saving for your exit. Instead of announcing it.

Punting is the Hardest addiction known to have ruin a man's finances.
Trust me you're not ready for the outcome.
Just walk away else you're going the rabbit'hole with his sorry ass!